Dec 08 - The One where they take on the world (school)

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2 months Beans. Probably a good thing as he's just knocked the tv over and broken it. We can't afford a new one and the insurance excess is £250. I feel like killing him.

Obviously you newborn mummas can post whatever ye want but I personally don't find the sleep stuff boring as it feels like we can help even teeny bit by 'listening'. Also don't forget the time to sleep 1.5 hrs after last waking during the day (Beans told me that) I attribute that routine and Deids vacuum cleaner (white) noise for ds2's good sleeping. Of course it all went a bit tits up at 18 months when he suddenly started waking wanting an apple but porridge at bedtime (thank you to Summer for that suggestion). Can you see what I'm getting at here, large parts of my parenting has been influenced by this thread.

Oh shit. That's no good.

I am actually ready for DH to go back to work as I think we're on the brink of a row!!! Apparently I'm a total control freak. There's probably an element of truth in it, but I do things that I think are polite and or kind/will be appreciated for helping out and instead of thinking the best of me, he accuses me of being a control freak. Things I would thank him for, he gives me an earful for. Like he was doing bathtime for the big girls, and I did DD3 first, then I just carried on running the bath for DDs 1&2 and got them naked ready for him. Apparently I was interfering and he is capable of doing it. I KNOW that, FGS, I just thought it would be a nice thing for him. And just now, I put the car seat in the car for him because he was busy with his bike before picking up DD2 and when I'd finished, I shoved the car keys in the ignition so it was ready. Didn't even think twice about it. Apparently, control freak again. If I am, then there is bugger all I can do about it, as I seem to try to help out automatically.

Laying out DD1's school uniform the night before; not seen as organised, to make his/my life easier; it's control freakery. Ho hum. I probably am. Bored of bollockings, though. Would love a thank you, as if he could see the best in me. Live in hope!

Over emotional hormonal new mother here! Soz.

Kayz that sucks about the tele, what are you going to do? I wish we lived closer we are thinking of getting new tele before we go home to Australia because they are much cheaper. But ours is 7years old but won't die, it was top of the plasma TV range when we bought it but these days we'd be lucky to get 100 squids for it. Its not worth taking to Australia if it's this old but I can't think of buying a new one until this one goes. I wouldn't feel so wasteful if I could hand it on to you to tide you over.

Argh no Kayz! Freecycle? You should be able to nab yourselves an old CRT type one on there at least until you can afford to replace it.

Mind you I have no idea how long it takes to save up for TVs I've never bought one! We used ot have CRT dh had from being a teenager and now have a little flat screen our friends gave us when they moved to Canada.

Beans I was always ready for dh to go back to work too, I loved the help when he got home but somehow it makes getting into a routine and stuff so much easier when they are not here!

Right then, no more sleep talk . I'm with Vag, it is nice to listen to each other and lets face it we can't bore RL friends about it so it is a good place to vent! Personally though the more I vent about it the more negative I get about it. But he is still boob free and mostly ok with it. He has started being very polite in the daytime asking for it too which is very sweet. Instead of yelling "more" and hoiking them out of my top he taps my chest and asks "these?" :). He is a very sweet boy.

His nose by the way is an amazing patchwork of red slightly swollen bits, scabby bits and various shades of purple. Stunning.

I'll have a look. Our freecycle is very country though. Lots of hen houses, ferret runs, manure etc.

DD still won't sleep without boob. Apart from in the car. I've no idea how to stop the feed to sleep association.

Kayz what about gumtree?

Well we are at karate ( am investigating new clubs) teacher is being nice as pie to the kids and they are going for badges. Honestly after the ridiculousness of last wk a complete turn around this wks.

Beans DH was planning to take a month off when No3 arrives. I told him I would go mental with him home for a month especially during winter. That he was allowed a wk.

Oh and for what it's worth I must also be a control freak as I lay out clothes for the next day and I even get their jimmers out for bath time when I get them dressed in the morning.

Kayz that is a bummer about the TV, anything cheapish locally on eBay if nothing on Freecycle?

My heart goes to all of you with non sleeping babies. DS was horrific. I could still weep when I think back . However it really will pass. DS is a great sleeper now, and not just school that did it either.

Woke up this morning feeling a bit flat so treated myself to a new hairdo! I really like it. But the teacher didn't recognise me and neither did DS. I'm sure both will get used to it

Like a fool I went for a run last night on my sore foot. It didn't feel to bad before or after. Bloody agony this morning. I really need to get the Dr to send me for a foot scan or something

I need a flaming lottery win!! I got an email saying I have got tickets for the Commonwealth Games next year. Completely forgot about it and we decided to pay off one of the debts this month so we have no spare money.

Ruddy typical!!!

Oh Kayz bit of bad timing but dead exciting which event?

Oh Kayz bit of bad timing but dead exciting which event?

Athletics Vag, DS2 wanted to try and see Usain Bolt or Mo Farrah. Might let my Mum have them as she didn't get any.

Bummer about the box, Kayz. Hope one turns up somehow. Is it totally unwatchable?

So I got AF yesterday so am DEFINITELY not pregnant However, it does mean that I ovulated pretty much when I thought. Not sure why I didn't get upduffed (am ignoring the great possibility that I may just be too clapped out) but apparently it's better to do it before ovulation. Will prob try again for this cycle, thereafter not so sure...

Indith, I'm relieved for you - you've got enough going on at the moment!

And carry on with the (lack of!) sleep talk if it helps. People can always offload on here. One of these days there will be NO new babies on here!

Beans - it's just time for your DH to go back to work. He's being daft! I hope things aren't too bad with your older sister, by the way.

Can't post properly as DD1 has returned from a playdate in a hysterical mood and I need to cool the emotional temperature around here....

Oh and DB - was thrilled about that nice thing you heard about your DS Thoughtful little chap.

DD1 is about the most tired I've ever seen her. and it's only Monday bugger!

lady, am glad the uncertainty has gone, but wish you were preggers! am adoring DD3 at the moment. she is tops!

I hope you managed to calm DD1 a kittle lady!

PS thanks for asking re my sister. things are bloody awful, but they always are and come to an annual head but nothing changes despite our best efforts. They're both miserable and this year is worse because she seems to be losing her marbles and is confused all the time. affecting her mentally now too. I don't know what we can do. need Dad!

Ah, but Beans, you have your Dad because he is irrevocably in you, both biologically and in terms of your emotional hardware. Imagine asking him about all this and imagine what he would say, in his voice. That's what I do sometimes, anyway. Not with your Dad, obviously, although I am sure he was amazingly lovely and wise

It sounds incredibly difficult for the family and it's hard when things don't change.

DD1 is also tired. These particular playdates are a bit of a problem but I offload about those another day...

DD2 had a lovely birthday yesterday. We just did a little lunch for her with DH's Dad, so it was quiet, but she just loved her presents and was really happy.

I've felt quite sombre today because I've had to deal with something at pre-school which I really want to ask all your opinions on but I'm worried it's blowing confidentiality so I can't. Nothing to do with my DDs, just because I'm chair. Will ponder it.

Oh dear, Lady. Is there any way to ask us that wouldn't make you feel compromised. Do let us know if we can help.

And thank you for the kind words re Dad. You're right.

Gosh, my body thermostat has gone bonkers post baby. Had forgotten! Have just woken up to feed her nibs, drenched in sweat! Absolutely disgusting. Have had to change my pjs. Bleugh.

Hi all have only read through fast as it's been rush rush! But just briefly, back from Dubai Arti - (was just Sat night-Monday arvo) was quite tired after swimming lessons and soft play parties that day though! But nice trip as I found my good mate had swapped onto it. She hadn't done my hair in ages which is when we usually catch up - (both been so busy with newbie reception kiddos) so nice to see her. Dh has been on leave so spent Sunday with the kids and when I rang they were so excited about having a fun day with daddy! Then he did the school run and made that fun. He has raised the bar now [sigh] managed to get back and have a pub meal and something cocked up in the kitchen so food was so slow and kids were hanging. Not ideal on a school night so am bringing bedtime forward tonight!

Lady sorry bout the neg test. I got preg 1st month off pill with ds then took 5 cycles with dd. good luck for next month though. Hope you get some resolution with the school thing worrying you.

Sorry bout dh leaving and the tv Kayz. Hope you get a stop gap sorted.

Beans I'm a control freak too then it's normal for mums! Lack of sleep and new babies create stress all round! At least you know things get easier!

Hope all the sleepless nights ease up. I feel for you all. notice so many knackered parents doing school run with littles. The only convo ever is about how tired each other look!

Deids sorry about the ongoing foot trouble. Dh said stress fractures can take ages to get better and Shame you aren't closer as he's actually got a machine at home (he's taken it to fix for them) but it speeds up healing stress fractures!! Hope you get it looked at soon. Love the new hair. What's your natural color?

Must go as have to return something at shops then have loads of work to do for next week [yuk] but need to make most of kiddie free time!

Lady hope you get some resolution on your school problem. If you need are advice you know where we are! Hope DD1 is okay after her play date too.

Rubes I guess my natural hair colour is a dark blonde. Just fancied a change! Have book GP for Thursday morning about my foot. I'm hoping he'll refer me for a scan/x ray. Don't want to waste A&E time really. It's all puffy today and I can pretty much pinpoint the exact spot the pain is coming from...3rd metatarsal. Not that I know what talking about!! I think my increase in speed & distance is to blame

DB hope the foot can be fixed!

Lady good luck on school stuff.

Dc been home from CM/school all of 20 mins. Ds1 screaming in his room already. He came home, wet himself before he got in the door (having NOT said he needed a wee. I can forgive wetting in the car if he says he needs a wee and we don't manage to stop in time), then bashed ds2 on the head with a heavy toy, then started trying to play Jenga by himself on the livingroom floor so yelled at ds2 for knocking the tower down, yelled at dd for trying to join in, yelled at ds2 again (rule is if you are on livingroom floor it is fair game for ds2, playing without him must happen in bedrooms or on dining room table), tried to stack them up to put them back in the box and take them upstairs, yelled at ds2, yelled at me when I suggested grabbing them into a bag to take them upstairs, snatched from ds2 and completely ignored me when I tried to stop him from snatching. So now he is screaming.

Is it the holidays yet?

Dd, despite spening most of her time with her head in teh clouds has realised I am rather cross and is making towers for ds2 to knock down.

Dd has excelled herself at school today. They have to take a separate PE kit for after school club rather than use the one that lives at school (time saver so they don't have to change again aferwards). Dd completely ignored the spare kit and came home in her school PE shorts and trainers, a t-shirt belonging to someone else, her tights on under her shorts when she had socks to change into and has left all her school uniform at school. I'll be having fun sorting that out in the morning!

Deids I ran your post by dh. He concludes, 3rd metatarsal stress fracture that hadn't healed properly cos you kept battering it
Good if you get it scanned.

Eurgh vomitis child. Arrived at school to pick boys and friends up from film club to be told DS2 had just vommed all over the classroom. He cant even keep a sip of water down. Poor thing. My two never get tummy bugs so none of us are very prepared for sicky things.

SiL had her baby today. It's name is DD2's name minus the second 'n'. Is it me or is that quite odd to use such s similar name?

It is a little odd Arti. I assume hers is a grapheme sound whereas DD2s is phoneme?