November 2012 - Summertime, and the babies are sleeping (mostly with a few notable exceptions)

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1800961-November-2012-Is-is-too-early-for-birthday-plans

Lovely detective

I agree with yw mm fwiw. Don't blame the ow, the problem is your twat of a dp who never seems to take resonsibility for anything. It's difficult to judge from the outside but you are 21, clever and independent as well as being an excellent mother. You need to think very carefully about spending your 20s with someone you don't trust. I went from twat to cunt in my 20s and, although I'd like to say never regret, I sometimes get very angry at myself for wasting my time when life should have been happy. I'm only 33 but the stress I endured staying in shitty relationships aged me, and I will never get that time back. Trust is so important. I'm not saying leave the bastard, but cool off and think very carefully about what you really want. Ime men who lie don't suddenly stop. Don't be in your 30s and 40s regretting losing your 20s.

Awww Det that's lovely I have a very cuddly boy so I always savour it when he's off exploring - however different they are, there's no one quite like Mummy.

We had a great day of cheese less pizza at Pizza Express - Jonas ate an EK pouch, fruit pot, a sliced apple then set about demolishing my food. Dough balls with garlic oil are dairy free and he loved them and the tomatoey crusts of my pizza. Grrr as DH's food has dairy in it - it's always mine that gets stolen need to rethink this!!!!

And it's our fortnightly Chinese takeaway tonight - let's see how soy goes down this time. He's only reacted one time out of three. Am a bit nervous as we forgot his omeperazole this morning. He has seemed totally fine though - oh fingers crossed he's growing out of it.

As you can see the thought of trying for no. 2 means I've given up any attempt at getting my figure back in between!

Brilliant, thanks det if it doesn't go I will put it on there.

Remember that moment with O it doesn't sound like you will have many of them he is a busy boy.

Sophia What is your ebay listing? Someone literally just posted asking for a Donkey. If you want I'll put a link on! Get some interest .

Oo I will have a look.

Chasing pink tortoiseshell specs sound amazing!

Sophia that's £500 less than you paid which is fair in my mind. They seem to hold their value well. Can't believe you don't like Caitlin Moran though - she's my heroine - I come from a long line of bolshy feminists though. My Great Gran was a chain smoking suffragette with her own sports car back in the early interwar years. I hardly remember her as she died when I was 5 but I do remember her husband rarely got a word in I love authors who challenge me and make me uncomfortable with my own cultural assumptions and bias. PR get through chapter one of 'how to be a woman' and it's suddenly much more engaging.

Have linked it in. Ta muchly.

Actually yw I read her column today and really enjoyed it maybe I should give her a break. I too come from a Bolshy female line! I had a lesbian, stockbroker, gambling great aunt and her other half featuring heavily in my youth along with my pimms making jazz pianist grandmother! I have to rebel against it all somehow, with my flowery apron and ironing tendencies.

Fab! It's a very busy page! Do a few bumps, I'll bump for you too! But you shouldn't have a problem selling - its in fab condition, and that is the right price I would say!

If you sell on the page some people want it posted - others on there can advise the best way to post via courier.

If you want any advice just shout, I've been reading the pages for ages keeping an eye out for a local bugaboo for a decent price!

Great thanks I would need some advice on posting. Posting something that size scares me, though I still have the box.

Yes, it does me, but reading assures me it is pretty simple! People will recommend the best couriers, and it should cost no more than £20 which is pretty good for something that size .

O is on the naughty step for unplugging the broadband. Again.

So sorry MM, I have no advice really, just listen to the others here.

I spent the day with my parents and my brother and his family. It was much needed and lovely. Took some lovely pictures of O and my nephew, will try to put it on FB.

Daddy's rules.

My O does that. But he will not sit on the naughty step either! In fact, I'm not sure he sits .

A wire is a wire in his mind, and belongs to him. And must be pulled at all costs.

Same as anyone eating food. It is not their food. It is O's food. And woe betide you if you try and stop him .

MM we all have our lines, you need to work out if yours has been crossed. Mine would have, with the lying as much as the cheating tbh, but I'm much less tolerant at 31 than i was at 21. You come across as so switched on, don't let some tosser drag you under

Pizza and garlic bread is ok for tea, right? Even though he had chicken nuggets for lunch...

Thank you all, I am so humbled by your words.

I am angry but trying to rationalise it. It was 2.5 years ago. At the time I did much worse when we were on/off, although granted I was brutally honest with him about it rubbing his nose in it like the immature twat I was. He lied at the time, but it had since been unmentioned. Today he tried to laugh it off as nothing, although realises my trust in him has taken a huge knock. Again. I am too angry to be making any rational decisions, so will keep things cool for a week or two. I think we need to get his appointment out of the way first before I do anything radical.

And my neighbours heard me shouting in the middle of the night.

mm so sorry you are going through this, I echo what others have said, you seem extremely clued up for 21 and only you know what is best for you and M.

I have had an S free day today. My mum called this morning to ask if she could have her for a few hours, me and dp made the most of it and went out for lunch and then to the cinema. I couldn't wait to pick S up though and she gave me the biggest grins ever when she saw me

Expensive day today as the forward facing car seat we had for J broke. Had to buy another one. I spent ages getting it in the car as it is Isofix, then the harness would not adjust. I bought it second hand for my mum to use in her car for DD2 once in a blue moon, and she went and bought another one brand new. I figured she had at least checked the sodding thing as we got it when my leg was broken. Anyway, we thought we had this lovely car seat all ready to go. It was over a year ago so I can hardly complain.

PP I thought of you today as Halfords have a Britax First class, which can be rear facing longer, for just over £80.

We got another Maxi Cosi Priori XP as they are awesome.

MM it was a long time ago, a lot has changes since then. I would also say follow your heart, but remember about a leopard and its spots. Even though I have three children, if I found out about infidelity then that would be it for us. DH has known this from the beginning. I would also chop his testicles off and feed them to him. He knows this also.

Raw or would you fry them up with some garlic first vq ? :o

LO is still rearfacing but her main seat will be switchable to ff as and when. She's big and old enough to ff but she's quite happy rearfacing next to me for now.

I wondered that too pr - "boiled or fried, I'm satisfied, as long as I get my eggs balls"

Despite the heat (32° indoors and 35 outdoors, still 31 not at almost 9pm) DD1 has been an angel today. I could have been slightly annoyed at her refusing to say hello or goodbye to the pharmacist but, considering how I felt walking out of the pharmacy, I'm actually quite pleased :o

She is now watching videos of laughing babies on youtube, which is far nicer than Gangnam Style, and spoofs of, on a fucking loop.

LO just did a marvellous cacastrophe for her daddy. It was oozing out of the nappy. Mwah ha ha ha haaaa.

Tomorrow we should be getting huge storms, and a couple of days at just 25° before it gets up to the 30s again Thursday Friday.

MM that makes sense. It's a big decision. If it helps, imagine it was Tilly in this relationship - would you want her to stay or would you want a man to treat her better?

VQ boo that sucks ass about the seat. I can imagine prison screw VQ serving testicle fricasse . Fidelity is one of our non negotiables as is honesty. In my experience you could wait a lifetime waiting for a lying charmer to develop an honest streak and still have longer to wait. I gave it 6 years before realising that he was never going to change. And that the fact he didn't change wasn't a reflection and me and whether or not I was an amazing sunbeam worth changing for. Previously I'd kept upping my game thinking if I were a better partner / more desirable / a pushover etc he would change for the better. Bad behaviour isn't something you deserve but it is something you put up with and 'allow' if you keep taking them back .

A little something to lighten the mood...

My DB is staying over tonight - he was sat at the breakfast bar, chatting to F who was sat on the worktop looking at him. She did a mini projectile vom, which landed inches from him, then proceeded to merrily swish her hands and feet through it. His face was like this - - > and

Hurry I've finished work!
n still has his cough, and it was bad this morning, it woke him at 4ish and 5. He's been sick too at lunch, and not had much to eat.

Work was fine, so I'm just having some toast and tea. Off to read the thread.

Evil