October 2013 Bus Graduates: the one where we're not pregnant anymore

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Emmo I'm so sorry. I wish your sister and your family all the best.

So sorry Emmo. We found out my mum had breast cancer when my ds was a few Weeks old (now thankfully all clear). It was such a strange time to have so much joy with ds who is her first grandchild then to crash back to earth with a cancer diagnosis . wishing you, your sister and family lots of love and hope your LO helps keep everyone positive. Xx

emmo - to you and family.

DH had this type of cancer when he was 14 so firsthand experience of someone being treated and coming through the other side (if it helps for you to hear this!)

emmo sorry to hear about your sister. I have two good friends who've been successfully treated for Hodgkin s lymphoma. Thinking of you and your family

Thanks for the advice about the green poos and grooming yesterday. Going to feed from one side at a time to see does that help the poo. I did some grooming this morning and all fine with the CS scar. How did you get on kiwee

Are any of you swaddling? When are you going to stop and go for sleeping bag? I was thinking 6-8 weeks? Not sure what weight dd is. Not being seen until vaccinations at 2 months. It has been pretty cold here the last few nights. I'd say room is 18 degrees or lower.

chickie G is prob around 9lb now and 4 Weeks today. I've started using Ds's old sleeping bags this week as I never really got the hang of swaddling. She seems to settle much quicker after night feeds now she's in the bags so I'm a big fan!

chickieo were swaddling and it stops H waking himself up from flinching every 5 seconds, I also swaddled dd and stopped about 5 months with her as she escaped it so often by then it was hardly worth it so I will do the same with him just carry on until he 'out grows' it x

Thanks for all your kind words. Just back from seeing her in hospital, shes allowed home after her blood transfusion tomorrow. She's in good spirits and seems positive for now although i suppose we have a week of hope before the results. Its so crazy how so many people are affected by cancer either themselves or someone they know.

Thanks roofio - sorry to hear of your story. She had a consultant come round and talk to her about the teenage cancer trust and they said they'd help her finish her uni course on time which cheered her up.

Baby H is in a gro bag although i have just changed the bag as my mamas and papas one was a bit crinkly sounding and woke him when he moved! He's now in a softer one and seems happier.

Emmo - glad that your sis has lots of support. Am sure being an auntie to a cuddly newborn will hopefully be a good distraction. Becoming an auntie was a really precious thing to me.

Baby is 5 weeks and we're swaddling in Aden and Anais single Muslins on top of a sleeveless vest and babygro. It drops to 18-19 degrees at night, but he seems to be warm enough (he's small enough that the muslin wraps around quite thickly). He does sleep better when warmer, but I panic about overheating him. I do put a few too many layers on purpose to keep him docile eg when we have guests over and are watching him, but we're not supervising him in the middle of the night and I worry about SIDS.

Our friend brought us a lovely grobag - only it's 3.5 tog. I don't think we can really use it as it is so warm - what do you all think? Seems such a waste.

Oh, and DP apologised for being a twat!

Emmo so sorry to hear about your sis. My Mum is another cancer survivor, so more good vibes coming your way from here - Love & thoughts are with your family.

Kiwee thanks for link to video. Those exercises will definitely help!!
I am also going for help with alternative BF positioning.

Although all that's taken a back seat to an aggressive regime to get rid of a nipple blister & mastitis. Going to see HV tomorrow who will hopefully get me antibiotics and lance blister (ouch!) but for now I'm necking paracetamol, hot compressing and expressing to try to remove blockage (too painful to put chomping baby to boob to help out).

We put Thomas in his grobag for the first time tonight and he was 8lb 6 last week I presumed he would be big enough now (8lb 8). The grobag website gas two different charts which is confusing, for 19 degrees one says long sleeved vest, the other says sleep suit. We usually do short vest,sleep suit and one or two folded blankets.tonight his hands are freezing, I know babies hands are cold but this is colder than usual so I think I will add a vest again or some scratch mittens at least tomorrow night.

grobag chart 1
grobag chart 2 scroll down

Thomas has discovered he can turn his head from side to side and backwards while still pulling on my nipple. This seems to be his new favourite game. Ouch!

Ah it is only 16 degrees now brrr

LO has been waking every hour tonight at least twice for no apprent reason. Clean nappy, not interested in feeding. Deeply sleep again as soon as picked up. Don't understand why she won't stay settled in her cot!

Wasn't going to swaddle as she likes her arms and worried about hip problems (she was breech so already at risk of this) but perhaps that's what I need to do?

Or it could be wind I guess (DH convinced she needed her nappy changed from the sounds she was making before I woke up).

Anyone else solved a mystery like this? What am I not thinking of?!

Has anyone seen this? It's about a woman who has 'defined' baby language and can interpret babies cries.

www.whattoexpect.com/groups/m/january-2010-babies/discussion/3376932.html

We're still trying to figure it out and apply it to LO but the woman is right! (Watch the video first then use the key).

Am I the only one not taking room temperatures? I'm just going by how I feel in the room and ds usually has a vest on baby grow swaddled in cellular blanket then another blanket folded a few times on too as I like to sleep with my window open a bit or its too stuffy

No temp taking here either nat

That's reassuring nat as we have our window open too and I'm scared she gets too cold.

Untitled, that video is really fascinating! According to this, it's wind or discomfort keeping my LO up. Wish discomfort was a bit more specific!

That's re assuring thought I was the only one, we have a room thermometer thing in dd's room the health visitor have us but the other day I walked in there thought Jesus Christ its like a freeZer in here looked at thermometer out of curiosity and if was inbetween the good and ok indicator so decided its definately best to go with my own instincts x

Dh and I haven't been getting on the last few days mainly because he's become purely lazy!! so baby H is going to my sisters for the 3 hours that big H is at preschool and I keep looking at him in his crib feeling guilty for wanting a few hours of breathing space?

Don't feel guilty Nat it's totally normal and natural to want a break. Enjoy your me time. Just because you are a mum to two kids doesn't take away from the fact that you are your own person and sometimes a bit of freedom is needed.

Nat as soon as baby is asleep in bed in the evening I hide in the kitchen and cook dinner just so I can feel like the person I was a few weeks ago. Even though I've got stuff frozen to cook if I want!! Then before he wakes for 1st night feed I hide in the bath for half an hour for the same reason! I love him so much but it's such an overwhelming responsibility.
I find myself getting quite down at night if things don't go perfectly, stress myself out that I have pnd and then wake up in the morning fine. Is this familiar to anyone. Really don't think I'm depressed but get so worried about my feeling through the night especially when it's taking 20 mins for baby to latch on and he's getting mad. During the day I can cope when the latch is slow or the sleep doesn't quite happen when I had hoped but in the early hours there are often tears from me as well as baby. Feel very sorry for my amazing fiancé. Bringing tears to my eyes now thinking about the stress I must cause him when I'm crying at our baby in our bed. So want to be in baby bliss and enjoy every moment but find it hard to see the good at 4 am.
Maybe I'll feel better for getting it off my chest. Thank you! Hugs to all. Xx

Gosh don't feel guilty nat my mum took both children on Sunday from 11am-3pm. Admittedly I was cooking a Sunday roast for them all but I actually enjoyed pottering round the house for the first hour tidying up with no one making a mess as a do it... Was thinking of trying to make it a regular occurrence!

Remember your not just a mum, your a woman, wife, sister, daughter etc too.

sephy we've had a very unsettled night here too and its definitely down to wind. H has been waking himself up trumping all night. and has decided that 5 30 was a good time to be awake for the day!!

emmo I just wanted to say that although having cancer was obviously terrible I look back now and am so grateful for everything I learnt through that time and don't believe I would be where I am with little Hunter if things had been different and for that I'm really grateful.

nat me and dp area getting out for a night this weekend leaving H with my mum and dad and I can't wait!!

I need to get this baby taking a bottle of expressed milk so we can go out. I can't imagine 6 months of not being able to go out because I'm b feeding it would do my head in. Sorry if that sounds selfish.

I was going to try the DR Browns bottles as I've heard good reviews of them.

I so desperately want her to take a bottle now.

ready I know how you feel. The night time feeds are the hardest, though for me it's that period from 9-12pm when all I want to do is sleep but DD wants to cluster feed. I feel sorry for DH as he comes home around 7pm and having had a calm day and really enjoying snuggles with DD she and I are both in a tizz by the evening and my nipples are starting to get more sore. Once the daylight come again it all seems totally doable. I blame sleep deprivation but like you am aware of risks of PND. Also don't think I'm depressed just in need of more than 2.5 hours sleep at a time!