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July 2013 - Part 1. Remember your pelvic floor exercises!

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TotallyEggFlipped · 05/08/2013 15:31

Time to start the post-natal thread.

And start those PELVIC FLOOR EXERCISES!

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dinkystinky · 24/09/2013 19:55

Sorry - have been offline for a while due to hectic real life and day from hell yesterday (ill J but had to take him with me to drive to shonky garage DH set up to fix car in middle of nowhere who not only didnt fix it but made car worse and had J and me hanging around for 4 hours for the privilege, getting stuck in 2 traffic jams with a screaming chundering J and only just making it back to the boys school for pick up time, evil poonami, parking ticket on the school run - sooo glad its now over!).

NPK - glad your tablet is fixed. Weight loss tips - best thing to do is work exercise into your daily routine, especially if you're running around after other kids. If you can't get up early to do a dvd/cant face doing it at night, try walking (at a faster pace than a normal pace - like you're late for an appointment) everywhere - suck in your tummy as you walk - doing that and pushing a double buggy will definitely start your weight loss. Try my fitness pal app on the phone - its really good and will help you track calorific intake (though if bfing I wouldnt recommend calorie controlled diets) - that combined with speed walking or a dvd (shred is only 20 minutes, to be done daily) will show results. Also, give yourself small aims - .i.e. lose 7 lbs by x date - and if you manage to do it, treat yourself to a non-food related treat (trip to cinema, nice bath, massage, manicure, new top, couple of kid free hours -whatever will incentivise you).

Vinegar - bet the extra weight is muscle.

Shelley - lovely to see you on and glad to hear that you are starting to feel abit better - its a slow process so dont beat yourself up about feeling anything you're feeling. And we all have sad days - I spent last night, after a trying day, wailing on DH telling him this is so not how my last maternity leave ever is meant to be!

Cheek - being dairy free, soya free and mostly gluten free is a good way to lose weight as the only things you can eat are fruit and veg and lean protein! That said, in order to keep my calories up, I'm eating alot of fatty stuff - avocado, highly calorific coconut based yoghurts, etc - so not losing weight at the drastic weight I was previously. Not entirely sure if it was the cause of J's discomfort - but it has to be said that he has chundered much, much less since I went on the "cant eat any fun things at all" exclusion diet. I know I could eat some cakes etc if I cooked them up with special flour and using non-dairy "butter" but its just too much of a faff so I'm just going without.

Re entertaining babies, J gets entertained by his 2 big brothers when they are around, but otherwise its a case of playmat, tummy time, talking, wandering around the house and garden, looking in mirrors, playing peekaboo (while folding laundry), singing and popping him in his bouncer while we're at home. Change of scenery is key! I prefer going out with him for a bit daily, if only for a walk to the park, as it helps me keep my sanity.

VinegarDrinker · 24/09/2013 21:06

Re entertainment, i'm definitely finding that easier with baby no. 2, B is very happy just watching DS1 play. We do go to baby massage/yoga one day when he's at nursery, otherwise she gets dragged (literally - in the bike trailer) on the nursery run (and gets coo-ed over by kids, staff and parent!) Or to toddler groups etc.

Actually this week she has mostly been dragged around B&Q/Topps Tiles/the bank etc sorting out stuff for the bathroom refurb!

Do look into what your local Children's Centre offers - we are very lucky but ours does baby yoga, baby massage, baby sensory, BFing drop in - all drop in and all free. Otherwise I would focus on entertaining yourself! Baby cinema, coffee with friends etc.

StillNoFuckingEyeDeer · 24/09/2013 22:01

Re: entertainment. N is a totally neglected baby. She gets squashed cuddled by DD1 a lot and gets to listen to me reading books and watch DD1 play, but doesn't get much one to one attention. She seems happy enough though.

VinegarDrinker · 24/09/2013 22:45

DS1 has a hilarious fake high pitched voice that he uses to make B "talk" and can often be overheard having "conversations" with her. Ridiculously cute Grin

His behaviour seems a lot more settled all round although he's still waking 1-2 x a night purely for cuddles and reassurance.

Off to bed, B has a streaming cold so has been waking loads more overnight.

Thinkingofmyfabfour · 25/09/2013 10:05

M is quite neglected by me too, but loves watching her brothers, and they also like talking to her too. She doesn't seem to enjoy tummy time, but loves kicking on her mat. I do sing to her a lot too.

dinky what a nightmare day! I'm having some battles with ds3 at the moment which is pretty stressful. He's hitting me and his brothers, sometimes biting too Sad Then at other times he's sweet and gentle and lovely. Don't know where I'm going wrong but trying a new approach avoiding shouting and focusing on positives.

Have actually lost track of how old M is now - 10+2? Confused

Abzs · 25/09/2013 16:45

12 week jabs done today. I have a big brave boy.

Re entertaining he seems to like me singing along to music. I fear for his hearing.... Otherwise he'll lay under his play arch and swing on the rings and kick his legs for ages. Usually chattering away too. He's often quite happy to sit on my knee and have hugs and kisses (bosies as they say up here). I've started reading to him during evening feeds. We're working on the wind in the willows just now.

Now the chatter has changed to shouting, he must be tired.

Silver15 · 25/09/2013 16:52

Dinky hope today is better than what you had.

Not much entertaining going on here. J still sleeps during the day most of the time. He is only awake for a maximum of 2 hours a session and half of it is spent feeding.

J was weighed on Monday and he was 5.92 kgs. First time I attended the HV clinic so he hadn't been weighed for a month.

7+2

dinkystinky · 25/09/2013 21:42

Hope J is OK after his jabs Abzs.

Thinking - how old is ds3? Could it be a combination of a testosterone surge and frustration at not being able to express how he feels about things properly? Whatever it is I hope it passes soon.

Silver - bet J will wake up more in the next few weeks. He sounds a good size for his age so yes clearly feeding and growing well. Today was a much better day thanks - mummy and baby yoga and some chilling locally with j between school runs. Dh is doing the school run tomorrow morning (hurrah) then going to drive the car to the shonky garage to deal with them himself without small irate I'll baby in tow (double hurrah) - god knows when we will get it fixed and back.

Abzs · 25/09/2013 22:55

He's not so good now. Running a temperature and crying a bit. Paracetemol on stand by, but hopefully he'll sleep it off.

Lots of J's on this thread aren't there?

dinkystinky · 26/09/2013 13:41

Hope J is feeling better today and the night wasnt too bad Abzs. Yes, lots of Js on this thread - its a great letter Grin

dappledsun · 26/09/2013 14:29

hi all, just a wave and shout out from me and DS1, born 22/7 Smile. Pleased to see we're not the only ones dealing with daytime frustration and boredom and crazy nights! can i join the facebook group too please?

Beginningofthejourney · 26/09/2013 19:16

I took Theo to cranial osteopath today to try to help with reflux, constipation and sleep...I will report back!
My brother has just offered to babysit next week so I can go to the theatre...am I brave enough?!

ReikiMummy · 26/09/2013 23:27

ooh.. could i join the facebook group too please?

StillNoFuckingEyeDeer · 27/09/2013 07:03

Reiki and dappledsun, PM me your name & what your Facebook photo looks like and I'll send you a friend request do I can add you to the group.

StillNoFuckingEyeDeer · 27/09/2013 07:05

N seems to have forgotten that we'd agreed to one waking for a feed a night.....
Every time she wakes, her arm is out through the bars of the crib, so I'm not sure if that's related, because it really doesn't look comfortable.

StillNoFuckingEyeDeer · 27/09/2013 07:06

And if N was a boy, she would've been a J Grin

dinkystinky · 27/09/2013 09:28

Welcome dappledsun and hope your little one is doing well.

SNFED - J was up at 1, 3, 4 for a feed last night - then chundered all over himself then my bed at 5.30 and decided it was time to start the day! He has now had one 50 minute nap since then and is still an overtired mess. Its going to be a loooong day I think!

Beginning - I hope the cranial osteopathy helps. If Theo will take a bottle, there's nothing to stop you going to the theatre and enjoying it so go, go, go!

dinkystinky · 27/09/2013 09:29

SNFED - would she have been a Joshua by any chance? That's DS1's name - if he'd been a girl he'd have been a Naomi Grin

StillNoFuckingEyeDeer · 27/09/2013 09:41

dinky - she would've been a Joseph. Sorry you had such a crappy night. I hope J manages to get some good naps today. The overtired cycle is a nightmare.

dinkystinky · 27/09/2013 10:20

Joseph is another excellent J name. J has been fed and is currently sat on my lap refusing to nap!

Thinkingofmyfabfour · 27/09/2013 13:05

Welcome dappledsun I love your mn name! Hope your wee one is doing ok

abzs I love the word bosie! Didn't know it till I moved up here. Hope J is better today (is it post imms fever or something else?)

dinky he's 2. Terrible twos indeed! He had a much better day yesterday at the toddler group we go to. Practicing being a gentle boy by patting everyone on the head very softly Grin I think there's a long way to go, someone recommended a book called raising boys, have you heard of that? Hope you are having a better week

I've had my parents up for last couple of days but they have gone now. They hadn't seen M since she was 3 weeks and cried every time my dad went near her Hmm so not a great help with her!! Luckily she was eventually ok with my mum so I could leave 2 little ones with them for school runs
10+4

Beginningofthejourney · 27/09/2013 16:45

Bad night here too, hoping theo had a growth night and has better sleep tonight...at least he was happy, he look very confused when I didn't smile back! (I couldn't not smile for long!)
Theatre tickets booked so just need to fit in expressing so there is lots of milk for my little piggy! Smile

wifey6 · 27/09/2013 17:02

Hi, hope all you lovelies are doing well & so are your babies. Haven't been on here for weeks so sorry for the lack of personals but am struggling to read all the posts in the thread & am no longer on FB..so completely behind on how everyone is doing!
Can someone please tell me how Shiv & baby Oliver are doing please?

Abzs · 27/09/2013 17:20

Thinking Bosies is such a good word, isn't it? I'd never heard before moving up here too. Another of my current favourites is clarted; what J's trousers were this morning...

I think he's had post imms fever, but was a bit snotty beforehand as well. He's getting over it today.

Beginning Even after a rotten night the smile I get from him when I get him up in the morning is wonderful.

Beginningofthejourney · 27/09/2013 20:35

Started to reply earlier but his lordship was calling Smile
Abzs guess we are all suckers! Amazing how much a big baby smile helps with sleep deprivation! (Still hoping for more than 3 hour stretches tonight)
wifey according to Shiv's last update about a week ago Oliver is slowly getting there, his oxygen requirements are going down, he is on 4 hourly feeds and starting to give them some lovely smiles. I think they are hoping he will be moving to his local hospital soon, I don't know ifShiv has posted anything more recently on Facebook?