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November 2012 - Babies going trick or treating

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StuntNun · 17/10/2013 19:28

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TheDetective · 19/10/2013 22:19

I'd just go get him Fatima.

It's not worth the stress waiting for him to come home.

And you can hold this against him. Forever. Grin

DP went out last week, came in an hour later than he said (he had work at 8am, so he wasn't having a 'late' night). And was pissed out his mind, vomiting everywhere. Hmm

I threw a right strop, he only took 10 fucking quid out. His mates bought him drinks the fucking twats. Hmm

He never goes out or drinks, so he should have known 3/4 drinks would be enough on a work night.

He felt so terrible, and the fact I had him crawling around cleaning his own vomit up, to declare that he will never go out again. I believe him tbh. He's not a drinker. Grin

I don't like him drunk either :(

TheDetective · 19/10/2013 22:20

Cross post Fatima.

See, I understand! They become very weird when drunk. Me no likely. DP becomes like an overgrown kid with behavioral issues Hmm.

Pikz · 19/10/2013 22:22

I always tell DP that if he wants to get plastered do it and stay in a hotel. I don't deal with him drunk well. He hasn't been drunk in a long time.

Passmethecrisps · 19/10/2013 22:22

His indignance is guilt. In his drunkenness he was probably 2 years ago in his head.

Neither of you are idiots at all but I would be having a chat about it tomorrow.

FatimaLovesBread · 19/10/2013 22:32

I was all ready to go get him but he said no. Now he's not answering his phone.

Thanks for replying, you're keeping me semi calm. I think we will have to talk, I do so well with my anxiety but this is one thing that always brings it back.

He can have the best intentions in the world but then it ends up beer in, brains put and he's like a teenager. He's 37, he should know when to stop.

Before we had M I really thought about ending it, we'd found out we couldn't have children. I was on detox wanting to get healthy to give IVF the best chance. He went the opposite way and was out pissed most weekends for about 8 weeks, culminating in him unconscious asleep in the cricket club the night before Christmas Eve. My mum had to go sit with him because there was no way anyone could wake him. I was so angry Sad

FatimaLovesBread · 19/10/2013 22:33

Just looked out the front door and he's walking up the street with a kebab Hmm Smile

Passmethecrisps · 19/10/2013 22:36

Good! Make him sleep on the sofa and he owes you an apology tomorrow.

PetiteRaleuse · 19/10/2013 22:40

Damn right pass an apology in order.

Pikz · 19/10/2013 22:43

A big one with a whole roast dinner cooked with extra yorkshires

PetiteRaleuse · 19/10/2013 22:43

(I hate drunk people but have my reasons... My dadwasan alco twat, and the day it killed him freed my family - so don't take my comments re drunkeness to heart- I get v angry at drunkeness!)

FatimaLovesBread · 19/10/2013 22:54

Just been reading the rest of the thread...

pennie I think at one we will go to cows milk during the day and boob first and last thing I think. She's starting to know that my boobs are for food and will try get them out when I'm doing stuff which I don't really like.

Happy birthday miniPR Hope you're ok pr

Yay to the 500 mm I remember a friend saying she couldn't get the infant carrier in the 500 and had to put the stage one in through the boot Grin

Thanks hugs apple so sorry!

Talking of bargainous eBay buys. I bought two coats for 99p. The same coat just two (seller has twins) note through door says they were left next door but one. Hope they're nice

FatimaLovesBread · 19/10/2013 23:00

He does pass and pr
I always get anxious, then when he get home angry but then the next day when he's nice again I forget about it. Not tomorrow though. It's rarer that it happens but I don't like it and I don't want M growing up around it.
It's my sisters birthday tomorrow so we're at hers all day. I might get up and go on my own though, leave him to stew so he know I'm not happy

YellowWellies · 19/10/2013 23:09

I'm more likely than DH (well I was pre-BF) to be the one tottering in late and trollied Blush. DH has never done it. I'd get unreasonably cross if he did.

Ex twat used to, whilst I, skint, 21 and naive was stuck in babysitting his kid unable to afford to go out myself. After I left him I found out he'd still go out to the pub leaving his 3 year old home alone. This may explain my ishoos with playboys who put their fun before the needs of their kids. I think he dumped her in boarding school as soon as he could but he's probably bankrupt now.

Kirrin · 19/10/2013 23:12

That was pretty much my check list PR but the drowsy one was hard, like you say - why do they always do these things so close to bedtime?! and on my watch

Fatima you are owed a biiiig apology.

Elizadoesdolittle · 19/10/2013 23:15

I just logged on to check how you were apple and I'm so so sorry to read the bad news. I have no words of advice, just wanted you to know am thinking of you. Flowers Please try and get some rest and hope you're being looked after.

PetiteRaleuse · 19/10/2013 23:20

kirrin because they're tired and when babies get tired it's sudden exhaustion. I took a sleeping pill a while ago and walloped my knee on the bed. I think that is why they always injure themselves at bedtime. They just get drowsy, the lucky darlings.

When I dropped LO on her head as a nb I was walking her to her cot as she was sleepy. They kept asking, is she losing concsiousness and I kept saying yeah, but she was already sleepy. But they have changed the guidelines - in the past you had to wake them every hour overnight to check they were ok.

Why the fuck isn't my pill working?

Elizadoesdolittle · 19/10/2013 23:21

Oh and chasing it's not family day on sunday everywhere. In my household it's DH plays golf day whilst I work out what the fuck to do with my 2 kids day. Tomorrow I think we'll mooch around bluewater. DD1 needs to pick a birthday present for E.

FatimaLovesBread · 19/10/2013 23:21

That's the thing yw I liked to drink too. But however here's I got, I could still walk, find my way home, be relatively compusmentus. There's been a couple of times I've been really bad but I don't like myself like that so I stop when I know I've had enough.

He walked in with his flies undone, wobbling about and then fell asleep on the sofa. He just looks so unattractive. Looked in his wallet and he's spent £70. I don't know when the last time was that I spent £70 on myself. I went out with work the other week and spent £25. I'd feel bad spending more, I'd rather spend it on M or doing something together.

Ah well. Thank you for letting me have a moan

Elizadoesdolittle · 19/10/2013 23:25

kirrin One way I can work out that DD1 is tired is because she just loses the ability to do anything without falling over/banging something/dropping something. She is a clumsy clucks anyway but it trebles when she's tired. I had to take her to a&e in her pjs when she fell over right before bed and bashed her eye on the cornor of her chair. A mini POANG no less. She has a lovely scar because of it. that was DH's watch though.

Kirrin · 20/10/2013 07:05

Thanks all :)
I did make her walk round a bit before taking her to bed and she did that ok, so I figured she was alright. Can't help but worry though. She's talking to herself in her cot right now so everything is fine :)

MissMummy1 · 20/10/2013 07:21

Morning all. Glad N is okay kirrin

Matilda said mummy for the first time this week. She decided to practice this at 3am: "mummy, mummy, mummummum" and repeat.... I ignored her (well lay here listening and smiling) and she went back to sleep Shock Shock Shock I now need to go and wake her as we have our big trip over to the west coast today (leaving in half an hour). I love her a bit more when she sleeps Blush

Must admit, I used to be the crap drunk staying out too late. He does it very rarely and he was in constant contact the whole night. Fatima I would go to your sis' without him if I were you!

Sophiathesnowfairy · 20/10/2013 08:17

It is me who stays out late also and gets pickled but I only do it about once a year.

Beautiful morning, thinking of skiving church even though I told SIL I would go to her church because DNS are doing something going to Tollymore Forrest (where they film a lot of the outside bit for Game of
Thrones) having a walk and the down to the Harbour Bar for a carvery. The alternative is church till 1:30, make PRs lamb and DH out the curtain rails up so I can hang all my curtains downstairs, maybe a little stroll to beach.

I can't decide. Both sound ok to me.

Thechick · 20/10/2013 08:17

Morning all.

Big hugs Apple I mc at 5 weeks last year jan and then got pregnant with H my next cycle. What PR said was so true about the human body. Be good to yourself and rest lots and I found reading information about it helped. And we are here for the good and the bad. Please do keep talking if that's what helps.

Happy birthday for yesterday minipr and Gt you are doing amazingly we are all so proud of you.

applepieinthesky · 20/10/2013 08:51

I got tearful last night but C gave me lots of cuddles and kisses which made me feel a bit better. He's so loving and affectionate. Definitely a mummy's boy Smile

chasing Sundays here are usually just me and C. We have lazy days snuggling on the sofa while DP is at work. Occasionally we go for Sunday lunch at my parents or take the dog for a nice walk but sometimes we don't even get dressed.

fatima hope you get an apology

GTbaby · 20/10/2013 10:01

How can I feel hung over with no Wine?
Head is thumping. Body aches Confused
We had H party last night. Totally wore me out.

Haven't caught up yet. But seems a lot of us need hugs and Thanks.