December 2012: we need more chocolate and cake!!

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Congratulations stacks

My brother is coming up in the next couple of weeks to go through the baby stuff and see what they want to have. But at least we'll get our spare room back!

I've got a stinking cold now, and DH has to work today. This is after working until midnight on Thursday. The DC had better behave. I'm trying to think of something they'd both like to do.

Ds has been asleep for over 13 hours even dd didn't wake up until 7:10.

That's amazing spotty, am very !

I'm shocked. I think it might be where I have to wake them up when I go to work etc they just need to catch up

Wow spotty! Enjoy!
nutella hmm, you could tell them you've decided to theme the wedding and will expect everyone to dress and dance appropriately - musicals? Cats? The sound of music? Tell her that in order to make vegetarian guests feel comfortable, all the food will be veggie, so that no-one steps on ds and hurts him everyone will be handed slippers as they arrive...will think of some more!

2 wake ups here but my turn for a lay in - yay!

WL starlight express? Hand wverryone rollerskates at the door?

I'm planning a wedding too, doesn't help that I hate the idea of a wedding and just want to elope. DP won't do it without his mum as she'd cry for years and make his life a living hell and I'm not having his mum without my mum and dad, etc etc etc

We're lucky, it works out that there are equal numbers on each side that we want/need to invite - my mum/dad/gran/aunt/uncle, his mum, sister, brother+gf, adult nephew (we don't count kids for numbers) then equal numbers of friends, which is R's godparents plus a couple. Under 40 in total including kids. We'll be off to the register office once life settles down a bit. Ha!

Congrats stacks!! That 3 new babies on this thread so far!

Things are improving on the sleep front for us but not as good as you spotty!

Was on call wed and thurs so got home after the kids had gone to sleep. Whilst mil was here yesterday evening dh said the nights dd sleeps are directly related to the days I'm oncall- he thinks that it's because she has just a bottle rather than when I put her to sleep where she has a bottle & then a boob feed to sleep. Seems to think she wakes because she wants the boob again during the night even though we night weaned a while ago!This prompted mil to say maybe it was time to stop etc as surely I didn't want boobs like spaniels ears!! Luckily my mil is actually lovely normally so decided just to smile & nod but dh did then ask had a though of when I'd stop. Truth is I'm not really sure just know I'm not ready yet- anyone else thought about it?

Planing a wedding always seems stressful & full of family politics!! At least ours was due to complicated family- both our parents divorced, not on good terms, new partners etc!! Was a lovely day but with a the stress before it sometimes I do wish we'd just eloped!

Delurking! Have been watching but failing miserably to post.

Congratulations Stacks and whoever else it is who is also pregnant. How exciting!

Totally agree with wedding prep being stressful. The conflict with both sets of parents in the run-up to ours almost ruined the whole experience for us - wish we had eloped (although wearing the dress and seeing DH's face as I walked down the aisle made it all worth it!).

DS is waking lots at the moment - teething I think. What method are you using to get your DS back to sleep Nutella?

ddas my dr asked the other day, but i think that's more because I'm obe of very few mums she sees who've made similar choices to her R is now 2-3 feeds a day, 5 minutes after breakfast and 10-15 at bedtime so I'll carry on to natural term most likely. It'd be different if he was a milk monster constantly clawing at my clothes :)

Ddas as of today I've stopped bf as ds has been on nursing strike for ages and my supply has plummeted plus he was just biting me if I tried feeding him

i don't know how I'll feed at the end of our bf journey, must be worse when you feel forced into it

pidj I have a bf monster who will happily feed for 3-4 hrs a day (not including night feeds) tbh I still find easier to bf and am happy to carry on (except nightimes if I can manage it). Neither me or DS are ready to stop so no idea when we'll stop.

Our nights are a little less disturbed. Long may it last!

It's only the last 2-3 weeks that there's been a significant reduction in frequency , before it was length that was reducing. Today he fed at 8 and again now, normally the morning is both sides an hour apart, then sometimes mid morning or afternoon, then 5:45 for bed.

R is 11 months today. Yesterday he started walking around holding just 1 of my hands...

Yes ddas I have been thinking about stopping but 2 things are preventing me...1. It's so easy to bf 2. Don't really now how to go about it as she won't take a bottle & not keen on milk from cup (particular dislike of formula!). She is feeding less now & I am getting better & not assuming she needs a feed all the time.

Going to the in-laws next week though and there are 2 guaranteed questions that I am not looking forward to..."are you still feeding her" & "does she sleep through the night yet". Except the latter will be worded more like..." she must be sleeping through by now"

Dd1 at my mums tonight, dh is on a stag weekend, baby lazza is in bed.....must find something constructive to do.....oh yeah, Strictly'll do

lazza

"Of course I am, why would I deny her something so healthy?" or "Why buy the cow when you can get milk for free?"

And

"She's great at home, she's obviously just disturbed at being in an unfamiliar place. I wonder why she doesn't feel comfortable?"

Trust me pidj I am well practises in those replies! It just gets a bt tedious....every time we see them, speak to them, Skype them etc etc. Dh doesn't get why it gets my back up! I forgot to mention the derogatory comments from fil about them being girls...you can tell I'm looking forward to it can't you!?!

Sounds great lazza!
spotty I hope you're not too sad about stopping bfing. You did it til ds was ready to stop - can't ask for more than that.
If all goes well I'm planning on feeding until marchish. I want DH and I to go away for a weekend so T will have to learn to get to bed without a boob just before. I'm planning that by then we'll have milk in a cup and a story rather than boob in the dark. I guess I'll just see how it all goes. Just feeding to sleep now.

I'm so glad other people still feed to sleep! IRL other people seem to have these perfect self settlers and we have to get j to sleep before transfer every night or there's hell to pay.

We all have this horrid rattley chest today, I just want one week where Jamie's not teething or ill, is that too much to ask?

Hello Equimum I'll pm you, otherwise this post could become an essay.

lazza I really understand where you are coming from. I sort of wish DS had been a girl because he is the only "heir" and I know that makes the PIL ridiculously happy but makes me really uncomfortable IYSWIM. We also made be mistake of letting him have DP's surname it's not a massive issue but its those little comments that really stick isn't it? Oh and I always get comments like " you can still BF???" Although I'm almost there with just giving DS bottles. He gets a little bit of boob time at night but I don't think it will last much longer. I will kind of miss it but often when he has had enough to drink he won't give up the nipple. It's odd how babies liked to be comforted so differently. Of course, it's the same as how they do everything differently but you know what I mean :)

And I love the idea of a vegetarian wedding, and the slippers. Just for comedy value. If I can perhaps I'll just find a really dry humour way to say - in German - that "we were thinking about making it into a roller disco but we were worried about DS/small children getting hurt so we thought handing out slippers would be good. Except that would be impractical too because we would have to know everyone's shoe size and outfit colour"

I'll let you know if your suggestions are more ludicrous than their assumptions.

And we bought DP's suit today. He looks soooo sexy in it :) love him!

WL I'm pretty sure DS would feed forever if I let him! The boy loves boob! I quite like cuddles so I get it, but I need my nipples back!

willyou I've decided to assume that instead of me doing something "wrong" all those mummies with perfect babies are lying and they drug their babies. Disclaimer - those with sleepy babies, I don't mean it and you are lovely mummies. Please pop over and explain to DS how it is done!

We don't seem to be feeding to sleep anymore because he feeds but then stops while sleepy rather than actually asleep. I then need to cuddle him to sleep instead - definitely not self settling!

Not sure how I'll feel about stopping either - notionally thinking 12 months but I have enjoyed the closeness. He's just going to have A LOT of cuddles instead I guess..

I am super sad about stopping. He doesn't even look for boob. BUT better now than all the tears when he's 18mo plus etc (or so I'm telling myself ). Ds does self settle but it wasn't anything I did he just started staying awake after feeding (even bf) I think him sucking his thumb has quite a bit to do with it.

Anyone feeling uneasy about the clocks changing?!

When do the clocks change :/

DS is self settling now. It happened on its own really, I used to feed to sleep, but these days he pulls off when still awake. I transfer him to cot where he does a big stretch then goes to sleep. I still think its magic, and am terrified of breaking it somehow.