November 2012 - Babies are getting busy, busy, busy

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1858262-November-2012-In-which-the-babies-start-to-reach-their-first-birthdays

Nearly nearly ?Friday night here. Chink pennie

We have MIL and FIL coming tonight for tea. The like more homely food than we might usually have on a Friday so I am cooking a mahoosive cottage pie and a self saucing butterscotch pudding. I have snuck some cream in the mash.

I will dive into the wine when they have gone home!

Oh an in my experience of regulators, of which I have plenty, none of the staff seem to have the relevant knowledge or experience in what they are regulating. Bah. They get the industry they are regulating to do all their hard work, which would seem a bit twisted. and a pita

My bits are infected hence still painful on the positive A has put on weight!
On another negative side I gave him a full ff, well mum did. I was exhausted and hungry.
I love bf I really. Love the sleepy faced A covers in milk. Last night he fell asleep still attached. N left him there for a while just starring at him. N he started to giggle! Do babies giggle!? Well he did. hopes it wasn't a sleep deprived induced hallucination
I just can't Handel the lack of sleep. The pain. The 100% dependence on me.
End of the month. Just need to get to the end of the month.

All these queries over formula, yet bf support is laughable. VQ and Izzy are still struggling to be heard over feeding issue. Only a handful here made it past 6 months. Not for want of trying, but want of support be it positive images in the media or encouragement from family/HCPs.

Disclaimer: i started this post at lunchtime so things have probably moved on by now

Fab gt you are really doing great. Sorry about your bits, at Least you know there us a reason for the discomfort. Xx

OMG the girls are WIRED tonight.

Havnt caught up yet but theses are for all of you
Had my 20 week scan today and Im having another......GIRL !!!!
:)

Yay. Congratulations. How do you feel about that?

This is my third girl in a row, my 2 boys were first...financially this one wont cost much
We are delighted PR :)

five?

Oh well at least you already have everything you need :)

French fizz is open here! Delish!

P has scoffed sardines and Cous Cous for tea and has delighted granny and grampa during face time.

I am a day late in being thankful for:
A) my access to education
B) my freedom of choice as a woman and mother
C) access to information via the internet

Oh, and we passed a school yesterday which posts its school dinners for the week outside on a board. They had a different chef every day with their picture posted also. These were actual chefs - two of them had Michelin stars. This is a normal, public school. Our school canteen is offering a deal at the moment where you buy 5 burgers and you get the 6th free

I would love six PR if Im lucky enough.....greedy or what huh?

You are right pp. I have found some of the recent chat a bit tough actually which has surprised me and made me feel bad. I knew in theory how to bf a baby but had a succession of MW who also knew in theory. It was the blind leading the blind.

And honestly, it is that which puts me off a second.

Congratulations, donna!

Even our nursery menu is posted outside a week or two in advance. The michelin starred chefs won't have done it for that particular school - more like all the schools of the region. Being asked to design school dinner menus is an honour in France. It's privatised but kept a very close eye on by the education department. The French take their food seriously. Next week is Taste Week, so they'll be getting served up all kinds of exotic things. Like curry

Donna I really admire people who want big families. You have as many as you can/want.

Fire in donna!

And that makes sense PR. I will take a pic of the menu before we go home and post it on FB.

Congratulations Donna i have a friend with 5 - 11, 13, 14, 17 and 19 - and she's been a brilliant support, knows everything except not to lick her chocolatey fingers, she's the one i stabbed a while back her house is mad but in a fun way, there's a lovely energy to it iyswim. I imagine the early days are tough though

Pass it is. IMO it's not supportive at all to take the baby away and give him/her formula. Support is "here's a cup of tea, there's a casserole in the fridge for dinner, have a good cry while he/she feeds and I'll pop him/her in the buggy for a walk when you're done - go and have a soak in the bath." with a lot of positive comments about how the mum is getting on. We don't praise each other enough, nor do we accept praise well.

Right our sleeping times are not work. He gets up at 7 (well 8 today). Then naps from 12 to 3. And he is now grouchy n ready for bed. To early! He does get sleepy earlier in the morning. Maybe 10ish. But it's so hard to get him to settle.

So what are better nap times? N how do I get him into a new routine?

For A, go with the flow. For H, erm... We still go with the flow, he sleeps after breakfast ish sometimes then mid morning ish and mid afternoon ish for 30-60 minutes each in the car seat, buggy or sling. I'm probably not the best person to ask!

You are right pp I struggled with the three out of four I tried to bf, the longest I lasted was 11 weeks with number 3 and only because there was an ace bf counsellor living 4 doors away. I really tried with O in hosp but he wouldn't latch on and screamed and fought it the whole time, he was the only one screaming all night and everyone was too busy to help. I felt like a burden so when I was told to make a decision, and as he had been in special care it was too easy to go with ff.

I won't regret it but the lack of support does make me feel sad. It is so hard to bf.

gt I think with A go with flow to establish bf. for H you need a 12 hour routine. If he gets up at 7 do nap 9-10 then nap 12-2 he should be well rested enough to go through till 7. Xx

I've been lucky. R eventually got the hang of it, i had a night at the mlu after hospital to establish bf, bosom pals on my doorstep and it's normal among my ILs - sil went to 15 months (natural term) and 2y (milk monster!). My mum was nothing but impressed i got past 6 weeks as she dried up through stress/lack of support so while her practical support is a tad lacking, emotionally she's on my side. Plus dp expecting me to do nothing but care for our child, coming home and cooking us dinner/bringing me porridge during the first feed of the day etc. I had that week at MILs not knowing if or when dp would come out of hospital and at no point did anyone suggest a bottle - but my washing was done, my meals cooked and the kettle boiled at frequent intervals.That's support.

Without that I'd have failed. And R might well have starved - i can't afford formula, not if i want to have paid the mortgage and utilities this last 9 months, we didn't have that much in savings.

I agree that bf is hard work and I'm on my 27th month in total. Once bf is established it is easy and convenient but getting bf established is the real trick and it isn't ever always easy. I would never have managed as long as I have if I wasn't completely obsessed with bfing in the hope that it would stop my children suffering with eczema, hayfever, asthma and allergies like me and DH. Who knows whether it has worked or not but while DS1 has hayfever and dust allergy, and of course J is allergic to eggs, none of them are as badly afflicted as their poor parents.

I hope it has worked stunt I think I have said before my DCs have bucked the trend, the healthiest of my 4 is the only one who was exclusively ff since the minute she popped out. All the others have gad eczema to a certain extent and bad wheezy chest issues when they have colds, lactose or soy intolerance, inherent madness the list goes on. My ff girl, is so healthy, pick and sane! DD1 things she was swapped at the hospital she says she us nothing like any of us. And she is the only one who is not ginger!