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December 2012: and now the babies have mischief in their eyes.

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halestone · 25/08/2013 21:51

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halestone · 05/09/2013 22:23

Beasty thats Hilarious Grin

Isthat and Willyou i'm glad you've had better days. Sorry your nights turning out to be a bad one though Isthat.

WL i have no suggestions on how to help your DD but i liked spotty's idea it might give her a sense of control.

Spotty hope your DD is better tomorrow.

Jacks Sorry your DD had a bad 1st day hopefully tomorrow will be much more positive for her.

Stacks i think that your doing the best thing for T but it will upset you as your a good mum so hearing him cry is triggering your maternal response. The benefits your giving him in the long term though are far better, be kind to yourself. Thank you for asking about H shes not cried today as much but i have literally had her out all day. We went to our local town for the market she had loads of old women cooing after her. She only had one nap though for an hour and has just gone to sleep now. I'm hoping for a successful transfer to her cot FX.

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WLmum · 05/09/2013 22:46

hales could she just be bored and frustrated at home? You mentioned before she was better outside. I know T gets bored sometimes and she's had the big 2 to entertain her. Could you spend more time outside? Picnic lunch/breakfast/tea, feeding the ducks etc. do you do any baby classes? Libraries have free story and rhyme times.

2blessed · 05/09/2013 23:05

Hi All,

hales sure its just a phase, hope she perks up.

Oh beasty that had me chuckling.

spotty R has a whitehead above his lip that looks like its ready to pop.

Sorry not updated, had a very busy couple of days with family (thankfully no drama!). Also busy doing voluntary work for next few days, will be longest periods R will be without me. Have been shoving his dummy in all the time in prep as he insists on using me as a dummy.
Hopefully over the weekend there will be time for dp and I to have a proper talk. We're both under a bit of pressure at the moment.

pidj I've tried to pm you but for some reason the 'message poster' function isn't working for me.

Hugs and sleepy dust all round.

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halestone · 05/09/2013 23:16

WL i think she could be bored inside i will try doing more outside. We're getting our garden done tomorrow so hopefully we'll be able to stay out more. Thanks for those suggestions i'll definitely be trying most of them.

2blessed the dummy idea is a good one. I hope that when you and DP get chance to talk that it helps things for you.

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PurplePidjin · 06/09/2013 06:22

Children are like puppies, they need exercising daily!

WLmum · 06/09/2013 06:48

Three 5.30 starts in a row coupled with super busy evenings and so v late nights = 1 v tired WL. Sole goal of today is to be in bed by 9.30! (And spend some quiet 1:1 with dd2).

hales one of our local children's centres has a sensory room which is great and free plus of course other play sessions etc. it's really worth checking them out if you don't already. If T were my first I'd def take more advantage.

WLmum · 06/09/2013 06:50

Also do you have a local toy library?

WLmum · 06/09/2013 06:52

Mums and tots groups are usually plentiful and a cheap couple of hours where H can get her fill of watching big kids race around.

SpottyTeacakes · 06/09/2013 06:52

We had a lie in today until 5:50 Hmm

Dd is feeling less hot will see how she gets on today I'm only working until 1:30 anyway. It's still boiling here , waiting for this rain to cool it down

utopian99 · 06/09/2013 07:50

WL , jacks hales and spotty wishing you happier DSs.
O definitely gets frustrated if we stay in all day. We tend to stay in and read books/play in the morning then go for a walk or to a group around lunch/early afternoon. Had to drive to London to meet our downstairs neighbor-to-be and check she's okay with our planned works; she was really lovely though and has a 9yo dd who said when O is bigger he can use her trampoline Smile (garden is shared between the two flats.)

Had a great sleep from 9pm when we got back to 3.30am, but then waking every 40mins after that, screaming from teeth. Have given lots of gel and more calpol to come soon.

beasty that story is hilarious. Glad A didn't seem bothered - a new world view for him?

I was feeding O and a bit spaced out from all the wake ups at 5, when dh let himself very quietly into the nursery to offer help. I didn't hear him so just became aware of a dark human sized form appearing in the room and screamed like a 50s slasher film heroine. Blush scared dh and O silly, so had family cuddles to calm everyone down again. Nothing like a bit of early morning drama eh?

WillYouDoTheFandango · 06/09/2013 07:51

Chucking it down here too. Fantastic news as we have tickets for the races and it's going to be cold and wet all weekend!

We have been up all night. He just never really settled at all. At 4 we got in the spare bed but had been woken 5 times by then. Not sure what's up, hopefully just the heat.

WillYouDoTheFandango · 06/09/2013 07:52

Grin Utopian you skittish kitten!

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halestone · 06/09/2013 08:13

Pidj i do take Heidi out in her pram daily so she 'is exercised' i just don't go to any groups. She does spend time with the neighbours children outside and loves the neighbours dog and cat.

WL i will look into what groups are in our local area, hopefully we'll find something.

Utopian haha i'm sorry that you got scared but that made me giggle.

H was up most the night but i'm convinced its because she needs a poo TMI sorry.

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WLmum · 06/09/2013 09:12

Hope dd is better v soon spotty

Barbeasty · 06/09/2013 12:52

spotty hope your DD is better and work was ok. It's horrid, that pressure of an ill child and a job.

I managed to keep A the right way up last night. But with wakings at 12, 2, 3, 4 and getting up at 5, it was tempting to turn him upside down!

Roll on home time!!

SpottyTeacakes · 06/09/2013 14:03

She's fine today Grin apparently a night in mummy and daddy's bed was all she needed HmmGrin

WLmum · 06/09/2013 14:35

That's good spotty.
I've got a nap refuser today. She's happy enough but has had nowhere near enough sleep since 5.30am. It's so wrong - if I was offered a nap I'd do a good 3 hours! Hope she's not a pita at bedtime.

Ergo looks good. Will try it out properly tomorrow. Still a bit worried about the £105 it cost but but but.

willyou loving the phrase skittish kitten!

SpottyTeacakes · 06/09/2013 14:40

It's £100 well spent WL I just looked at my credit card statement ShockShockBlush I'm not telling dp...

Ds has two naps at my step mums today an hour each which is ok considering it's only the second day he's had naps there

WLmum · 06/09/2013 16:14

eBay buyer has just been to pick up the infant car seat - sob!

WillYouDoTheFandango · 06/09/2013 16:27

Oh sob WL lalalalala they're still newborns lalalalala!

Today I have sold DS into baby slavery. I am not his friend! He would not nap at all and just shrieked and clung all morning. I needed to do my asda shop so dropped him at my mums at 11. Picked him up at 1 and mil picked him up at 3 so that I can clean/declutter for our viewing on Sunday.

I have printed holiday tickets, sorted car insurance, reserved baby milk at the airport, taxed my car, booked a leg wax, decluttered everywhere, cleaned the whole of downstairs, sorted tickets for the races tomorrow and done the washing. Still to clean the whole of the upstairs and do the ironing. I am fit to drop tbh and have made the mistake of sitting down. Giving myself until the end of the radio 2 news before kicking off again Hmm

WLmum · 06/09/2013 16:35

Bloody hell willyou that's going some! And to think I was pleased that I've given the loo a wipe over!

I've got very mixed feelings about the end of my baby era. If we were rich I'd have another but we're not. So the plus side is I can start to think about a proper job again, getting some interests of my own back etc.

WillYouDoTheFandango · 06/09/2013 17:09

After having J I thought I'd quite like 3/4 but after this horrendous clinging/up all night stage I think I'll probably stick to two (if we're lucky enough to have another). I'll still have the next one soon though, get it all over in one go.

Cleaning done! Ironing to do, not much though as I last did it on Wednesday.

lazzaroo · 06/09/2013 17:21

Just wanted to say jack that I was like your DD when .I started secondary school. I remember it clearly. I hated it and cried when I got home, felt really anxious about it. I just worried about it so much. I remember my mum saying we could try a different school! But I knew I'd be the same wherever it was. Anyway, it didn't last forever. In fact it was probably a week or two at most. I'm sorry if that not really helpful! But I'm sure it will pass & in the meantime give her something to aim towards, something fun at the weekend to look forward too perhaps. And things to do in the evening to take her mind off it (I remember coming home & playing Game of life with my sister while we listened to Terence Trent Darby Smile)

lazzaroo · 06/09/2013 17:22

Discovered today that the trampoline makes an excellent outdoor playpen Wink

ISpyPlumPie · 06/09/2013 19:22

We're having nap issues too. Think N has pretty much dropped his morning nap now. He fooled me yesterday by having it in the buggy on the way back from preschool, but this morning he was determined to soldier on. He then fell asleep just in time for lunch, so we had a missed meal Blush. If this is going to be his new pattern, I'lll have to bring his lunch forward but it's just impossible to know. My feeling is he needs his nap earlier as he gets increasingly frustrated with things, but try telling him that!

He is also uber-clingy. He's fine if he decides he wants to be off exploring something dangerous and unsuitable but the second I leave the boundaries of the zone known only to him we have a meltdown. As he gets more tired, he wants to be picked up and won't let go for a second. It's at its worst in the evening - we are basically back to baby juggling until our betime, which now consists of co-sleeping pretty much from word go.

Think it's a combination of a severe case of nine month cling, and the fact he seems to be going through a little bit of a leap - lots of independent standing, climbing and more 'conversational' babbling (if that makes any sense).

Sorry for the essay. He's brilliant but it's quite tough right now.