November 2012 - Isn't age one a lot of fun?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1896209-November-2012-The-birthdays-are-coming-thick-and-fast

GT just watch the medicines you take (the packets will tell you) and don't apply Vicks / olbas oil to your chest as menthol reduces your milk supply. How's the feeding going?

GT what YW said. I used to just drink steaming hot orange juice.

YW sounds like a lovely day out. I took M into Edinburgh to see the lights with my best friend and P when she was about 10 days old last year. I can't wait to do it again this year.

M and I have had a super lazy afternoon cuddled up in our jammies watching crappy Christmas films on STV. I am waiting for P to get home as he has promised a chipper from the village pub - they've started doing takeaways at the weekend. Whether it happens and whether it's any good is still to be uncovered. He is trying, I am not falling...

gt here the guidelines are up to 3g paracetamol a day, no nsaids, plus hot pure orange or lemon, with sugar. If you do drink a glass of red heated in the microwave with a bit of sugar and a sprinkle of cinnamon and a squirt of citrus juice will make you a soothing wine. In any case a hot curry when you feel a cold coming on helps me every time.

Meant, if you drink alcohol, a small....

Glass of red. Bastard blue new phone.

My sister has pulled out of looking after M for us and additional nursery places are now looking impossible (next door been on waiting list for 6 months already for same places).

Fuck. How easy is it to find decent childcare in the space of two weeks?

Isles I did it with F after the cm quit. She quit on the Weds. I went back to work FT 2.5 weeks later, but could have done so 10 days later. Fs nursery is exceptional. Ring around, go and visit as many places as you can and get a vibe for different settings. Plus, when you ring, mention the words full time, rather than "this afternoon, this morning, this other morning" and places may become more readily available (sadly money does sometimes talk). Not easy, but doable.

GT hopefully the cold will bypass you, but if it doesn't do one, then lots of fluids, and regular paracetamol. Important to make sure you don't get dehydrated, as that can affect your milk supply, and the last thing you need is a frantic feeder!

Can you get a list of childminders from council? Find a local nanny? Consider nanny share? Any long lost cousins having free time to look after M? Consider nurseries close to work?

I meant exceptional as in, very good, rather than "the exception to the norm".

We has open fire. And chips

isles you need this job. Find a cm, full time. If it doesn't work out find someone you trust to do a transfer to a better one. Do NOT let this affect your job. February depends on it.

I am not not not not quitting my job over this. Although he thinks he is....

Isles I agree with PR better to go with a second choice (but still good) provider for now and move her a bit down the line if you're really unimpressed than to risk your job as your new life needs that financial stability. For us one of the most important things has been the personality of his keyworker as much as any specific facility - he's really bonded with her which makes drop off less stressful (though I did want a decent garden with good outdoor play and growing things, and lots of messy play but that was more about me than Jonas' current needs to be fair). I think BP is very right too - am sure the words 'full time' will sway a lot of nurseries to find places too. Certainly in Kirkcaldy Jonas could have started within a fortnight (as that still gives time for lots of settle visits) so don't fret about it being too late it really isn't but I do sympathise as it's totally not the stress you need before starting a career change. Good luck.

DH is making steak and chips for tea. Nom. If I'd not had 3/4 of a bottle of last night I'd have liked a glass with that but I still have that acrid hollow feeling and a thick head from last night.

I am addicted to gingerbread syrup in my homemade coconut milk 'lattes' so much so I bought a huge bottle from Costa . I'm going to double in size if I keep making them with two sugars.

Cheeky bugger Isles he's far too keen to be a kept man. I think most blokes after a week of full-time stay at home parenting would soon realise that paid employment is much easier!

Ha! Yep YW - pre-baby, dh said he would consider being a SAHD. He was less keen when I pointed out that he would also have to do the washing, cleaning, cooking etc, and not just play with her all day. Having now spent a number of days with her, he is quite clear he would prefer to work!

YW that's why dp was the one to go back to ft work. I could have, but doing all the cc and hw would have been far harder he reckons. But then, he would do all the cc and hw. In order to be a sahp, you have to actually parent not dump them in front of the tv while you piss about all day

Dp worked this morning then we went for lunch on the cliff top. Boys had a snooze in the car while i had a coffee then all hands on deck to entertain R till tea at 5 - he thinks it should be 4:15, but then doesn't know what to do with himself between tea, bath and bed so he gets rice cakes and reading/intensive interaction and something easy for tea :o I've made his cake (first of 3! 1 for the day, 1 for family tea, 1 for the party at the end of the month) just a basic 3 egg sponge, filled with pureed dried apricots instead of jam. I'll ice it tomorrow. Can't leave it to Monday just in case I'm called into work.

Isles you might find 2 providers could meet your needs also?

I did this - okay, so DS1 was a bit older, but it worked for us.

It might be a short term thing, but that doesn't matter -do what you have to to get by.

Why's your sister gone all flaky on you?! Worst timing ever!

2 foodie hits today with O - lazy foods at that! One was microwaved steamed veg. Pikz and others with babies that aren't so keen on non mushed veg, O devoured these! They were crunchier than I usually make, so that's possibly why? Anyway, I got them from Aldi. So they were pretty cheap!

He had some packet egg fried rice (Aldi again - 49p!) which was a mega hit too. I've never been any good at making it myself, but at least I know this is something I can pull out the cupboard for quick meals!

I love finding new things for him!

YW and other DF'ers! Please could I have your recipes using filo/puff/shortcrust pastry. Just realised these are dairy free, and I am intending on getting DP making some things using them. So far got meat and potato pie, and some sort of fishy thing in filo pasty.

Any good ideas wanted! Fanks.

I am utterly delighted to report that my dog child has learned his first command! Sadly, it is not sit, stop or no. But it is clap your hands! Cue little clappy hands going! I am SO pleased. We have commands!

AND we have a word! A definite word - no is it, isn't it this time! Gog. It means dog. Said gog gog gog gog over and over. I realised this was definitely dog when we arrived home this evening, walked in the front door to be greeted by the dog and O's first thing was 'GOG. GOG GOG GOG'! He last said it just before we left the house!

Awesome!

Yay! Go O!

Mini homemade quiche - scrambled egg mix with bacon, leek, whatever, inside shortcrust pastry case.

Could do mini cornish pasties.

Mini custard pie for sweet treat?

I guess any kind of pie - I love a veggie one with spinach, sweet potato, garlic, shallots and goats cheese. Gravy often has soya in (can't remember if O is soya free) but the Bisto gravy powder doesn't and can be made with cornflour.

Soya traces are okay - we don't give full on soya, but traces he can handle!

I shall make some little quiches. For his birthday. Fitting really.

Thanks!

isles I did. The nursery closed down just before I was due back.

I'm so so so so happy with his childminder!! It's the best possible setting for him and just wonderful!! Call the family information service they should give you the list of everyone and their ofstead number. I met everyone who had vacancies, including nurseries. It was very intensive but worth it. Also register on childcare.co.uk that has various nannies and childminders on it. Keep your current place though. You never know what might happen.

vq hugs. That's tough. The problem with anything pancreas/stomach related cancer, they are very very resistant to chemo and radiation. You end up treating very aggressively. Oxford are treating pancreatic cancer with stereotactic equipment and with some degree of success. I assume centres like the Christie etc are doing similar. I'm not sure which your nearest hospital is, or if they have a stereotactic kit. But I could find out. Must be really hard.

sophia hugs. And lily

gt get well soon.

yw sounds lovely

det did you go 17 days over in the end? It's kind of a blur. You ended up induced though? I looked back over some threads too!!

Am off to bed (for sleep, not hanky-panky). 9pm. Saturday night. Rock and roll.

20 long shitting bastarding days over, as he was born just after midnight the wee bugger!

Yes I decided to be induced after reduced movements at 19 days over. Was a massive heart wrench at the time.

Thanks for all your suggestions and advice. I will get onto it tomorrow morning and phone around. I think I am just wibbling over.. well everything.

P has been dispatched to the pub. He thinks he is in my good books or something, and hasn't yet twigged that I just can't be bothered with his company.

And bedtime has lasted 2.5hrs and counting..

Wow. Hugs.

isles it will all be fine. There's loads of lovely childcare places. Some not so lovely ones too. But don't let that put you off. What's your job doing?

Just been off the phone with my Auntie's partner. She had her ileostomy operation yesterday and a big chunk of her bowel and rectum removed. Am feeling v thankful that the op seems to have been a success - and the radiotherapy seems to have well and truly twatted the tumour but am feeling v as apparently she's in a lot of pain (not that she'll admit as much) as the epidural is only working on one side. Hopefully she'll be out of the ICU tomorrow. Am feeling thankful, despite everything that she is responding to treatment. And feel v sorry for VQs MIL

Really behind with this thread so just a quick post.

Isles we sent to see one nursery and one CM, didn't see any others as CM was convenient and cheaper and we were slack at looking at others. I was worried that i didn't assess options as thoroughly as I maybe should have done.
But our CM is fab, so so glad that I did choose her. M loves her and loves Tuesdays when she goes.
I'd thought I wanted nursery but I'm glad of the one to one M gets and the walks with the dogs, trips to the park and playgroup every day.
You'll find someone, and if you choose one and the waiting list shortens then you can alway move her.