stunt sorry to hear of more crap. Can you just disengage totally? I don't know what to suggest but a thread in Relationships might be helpful but on the possible proviso that things there are often black/white and fail to take into account shades of grey. I know some situations are black/white.
VQ/flouncy sorry things are bad. Much sympathy from me.
I have a WWYD. And I'm not sure if IABU or not thrown into the mix. This might be long. I am absolutely not the sort of person who is off to the GP for any sniffle, but you may have heard me mention S's cough once or twice a minute. We have had a paed referral due to the amount of times we have gone to the GP. Outcome of that was that chest is clear, always is, no wheezing, so not asthma, just a child susceptible to coughs is the diagnosis, keep seeing GP when it seems particularly bad, do steam/calpol/raised bed. Fine. We have done. I'd say at least one apt a month for the last 8 months, and antibiotics each time.
It's really bad at the moment. As bad as it has ever been. Distressed, mucuousy baby, vomming due to phlegm at night, coughing every 30 seconds, only happy if upright. He's streaming green snot, has massive ear wax spilling out of his ears daily, has very bobbly, noticeably raised lumps in a row in his neck. His chest is clear (my sister is a doc but not a GP or paed, and listened to it yesterday. She also said the lumps were lymph nodes). So she said to get to the GP asap and mention all of this and see what's what. And that she would expect the lymph nodes to be considered by the GP but that it could be of no concern in a child who is unwell.
Saw the GP this morning. Not my usual. Very unwelcoming, extremely abrupt. I'd go so far to say she seemed cross. Unlike every other GP in that practice, actually. Of course this doesn't mean anything in particular, but it threw me. Mentioned it all along with fact he still eats and drinks like a pro and plays quite happily when not coughing. Did not mention my sis's noticing of lymph nodes, just mentioned lumps in neck. She was vair dismissive. Cursory look in throat and ears. Listened to chest. Did not feel neck for glands or lumps which I had described. Basically told me its a cold, children get colds, he'll continue to get colds, he's absolutely fine, raise his bed, steam is useful, calpol him up etc.
Now, this may be true, I'm perfectly prepared to accept it's viral and there's no need for antibiotics and that we just have to ride it out. But I was hoping to discuss the longevity of this, the disruption to sleep when it is at its worst, find a way to perhaps manage it better. I didn't feel like I could say this. She also didn't feel his neck, even after I specifically mentioned lumps in it. Which I would kind of like a professional opinion on. And her manner was extremely dismissive. I felt like a dickhead for even bringing him in. Which given the longevity of the cough, and the history including a referral, I feel annoyed that I've been made to feel like I'm wasting her time. And I am a tad concerned about the lymph nodes.
WWYD? Go and see my GP? I'm not medically qualified and don't want to be an arse questioning a professional. But I don't feel entirely like I have been listened to.