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November 2012 - The Adventure Continues

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StuntNun · 03/07/2013 05:10

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1787896-November-2012-Crawling-Already-Uh-oh

This thread's topic is what size of nappies are your babies in? And how are the cloth bum babies doing?

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ValiumQueen · 04/07/2013 23:04

I think a lot of folk think Scotland is cheap for property. Some places are, granted, but I have not found it so. The offers over system is a bit misleading too, as offers over 185 for example, they will be hoping for 210 plus. I think the Scottish system is way better though despite this.

Off to dream of the house. It is so opposite to where we live which is a box in an estate of boxes, and so overlooked.

izzybizzybuzzybees · 04/07/2013 23:09

Goodnight everyone, we have a still sleeping J which is odd as he hasn't fed as i mentioned before. DH going to do next feed. I'm gonna watch some crap hart of dixie before giving in to sleep.

Oh and thanks for the dust!

izzybizzybuzzybees · 05/07/2013 00:02

I expected J to wake up for a feed and he hasn't! He's been in bed since about 10.30pm! I've brought up a bottle, a flask and some formula powder so DH can feed him if he wakes in next hour. Figure that way we can see he takes a good feed! Bloody wee pest! I could been sleeping for an hour! I'm gonna try now.

LuisGarcia · 05/07/2013 00:32

Thanks to all those who asked. L is sleeping better now. I'm getting more sleep on the one night in ten she isn't ill, growing or teething. That's still more, and she needs skiing to sleep less.

My knees hurt still, but that'll fix itself long term [philosophical]

MrsG has been back at work for a couple of week, hence my relative absence.

izzybizzybuzzybees · 05/07/2013 01:40

Fucking cunting formula refusing atsebadgering baby! He wouldn't take the bloody bottle si I had to feed him anyway!!

Back in cot so will see how long that lasts! I reckon 5 fucking minutes!

YellowWellies · 05/07/2013 02:17

VQ offers over is dead at the moment - everything is going for the home report value or less. We got ours for just under the HR value which was £10k less than the offers over asking price.

Oh Izzy Sad Sad Sad Sad

ValiumQueen · 05/07/2013 02:31

Really YW? Ooh good to know. A house is only ever worth as much as someone is willing to pay.

J woke choking with coughing at 2 and has taken an ounce or so. Poor wee boy.

Luis good to hear you are getting a bit more sleep.

YellowWellies · 05/07/2013 02:35

Every penny off the asking price can go to the doing it up fund. Exciting!!!! Grin

ValiumQueen · 05/07/2013 02:45

Any thoughts YW? Would they have taken the chimney breasts out do you think? There don't seem to be any actual chimney breasts but I thought they might be flush with the wall as the walls are so very thick? Poor DH is so smitten with it.

Anyway, I am going to try to get a few more winks. Poor J is still coughing and coughing, and ripping at his throat too Sad I wish I could make it all better for him. And my antibiotics are shifting some gunk I can tell you?

Good to have not heard from Izzy again (hopeful)

Detective, when you wrote slug earlier, I misread it Grin

StuntNun · 05/07/2013 04:33

Sorry to hear J is being tricksy about his bottles Izzy, I hope you got some sleep.

Good luck with the nurseries tomorrow BigPig, I hope your gut gives you a strong preference. My DSs have been in three different nurseries. One of them looked good superficially but it was like baby jail, DS2 was desperate to get out at home time. Another had a real family environment and the boys were welcomed with open arms every day, I had to cajole them to leave! The last one was very reliant on gifts of toys and seemed quite small and cramped but their activities were fab, the boys were kept well occupied with wet play, messy play, dressing up, very much organised chaos. The first and last I had no qualms about leaving them there but the middle one was soul destroying and I ended up moving DS2 to a childminder. So my advice would be to look at the children, are they engaged and happy or are they just 'doing time' until they're collected.

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StuntNun · 05/07/2013 04:34

Sorry my description wasn't great the order I listed the nurseries wasn't the order they went to them in IYSWIM.

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izzybizzybuzzybees · 05/07/2013 04:52

Not 5 mins, he managed almost 3 hours!! Wow! Fed and back down now! Another 3 hours pretty please?

Evilwater · 05/07/2013 05:38

Ugg.... I'm up for work.

Bryzoan · 05/07/2013 06:52

Brilliant izzy! Fingers crossed you are getting more. Really sorry to hear the solids are so very difficult. Hope the mouth play helps. Can you see the SALT directly?

Hope mrsg is settling back ok at work luis - bet she is missing you all.

I have a quick question - stomach muscles. I thought mine had come back together pretty much. But I noticed a big gap again this morning. Don't know if it is just that I have a bit less flab thanks to dairy free and so can now find them or whether they are worse. G is a real lump and I find it horrible getting him out of his cot - which happens a few tines a night still. And I have to carry both r and g a lot during the day. R's physio is coming this morning so will ask her (though she is a kiddy specialist so might not know). But I wondered how the other quichesters with separated abs were doing now?

Bryzoan · 05/07/2013 07:11

House looks beautiful vq. Would be much much more expensive in our neck of the woods.

StuntNun · 05/07/2013 07:38

Another 'good' night here (relatively speaking). J would not go to sleep until just before 10 but after a dream feed at 11 he went until just after 4. Then from 4.40 he is still asleep in his cot. Maybe he's just shattered from being awake so late but it was sooo nice not to have to either get up with him at 5 or bring him into our bed.

Thanks for the night weaning tips BigPig. I did the same a while back, refusing to feed J between 10 and 4 (unless he was ill or distressed or really wouldn't settle). He now usually waits until 4 for a feed but he is properly starvo and feeds for 30 minutes taking both sides. To me that means he isn't ready for night weaning yet. I have been occasionally dropping the dream feed which results in his night feed happening earlier, between 2 and 3. So if me cutting out egg does improve J's sleep I think I would be happy with one night feed between bedtime and morning. It would be different if I were going back to work but I have to find a job first after being made redundant.

Is anyone else job hunting? There are only three or four employers in Northern Ireland in my job type an I've already worked for two of them. Everyone seems to be using recruitment agencies now so I'll have to be serious about a return to work if I sign up to one. My childminder is going through a rough patch with unreliable parents, e.g. they're working overtime so not picking up until 7 but not paying her extra. So I'm pretty sure she would give them notice if I wanted to steal their place. It's easier with us having three as they all arrive and leave together and we were always flexible when she wanted time off for holidays, etc. I suspect she may want to get her paws on J as well, he's a real sweetheart. But I'm conflicted about going back to work as well. DS1 starts his last year at primary school this year and I'm very worried about the transition to Grammar school. His primary only has 90 children so they've been able to accommodate his special needs most of the time. But at Grammar school it's going to be sink or swim time and he's very sensitive. So I think it would be easier if I was at home until he's settled in. But that leaves the question of money doesn't it! We're £600 a month worse off with me not working. Some of that would be recouped by lower petrol costs and food bills, and I put my redundancy money into the mortgage which reduced our payments by nearly £150 but there's still a shortfall every month. It's so hard to decide what's best isn't it?

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Pikz · 05/07/2013 08:32

Stunt, glad to hear of a good night

Izzy I hope you got some more sleep

LO still asleep here...jet lag clearly means an epic 13 hours and counting sleep...I am sure I will pay for this!

I need help...anyone recommend some corner cushions...LO is crawling and intent on getting stitches before he is one and he is just attracted to every sharp corner!

horseylady · 05/07/2013 08:35

Sorry really not read this last week with childcare hunt!!!! Going to look at a new nursery today and another Tuesday. Unless today's is ok then I'll prob sign him up. Tuesdays is out the way for dh to do a drop off. Will see.

Stunt - going back to my job so no pressure to look. Ill see how it is when I go back, but assuming they go with what they've offered me, I'm happy staying there.

I half read the end of wed, I offer 3x meals a day. Some days he's mega hungry and eats everything in sight. Other days he's hard work. Today he's mainly eating sainsburies yoghurt as they're out of date today......

MadameGazelleIsMyMum · 05/07/2013 08:38

Good luck today evil.

stunt it is a difficult balancing act. I don't envy you that kind of decision - its actually easier for me as I have to work no matter what, I think having the choice causes its own form of agony!

izzy great news that J managed 3 hours! Fingers crossed this becomes a habit!

bry I dont think I have abs so cant help!

BP enjoy the second viewing. You've been given lots of tips, you know all the facts for both, perhaps now is the time to see what your gut says.

luis good to hear there is less skiing required now. Hope MrsG is finding being back at work.

MadameGazelleIsMyMum · 05/07/2013 08:41

Oh, and DS discovered strawberries in whole form, not puree. Strawberries are good. He cried when they were all gone. Will pop a pic on FB.

PetiteRaleuse · 05/07/2013 08:42

Baby Jake on cbeebies seriously freaks me out. Everything about it right down to the tuneless singing freaks me out. Even the chortling.

Anyway, morning all.

Izzy can you not freeze the puree? Or try playing with it a bit anyway?

The worst of LO's cold is over I think. DH has woken up with it this morning. Though he has been saying that every day this week. Just DD1 to go...

She had a slight temperature last night but I ignored it and it went away on its own.

ChasingDaisy · 05/07/2013 09:39

Stunt what a hard decision for you to make. No good advice from me I am afraid, but what jumps out at me from your post is that you are a fantastic mother as you are clearly putting your children's needs first Smile

VQ I love that house. Could be a real forever home. And yep. it does seem cheap to me.

Good start to the day here, O slept 7 - 4.30 - 7.30 all in his cot and has wolfed down porridge, mango puree and toast for breakfast Smile. Plus he is wearing a cute pair of dungarees.

PetiteRaleuse · 05/07/2013 09:48

stunt I don't know if I am looking for a job or not. I need to go back to work, but things are very complicated at the moment. Ideally for me if I do haveto look for a job I will be able to start doing so properly in September, once the children are at nursery.

ChasingDaisy · 05/07/2013 09:55

bry my abs separated and felt very weak, but over the past month they seem much stronger. Not quite pre-baby strength but almost. I haven't done anything in particular to help it along, it just seems to have happened. May be worth a visit to your gp?

StuntNun · 05/07/2013 10:07

I'm very lucky in being able to delay going back to work. Being made redundant was a pain because I don't have a job to go back to but the redundancy payout has certainly made my finances a bit easier. It won't last forever though and we have drastically cut down on spending to eke it out as long as possible DH's stupid £45 karting idea notwithstanding. It's very different with three kids though. My childminder does offer a discount for having all three children but it would still be something like £1000 a month for childcare and I don't earn enough to make that worthwhile, I've done working just to pay my childcare fees before. If I hadn't been made redundant I would have been able to keep getting childcare vouchers for my maternity leave and along with DH's vouchers that would have almost paid for childcare until DS1 started Grammar school. Given DS1's chequered past (expelled from after school, lost two childminders, threatened with expulsion from school three years ago) I think he may need a lot of support through the transition to secondary education. He's a very bright lad (FIL has genius-level IQ) but his emotional and physical development is far behind his peers which is a recipe for being bullied. My original idea was to retrain as a teacher assuming I've passed my exams and get my degree but there aren't any jobs going so that plan is currently on the back burner.

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