November 2012 - In which the babies start to reach their first birthdays

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Are you feeling a little more like your old self, PR?

I can't bear the idea of doing zumba. Round here it's chubby middle aged women wearing clothes emblazoned with Disney characters grinning inanely at church fetes. I refuse to associate myself with that. So i took up kickboxing

PS i am a chubby middle aged women, albeit minus the Disney fetish and inane grin. I just can't stand up in public and admit it

I tore my ligament in my knee by doing Zumba. It is a great exercise but very dangerous. Would not do it again.

I'm going to physio tomorrow, this time for myself. My posture since giving birth is appalling and causing me troubles so time to correct it somehow.

OH EM GEEEEE.

I'm not going to lie to you ladies. Have just skim read and basically ignored anything that wasn't by GT - waaaaaaaahhhh exciting!!!!

Worst day at work ever. Fact. Nearly cried (haven't done that for years). My blood pressure must have been through the roof. So yes. The fact that there is an imminent quichlet makes up for this kind of shite. Good job it's sweary fucking cuntbag arseweasling Wednesday sorry mini-gt if you're listening from within there

Am going to write this nobbing presentation now, then shall catch up properly xx

Good luck GT!!

Aww BP positives vibes for ur presentation and for a better day at work tomorrow.

I'm getting I like worried about lo. Still not well. Very unsettled with my family today. Came to see me, was irritable. Hasn't eaten much today.
Angry FH is currently struggling to get him to sleep.

Might have to change my decision to stay in over night post natal so I can be with him.

Pains are getting worse. But I don't want to say/think they are bad as I'm worried that they will just get alot worse.

Gawd GT I am absolutely dreading being away from my little dd in February , she will be 16 months then but still a babba that needs her mummy.
I'm so glad that you have lots of help on hand for him even though they ain't you and can be a pain in the arse, they all love him don't they?
I haven't got much of a family support network but I do have an amazing DH and amazing kids to all dig in when the time comes.

GT It all sounds promising. :) Heading in the right direction.

LO will be irritable in hospital. Crappy hot places for little children. When you have the baby, just have them meet at home - hospital is awful for under 4's. I see too many stressed children and parents!

O had falafel burgers with pitta bread and hummus for dinner. He loved it. :)

He didn't really eat lunch so very glad he liked his dinner!

Christmas shopping was successful today. Got SIL the most hideous Paul's Boutique watch. Utterly chavvy with a zebra print strap n' everything . She will love it. I felt ashamed buying it.

Struggling for stuff for DS1. Difficult age! Got a few ideas. But they are so expensive! My mum asked what I want for O for christmas. I told her a snowsuit. She wants to spend £50. I said snowsuit I want is £20. Spend £5 on a small toy, and then put the rest towards DS1's present if she insists on spending so much. So now have £75 for DS1. So that will be like 1.5 games for the sodding xbox then?!

Sounds like progress GT, I will be checking in all night

Anyone else watching the nanny programme on C4? Making me worry about toddler years and how I will cope. At what point do I need to start instilling discipline in O?

Evening wimmins.

Holy crappola I am excited for you GT!

Dinner sounds a nomortunity det.

Enjoy those bubbles pp. I loved your little moment with the receipt as well. It is the little stuff like that that we forget and take for granted. I am so pleased that things are on the up for you.

P came home early from the childminders earlier. Bit of a temp and a bit grizzly. DH collected which is great but he can't afford the time. A bit of calpol and a snooze would have sorted her out. Tomorrow I am leaving my mobile in my pocket in case the same happens. As of next week it will be fine but this week it was rotten timing.

No other chat actually. Work is busy but not as busy as BP's sounds. I cannot image what a bad day must be like for you. Crazy busy and intense as fuck?

Oh. I have a story/slight dilemma/whinge. Last week I was supposed to be meeting up with a pal for coffee. Saturday didn't really suit me but did her so I said I could do a certain time as I fancied a catch up. Unfortunately my lunch date ran on and I was going to be late (always am for some reason with this lady - not like me normally) so she offered shifting it to this Sunday which was perfect. Then I get a text from my dad saying that he and mum might just come to visit this Sunday as they have been awfully busy and stressed and that would be lovely. So I am going to have to shift my pal again, aren't I? I can't do Saturday and don't want to stop my parents visiting. Humph. I have been stropping recently as my folks are just to bloody removed. I send endless videoes and pictures and get nothing back at all. Phoning my mum is awful so I just don't - haven't since I was 20 years old. I actually think I hear less of them since we had P. What is that about?

So, anyway. I would love to see them but I am annoyed that it is always with days notice and in this occasion means rearranging again!!

ginger you are sounding much better. Some of us are much better parents when the kids are not around all the time. That is how I feel 100% I am so glad you are starting to feel better

Pass Sorry about the folks situation , I'm not very close to mine, and when you have your own kids I think it brings home how different you'd like it to be with them and for me it's highlighted their shortcomings IYSWIM ....however we keep up the pretence for the sake of the grandchildren but My God it's a strain!

I forgot to say, got O's feet measured. 4.5F. The woman in Clarks didn't seem to believe me that he was walking though. She said can he do 8-10 steps across the room. Well, yeah, he can. He's not confidently walking without falling still, but can walk a good 4m when he wants to.

Anyway, I just wanted his feet measured. I'm still not in the business of buying shoes.

Apart from the wellies which I got him for his birthday, and now have to be returned as they are a 4.... d'oh!

I thought he would be a 4F. I knew he had average width feet. They are longer than I thought though.

4.5!! Jeez detective is he going to have giant feet I've ordered M some converse in a 3 as I figured she might wear them after she's one, might have to invest in a foot measurer

Eeek super excited for mini gt

Today is Mine and DH's 3rd wedding anniversary!!!

Been to work today but still feeling a bit crappy and sicky

Right.

Presentation written sort of - it will be fine, was just struggling to pick a topic and find the time to fit it in, but feeling much calmer now.

Pidj wonderful news. I hope you're enjoying every single bubble - here's to the new job and better times ahead of you both.

Det I swear teenagers in general are just awkward as arse to buy for. My nieces x2 certainly are. I'm sure they'd be happy with cash, but family rules dictate that ain't the done thing.

GT I gave birth to F with the energy from mince pies and custard and brandy butter, mmmm so jaffa cakes sound just perfect. I shall be getting up early tomorrow morning just to check the fred to see what's been occuring overnight

Lily gosh, didn't realise zumba was so, erm, dangerous?!

Chasing I'm glad to hear O is enjoying his newfound mobility. Watch him get up to all kinds of mischief now.

Stressful day at work was due to multiple deaths , including 1 young un (my age); too many patients and not enough doctors, too many really poorly patients needing stuff doing and just insufficient number of hours in the day. Consequently, only had time to eat my emergency cookie, so was starving and less able to cope with the fatalities. Consultant rocked up on the ward late pm to find me in my "stress pose" - hand tucked up under armpits radiating tense vibes - asked me if I was ok and why was I standing funny. Cue my reply "I'm fine (squeaky voice, watery eyes, tighter clenching of armpits), "are you sure?" "yep, fine, yep yep", "are you really sure? I mean...you look a little...", "fine, busy, got to go"

Anyway. New day tomorrow.

And GTs being induced

pass I can sympathise. I just deleted a massive post about the issues I have with my mum (my dad died whilst I was pregnant with DD1) but realised it doesn't really matter. It's just safe to say I know how you feel. I hope I'll have a much better relationship with my girls. I'm sure you will have with P. Annoying to have to cancel your friend again.

bplp Sorry to hear work was dog shite. Good luck working on your presentation.

gt eeeeek. Next time I check in baba gt could be here

The dietician has prescribed E with vitamin drops (mainly to increase her vitamin D intake). DD1 never had them at all.

Good luck gt!!!

Hugs to everyone else.

Life busy, not great mentally but will survive. Just lots if shit happening.

Ds fab though. So happy. So lovely.

Cross posts there bplp I'd say that day was more than just dog shite. I am in awe of you for being able to deal with things like that on a day to day basis. Glad you're presentation is done and here's to a better day tomorrow

fatima Sorry you still feel unwell. It takes me a while to feel normal after sickness bugs. Hope you've had a good anniversary anyway.

Hello horseylady hope you are ok. Xx

Lo will be fine gt do not give up your extra night on the postnatal ward. Life is busy with two, you need at least a chance to recover from the birth. Xx

I just need to state now I DO NOT WEAR DISNEY CHARACTER ANYTHING I love Zumba! is fun and the hour passes really quickly.

However, I really should have been doing more pelvic floors. Ahem.

Eeeek BP am never going to complain about a bad day at work again my bad days involve poor signal on conference calls, arsey clients wanting more than they've paid for and irritating edits!

I'd be hilarious at zumba. I'm so dyspraxic I'd be going left as everyone else goes right. My shame and liability to collapse into giggles mean I best stick to running where I don't have to be in sync with others or slow moving stuff like yoga.

Woooo GT good luck! I wouldn't be too hasty about reconsidering your overnight stay. Wait until wee one arrives maybe before making the decision? Especially if you want to BF. H is going to have his nose out of joint for a wee while regardless and its an important time for the new baby too. Must be tough having to choose which one to prioritise - how do you Mums of more than one do it!!!!?

We're getting into a nice routine with the woofer. She sleeps through and the bear is too despite another toof on its way. Feeling v lucky. My sister always says that when baby 2 arrives you get so used to juggling them both you wonder how you ever struggled with just one. I kinda feel a wee bit like that with bear and pup - now when its just me and Jonas it feels easy!!!! Think we'll wait for a two year age gap though having watched Jonas with his cousins and figuring when the older one is more verbal and occasionally obedient would work better for me - everyone I know in RL with less of a gap is errr slightly anxious totally out of their trees and forever raging at their kids and I'm much less patient than them so might be a bit ratty total harridan.

Chasing I was wondering that about discipline. It seems that the folks who are too strict too early end up with kids more likely to not care about defying them as they've been told off so long it's like water off a duck's back / or being consistently told they're naughty means it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. At the mo' I'm limiting 'no' to situations where he or someone else could be hurt. If he's got hold of something I don't want him to have I take it off him but view it as my fault for leaving it in reach as he's curious and anything in range will go in his mouth. He is starting to listen to 'no' and 'gently'. He knows what I mean but often gives me a cheeky grin and ignores me so I'd move him out of danger.

Oh and we had jealousy for the first time today. I was cuddling his cousin and he came crawling over top speed going 'mumumum' and tried to barge onto my lap .

Sleep still a nightmare. Called HV for advice, all set could suggest was gradual retreat. I'm reading the no cry sleep solution book but thrre doesn't seem to be an actual sleep plan. It just seems to suggest you need one!

gt I'm excited! Hope all is going well!

J had two one hour settling sessions at nursery this week. He did really well and even waved! Still no crawling....

Nursery approached me and said they can help with childcare for J when my op date comes up as long as a referral is made for him via HV. There is a panel meeting this week so he's had an application filled in for a funded emergency place for the time I'm unable to lift him. Every little they can offer will help us out.

pass I'm sure your friend will understand you having to rearrange. I know I would.

*disclaimer post to bp may be upsetting to others**
bp sorry work is so stressful. It's hard working with illness and deaths etc. I'm lucky I suppose in that we just diagnose, it's not that often we deal with it full on. Although I have had a patient die as I was xraying There's also been a few times in resus which have been scary including setting up only to be told oops did we not tell you he had passed away!

chasing I'm impressed with the crawling! J is still a non mover. He wants to tho!

Em... Can't remember much else. Dh had a half day today so I had a wonderful nap late this afternoon!

Oh... J can pull up to standing from sitting if he holds my hands

I keep looking to see if the newest member of the quiche has arrived. Hopefully some news by morning.

Damn you GT I was going to bed hours ago! Instead I have baked cookies and lasagne and pressed F5 a billion times

Sorry you had a tough day BP

Get well soon Fatima

Hugs horsey

izzy everything crossed he gets as much nursery space as you need. The sleeping is tough. And I only had no sleep for 6 months, the last 3 months P has been able to do it all. BUT, I don't want to tempt fate, a very very strict routine has made it click with M. You will find J's sleep switch eventually (hopefully v v soon!)

YW A-dog was fab the first month or so we had him. This past week he has been an absolute bollocks. Proper toddler year, boundary testing naughtiness. Like tonight: he just looked at me, looked at the patio doors and then pissed on the carpet. WTF?! He also followed me upstairs and got on the sofa today. And barked and next door's 4yo who was admittedly winding him up Good job he is freaking adorable. Are we still on for Friday avro? Do you want me to bring the shark? (I totally understand after reading this if you'd rather he stayed and terrorised his own home!)

Pass I am sure your friend will understand. Big thumbs down to parental planning. I rarely phone my mum although do see her at least once or twice a week so was a bit when she phoned tonight for a blether. IL's are a nightmare though. I will save my IL rants for another day. Safe to say though they neither care if their son is alive nor if their granddaughter is well. Wankbadgers.

£18-20 for a packet of nappies pennie I hope they're really really big packets!!?

Glad you got some sleep Kyz Although it doesn't sound like you got much. Hope E is better soon.

When I switched DD1 from formula to milk I tried just switching it but she wasn't having any of it so I mixed them, slowly increasing the amount of regular milk and decreasing the formula. Now I can't stop her drinking the stuff - I'm sure she has too much.

We are still using the jumperoo stunt but she is far less interested in it now she can move and it takes up so much room that I will put it away soon.

Yay for walking ditsy :)

Enjoy the dinner and the champers pidj That is progress indeed!

I am loving the idea that Zumba is dangerous - seems as good a reason as any not to do it, I daren't risk it now! I'll stick to thinking about doing some exercise but never quite getting round it

Happy Anniversary Fatima :)

bplp Sounds like a really tough day :( Hope tomorrow is easier. ((Hugs))

Lovely to hear from you Horsey Hope you're ok.

Glad B is settling in well YW
I think you are right about discipline too early. I said no to DD1 a lot, and it did start to roll off her. I am trying to avoid that with N.

Sorry sleep is so shit still izzy I wish I knew what to suggest.
Good about the nursery help though - must be a weight off your mind.

N can now stand unaided. Only for a few seconds though - basically until she realises she is standing unaided!

Hope your silence means things are happening GT :). Can't wait for news xx

Sry folks. Nothing to report.
Nxt step is to check me out. If I'm dilated enough to break water. Or use a gel.
BUT labour ward is full. So either way they are letting me rest over night.

Mm. Go to sleep. Lol

I know, I really should... but P is due ashore about 1ish and I just know if I go to bed now, he will wake me up. Plus I am desperate for baby news!