Jan 2013: Part Six. Part SIX!

[Angielka]

As I so frivolously finished the last thread, I thought I'd better start a new one. Go!

Hi all, thanks for the well wishes, I'm feeling much better today, no more vomit just feeling a bit washed out.

Dp looked after dd pretty much by himself yesterday, except for bringing her to me a couple of times to bf. It was the first time he's looked after her for so long on his own and I think he did pretty well. So one good thing has come out of me being ill.

Do we all have the vtech baby walker then? Dd loves hers, she pulls up on it but it is kept wedged in a corner as she would go face forward otherwise.

cupcakes we have the 12 month check coming up too, however it will be the first time we have seen our HV since dd was a few weeks old so I'll be glad that she is getting checked over by someone. I can't imagine that they can force you to have the check if you don't want it.

Thanks everyone - our 8 month check was a group event and rather humiliating for those of us (i.e. me) with non-sleeping babies. Not keen to repeat the experience so will try and wriggle out of it.

Apple meant to say we got out VTech walker at a bootsale for £1.50. There are a few indoor bootsales around our way so perhaps you'll be lucky?

Why are you getting an 8-month and a 12-month check Cupcakes? I always thought it was one or the other. I would be inclined to say you've already had the first check and everythings fine thankyouverymuch and cancel it.

Pascha - dunno. They just keep sending me letters summoning me to things. It's getting a bit tedious.

I have just fallen asleep giving DS has bedtime BF. That's the third night in a row. This is getting a bit ridiculous. Surely a normal person should be able to stay awake past 6.30pm? DH had even washed up by the time I got back downstairs!

Cupcakes I could happily sleep for Britain at the moment.

LO asleep in my arms after over two hours of screaming .

Babies... They take everything you have and then some more.

I was worried what next door were thinking.... Then heard their usual Sunday night almighty row about homework kick off... Doubt they'd have heard us over it! (They have two DC, 13 and 15).

Cupcakes we don't get either 8 or 12 month check in my area.

cupcakes that's dreadful about the 8 month check

And sorry about the screaming meringue .

I had a wobble and couldn't sleep last night as the childminder came over to go through the paperwork and settling in and it really brought it home that I'll be leaving my girl At work 10.30-3 today (seeing her at lunch) so maybe that'll remind me of the good things?

glorious good luck at work. I was away with work on Thursday/Friday and had to leave Molly and DD1 with DParents and DH... they all survived amazingly well but I was on the verge of tears at various points throughout the two days. I even woke every few hours on the one night I had where I could have slept eight hours uninterrupted

Hope everyone's feeling better and strong enough to tell useless HVs to sod off

Oh Cupcakes they do sound a bit crap. The 8 month check is a hangover from the old system of 7-9 month check, 18 month check, 3yr check. Now its moving over to 12 month check, 2-2.5 yr check and thats it. Some areas do one, some do the other, sounds like yours does both. How stupid.

Have a look at your red book. Has the next review page been filled in? Mine says 1 year review which is still blank. Yours might say that or 7-9 month review or similar. Whichever, if its still blank they probably don't have any record on the Child Health Computer of DS ever attending it.

I worked for a GP for a long time before giving up work and my dealings with Child Health have shown than even months after a family registers with a GP the CHS admin hasn't caught up! They can be shockingly understaffed, underfunded and administratively inaccurate in some areas. Its not the HV's fault (usually). They are just working to a list.

I would call them and query it.

Well we are still in the doldrums here. Washer packed up halfway through yet another pooey bedclothes hot wash. LO refusing to sleep in cot. Was hoping he'd finally be over this bug by now but we just had a nappy explosion in the Sainsbury cafe which was a nightmare to clean up. Ended up chucking pooey clothes away as had no nappy sacks to take them home in, and nothing to wash them in anyway when we got home.

Sorry to be all me me me at present! Please God just want this bug to end (then a nice clear stretch til the next challenge).

Oh dear meringue sounds like you've had a really rubbish day. Hope you manage to fix / replace the washer soon. At least you can go shopping for more cute clothes to replace the ones you had to bin!

So I rang the HV today about this 12-month health check. Apparently they are replacing the old system of an 8-month and a 12-month health check with a 6-8 month and a 10-12 month check. So they're basically making it up as they go along. Managed to cancel the appointment as it's on a work day anyway, but she didn't have her diary with her so couldn't reschedule me. She's going to call me tomorrow to do that, so all I have to do now is avoid all calls and I'm sorted!

glorious when are you going back and what hours are you going to do? I'm finding it OK and DS has settled really well at nursery. I arrived to pick him up today and he was still eating his lunch. He took one look at me and then just went back to his lunch. Apparently macaroni cheese with sweetcorn trumps mummy.

DH has eaten a loaf of bread that I made that went very, very wrong. The bread maker didn't mix properly so there were lumps of flour all through it. He said it tasted it fine but I'm worried the yeast won't have activated properly and it'll start to ferment in his stomach. Sorry, TMI!

Actually, I'm not worried anymore. He's just squeezed me on the shoulder as he's walked past me. On the shoulder with an infected cyst on it. I nearly hit the roof with the pain! Don't care if he gets ill now. Hmph.

Well I am now clear of the vomiting bug, but dp has gone down with it. Except of course he has it much worse

Hello all...
I had a bit of a miserable time at his 10 month check. First, the Doc was shocked that I was still breastfeeding, even looking a bit taken aback. She then spoke to me like I was an idiot, telling me that once he was a year old he didn't need it any more etc.
She then went on to say that I should be worried that he doesn't babble (he did at about 6 months, but hasn't since). He says Ooh a lot and grunts in concentration. And growls when I feed him. But no dadada or mamama or any variation thereof.
I just thought he'd sort himself out but now she's knocked my confidence....

We've just got 'ooooooo' this week and 'gagagagagaga' today aged 10.5 months. He has said 'mumum' and 'dadada' but only a bit and not for a while. Actually for a while around 8-9 months he said very little at all really. Lots of squealing and random 'aaahhs' and 'eees' coming through in the last two or three weeks though.

Oh and DS1 only had 10 words altogether at 2 years - most of them were animal sounds. Now at 3.2 he chats away nicely. By 4 he will be the same as all the early talkers.

Grrr..just lost a huge post, stupid phone!

octane that dr sounds rubbish! Ds1 never babbled and although he was a lateish talker there are no problems. Ivy makes a lot of noise but tbf its pretty noisy here so we might forget her otherwise ;)

And he may not need bf but its lovely and comforting and if your happy then why not ?!

meringue our washer has been kaput for days, its a nightmare. I'm going slightly loopy watching the pile of washing grow... I hope yours is fixee soon.

Ivy is getting over her cold now but needs night weaning again as it didn't seem fair to not feed her when she woke up all unwell..

Hello all, dropped off my active convos and lost you for a bit. Horrendous few days here, like you,cupcakes. My dp's were down and have seen the full extent of her devil childness - apparently that's how I was.

No wonder I didn't get a sibling until I was 7.

My spd seems to be back with a vengeance, having to sleep with a pillow between my legs again :( and ds has diarrhea, so having to work from home with two of them. My week is somewhat fraught!

Hope everyone is well - well done pascha's danny on climbing the stairs!

Bunch of wee monsters these end of year/new year babies ...

Well the dr quite clearly mad a fool of herself in my opinion. She said 'he doesnt need it after one' id of said thats all well and good, but he's 10 months bitch.

I need help. He's gone from happily sleeping 7/8 til 7,30 to waking up at 11. Nothing will settle him apart from a bottle, he refuses the boob but will take the bottle! Hes quite clearly wanting it because he polishes it off and I can get him back sleep after his ahouty pre bottle antics :(

Its hard going back to work, did everyone survive when you got back? I went in today my official going back day will be 12th of jan, I'll be doing a day less and mum n dad will have him a few hoursone day.

angielka I cried the first time I went to work too. It's amazing how much more capable everyone gets when you're not there isn't it. Boo to waking up though!

cupcakes I'm not back until February, just trying to get up to speed. Hours will either be 32 over 4 days or 21 over 3 in a more senior role in a job share. I'd be better off doing 4 days at my current level but the job share is two levels up so a good move longer term.

octane what rubbish from your GP. Obviously everyone should stop or continue as works best for their family, but there are actually still plenty of health benefits to breastfeeding a toddler (e.g. they get fewer colds, the mother's risk of breast cancer continues to decline.... kellymom.com/ages/older-infant/ebf-benefits/)

Sorry it has been so tough again bunty

Last night as I nursed the baby to sleep I said to her "if you go to sleep within the next 15 mins and stay asleep until at least 7am - I'll buy you a new rubber ducky". And to my astonishment she did! Bribery works already!

This morning my DH and I were so well rested that we DTD. I'm so delighted that I'm now in search of the perfect rubber duck to thank baby. Is this the start of a long future of bribing her to behave?!

Wow brilliant poly! I'm going to try that tonight! Do you think it has to be a duck?

Octane at your doctor! Ignore and carry on as you are!

Mrs Bugsy your poor DH, must be awful to be a man and have everything twice a bad, poor lamb

I hated going back to work after ds1 but after a few weeks he settled well at nursery and I started to enjoy work again, it made me feel a bit more human

Will be going back to work sometime in the new year when DS1 gets his free hours at nursery and I can afford to put DD in for a couple of days!

Octane - I had a weigh in at the sure start centre yesterday - my DD is on the 60th percentile, crawls and babbles and eats everything put in front of her three times a day.... but I am also still breastfeeding on demand. The HV tried to persuade me to drop the feeds. I politely expressed surprise that I was being encouraged to breastfeed less and the atatmosphere became frosty. It's bonkers - why do they say these things? !?!

Exactly! One one hand they are bribing new mothers with £200 to BF, then they tell us who still are, to stop! WTF?

Octane - did you ask if she had any good advice! At my weigh in last week, the hv congratulated me for still BF . Re language she mentioned up until 2 they are all so different.

DD2 is such a chatterbox loudmouth compared to my DD1. She now does Moo sound and says bye bye.

Bunty sorry your having shit time again

Really feel for you guys going back to work, I am being such a wuss this time, even the thought of leaving her in the gym crèche is making me nauseous or that could be down to gym part I was a lot tougher with leaving DD1. Need to sort myself out.

Gymboree day today, DD2 gets so excited when we walk in, so cute.

Obv DD2 weigh in not mine, lol nappy off please