October 2013 Bus Graduates: the one where we're not pregnant anymore

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Ready I can see where you are coming from.

When nighttime falls I totally dread the hours ahead of me it's terrible anxiety. I am going to the DR today though as I can't continue much longer feeling like I want to run away from my baby (I feel terrible writing this)

Everything is exasperated at night time. To you xx

Thanks girls. Were off too Brighton to do a bit of Xmas shopping as my sister has offered too pick dd up from pre school if we over run.

I admire u breast feeding ladies as H had a bottle around 10.00-10.30 then goes through till 4 then wakes at 7, and he settles himself in the night and even I still get anxious going to bed thinking its too good to be true and any night now he's gunna be up screaming all night.

flyer how is A doing? I was thinking do u have a baby swing as that would keep her upright enough for her reflux but keep her on the move if that makes sense? X

Flyer I hope you get some good support at the dr today.

Ready I agree I get worked up when he won't latch and we both get frustrated especially as not waking DH to help anymore. Having a bottle of ebm ready by my bed just in case is a good back up for me and if we don't use it DH can do the first feed in the morning before work so I can sleep a bit. Hope you are feeling better today.

Flyer my sister reccomended dr brown bottles too, hope they work for you.

Thanks for the link about baby cry meanings, fascinating!

Flyer. I hope the dr is supportive. DD was a total bottle refuser despite my very best efforts..... I did get down about it but decided to stop letting it get in the way and to "go with the flow". It wasn't that bad!!! We lived in London then and (not sure how well you know London, but....) DD came to L'Escargot, Hakasan (sp?), Shorditch house and Soho House loads of times, Manoir aux quatre saisons etc etc... I'm sure A will take a bottle eventually, but maybe when you're feeling less anxious, it won't be so bad.

Interestingly, DD also wouldn't let me put a spoon in her mouth at six months, so we did baby led weaning out of necessity and ended up loving it!!

Flyer have you tried a bottle if you're not in the house? That's what we did with DS as he wouldn't do it if I was there, I had to actually go out. But remember she's unlikely to be feeding so often for 6 months.

I second that, not me, but my sisters dd would only take a bottle when sis was nowhere around at first. with her there I don't think she saw the point!

Yes - like Pseudo said, A won't be feeding like this indefinitely! You'll get a good three/four hours in the evening and I used to honour for local drinks with friends in that "slot" x

Honour?! Go out for!

Silicone teat bottles were suggested to me flyer

Thanks for the advice folks.

I will try these suggestions. Fx.

Legally I love the fact that your dd went to soho house

So I posted on the fb page but for those that aren't on it the midwife has just been and good news Alexandra weighs 10lb1.5oz at 4 weeks old. We've been discharged and she has gone from gaining 8g per day to 23g! I'm so so pleased it's made my week and helped ease a bit of my anxiety.

Ready I feel exactly the same way! During the days I am fine, but from about 6pm I start to feel anxious and if he won't settle by 9pm I am often in tears, feeling overwhelmed, and almost in pain from the tiredness. It is absolutely horrible.

Fortunately by 9am somehow it all seems to be bearable.

Only difference is I don't feel sorry for my DH! (He works away so is getting all the sleep he needs 4 nights a week)

I don't think it is PND either, "just" exhaustion.

Hoping that it will get better as S starts to sleep for longer stretches at night. (Trying not to think about how long it might take for that to happen...)

Flyer hope doctor is helpful, good luck with the appointment

Congrats flyer! Fantastic news for you both of you- hard work has paid off! Regarding bottle feeding- have given G a couple of bottles of ebm which she seems to be ok with. However, ds was the same then when he was 6 months and the week before I was going back to work he went on bottle strike. Tried every bottle out there but he was so stubborn. In the end I breastfed before and after work. During the day he didn't drink anything for 6 Weeks! no cup or bottle but lots of petit filous! No lasting damage though so this time going to try and stay relaxed about it!

PS could someone pls add me to the FB group,thanks!

Hooray flyer! Well done. And that was even with the tongue tie.

Ready I definitely know how you feel! I feel sorry for my DH too when he's woken up by the sound of his little girl crying and then sees me in tears too and there's nothing he can do to help! Possibly just a placebo, but I have been trying half a pint of Guinness at about 9pm, and have found that I am more mentally accepting of the fussy times/they don't seem as bad. Last night I didn't have any Guinness and I was up until 3 with A trying to bargain with her and I was getting really stroppy. I read somewhere about it being beneficial when you've got a baby who is fussy in the evenings and it appears to be working for me.

pinkush - if you pm me with your name and a description of your profile pic, I'll add you to FB.

Yay Flyer!!! You bloody well did it!!! All of that was you and your efforts!!! I'm genuinely really happy for you

Ps - they loved her at Soho House! I ended up actually being sad when she got a proper bedtime and no bf as I couldn't take her out to bars! Taking her with me was easy, finding a baby sitter was not easy!

Like Rox, I think a half pint of Guinness is fab! Prob a placebo but I'll take that!

Ps - obviously I'm not promoting drinking alcohol as a solution for anxiety / depression!!!

Ohh, and any news from Clapham on FB? Hello Clapham...?

Hunter has been awake since 5 30 this morning with only 2 half hour naps all day!! he doesn't even seem grumpy, I don't know how he's still going!!!!!

Flyer I'm so pleased lo has put on so much weight!! Everything your doing is working and I hope it starts to get better, especially after you've seen the doctor x

Thanks Char1eston! Have pm'd you.

Yes I was wondering about Clapham as well - she popped up briefly on FB.

legall, I am inspired! I want to go to some nice restaurants with baby! Will have to check in advance though as we wanted to go out on Sunday, arrived at the rspestaurant and they had a poncey no children policy. We went to Galvin La Chapelle the day before my c section as we thought it would be our last posh meal!

Well done flyer!

Had some cider yesterday evening and definitely took the long evening feed with more equanimity than usual.