December 2012: the little monsters continue to surprise us.

[MaMaPo]

I for one have a very surprising baby.

Evening all. Once again, am always reading updates but also rubbish at remembering who said what to refer specifically. Especially on a new page!

I need someone to tell me I'm not horrible mummy. Just made baby lazza self settle (if it counts when you pupd, stroke, shhh etc etc). Basically she didn't feed to sleep & I didn't rock her. Not going to lie, there were tears but I am physically struggling with rocking her now. She's heavy! It took her half an hour to doze off, she wasn't crying the whole time & I picked her up when she got upset.

I felt so exhausted this morning, DH actually took day off so I spent most of the morning in bed (between feeds & settling her to sleep). Pathetic aren't I. I think every now and again, it all catches up with me. Especially being on my own for half of the week, multiple wake ups and 5am starts.

Feel terribly guilty now.

Lazza you are an amazing mummy! Just read your own last paragraph again, you are exhausted!!! And baby Lazza needs to learn to sleep... Much like my DS needs to learn to nap a bit better

Oh lazza don't feel bad it's not surprising you're exhausted! You didn't leave her at all and were still there to comfort her. Half an hour is good going I think I bet if you stick to it it won't take long at all

lazza you are an excellent mother. You're teaching your child how to fall asleep on her own. I have done the same - we've had tears and everything but now she can do it herself, and she's happy, playing in her cot and dozing off. I'm proud of her.

Looking after a baby isn't just about the baby - you need to look after yourself. You're exhausted, you're at risk of hurting your back now that the babies are big, and you're right, the sleeplessness does catch up with us.

Please don't feel guilty. I bet nobody on this thread thinks you should feel guilty. Cut yourself some slack; you've been doing a very demanding job 24 hours a day for the last 8 months. And you're terrific at it.

Have a bath, have a cuddle with your husband and get thee to bed. Hugs for you.

Thank you both. I just feel selfish for doing it now and not waiting till after our holiday, but 2 more weeks feels like a long time some days! I just hope it does make a difference or it'll just feel like a waste of time. You're right though nutella she does need to learn somehow and spotty I so nearly gave up but thought that'd be even more confusing! Think we need to give it a couple more nights if we can. Dd1 got it in 3 nights so I'm hopeful.

Bless her, when I stroked her tummy she was laughing! Think I found a ticklish spot . Feel a bit anxious about the night ahead though, guess we need to do the same when she wakes.

lazza if you are then I am x 3!! With T I just got to a point where I needed better nights and I did exactly as you did. Couple of nights and will be a distant memory. T still loved me in the morning as your lo will. Really I honestly think its harder for us than for them. Liken it to a toddler who cries because they can't play with the knives! It's tough that they're upset but sometimes they don't know what's good for them. You are a great mummy because you are recognising and balancing the needs of everyone.

Thank you mamapo, we cross posted! That was a lovely post. Cup of tea, ample biscuits then bed for me....way to go crazy on a Friday night!

Great analogy WLmum . I reached the same point with dd1 and it worked for her, we were all better off for it....as DH reminded me when I wanted to cave in after 5mins!!

T seems to have suddenly got really sensitive. She was petrified of the food mixer earlier even though she's heard it regularly since she was born and I was cuddling her for reassurance. Then just before bed she was mega upset when dd1 told her off v gently for nicking her special toy. Poor baby was so sad. Callous dd1 (not really) was only pleased to have rescued her bestie.

Aw lazza you're doing the right thing. It'll all be over in a couple of days.

We've had the same the last couple if days WL. So far he's cried at the noise the blind made, the Hoover and my sister's dog offering him a teddy. Not fun.

We've missed bedtime by a mile while having takeaway for my dads birthday (obv my sister cant go out) and j is now on his 2nd wind. He's bouncing on my bed and stomach Hurry up Jamie it's o'clock!

WL, overly sensitive here too, and maybe more susceptible to being overtired? C had a meltdown today when I got her out of bed, cuddled her, then put her on the change mat. Proper burst into tears, poor poppet.

Lazza your an amazing mummy who really cares for your DD, your teaching her a new skill, which will only benefit her in the future.

Mama i have a couple of smug friends on facebook who have the most brilliant babies in the world who sleep through or reach their milestones super early. I have to bite my tongue quite alot sometimes.

Spotty and WL i also thought that post was quite cheeky and completely missed the point of our threads.

Willyou i hope J is asleep and that its wine time

Morning! Had computer problems but hopefully all sorted now.

lazza I hope you had a good night's sleep and baby lazza too. Dont feel guilty, you're trying out methods that will only help your family life. I bet DD still loves you this morning.

Happy holiday mamapo

R still keeping me busy. I love seeing his personality develop.

hales that competitive parent malarkey annoys me. Babies are different and will do things in their own time. Grrrr!

I reckon if we really try we could become all competitive on here. I'll start.

My baby is Absolutely The Best at waking herself up at 2am by rolling over in her cot and practicing crawling (which she can't do), then needing a big feed to get back to sleep.

She's also amazing at making little 'gonk' noises while lying in her cot.

Who's next?

My baby moans all the time just to be picked up and then when I do pick him up he pulls my hair and laughs, so clever that he is

My baby's very good at practising his pincer grip on my nipple - obviously advanced..

Ahhh we had a 9 hour stretch from The little Mister last night. Feels amazing!

Morning all. Baby lazza slept till 1, had a feed then straight back to sleep till 5 . she woke at 3 but just had a little grumble and went back to sleep on her own. Thank god! Ok, being up at 5 isn't ideal but it's progress!!

oh, and I do believe my baby is the best at spotting the tiniest scrap of anything on the carpet and reaching it by any means necessary

Hmmm mama I'm not sure but I think my baby is the best at finding cables because the previous owner of our lovely rented flat was obviously too cheap to consider having them hidden in walls. Perhaps they think cables trailing everywhere adds character and bashing them on the ground

Although he does clap and wave too which is super cute (although not at the appropriate time - except yesterday he did manage it!! Pure luck)

But his sleeping/ waking last night was not so cute. I had a dream that he had ten teeth already! He has two - I think. Better check again I guess

Yay baby Lazza!! Hope you feel better for a good nights sleep. X

Great news lazza and fod

My baby clearly has the best innocent expressions. He can totally fool you with his cheeky grin, before leaning in and sinking his incredibly sharp peggies into your nose.

Has anyone read the thread in chat where the lady just gave birth without knowing she was pregnant??

Loving it ladies!

My baby can do most of those things except anything to do with teeth as she doesn't have any which is clearly some sort of evolutionary advancement!

T slept 8.30 til 6, I fed her then DH took her downstairs and I just got up! Amazing sleep! Off on a boat trip and pub lunch today. Nice!