July 2013 - Part 1. Remember your pelvic floor exercises!

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Time to start the post-natal thread.

And start those PELVIC FLOOR EXERCISES!

Shelley and Icing and Sunday- lovely to see you on.

Shelley - glad things are settling down and you're bonding more with F. I had a traumatic birth with DS1 and it definitely took a while for the bond to appear with him, but once it was there it was so strong. Enjoy the relative peace and quiet.

Sunday - the last school was literally round the corner from our house so no need to drive. This is first car for us for nanny to use - and first time we've encountered all these issues! Hope DDs first day at school went well. DS2 enjoyed his day but is shattered (as is DS1) but refusing to sleep - rather like DS3 who I can hear grumbling too.

Abzs - love that your J is a horticulturalist at such an early age

Ah I see Dinky, for some reason I got it into my head that your nanny drove before. I hope it gets sorted quickly must be a right pain.

Shelly, yep DD started on half days, first full day next Wednesday. She seemed to enjoy herself and fell asleep practically as soon as her head touched the pillow tonight. Lets hope it continues in that vain

Wow lots has been happening on here- sorry for not posting I've been reading at night. I always use my phone so am not too good at remembering personals...

Dinky sorry to hear you've been having problems with schools and cars... Glad DH is trying to fix things and J seems to be sleeping more.

Can't remember who had tongue tie but glad it's being sorted and latch seems to be improving.

I know someone was having bonding issues but it sounds like things have been improving lately so that is great.

I can't remember who did a train journey with 3 little ones in tow but I'm impressed!

I'm on holiday in Devon with DH and my family this week. All the extra hands have been lovely! We started doing a bedtime routine just before coming away: bath/massage/pjs/story/more milk/bed which we've continued while away and J has managed a few 8/9 hour stints. (Sadly i just lay awake mainly as I'm convinced she is about to wake- the longest she's done before is 6) I got lulled into a false sense on security last night and stayed up playing games (J went down well) them when I went to bed J decided to be up most of the night. She no longer takes hours to settle before sleeping though which is nice. Not much of a routine in the day yet though.., just lots of food... Not sure if she just like sucking on my boob as it is fairly constant... It has been hot though.

DH and I dtd about 2 weeks after J was born. My stitches healed up quickly and DH didn't want to dtd in the last few months of pregnancy as he didn't want to hurt J- despite me telling him over and over again that he wouldn't. So I was keen!!

Also feeling broody... DH and I have decided that we'd like another little one soon so aren't using contraception...

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oh cheese that would be lovely to have two so close in age. I hope you are successful but might take the body a while to adjust I suppose. if jo slept for more than 2hrs in a row (and if we had a windfall) id try for another too

hope all the new days at school keep going well and you get the transport settled dinky

Cheese ooh goo luck how lovely that would be! We've decided to wait until A is at least 3/4 before even starting trying for another

Ugh Alice used to be the most content baby ever, she would only ever cry for food, but she was always really windy so midwife suggested infacol and since then its been hell, she still didnt bring the wind up everytime an the bigger bubbles were painful for her. Cue endless screaming for a couple of days, so we stopped but the crying has never truly gone. She isn always screaming but she sleeps well at night, feeds and goes straight back down but will not burp not matter how much i try and then when she wakes about 9am shell take a whole bottle and then just cry on and off. She absolutely screams if we try to give her more milk, and is most comfy on my shoulder or her front. Im pretty sure its wind but i don't know what else to do, we started gripe water yesterday and although we got a lovely big poo this morning, the whole cycle started again i hate hearing her cry so much! I really enjoy being a full time mum but am starting to get jealous of my OH working

icing its hard being a full time mum, especially when your baby cries constantly. i resented OH going back to work when DC1 was born but it does get easier, then when it was time for me to go back to work i rsented my work taking my time away from my baby. wanting to be upright, liking pressure on tummy sounds like my refluxy DD, have they looked into that for you?

glad your DD is settling into school sunday. Y1 seems to be going ok here. at the moment.

impressed by all of you dtd and feeling broody already. there is no way i would manage another baby . think i am definitely done!

Icing sorry you've been having problems with little Alice. I'm afraid I don't have any advice... Juno used to cry (scream like a wild animal is a better description) in the evenings but she has been doing this less lately. I don't know if it is because she is getting bigger or if its anything to do with the bedtime bath/routine ... Hope others are able to be more helpful.

Shelley you genius! Googled it and fed A sitting up, held her upright for 20 minute after - shes fast asleep now not even a grizzle! Thank you so much for your replies!

Icing - I was going to say it sounds like digestive pain too. Does Alice take a dummy at all? If so, use it - seems to help refluxy babies alot. You can try stuff like infant gaviscon (can constipate babies though) and colief too.

Cheese - wow, broody already! Good luck. Am 100% positive that J is my last little one; like Shelley, I suspect another baby may tip the boat right over!

J has slept a maximum of an hour 20 minutes today - in 10/20 minute segments spread through the day,with much screaming and grizzling between. Managed to get him down at 7.30, an hour earlier than usual so rather wondering what tonight is going to be like. With the temperature coming down hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.

The new school seems to be ok - pick up and drop off is utter chaos but I guess it must be at all schools as it was at their old school (though less chaotic ironically enough). Am already getting rather fed up at the last minute emails telling me to buy stuff (pencil case stuff, swim hat and the latest one, a recorder for next week) - thank god am on maternity leave as not sure how would pick all this stuff up with a days notice if working my usual hours.

Went to a park workout for mums and babies today - am so woefully unfit! All the other mums had babies aged 5 months up so being only 8 weeks postnatal got me out the burpees and jumping lunges and tetchy J demanding a comfort feed got me out of another 10 minutes of the work out (thank god the first one is free) including the shuttle run sprints but still had to struggle through the other 40 mins of the work out! Was fun though. Am starting mummy and baby yoga on Monday too (again free as its a 5 week trial for the teacher to see what works and what doesn't) and am hoping thats less punishing.

Where is everyone?

Hi Dinky I'm here... I was impressed by your work out earlier!! Glad your pick up/drop off from school is going ok too.

We are now home from Devon (it took us 6 and a half hours with a few stops for feeding/walking about) Juno was so good. We had a poonami towards the end of the journey... Went through nappy onto clothes and car seat!!

She is overtired now as she didn't actually sleep a huge amount in the car. I'm feeding again now in the hope that she'll go down in a mo (fingers crossed for a long stretch!) dream feeding doesn't seem to work so she goes for one long stretch then wakes every two hours for food- last night it was 2am, 4am and 6am so only got about an hour off each time. I might go to sleep on a bit myself...

I'm here! I've just caught up, I've been so busy I haven't even read the thread since Wednesday. I've started going a baby group at the children's centre on Wednesdays which is great, it's so nice to have some adult company who have gone through the same things.

F is still sleeping fairly well at night but has no day routine really. The lady few nights she's been groaning with wings in her sleep which really keeps me awake so we're going to try a dummy tonight to see if it helps. Generally sucking does seem to help her get the wind out.

Love the typo persuasion I was wondering what groaning with wings was... Jumping in her sleep? The I saw wind later on

The wings in her sleep made me think of red bull (other energy drinks are available. Feeding to babies is not advised)

I've really got to find a baby group to join.
N doesn't have a routine yet either. She seems to take a decent nap in the morning if we're home, but afternoons are a bit hit and miss. She'll sleep fine in the sling though.
Been managing 4 hour stretches between BF at night recently, but still hoping for a bit longer...

Im here too. Had my second dose of mmr jab today as I had no protection when tested during pg. The nurse prescribed contraceptives straight away as I'm not supposed to get pregnant within 4weeks post immunisation. She almost got a pg test kit out until I assured her there is no possibility of me being pg as I have not dtd post birth.

J watched his first tv programme today. It was Rara the lion on cbeebies. He seemed to like the sounds and Colours.
He has also just rolled from tummy to back for the first time.

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That'll teach me to read my posts back!

Silver that's early to be rolling, I predict you're going to have trouble keeping up with J very soon!

Sorry have been awol for long time. Crazy here.

Dinky how is the reflux situation going? Dh has just arrived and havent seen him all week so cant look at all posts- v excited to see him

Wow that's super early to be rolling Silver!

Glad you had a good trip to Devon Cheese (poonami aside). Fx for a big fat sleep from Juno tonight.

Princess - glad your dh is home. Thanks for asking re the reflux - have all the gear and the meds so he is sleeping better. He hates taking the meds though and spits a lot out. 5 days now and no poo so expecting the mother of poonamis at some point. Am now dairy and soy free and rather losing the will to live, or rather to bf, as people keep giving me dairy filled stuff I can't eat. Even my mother (who knows everything that's going on) on holiday made a bhiriani with ghee which I had to watch everyone else eat while I ate some dairy free veg... Im reminding myself its not forever but feels like it at the mo. Still at least wine is dairy free and have discovered a raw food vegan place round the corner from my house that does nice fresh stuff to eat.

dinky I think i'd be losing the will to live without dairy too. Lots of sympathy. Do you think it helps?

Parenting solo all weekend as DH away on a stag do... So expect to see me here ranting/whinging!

Have to go as stupid fucking phone keeps randomly deleting/adding things and it's driving me insane!

Persuasion and dinky, I also thought it was a bit early but J has suprised me alot. For instance in week 1 he was able to turn his head from one side to the other when sleeping on his tummy. I thought I was out of touch as DS2 is 5.

Dinky sorry to hear about yo diary struggles but I have no advice here.

I find that infacol helps J with his bowel movement. He has 2 poos a day and sometimes 3 morning and eve so when he wriggles in discomfort round these times, I give him some which makes him fart to release the wind and subsequently poo.

That's interesting, we found infacol did the opposite. It helped with winding immediately after feeding but she was finding it really hard to get farts out and was going 2-3 days without pooing before a big explosion. Since we stopped the infacol pooing has been much easier and the farting has only become a problem again in the last few days, but I don't know why.

I'm also up feeding her now which is 1-2 hours earlier than normal. Not sure what's triggered it but she certainly seems very hungry.

Dinky I have much respect for you- I love my dairy so would find what you are doing very hard. Harder than alcohol... The one craving I had was milk when pregnant.

Juno managed a 6 hour stint which seems to be her norm... Feeding at the mo- she'll probably then be up again at 5. I know I am lucky with what she is sleeping but I'd live a bit more... I can't believe she managed an 8/9 hour stint last week... If she managed it once surely it can happen again? I was awake for most if it though- need to train my body to sleep again.

Vinegar good luck flying solo!

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Hi all-just wanted to recommend the dr browns bottles for whoever was windy-sorry can't find it now 3& eager to get back to sleep. They have helped us a lot & always keeping f upright for 20 mins after also helps- often an unexpected asleep burp comes out.

All ok with us-hv said not to expect any routine til 16 weeks so thats given me permisson to ignore everything for a while longer!

Arghhhh im sick of this. Two weeks ago A only cried when really hungry and for real obvious things ie. when she accidentally hits herself in the face or big gust of wind outside. And even then she was so easily soothed with a cuddle.

Now its like treading on eggshells! First she was always windy but as i say she never cried with it but because it was quite a lot the mw suggested infacol so we have her it but it obv made the bubbles bigger and we still couldn't get them all up so she had BAD trapped wind and it made her scream. Fair enough. We stop giving infacol and then shes constipated for a couple days. Then she gets a poo out and shes got reflux. So we feed her sitting up etc. and suddenly shes so hot shes actually crying with it, i mean it was chilled yesterday! She would not keep her blanket on.

Makes me wonder if its any of that stuff at all or if there's something else and i cannot deal with this much longer, always on edge and scared to take her out! Im gonna talk to the gp on Monday but needed to get it out on here

Shes going to mil today and i actually cant wait to not be with her feel like a really horrible person