November 2012 - The birthdays are coming thick and fast

[StuntedFrankenNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1884788-November-2012-Babies-going-trick-or-treating

I can't be bothered to nc, I'm not witty (whitty?) enough to come up with something decent. I only post on our threads anyway so it wont be me that's posted elsewhere. Oh unless I have an eBay question.

So sorry sophia totally missed the last bit of your post. Sending hugs xx

Yeah Dr Ranj is a fully full time paed A&E doctor. The CBeebies gig is a lucrative sideline.

sophia A bitter sweet time for you at the mo. about your mum. happy birthday for O for tomorrow for O (sorry they don't have an owl cake emotion) and for you.

soph shite anniversary but lovely that a birth comes just afterwards.

I'm off to bed. Goodnight lovely quiche.

We're in the new house but no wifi until Saturday so I haven't caught up. Hope all's well with the quiche.

STOP FECKING CHATTING SO MUCH! Ya bunch of gobby bastards .

I just can't keep up!!!

Happy birthday Chick. You sound very blessed with your lot. :)

Pumpkin Wishing you the best of luck. He's been on borrowed time. You deserve more. And you will find it.

Lily I can't believe what your IL's have done. You are a better woman than I to let them be part of O's life.

Fruit It's weird. I'd be grumpy if someone had a similar name as me. Although I guess there is no way MN could prevent this really.

Does anyone elses DP not notice when our LO's are ill? O is ill. Like boiling hot ill, drooling continously, rattling chest, unable to keep his balance. DP was on O watch this morning. O was asleep when I got up. I got dressed while DP gave him lunch, and then I took him to a playgroup we haven't been to before. Poor O, I had to bring him back home. If DP had said to me he wasn't right, I'd never have taken him.

It's not the first time he's been unwell, and DP hasn't noticed. In fact he has never noticed. Is it just mine?!

Poor O, he's so wobbly, can't stop falling over. Not sure what is wrong.

He was the same 3 weeks ago. It's not teeth - although that was my first thought. It wasn't teeth 3 weeks ago either.

The playgroup we went to today was brilliant. I thought it was a toddler group. It's held in the church hall at the school I want O to go to. They said it was a toddler group and those who attend get priority to the school (it's their admission criteria - and I don't want him christened). So now he's walking I figured we would try it. It had babies much younger, so we could have gone 6 months ago! It had a gazillion toys, all set out in different areas, a baby toy area, construction area, dress up area, home area, etc. O was in 7th heaven, for the bits he wasn't drooling or whining over!

DP has agreed to take him too, as it isn't the kind that you can sit on your bum and chat in - well, not for O yet, as I needed to just follow him around. He moved from thing to thing, although he mostly pushed the dolls prams in to people, and the little chairs too .

I feel very lucky. I have made friends, both through O and my SW group. Everything is all local to me and I finally have friends near where I live. I feel very content with my life right now. I've never felt this until this year. I wish all this was around with DS1 was little. Such a shame that this kind of stuff isn't available everywhere. And that I didn't have any friends with children for him to socialise with :(

I am lucky. Very lucky. I appreciate my life every single day. Even when work is shit . Speaking of which, if I want to be completely content, that is the area I need to work on....

Hello quiche! Spent the whole evening reading this fred! All a bit of a blur now but sorry for poorly LOs (and mummies!) thinking of pumpkin and evil, congrats charlee, it always took me a bit of time to adjust to bfps, happy birthday thechick, sending thoughts and prayers to you on a hard day sophia and congrats on the move stunt, sorry for house hassles kyz, good luck finding a new job apple and enjoy your break eliza. Oh and huge happy birthdays to all the LOs.

Eliza E is too little to know you aren't celebrating on the day.

Enjoy your day off. And don't feel a shred of guilt - please!

:)

Thanks all. I know you're right. I'll try not to feel too guilty and I'll raise a to you all in celebration. Night x

detective what a lovely post. Has he had a cold? An ear trouble could affect balance? Doesn't have to be an infection, could just be water in there. I have the opposite problem. DH notices every minor ailment. Normal, his mum I strongly suspect is munchausen by proxy, and I don't take that term lightly (long story going back 47 years) but every time they have a bit of snot or cough he freaks out. Which is unfortunate now they cough every evening and snot all the time due to, well, autumn and nursery. If he had his way they'd be at the paed's every week! He and his sister, and particularly his sister, were taken in several times a week.

When they stayed over when LO was born LO was diagnosed with spina bifida, lung disease and flu in her first few days by mil. I had to physically stop her from taking dd1 to hospital twice, once for a banged head and another time for a broken finger (she trapped it and it went a bit red). She also said that DD1 needed to see a shrink as the arrival of a baby sister was upsetting and she needed sleeping pills because she woke up once during the night. And the day she stuffed her full of strawberries and she puked (a full 1kg punnet at 19 mo was overkill) she wanted me to call an ambulance. Ugh. Dangerous. But as a result my dh is a tad hypochondriac. So notices when their average temperature over a week goes up by 0.5 degrees. Ugh. God job I am relaxed otherwise the poor sods would need a timeshare at the local paed ward.

eliza the first birthday and this xmas is for us. Next year is when we have to make an effort. Enjoy!

Happy birthday to those celebrating today!

gt o had umbilical hernia. She was fine, it went back when she was 7 months old. The gp said they would only refer her once she is 1 as it is very common for it to disappear before. The only advice I got was not to let her scream too long as it can make it worst.

det slowly I'm making friends here. It's been very hard but now there are two girls with babies similar ages as O who I can talk to and see during the day. Weekends are still shite, walking around on a Saturday and not being able to call anyone to meet up is soul destroying. But Sundays are good, we visit my family.

horsey hugs. You are not a failure.
eliza she won't notice, don't worry.
pr did you get a shag?

Nope :o

Shame . Better luck for tonight.

Indeed :o

PR

Lily I am so sorry for what you IL did. Glad you are surviving.

Eliza they won't notice. They have no idea it's their birthday

Stunt hope the house is lovely

Det you sound very happy, just get well soon O!

Sophia massive cuddles for yesterday and happy birthday O for today!

Errrr can't remember any more.

Awesome night here from L. Right off to clear up wetabix off the floor.

After spouting crap all day yesterday, threatening everything from disappearing to taking custody of m, he came back last night promising to change. I have heard it all before and it seems too little too late. I am going to see fb house tonight but although it says ready now I wouldnt actually be able to move until january. Would it be madness staying here for now and keeping the peace until I can arrange to have everything gone before he comes home from work one day in january?

det that play group sounds ace! Dp didn't notice S had a temp the other night, but he can be forgiven for that been as she was in her cot, once she was up though and I was calling nhs direct, he kept thinking she had a rash on her arm, she didn't.

sophia happy birthday to O, I hope the owl cake is well received!

Finally stunt I hope the move went stress free.

pikz I was just going to give S weetabix, you have put me off and she's now having toast haha.

pumpkin if it was me! I wouldn't be able to stay there knowing I wasn't happy and wanted to and was planning to leave, but I guess, unless there is somewhere else you can go then that is what you will have to do, unless you tell him to pack his bags. I think if you stay until jan, you won't actually go in January and it sounds to me like you are more sure than ever that leaving is the right thing to do for you and M.

It is my dads 50th birthday today. He just text me to ask me what time me and S will be getting to the restaurant for his big family meal. I was oblivious to this. It turns out, his bitch of a girlfriend has organised a big meal with all of his aunts, uncles and cousins and her family and not bothered to invite me, fucking shitbag. I hate her. Best of it is, if I said to my dad, would you prefer that with all of them or would you like to spend the evening with me dp and S, I know exactly what he'd rather do. He's not happy that we haven't been invited.

Sorry about the ! After if it was me........ My ipad has now taken to correcting my grammar, incorrectly.

I would be wary of doing that pumpkin. He has a habit of not thinking rationally when he knows you want to leave. Is there really nobody that could put you up until January or any other houses? It doesn't have to be anything special, anywhere you are with M you will make home.

Plus I think if you stay until January then he will talk you round. Like he always does.

stunt yay for the move, lust be a relief.

pumpkin tough one. I would ensure he knows that you are looking for a new place and that you will be moving out as soon as you can with T and pup. Also keep notes of any threats and when, and if you are worried that he may do something stupid then call the police. He won't get custody of your daughter, but build up a case anyway. It will be difficult for him but you deserve better and your daughter deserves happy parents. Stick to practical conversations, and try and leave feelings out of it so that he doesn't sense weakness and drag you back down again. That's my advice fwiw. And if he acts like an arse is there anywhere you and M can go so that he can't get to you? Your mum's? A friend? He sounds quite unhinged in some ways, not very predictable at all and I am worried for you and T.

I wouldn't tell him you are planning on leaving then continue living there until January. I'm not sure it would be safe.