November 2012 - Isn't age one a lot of fun?

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I can sign passports too :) not much help for you tho!

How did you manage to get the justice of the peace to sign it yw they're supposed to know you personally for two years I think? or maybe you do know him

Well done GT

We went for document verification and the JP who I'd never met before didn't mention that Flounce!

Just been reunited with my bear. He looks different somehow! Thankfully I spied that he was playing very happily when I arrived. He'd napped twice and taken 2 bottles. So all in all a good first day. It seems to have clicked much more for him by spending a full day as Sophia said. He also didn't mug me for a BF - hope he doesn't reverse cycle tonight. He and the pup (who's been bored all day without him) are delighted at being reunited I'm v chuffed (and relieved).

Mugged for a bf ! Love it...!

This knobhead ran out of petrol on the motorway today. Fucking numpty! In my defence - I was on my way for petrol! And my petrol should have easily done another 20 miles. Stupid car!

I had to call my mums husband to bring petrol as he wasn't far from me! I also called the breakdown cover in case it wasn't my petrol. Unfortunately breakdown arrived 30 seconds before mums husband! So one of then had a wasted journey! D'oh!

I did not enjoy standing in the fucking wet grass, and my shoes, it turns out, aren't waterproof!

Hooray for a successful nursery session yw

Last night was a disaster. Reqlly awkward. He wouldn't talk about anything other than a wonderfully idealistic future as a family. It was as if last week didnt happen. V strange. And my bank said no to a loan or cc on the basis of my contract having a probationary period. Fuckers. So now Iam really confused as to what to do .

and the fucjer has been charm personified for the past 3 days

And I set my sticky toffee pudding on fire

I have had my worst ever day with DD1. She has been a horror all day. Ended up taking them out for a drive but the fog was so bad I nearly hit a horse and rider so turned round and drove home shaking (riders should fucking wear hi viz with such bad visibility). Tomorrow is another day, primariliy because nursery will be open.

Hi msjj i know what you mean about the watch thing and feeling like you should be exercising, however i fully intend to sit on my arse this evening after last nights shenanigans! And probably tomorrow too :-). Was not at my best at work.

sophia the study was interesting but nothing worked properly first time (it was all new to them too) which meant it took ages and ages. We didn't quite do all the bits as F fell asleep for a (late) nap and I didn't want to wake him. He didn't really get one of the things either save for peppa pig as his brother watches that. Winnie the pooh and bugs bunny mean nothing to him!

yw glad seytling in going well. We still have much shouting. On the small plus side not so many tears, mostly just angry shouting.

pr everyone fed etc? Nearly kids bedtime too - hang in there

isles don't want to judge from afar as such but haven't you been there already? You'll make the right decision for you i'm sure

I'm dreading the Christmas break. DH works the days which aren't public holiday and nursery will be closed for two-three weeks. Dreading it. Even the fucking dog misbehaves when it's just me and girls and the problem must be coming from me, not the kids. I just don't have the patience and they wind me up too easily, and my stress kind of snowballs. It's not their fault, I'm just shite.

But yes, everyone fed, nobody dead.

PR you're not shite, just unfortunate clash of personalities I suspect. Dsd is an angel mostly for me, but is too similar to dh (headstrong, confrontational etc) so they rub one another up the wrong way and chaos follows.

Glad to hear of successful nursery settling in sessions. It feels so strange if ever I'm at home and F isn't here. I feel very lost.

Det I take it you didn't have O with you?! Imagine trying to restrain him at the side of the road...

Yummy stew for tea, am now v full.

Had a chat with nursery today about the milk/soya thing. I think cheese-gate was a one off (wasn't soya but was the lacto-free stuff) but the manager is on honeymoon at the mo, and as she normally directs food-intolerance/allergy proceedings, her deputy wasn't 100% sure about things like the bread. She's going to check everything this evening and let us know. Could potentially explain the past shitty 2 months of sleep - probably not though as I think they're pretty hot on it.

PR I think it sounds like anxiety too maybe? - but also I think what you're going thru is pretty universal - it is harder being a SAHM than sending them to nursery. It just is.Today was such an eye opener for me, having a day to myself, even with chores and freelance - has massively recharged my batteries and reduced my stress levels. I was getting childcare fatigue but I feel amazing now. It must be so much easier to get run into the ground with two. So go easier on yourself.

Isles I think mentally you seem to be halfway to your new life but financially you're not quite able to jump ship yet? Check out nonconventional lenders if you can be sure you can repay on time if it's only money holding you back. Charm is neither use nor ornament when it comes to an emotionally fulfilling relationship but it does let folks get away with a lot of shit and he's proving that.

You've got your head screwed on - can you save, save, save for the next month or two and build up a fighting fund without falling back under his spell? It's a really tricky situation and I don't envy you. Just make sure he never scares M with any of his "I'm dying" routines he is cruel for inflicting that on a partner but it would be even more damaging for a child. Whatever you decide remember you're an awesome Mum and don't stay if you don't feel safe. We have a spare room if you ever need it xx

Very cruel

I don't know what it is. Am a week pre-AF so could very likely is be PMT. Saturday went well but was able to take them out more. Today the fog was terrifying.

LO just woke up shrieking. Nightmare?

Evening quiche

Big love to all. Lots going on today.

PR I second YW in the fact being a SAHM is harder than nursery. However I am having a panic. How the hell will I work and manage everything. DP works very very long hours. I am going back mon, tues, weds.

I need hints and tips on how to manage everything pleasssse!

I'm not a sahm. My girls are in nursery full time but today was a bank holiday. One day.

While dd1 was temper tantrumming though I did realise all four new back teeth are poking through so I guess they must hurt.

Where is chasing today? And how did vq's meeting go?

pikz not quite the same thing but I work FT and so does DH but he works around my hours. We only have one day together plus 2 evenings. The rest of the time someone is at home and someone at work. The key is organisation and not sweating the small stuff. Bags packed the night before. Next day's dinner cooked when Dc are in bed so just has to be reheated. Whoever is at home during the day tries to do a couple of bits. Once DC in bed, whoever is at home spends 30 minutes tidying. This means toys shoved in toy box, bottles cleaned and dishes done/dishwasher done, wash put on and one 'big' job too ie bathroom/kitchen/hoovering. Very lick and polish. DH always tumbles the laundry and folds it and makes the next day's bottles before going to bed. A whizz around before chilling helps. My house is very tidy but probably not all that clean. But we are in a routine which means we can all be out of the house at 7am when we need to. You find what works for you and organisation soothes me because it makes me feel ready.

Pikz prioritise. That is the only way to get through. Lower your standards whilst maintaining safety you will be fine. You will get into a routine before long.

PR you are not shite. If you are shite then I am shite and I do not accept that.

Isles not sure what to suggest, but I think if it were me I would be trotting around to YWs pad and saving like mad.

Work was shite, horrid atmosphere. I was not called to the cavern, and I did not pop in either. She can approach me this time.

Bit scared to post this, but a certain little person has had a good day. I told nursery that nothing was to pass his lips that I had not provided, and he was not to engage in food play, which seems to be a popular activity. All sodding foods he cannot eat, so I do not want him swimming in them either. He had an awful night last night so muggins was up from 4am.

When I collected him they were saying that he had been singing to them today. Twinkle Twinkle Little Star complete with little twinkly fingers. They were amazed.

Here PR. Very manic day and shattered now. Had a phone call from my new HV who is coming to do a home visit on Weds. Hope she's nice. Going to ask about a nut allergy test for O.

Very annoyed with DH today. He gets home at 2.30 and collects DD1 from school, makes dinner etc 3 days a week. I get in at 6 having collected the two little ones. I get in today and he had not even thought about dinner. I asked him gently what had happened to distract him, and DD1 piped up 'he was watching the football'. He got all defensive saying he just wanted some time to himself. Fucking men!!!

Thank you zamboni and VQ. I am an organisation freak so I am hoping to find my routine very quickly.

Chasing my HV investigated nut allergy testing for me as I'm allergic. I am going to request via my GP as she recommended.

VQ I would love to see J doing that. What a clever clever boy

Caught up!!!

Reflux babies, fab news for those coming out of it. To vq and pig hugs. It's so hard. Every time e is ill reflux and vom gates open. I just can't imagine how it must be to have so many issues. Esp with childcare too.

pr you're not shit. Hugs too. There's just so much to deal with.

flounce with blood pressure issues, check out Paul McKenna. He's fab. Dh suffers from white coat syndrome. I think it's funny. But not so if you need surgery. You'll be ok.

Other flounce there will be other options. Or you can save. Or you can sell the boat....I agree with yw you're nearly there. In fact I think you were there, but you've faltered. You'll do what's right.

No news here. Ds after a week of not walking and only spinning and crawling has decided to walk again tonight. Odd little things.

I had another rant but it's totally bitchy and pointless :)

pikz I do a lot the night before!!!

Good and bad visit to GP today. BP was worse today as obviously had all my hopes pinned in it. But dr cooper was fab and called hospital. They passed on her msg to anaesthetist and pre op nurse who are both happy to proceed as long as I try and relax and take in the home BP readings on the day. I'm just back from shopping getting toiletries and some rescue remedy! Figured it's worth a go,

horsey good to see you I have a question. Would you ride on narrow roads at dusk in the fog? Would you, in that case, wear high viz or at least put reflectors on the horse's ankle boots ( :o can't remember the name!) i was driving vvvv slowly as am shite in the fog, and dusk, and v wary of wild boar and deer at dusk and riders in general. Was astonished, on a bank holiday, to see three groups of riders, one of which I almost ran into, and none of them were wearing anything reflective. Like freaking ghost horses. Even in my day we put reflective thingies on. Anyway...

pikz checklists, a tumble dryer and everything prepared the night before, right down to tomorrow's nappy and wipes on the changing mat and of course the day's clothes. 10 minutes hassles last thing at night equates to at least an hour in the morning. Write and print off checklists for before bed (baby) , before bed (you) and the morning. And if you canafford to outsource cleaning then do so.

vq yes am shite. No patience, snappy and intolerant. To DD1. With LO I am still lovely, but DD1 is noticing that.

Spending the day with a friend tomorrow. Well, half a day. But that is headline news. I never see people other than doctors :(