October 2013 Bus Graduates: the one where we're not pregnant anymore

[MrsHoratioNelson]

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In all honesty now ive had longer to thinkI would pay the £90 to get it done tomorrow privately. I'm letting other people influence my decision.

Thanks for the nappy advice, I've just been wee'd on whilst feeding it somehow went above the nappy which was clean on and really examined to make sure it wasn't loose. He's just magic.

soup sorry to hear about your l.os hip results, hoping it works out for you.

hayle fortunately ds doesn't have any issues with feeding despite having a Tt but will look into the list you spoke of. The mw described the procedure as a little nick hardly an operation and you shouldn't be made to feel guilty. I was told if he developed issues with his speech development they would do it, but I think it would be better to get it done as early as possible. flyers baby girl had one if I remember correctly.

Hayle I've also just been told by BF helper that A may have posterior TT. I decided to pay £80 for consultation plus £40 if he needs a snip. She'll do it at the same time if it's not too tricky. And she's coming on Sunday morning (I called her this afternoon) - no waiting around for NHS referral and fighting doctors to get it done. Worth every penny if she can help him feed better - if she can't then I'll have to seriously consider mix feeding, which is not my preference.

slippy are you sure it's not your boobs leaking?

bronze unfortunately I'm certain it was wee, it made me jump because it was so warm moved him onto the change mat and the patch got larger and larger and my boobs were nowhere near.

It also happens when he is in his Moses basket.

None of your in Laws business Hayle bUt hope DP can agree with you at least so it doesn't cause any argument between you if you get it done. Agree much easier to do now while He is little and will hardly notice. And if it helps your case I taught a girl with speech and language issues still aged 5 who had her tongue tie corrected aged 4.
Hope you feel supported in whatever you do.

flyer I crossed posts with you earlier and realise t came across as very insensitive. I've read a lot on here and other forums about some.babies, esp large ones, correcting their own.weight in the first few weeks, so dropping down the percentiles initially, but then tracking on the new one going forward. Baby a is still a good weight, and you are right to follow docs advice rather than hv, as frankly moat of them seem to know sod all (apologies to any hvs on the thread)

I've discovered one advantage to middle of the night feeding - tescos release their delivery slots 'early' next Wednesday morning. I'll be on it at 3 o'clock in the morning!

Christmas delivery slots.

I knew you ladies would make me feel better.

Tbh dh is more ok with it then my mum. He had speech problems and his mum told him he had suspected TT, however as he was bottle fed nothing was done about it. He did have speech therapy which he hated so I'm bringing him round. Because Isaac can get his tongue just past his lip though dh doesn't thing it's bad enough to cause speech problems.

The private clinic is run by the same lady who does it nhs so will push referral before thinking if I can afford private. Might look into my healthcare scheme thing I pay into.

Hayle - I agree... Get it done. My DH is v v understanding and supportive of bf, but I see both sides in terms of wider family support.. My mum bf four of us in what was, apparently, a v anti bf time (early 80s). She was an early NCTer and bf counsellor, so v knowledgable. Her input is why it's "worked" for me for sure. MIL ff from day one and stopped bf at all after a week or so. She's not exactly anti bf, but simply cannot see why is choose it. SIL tried bf but couldn't, so with them it's a barrage of lack of understanding (eg why am I feeding sooner than four hours, baby can't be hungry, I'm teaching bad habits, I'm causing wind etc), which I don't really mind, as how would anyone understand bf on demand and how different it is from ff if you've not done it?! That's not a problem at all - I don't know lots about ff or lots of other aspects of babyhood as I haven't happened to do it... What I don't appreciate from them is an open opinion that by bf I'm doing the wrong thing. FIL said that he thought my GP ought to step in to stop me bf when DD was 1! But anyway...!

Re reflux, you might remember that both had it (silent reflux) relatively mildly but I didn't get meds? Well now at ten weeks its def improving on its own, or starting to. Also, from waking at least every two hours, if not sooner at night, they're now waking twice on good nights: asleep by 9 at latest, then waking usually at midnight and 3/4 am then 6.30/7am for the morning. Pretty good. Took DD until at least 6 months to do that!

We get a fair bit of awake time and smiles / giggles now (for those "waiting", H smiled at 4.5 weeks, V not until 8 weeks). Daytime naps though... Any tips from other second timers? I wasn't good on this frond with DD.... They nap in the pushchair, but I also want to introduce a "cot" nap in the afternoon. How and when?!?! They will nap in the pushchair, but apart from that, it's only decent on my chest. V will go to sleep in the sling but wakes not long after being put down. H falls into a deep sleep feeding but again doesn't sleep long once down.... Hmm. I think I'll leave it [lazy mother] until 3 months at least.... If be v grateful for tips though as I never did get DD to self settle for naps . Doesn't matter now of course as she doesn't have any naps and she's fine at night.

Hayle just wanted to say I don't think you're being at all selfish. TT often gets better as babies get older, and so hopefully wouldn't cause speech problems, but I think that if it's causing feeding problems, there's no guarantee that they would be solved by swooping to FF and so I would have the op. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be pain free when feeding your baby!

soup sorry about the scan results. My friends DD had to have a hip op when she was around 20 months and was in a cast for months. She was frustrated, partly normal toddler stuff, but I think it was worse because she had been walking. However she's doing great now and doesn't remember anything about it. It must be really upsetting to see your baby in stirrups, but they won't care and it will be over before you know it. Sending big hugs.

Hayle my niece had to have her tt snipped and my sister was far more upset by it than her. Baby hardly noticed a thing!

Hayle baby flyer had tt snipped she cried when it was done but you feed them straight after the procedure then they forget and no pain etc since. Go for it I say, I had no hesitations.

Going to have a moan here so apologies in advance...

Really pissed off with DH (which almost never happens)! LO and I had a difficult day today which hasn't helped but DH started a conversation with me then started looking on his iPad so completely ignored what I said which has really upset me.

I don't think he understands that I'm cooped up in the house all day with no company so just want to have a chat and be listened to when he gets home...it's so rude.

Not only that but I didn't get a chance to shower today as LO was being a complete velcro baby so after a feed I rush off to the shower only to have DH come in and bring LO literally 2 mins after I get in...why?!? I've been with him ALL day...I just want 5 mins to myself. I don't think it's too much to ask for.

:(

Ow just inspected my sore nipple, cracked and bleeding in three places and purple all over from yesterday afternoon/evenings non stop feeding think it is just overuse but going to a breastfeeding drop in on Monday to check my latch again. Expressing to give it a rest tonight.

soup I'm sorry to hear your scan results but hopefully it'll be corrected soon.

Sorry if I've been banging in about the nappy rash. I think the combination of my experience with my own horrible skin and the sound of his pained screams that made me a bit obsessed. It's definitely improving now.

Last night we tried gripe water and it's like I have my calm baby back. He's sleeping better and he's now so calm and cuddly. We still have some short periods of crying but nothing like before. I definitely recommend it to anyone with a colicky baby.

hayle I also want to echo everyone else. Getting the TT corrected is not selfish at all. If it were my baby I would definitely do it.

untitled -sympathies. Definitely had that discussion in this household, too. Best thing I did was go in to work a couple of weeks ago (just for 4-5hrs, banking a KIT day) and left him with DS. He had a very different understanding of my day-to-day life when I got home

Is there any particular brand of Gripe Water we should be looking at? (Will be buying tomorrow)

We're using Woodward's gripe water because it's the one available at our tesco.

Soup - at least it has been diagnosed - the sooner your little one is in the cast, the sooner she can be out of it, right?

untitled. It is v frustrating when your DP doesn't listen. With me, I get annoyed when DP asks me something then (while I'm struggling to answer coherently through tiredness), he starts cooing and talking to the baby. I'm not jealous of the baby and love to see them bonding, but I think if you have started up the conversation then it's disrespectful to just interrupt or ignore the other person. I try to maintain as much eye contact and show I'm listening to the friends who come to visit the baby, instead of lending them just half an ear.

hayle, I hated the idea if a Tt snip! but after reading up on it, it really isn't as bad as it sounds. There is usually minimal bleeding and the baby keeps bf straight after. Compare it to a tongue ulcer. In the end our baby's was too small to bother doing it.

Try it get some space to separate your own opinions from those of the people around you. I don't do this enough and find myself getting bitter and regretting starting feeding/postponing feeds/not giving medication etc because my mum has made her feelings known and I haven't had the mental strength to argue back.

I bought gripe water today because I'm a persuadable lady and you all are raving! But in what circumstances do I use it? And should I use it even though I'm using infacol? I'm using infacol mainly because baby struggles and fusses at the boob and cries a bit due to digestive action.

mnippy I'm using infacol at every feed and gripe water 6 times in 24 hours, spread out roughly evenly. I know the infacol has a cumulative effect over time but not sure about gripe water. If it was more instant I would focus the gripe water more in the afternoon and evening when crying is worse.

I also bought gripe water today ( maybe we should all buy shares!) but no spoon or syringe so I have no idea how much 5mls is or how to give it to her. A had been unsettled since about 3.30 with trapped wind ( I think? But who knows in the constant game of guess what's wrong with the baby). Would gripe water help? Think she'd feel better after a good fart!

A teaspoon is 5ml ruby you can use a plastic medicine spoon or one of those syringes that come with calpol.
No more sleeping through from baby b! Must have been because he was sick. He's still only taking 2oz a feed but at least it's staying down.

Ruby, same here about guessing! I found a baby spoon and used a during to measure its volume (2ml) and just gave her a couple of those. I've gone for te same answer as you in the guessing game and not really sure if it made any difference.

Mentioned it to the Hv who showed me a nice timmy massage to do on her and suggested I do it 3 or 4 times a day but not after a feed. Not sure there are that many times when she's awake, not screaming but it's not after a feed!