October 2013 Bus Graduates: the one where we're not pregnant anymore

[MrsHoratioNelson]

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It's interesting to read what you all dress your LO's in overnight. I definitely underdress A, but I am so paranoid about her overheating that I think I over compensate!

As soon as I can be bothered I'll get the grobags down from the high cupboard

LO wears a vest and babygrow for bed.

We have a 1.5 gro-bag and a 2.5 gro-bag but waiting for winter to hit properly before we crack that bad boy out!

Last night he had a fleece blanket folded in half and tucked under his armpits as he likes to have his hands free.

Vest and babygro with 2 blankets here (which she usually kicks off but is far too wee for the sleeping bags). I'm constantly taking layers off while DH adds them!

To those saying only change a nappy at night if it's pooey - how do you know? I can never tell what's in the nappy until I take it off.

Adding to the variety of breastfeeding issues on the thread - it looks like I have thrush on my nipples. I knew the pain wasn't normal! Fingers crossed treatment works because I've been on the verge of jacking it in several times over the last few weeks.

I am with legally, our kids sleep better when wrapped up. Baby J wears short sleeved vest, babygrow, swaddled in a cotton shawl and covered in a cellular blanket. The cosier he is the better he sleeps and yes the health visitor constantly tells me off for having him too wrapped up.

6 week check over n done with. Got the all clear to drive again, to get bloods checked in two weeks as lost so much after section and scar all healed nicely. Got all clear to start exercising once I feel up to it so just need to get motivated now.

We started using the 2.5 tog gro bag yesterday, with a vest and baby gro. Before that it was 2 layers of blanket with the same clothes. His body feels fine and his hands do get cold but apparently that's normal. Our house is very rarely colder than 19 degrees in the middle of the night.

Do the other bf mums get told they feed too much? Both my in laws and my parents make comments about how much time J spends on the breast. Dh's grandmother thinks feeding on demand causes colic because we feed too much. I know I'm doing the right thing but I think if I didn't have this threading would not have the confidence to tell them it's normal. I tell them it's necessary to build supply but then I feel like a "smug bf mum" because these are all women who didn't bf their babies (or had to supplement) because they didn't have enough milk.

Hi all! Thanks for the advice re changing on fb. Left him in the end and tried not to think about it until he woke!
Just been to bf support gp and got 1 to 1 help with initial latch. Have been advised that I'm too full for him to latch so need to express before each feed to help make things softer. She said I could store in fridge and just keep adding to it and freeze it at the end of the day. Hopefully this will,be the break through!
Re clothing in bed: Cyrus is only just about 7 lb at 2 wks but I'm already using 2.5 tog gro bags . I just sewed in extra poppers under the arms so he can't wriggle down into them. He escapes swaddles and I get too scared about him pulling it near his face. And he kicks blankets off. Our house is so so so cold in the middle of the night and so he would wake up because of the cold. Now he's in bags he's happy as larry! I know officially he's too little but with the extra poppers I think it's relatively safe. So he has vest, baby gro with hands and sleeping bag which we pre warm with a water bottle!xx

ana my mum is always talking about stretching the feeds out to 4 hours apart because thats what she did with me, using water and dummies to stretch out the time! I guess I turned out fine, in fact pretty healthy! But I showed her the current research. She can understand my want to do it that way, but thinks I am just making life difficult for myself…

'controversial' -but is anyone putting their baby to sleep on their tummy? A is so much more comfortable on her tummy, but it does freak me out. I have read quite a few thread on MN and it appears that people are actually doing this more commonly than you would think. I have bought an angel care monitor and think i am going to try her on her tummy a bit more to give her a more comfortable sleep.

Taking with ds I went for a halfway house and put him down on his side from about 2 months. He hated being on his back due to reflux and I didn't dare put him on front, so used a rolled up towel up to his.chest, round under his feet and then up his.back to prevent him rolling onto front or back. This is still against advice, but worked for us.

Ana yes to the comments about feeding too much, not as much this time but it was constant with ds. I think its a combination of our parents generation doing things so differently, but also a bit of jealousy as they want cuddles, but baby just wants boob.

Just back from taking ds to see Santa at Harrods. He is 3 this Xmas eve so prime time for Santa excitement, so we had a great time. Slightly resent the 50 quid I ended up spending on 2 drinks, some mini burgers and posh fish finger and.chips, but there we are.

Taking - I suspect on his front with a monitor is safer than on his back without. We often put DD on her tummy during the day if she's in a rage but haven't tried it at night yet. She currently goes down quite well ...

Anyone else experience a random hormonal surge at three weeks? I'm really pissed off all of a sudden, particularly at DH. I think I'm ready for him to go back to work. He's complaining about being tired, but spent an hour this morning shaving a few millimetres off the bottom of a door. Talk about priorities?! To be fair, he's done a good job looking after me, and does nappy changes in the night, but whenever I look around when I'm feeding in the night he seems to be snoring! Grrrrrrrrr!

Sorry Taking - I meant "her" obviously!

Bowlful I have many been putting A on her side, but she still seems to get griping pains. On her tummy she seems to be totally comfortable..

anything A is probably the other way round - she will go down on her side by day, but seems better on her tummy at night, but that's not good for my restfulness, so I am hoping the monitor will ease the worry a little bit..

Hello all - took Doodle into work today which was a bit of a mission. DH and I work in the same office (as does my Dad, long story) so there are loads of people who wanted to meet him. He was well behaved throughout despite an explosive poo and we escaped unscathed.

Tried to get some kip when he did after we got back but he woke after 40 minutes, so that wasn't much good. I'm really struggling with this cold. Anyone actually manage to sleep when the baby sleeps during the day? Whenever I attempt it he wakes really quickly and I feel worse than if I hadn't bothered.

Oh Lord, well done MrsHN, I'm yet to go in.......

I haven't had a single daytime nap yet with the twins , but had lots with DD by co sleeping (just both crashing out, me with bra open, on the bed). I used to get 1.5 hours easily...

mrsh - I don't bother trying!

He's so random - sometimes he'll go down but wake up 20 mins later yet other times it'll be for a couple of hours. I've given up trying to sleep because I feel worse after.

I haven't even attempted naps with emilia as ds dropped his nap ages ago, but with ds I used to have exactly the same Mrsh - as soon as I started to drop off he would wake, and I frequently ended up in tears of frustration. I was very worried about about him never napping on his own or settling himself because of too much reading ans listening to advice, but at about 4 months thought sod it and did the same as legally, and we then hac lovely snuggling naps until mat leave finished. I wish I had co slept for naps from the beginning instead of stressing about 'self soothing'

When I am shattered in the middle of the night, I always think to myself I must nap in the day, but I actually never get round to it as too much to do!!

My MIL is also obsessed with how regularly I bf dd. Each time she starts crying for food I have to practically prise her out of mils arms who will then start questioning when last feed was and that it was 'only' a couple of hours ago coupled with a big frown... Actually the more I think about it, she really is obsessed.

No naps here, as with some of you there's no predicting if it'll be 30 mins or 3 hours! Plus I feel much more groggy after.

Dd is 2 weeks and definitely prefers sleeping on her side. I've put her down like this in basket a few times with the intention of rolling her onto back when asleep but often I fall asleep in the meantime... Bad mum!

Also very frustrated as I look and feel like I'm pretty much back to the same size as I was pre pregnancy (8 top 10 bottom) but I can't even get my size 12 fat jeans over hips. Tried on some 14s today and even they were tight on hips though big on crotch and legs. Can your hip bones actually widen once you've had a pg? I'm stuck living in one pair if size 12 maternity jeans which fall down whenever I move!!!

So funny tummy sleeping has been mentioned because i was literally googling it at 4am this morning! H wouldn't settle, wind i think as he kept pushing to fart but on his stomach hes happy as larry. I googled and it said that babies on their backs are more likely to startle themselves awake if they stop breathing than babies on their fronts because on their fronts they are in a deeper sleep. I tend to put H on his side anyway as he hates being on his back and i'd love to put him on his front but now im too scared. The monitor with the pad would probably eliminate that problem though..

My sister who is only 19 has been getting gradually iller for the past 3 months. Mostly symptoms of the flu and she put it down to freshers flu as she is at uni. She came home last week and was admitted to hospital. She's had a biopsy on a lymphanode on her neck but the doctors are pretty sure it is Hodgkin's lymphoma which is cancer of the lympanode's. Im so desperately sad for her as the only treatment is chemo and shes so young :( my mum got the all clear from breast cancer last year so we are pretty aware of what chemo entails. They are discussing harvesting her eggs etc and the reality of whats to come is so depressing. They say its totally treatable it just sucks she has to face this at 19, she's meant to be at uni enjoy herself with her friends. We don't get the official results until Monday so we still have a little hope.

It just feels like something so amazing happened, me having H, and everyone is so besotted with him but then we have just come crashing back down to earth!

Sorry for the me me me post! Just needed to tell someone as we are keeping it within the family until results x

emmo im so sorry for your sister. it must be a real shock for you all. but I'm glad they have found out what it is and can start treatment. I had cancer when I was 23 and while it was an incredibly hard time, 3 years on I have made a full recovery and obviously went on to have my beautiful boy. it doesn't have to be the end of things. make sure she finds some support, the teenage cancer trust are amazing and hopefully she can meet other young people in the same position.
sending hugs x

emmo what truly horrible news, I hope she has a successful recovery xxx roofio just reading that u were 23 scares me as I'm currently 23 and now have two kids and I guess I'm foolish in that I think it will never happen to me. Cancer is so evil isn't it. X

Emmo and family.

To Emmo and your family. What awful news to hear. It's very sad for your poor sister. I wish her all the best in her treatment and recovery xx

found The thread yey! hey everyone hope you are well xxx