November 2012 - Isn't age one a lot of fun?

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What on earth is a helicopter parent?

So vq , you have out cat in with pidgins and walked away! I like your style. But seriously I hope it sorts itself out. Xx

Ah no, I have got the wrong. Hope it goes ok anyway today I will be thinking of you. Enjoy your quiche.

Is your head better pr ?

No vq it would have been had I not already been off iyswim. They took her in the end. Good luck for today x

Still sore sophia but am ok

Jupiter I'm very much a "let him get on with it" parent but he would never be allowed to climb the stairs alone. What a silly cow!!!!!!

VQ good luck today.

Evil you're new life starts here. I think given your XP's crackers rules about N's health he can't talk about anyone being off the planet.

J's noggin still has a bump, but it's gone down a lot and he's in a chipper mood so I think I'll just get nursery to keep an eye on it today. Am glad I didn't panic and call NHS24 and end up with another late night trip to OOH. Ta for talking me down from the edge quiche .

Morning quiche

Evil you have done amazingly. Keep strong xx

VQ good luck today.

Errrrrrr what is a helicopter parent? Even though L is very good at stairs I still follow him!

Ohh det good news on Fanjo and I was laughing at your non moving posts

Eliza I forgot to say well done E!

Pennie did I miss a birthday... If so happy birthday and happy birthday to anyone else I've missed.

Right LO off to nursery and I have to pack for South Africa and the MIL onslaught.

Sophia hope yesterday was ok and you are feeling alright now.

How's the head PR?

Sorry I should clarify of course J will be able to climb the stairs alone when he's bigger - just not yet

Helicopter parent is one that hovers over their kids all the time.

Ahhhh. We hover! We let them do it and try it out and hover just Incase. I am always there to catch my children whatever it is.

I feel much more sensible today thanks pikz

Winter tyres being fitted today, just as the winter weather warnings begin.

Got mine put on a few weeks ago soph they make such a difference. And are now a legal requirement in Lux in bad weather.

YW I had an image of you following a 45-year-old J up the stairs... I think I am pretty relaxed (for a naturally anxious person) - I think it's important to let them fall over/ have a few little bumps when they are learning about balance, standing etc - but halfway up the stairs is not the place for that testing! I think she has forgotten about that in-between stage tbh.

Good luck today VQ!

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...I have tickets for the McBusted tour!

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for VQ

for everyone else

I'm a helicopter parent in public unless he's settled with a toy and there are no other children wanting to play too near. I don't trust him not to hit, push, bite etc nor do i trust them so until he's able to play by the social rules, it's my job to enforce them iyswim. Luckily the other parents round here seem to think the same the bloody cm gang don't but never mind, they turn up later which is handily when R wants to sleep

We're off to a back carry workshop this morning, handily timed to be at nap and lunch time I'm on the verge of giving up wrapping and buying a mai tei, i just can't get the shoulders right and end up achy every time plus we do a lot of up-down now, he doesn't just stay put while i drink coffee in Costa i didn't realise how bad it was until i tried dp's buckles one rainy day when i didn't fancy wrapping over raincoats!

Pidj I have a mei tai (off eBay - just a cheapy) that I haven't used since I bought the ergo. I haven't found it since the house move but I'm happy to have a hunt and send it to you if you'd like? I could do with rooting thru the last of the boxes anyway to be honest.

We had a proper teary handover at nursery today - I guess it's a long gap between Wednesday and Monday and he'd gotten used to being with me fulltime again - something to consider for fitting childcare round shift patterns Isles that week gap out of childcare could hit her quite hard if she gets used to be cared for at home again? I felt like a real shit leaving him squealing in someone else's arms

Just a reminder about secret santa if you want to play please send me your address and any allergies/ dislikes

YW we also had that this morning as he has been off since last Monday due to being poorly. I feel rubbish but have so much to do he needs to be there :(

LET ME FUCKING GET A WORD IN. then you complain that I don't talk to you! Wtf is wrong with you! You didn't even let me answer YOUR question.

And breath.

Back after breakfast. Yes I know it's almost noon. I seriously think if I wasn't bf I wouldn't eat all day.

YW and Pikz sounds like all the quiche babies are objecting to being at nursery today. O screamed at handover, but might be to do with the fact that she's only had 8 hours sleep last night, and 4 of them were after 6am. No, no, no, no, no ideas what was keeping her awake

Hugs to vq and evi - you are both keeping going amazingly, in different situations. and

I've just tried to write a big post about my struggle of the day and it hasn't really worked. I think I might put it separately on fb.

Having fun with MIL GT ?

LO was chuffed to go to nursery today I think weekends disrupt her routine and there was I all worried that she would never settle.

I did wonder this YW, but then - and I know it isn't a comparison as she 'knows' my mum, but whenever she is looking after her, M doesn't bat an eyelid when I leave. I've left her with the neighbours next door briefly when I had to pick P up once and my mum had the car seat and she didn't bat an eyelid. HOWEVER, when her dad leaves her - even with my mum - she cries her eyes out. Proper big lip wobbling tears. I just don't think she loves me as much . Anyway, I think (hope) she will be much better with a childminder, especially if I am doing pick ups/drop offs. I have no chance of getting my deposit back from the nursery though, do I?

Evil delighted you are safe and sound at your mums. You are incredible.

Pidj I never really got on with slings and wish I'd tried a bit harder. YW lent me a ring sling when M was tiny but I was too dyspraxic to use it properly. By the time I bought a Baby Bjorn (which I did love for dog walks when we used it) I only really had 6-8weeks max use out of it before she was too big. It was enough to get A-dog lead trained though. I have a macpac back carrier thingy that I really must look out and try again...

OMG I need to get out the house this morning and run the legs off this animal. In the time it took me to write that post, he (and his little helper) have stripped my washing from the drying stand and shredded the next catalogue

She is driving me insane.
Something I will only admit here. I'm kinda dreading fil come out of hospital. Ofcourse I want him to be well enough to be able to come home. And Ofcourse I don't wish him ill.
But him being home means they will both be home all day. I doubt fil will be up to going out for quite some time. At least now she leaves mid day and comes back at 9pm ish.

Yesterday ended up hectic rather then restful. Went to hobby craft. Lol. I want to get ready for Xmas !!! Then took boys to temple.
Used sling for temple visit. Exhausted! Hard work these slings. Temples is only a 15min walk away 5 min but 2years of no exercise is taking its toll but my whole body felt like I'd been for a session at the gym.

in Isles general direction - I bet she cries less when you go as she trusts you to come back as you're a more balanced and constant figure. I hate hearing you say she loves him more - you've only to see you two together to see how she adores her Mummy. Don't let him undermine your confidence. You do the tough stuff like sleep training whereas he'd let her play downstairs all night (which as a teacher you know isn't really 'loving' in the long term - the kids without a bedtime are horrors!) my Dad was always a pushover but ultimately he was trying to emotionally bribe us to love him more. He was trying so hard to be 'fun' and 'cool' but ultimately we loved Mum more as kids respect boundaries and proper parenting rather than just staying up late and shopping trips.

It does sound as though she'll be cool with a CM though. Good - the weeping limpet isn't the nicest start to a working day. I called the nursery and he was fine in less than 2 minutes. When presented with a toy digger. Fickle little swine