April 2013 - Trying to keep our (babies) cool in the summer!

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num I'm plannin on trying solids soon dd sits up really well and trys grabbing everones food but she's only 19 weeks and we're moving into a new flat in a couple of weeks so will wait till we're settled in first.

we've started doing self settling i.e putting her down when she's sleepy but still awake and staying with her till she's asleep, anyone done this successfully? she cries quite a lot now but I'm hoping that's because we just started and she'll get used to it!

amber baby bird is also learning to roll both ways I love it I get so excited when she turns over I call DF in, he thinks I'm mad

Just calling in to say hello! Not been on for ages. Little H is great although sleep has not progressed as far as I would like and I think that the main cause is that his teeth are on the way. I can't see anything yet but his gums are getting hard and he is definately in a bit if discomfort and doing a lot of mouthing, chewing and dr

Drooling ...

He is 24 weeks on Monday so I am going to be starting to wean shortly although so far he has not shown much interest in food. He is also fast outgrowing his crib so we are thinking about moving him into his own room as his cot is too big for our bedroom. I will miss him being next to me but hopefully he might sleep a bit better..... (wishful thinking perhaps?!).

Hope you all are having a good bank holiday weekend - well done on the night out faith - I have been out once on my own but we haven't managed to go together yet!

Dd is always put down awake and self settles well

Her cot mobile usually only needs winding up twice at max and she's fast asleep

I've never done rocking to sleep with any of my three though so they know no different

Amber and num thank you but. Don't think anyone will change my mind although on the plus side I used to day dream bout bf and obviously all is well and he sun us shingling! But I'm now thinking abut weaning and what food I'm going to make etc so I really do think magic 6mth will help me 'get over it'! Yay
Good look with the toilet trying! I'm looking forward to being free of nappies but defo not looking forward to the process of tt!

Bf has never appealed to me

I never tried. Because it wasn't for me

Some would say that's awful, that everyone should at least try

I say I have three perfectly happy healthy children and it was my decision at the end of the day!

waits to be jumped on

I think if you aren't keen to breast feed you aren't likely to be successful or confine for very long....I was very keen to breast feed but I think we were only successful because I was so bloody minded - perhaps to the detriment of marriage at times . We have found a nice balance now with me BF most of the time with a formula bottle around bath time. She goes to sleep much earlier now.

catherine I understand why you're finding it tough. You wanted to BF, I know it's certainly pushed from HCPs. But remember he did get 8 weeks of breast milk which is a great start no offence to those who chose to FF! but ultimately it needs to be about what's best for both of you. Yes hopefully weaning will be a new chapter for you.

Breastfeeding is a funny thing... from the way it's pushed, you would think it's the easiest and most important thing in the world... I am a very happy bf'er, but it really gets my back up the way it is portrayed in NHS land. All the posters proclaiming the wonderful benefits, with none of the realities, it just sets women up for failure... Although I do think that is I was invited to talk to pregnant ladies, they'd probably be put off so much they'd never bother trying! Which wouldn't be my intention! 8 weeks is great even if you pictured going longer pre baby...

If I ever wrote a baby book, it would recommend slightly selfish attitude, put simply, do what makes you feel best! If that involves formula and rocking to sleep, then do it! Don't feel guilty about a single thing, after all, you have created a tiny person - and that's a blinkin' miracle!

I also ignore cradle cap, it does settle down in it's own time...

E doesn't really self settle yet, but neither did DS, but by 8 months he was a fab sleeper day and night, so I'm not worried..

My 5 year old still has cradle cap, I'm pretty sure it's that as if I use dentinox it vanished! He has a thick mop of hair though so it can't be seen and it doesn't bother him

I absolutely cannot stand the views some medical professionals have on ff. I actually had a doctor roll her eyes at me a couple of months ago

My 2 year old's cradle cap returned about the time E developed hers! Not certain I've ever heard of sympathy cradle cap before!

Ds never had it as a baby it started not long after ds 2 was born!

Thank you ladies my friend did some work on bf when we were at uni asking if patients are given the rite to choose and I must agree I felt I had more of a choice about ds having essential tests then ff vs bf! I was asked at nearly every mw appt and hv if I was going to.
Also to clarify I no every bit of BM is good but the 8wks were expressed and I never managed more then 50% but I am pleased I continued for as long as practical to express!
I am really lucky with ds tha he has been abe to self settle at night since 6wks just fights sleep in the day.
My baby is ace!

When I had my first baby I stayed in hospital the first night where I was completely ignored by all staff while they spent all their time with the bf ladies

I know a lot of women need help with latch positioning etc but doesn't mean ff mums don't need any help

I was just turned 20 and it was my first baby

Luckily I had done my research and was not one to panic!

I think it's crazy on ma wards, we do the hardest thing our bodies are prob going to (give birth) and get left I was literally shown my bed and told where the toilet was and left. When I asked what to do with ds when I went to the loo the mw looked at me like I was ad and said to leave him in his cot!

Same here Catherine I wasn't even told where the toilet was though!

I no this is abut random but dh is on phone to mil saying we'll call round this after and he's been on for nearly 30min chatting when we will see her in a couple of hrs! And prob say all the same stuff! It just annoys me that we cud b doing something together

That's even worse num!

Do not get me started on men.....

Bah that was me num3 on a name change btw, this is also A name change x

This even x

well I was bf and still got left alone to figure out first baby at 21!! It was only when I went to walk up and down the corridor to try to get her to sleep and I nearly fainted that a mw offered to help, and ironically her soltion was to give the baby a ff instead of bf lol

All the staff were nice but its the same old NHS story that there are not enough of them so the life threatening, legalities and d/c get done first. Then the feeding help cos it's needed for d/c! Don't think they hav time for anything else!

DS barely condsumed anything till he was 36 hours old because he had horrendous latch issues (eventually latched on at 17 days) and I didnt know I was allowed to ask for formula until a mum of 4 turned up and immediately asked for a bottle (closely followed by a mum of twins!). I now know that the midwives are not allowed to offer ff, because of this ridiculous pushing of bf in all cases!

And Catherine - you've been expressing all this time! Wow, you deserve a huge round of applause! I detested expressing with A, it involved so much extra effort - I've refused to go anywhere near the pump this time!

Just a random sttn moment - E lasted till 5.20am from a 8pm put down! Way hay!

My experience was very different, probably because Abigail was low birth weight. We were on transitional care, a 7 bedded unit for Mums and babies where they anticipate high needs - other examples included a Mum with strep B, GD and a couple of babies with jaundice. They had midwives to look after the Mums and children's nurses and nursery nurses for the babies. It took 4 days to get Faithlet's latch sorted. They helped me immensely. They did suggest top ups of formula actually which we did for a couple of days and hand expressing so my tiny, hungry baby found it easier. they got me using nipple shield and expressing using a pump so she could have EBM top ups not formula. Maybe because I work in the NHS I wasn't afraid to ask for help. I rang my bell quite a lot! and did it a while before I thought I'd need help up give them time to get to me. I'd heard horror stories of my local hospital but our care was great :)

Yesterday was hard. My SIL got engaged on Saturday and her future MIL threw a party. Travelled from Lincoln to Macclesfield and back in a day. Faithlet was fine on the way there (slept for the two hours!) but coming back was very fussy. Had to stop to feed her twice and I had to get in the back with her! Also got stuck in a traffic jam near Chesterfield. Bless, when we got home I put her under the baby gym and she just kicked and squeaked for about 15 minutes!