Dec 08 - The One where they take on the world (school)

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That is quite odd, Arti. I'd be a bit peeved. Are you?

Jam! Yuck! DD2 had a 39degree temp on return from playgroup and v weepy. She had an hour's snooze, then got up for an hour and now asleep again.

DD3 asleep in pram with me. DH out with work and I managed the school run without him. Yay! DD3 also now weighs 8lbs 6oz after 13 days. Good bird!! She started off at 7lbs 13oz. Brill!

Off to bed.

I find it to be quite a strange name apart from anything Arti. I've heard of similar but with a M for the first letter but not N. Sounds more like a sneeze than a name....gosh that's a bit mean of me isn't it.

My SIL us completely balmy at the moment too much to go into right now but causing DH much stress as it is effecting his mum

Still feeling quite icky today, managed pilates but then felt horrid so dh came home early and took the boys to music class.

I was called up to see ds1's teacher again. He has gone back to not concentrating in class again and not getting his work done in class. We are starting a deal that if he doesn't get it done at school he has to do it at home and misses play time. However, I had a think about the fact that spends time staring off into space at school and wondered if he is trying to just have some time to himself. He gets almost no time by himself or in his own space at home, he shares a room with DS2 & they often fall asleep in the same bed. They play together or with each others friends a lot. today I cleaned out ythe spare room and have given him a little space if his own. If he goes in and closes the door DS2needs to uunderstand that he has to give his brother some space.

DD2's temperature is currently 39.7. Should I be concerned?? I am somewhat, but I seem to remember something about temperatures going up while they're asleep?? Help! She's fast asleep though.

Vag, that sounds like a great idea re DS1. Could he even sleep in there if he wanted to?

We are now asking him if he wants to fall asleep with DS2 last night he said no tonight he said yes. I'm thinking of letting him stay up an extra 15 mins to read a book but I think ds2 would just wander in a bother him

Has she had any calpol. It's a high temp but not crazy. If she is asleep I would just leave her. If she wakes give her some calpol and a few sips of water.

Right, I must go to sleep. Will just check on DD2 whenever I change DD3's nappy and hope she's ok and give her water.

Thanks Vag. She had calpol at about 4, but none since. Will follow your advice. Thanks lovely. Glad it's not crazy bad. Bet she's fine in the morning! Here's hoping. Will let her sweat it out xx

You could alternate calpol and ibuprofen Beans.

I don't know what phonemes and graphemes are Jam! The new baby is pronounced Knee-Uh to DD2's Knee-Nuh. I'm not sure if I'm annoyed. I'm not sure I'm over the fact MiL hated DS' name and before that DD2's and now she's raving about the new name and I'm a bit nonplussed.

I hope DS2 is ok soon Jam and that you don't catch the bug. How are you going with choosing names?

I am too knackered to catch up tonight other than to say that the new baby's name is a Welshie name and your ILs are Welshies, aren't they Arti? I guess that's why your MIL is raving. Nothing against the Welsh but I like your DD2's name a lot and I'm not keen on the new name. Just personal taste, I'm sure she's a lovely baby.

I'll bore you about the pre-school stuff in a day or two. Hope DD3 perks up, Beans.

Sorry to be so brief, love to all.

Beans, how is DD2 now?

Arti, I think I would be annoyed by that. There are loads of names in the world to choose from.

I'd be annoyed about MIL's reaction. I might think it a little odd but I guess you don't know what names they had in mind, perhaps she just felt like an X, or perhaps SIL had dreamed of a baby X for years. Who knows?

It is raining. I'm tired. I still have no period. I have a fridge full of ready meals for the next batch of night. I have my books beside me but really I'm in the sort of mood where I just want to hibernate and make it all go away.

oh Indith. can you have a little half hour power nap? might help your mindset?

DD2 still had a temperature this morning, but was determined to go to playgroup. so I evilly sent her in!

TMI! Sorry!

I have my first ever smear test in an hour. I am dreading it, so much that I've just managed to drop and smash 2 bowls that I was using for my lunch.

I'm sure it's easier to be a bloke.

Kayz you've had internals, you've pushed a few hefty bairns out of there. You will be fine! It takes seconds, just breathe and relax. The speculum slides in and gently opens out, no worse than the MW slipping her fingers in. Then the swipe round the cervix is a bit niggly but no worse than a good old internal or sweep. Close you eyes, relax your breathing and it will be over and done with for the next 3 years.

Kayz I have had many smears as am an old biffa and had some complications yrs ago. In my opinion a smear is less painful and over in a few seconds much less invasive than an internal during labour.

Beans, hope your Dd2 is OK and lasted out the play group session.

Arti, I would be feeling a bit narked by the name choice and your MIL's reaction.

Kayz, I hope it wasn't as bad as you thought. At least it's all over now for a few years.

How have you managed to get away with no smears Kayz. They practically had the speculum up my clacker at my 6 week check before I'd left the waiting room chair. You'll be fine my love, I had nice straight forward births but I can say with all honesty that putting something up there is much easier than getting something out.

How is your hotty Beans? Taking fluids?

Deids how's your foot. Is it tomorrow you see the GP?

Arti your MIL is beyond reproach and honestly I would be happier knowing someone like her didn't like the name. I personally adore your version of the name, my best friend in primary school had that name and I find it such a feminine name, managing to sound both gentle and strong. However, I must admit giggling a bit at your pronunciation, you make her sound like ambulance siren.

Have had a massive argument with DH this morning, partially made worse by the fact that I am still ill. But due to all the outgoings for London, which I know are not his fault, we have no money and as he has had to pay himself more we owe loads in tax. We need to sort out a budget and right now. We have one more year here and if we are going to leave with no money then we may as well up sticks and go home now. Rather than be in this state of limbo we are going to be in for the next year. Aaargh I think I'm being irrational but I just get a bit pooey about the fact that I scrimp on the shopping, cycle everywhere because we don't have a car, live in a tiny house and find the cheapest accommodation possible if we do go away. I know we do have loads of holidays and I love camping but just once it would be nice to stay somewhere were someone else did the cooking. Also I've looked into work here but my pay wouldn't cover the after school care the boys would need so not much point. Until we are in Australia I can't go back to nursing and to be honest even Indiths night duty talk is making me miss it.

I'm a smear expert given my two cervixes!! It's usually done in a matter of minutes. You'll be fine, and it's totally necessary. Deep breath x

Gosh that sounded very diva ish. I know we are very lucky and have more than most but sometimes I feel we are still living like we did when we were in a share house we have crappy old furniture because there is no point having any thing nice because we will be leaving it behind, the kids have no real room for themselves and neither do I. But then I think about the fact that he sorted me out to go to Australia so the boys could see their grandpa before he got too ill (a whole other issue at the moment as he is getting quite ill), and also to go to London next weekend for my mates 40th. Though luckily that was super cheap easyjet tickets.

Arti forget to comment on the name. I've never heard of it but I would be miffed, it is similar. I much prefer your Dd2 name.

Vag I see GP in the morning foot is still sore. Quite puffy just from walking about and I can't do that properly as when I walk I can't roll through my toes as it hurts too much iyswim. Hopefully they will refer me and not just fob me off!

Vag Kayz is all youthful and stuff, she's not been ancient enough to need one yet lucky cow. Hope it is all done and dusted Kayz!

Vag you are allowed to moan. Living in limbo, living away from home, living somewhere when you know it isn't permanent is tough. You feel like there is no point even in making friends sometimes let alone making your home nice. I guess having the end in sight makes it all the worse in someways. So near yet so far. Even more tough making career sacrifices for it too. Virtual or would you rather ?

Cheers Indith I'll put both on hold aa still feel a bit dodgy in the guts. Thanks, I guess it's made harder by a big exodus of friends from here recently (BHP closed an office here so lost some lovely peeps) & what I am left with isn't much chop as I just don't seem to get on with the stereotypical expat wives. I have a couple of very close friends here and another who recently had to move to Brussels. To be honest that doesn't really bother me but like you say I don't feel like investing time in new friends. One good thing is it was wonderful to see old friends from back in Brisbane and it is nice to know I will see them soon and be close to them. Bit sad I will be even further from you lot though.

We are never more than a mouse click away vag, dont forget that.

oh Vag. it all sounds a bit mis and I do understand what you're saying. it will seem better when you're better, but you're such a lovely positive person, you're more than allowed to have a moan sometimes. god knows I do it all the time! (for which I apologise! !)

kayz, I have to have an annual smear due to dodgy results about 11 years ago and a subsequent op. it's not fun, but it's better than having cervical cancer going unnoticed. just remember to breathe and try to relax.it's only your fanny and they've seen loads before!

DD2 being a little sweetie with her temperature but seems to be much better and loved playgroup! my magical MIL is here doing pick ups for me. she is such a star. DD3 sleeping from 1 and still going strong! hurrah!

It wasn't all that bad. Just a wierd feeling. Vag, you start them at 25 here and I got pregnant with DD just after I turned 25 and then I have just put it off a few times. Just need to wait for the results now.

Vag, a friends sister is moving back to the UK from where you are in a few weeks. She's homesick and her Dutch DP wants to live and work in London.