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June 2013 Bebes (1)

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Olimoss · 01/07/2013 19:03

Including our friends from late May & early July!

Thought time for a postnatal thread.

So. I'm craving a nightly glass of wine already, week
5 of motherhood. Anyone else?!

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AlohaMama · 08/07/2013 01:09

St John's do good first aid/CPR but you can probably get you tube videos online as a short term solution.

Welcome back cycle! Funny it seemed like you had Nye so long ago, but now 4 versus 8 week old doesn't seem so different.

Glad to hear Violet is on the mend pinkbear. Hope you're able to get the reassurance you need from your bf specialist.

Also hot here, Evie seems to be sleeping fine though, but she has developed infant acne on her face which I'm sure is partly due to the heat. Hopefully it will clear up soon. Both of us end up so sweaty breastfeeding, when we're done her poor face is sweaty and covered with milk.

ella I've got a bebe au lait cover, but bf covers are the norm here. From experience I'd say get if you do get one, make sure it has enough fabric - some of the cheaper ones may be smaller and it makes it much harder to cover yourself up. Also if they have wire around the neck of the apron then it holds it away from you so you can peer down and easily see what is going on. Definitely practice at home till you feel comfortable.

pinkapples · 08/07/2013 02:36

Baby acne here too Hmm looks worse than it is I think but still what happened to my baby!

Theiah is refusing to go back to sleep so I'm lying next to the Moses basket listening to her grunt and sing at me 3.5weeks old and she's already a pickle dh is being a waste of space as he just ends up getting cross and threatening to put her in her own room (something which I've told him won't work as well just listen to the crying from a distance) have no idea now what time to feed Theiah again as its taken me 1.5 hrs to get her bottle down so not a clue now and as for the sleeping well when she finally does drop ill just have to see how long she stays there

It's a good job I have this thread to vent at 2.30 in the morning

AlohaMama · 08/07/2013 02:53

Yep pinkapples at least you know you're not alone! Agree that putting them far away doesn't help as you just end up straining to hear them! At least not until they are a bit older. Are you trying to feed her at specific times? Hope she sleeps for you, or that you sleep. I'm sure if she's hungry she'll let you know!

pinkapples · 08/07/2013 02:59

No he's had enough and gone to spare room like a knob! Don't worry he'll suffer for that decision tomorrow Wink (when I go out for a break that just happens to last all day) she's asleep now thankfully! No not specific times just between every 3/4 hrs as any closer together i think id lose the plot she does seem to do the 3/4 hrs at least its just getting her back off to bed but alls good now so going to try and sleep for a couple of hours

pinkbear82 · 08/07/2013 05:33

ah pink - why do men think little ones respond to being told things like that!! And it always amazes me that no matter how soundly they have slept they are still 'so tired' - mind you it's giving me chance to really perfect 'the look' It now goes something like:
dp: (having slept for 7 hours and had two naps) I'm so tired I could sleep
for a week.
Me: (having had 4 hours sleep over the last 48 hours) hmmm (give the look)
dp : uh but, er, you must be more tired, you probably haven't had half as much sleep as me for a long time.
Me: (trying not to make a huge scene or say something I'd regret) I suppose not, but at least one of us is fresh.
dp : Right, just popping off to sort the Car out and stuff I'll be back in a bit - shame you can't come, remember to put the cot side up if you have to leave her, that's really important.
me: oh piss off. (followed by a few sarcastic remarks)
Grin men!!

arlandria666 · 08/07/2013 06:21

men!!! glad it's not just my DH who actually thinks our 6 week old son should "do as he is told" mmmmmm
I actually sleep better in the spare room as 1-I don't end up getting really pissed off that he sleeps through every murmer and cry & 2-I don't waste my energy kicking him really hard (by accident of course) because of number 1!!

he is also "soooo tired" I don't even respond to that comment for fear of what will come out of my mouth!!

Going to buy a fsn today when the shops open and a supply of ice lollys!!

AmIGoingMad · 08/07/2013 07:57

Glad you got some sleep in the end pinkapples!

Have to be honest and say that DH is being amazing. After the c section he's like superman around the place! I don't think I'd be coping anywhere near as well without him. But I am formula feeding so he is able to do a lot more.

learnermummy · 08/07/2013 08:52

Morning all. Last day of my OHs paternity leave today. Seriously have no clue how I will manage school and nursery run tomorrow! The school bell will be sounding now and I'm sitting in a towel and Anna's still fast asleep. I probably can't get all organised night before either as she'll likely be cluster feeding! Oh well!!

ella0 · 08/07/2013 08:59

Thanks learnermummy and Aloha. The cover I have covers me up fine, it's just that it probably draws more attention to me than if I didn't bother with one (and it's plain black) - I wish they were the norm here. But at least no one will see anything. I need to stop worrying about what other people think.

Pinkbear, I'm so glad that Violet is getting better.

AmI, I'm lucky too in that my husband has been amazing after my section. He's doing all the housework, cooking, all the nappies while he's at home and a feed in the night too (I breastfeed the rest of the time). And he took a month off. I don't know how I'd have coped without him. I just have to concentrate on feeding at the moment and I'm struggling with that!

pinkbear82 · 08/07/2013 09:00

learner you'll surprise yourself - of course you'll cope fine.

ami - my dp has a superman dressing gown....I can't knock him
too much, he's just a bit rubbish round the house, he
prefers to busy himself and feel
he's bringing in the money which is fair enough - just sometimes I wish he'd put his piles in neater places!! Smile

pinkbear82 · 08/07/2013 09:06

Ella with feeding out and about its never easy - I've used a muslin a few times to 'cover up' but tend not to worry too much. I try to have tops on that I don't have to pull up. to help.
oddly the middle of town wasn't an issue but at the doctors surgery the other week one of the staff gave me a real odd look which I couldn't quite believe!

learnermummy · 08/07/2013 09:46

Ella you probably just think you're drawing attention to yourself, I'm sure nobody is looking at all.

curlyclaz13 · 08/07/2013 12:17

Well I have done my first feed in public. Oscar decided he was hungry while in town so we headed to the nearby cafe that thankfully is run by hippies and known for being bf friendly. mum got drinks while I sat down with him thankfully he latched on straight away which considering he had been screaming his head off was a miracle ! he then had a mammoth feed for about half an hour. Glad I have done it so I won't be so bothered next time.

ella0 · 08/07/2013 13:13

Thanks pink bear and learner.

Well done curly.

I've thought about going into a coffee shop if I need to feed, but if I go to town it's always by myself (I don't have family in the area), so I'd have to queue up to buy something while baby cries (and then deal with carrying a drink as well as pushing the pram!). My baby feeds randomly and doesn't go for set times between feeds, so going into a cafe to feed her before she cries doesn't mean she won't want feeding again 10 minutes after we've left. Obviously people must have the same issue no matter how they feed their babies.

curlyclaz13 · 08/07/2013 13:22

Ella, I had feed Oscar before leaving home in the hope he would fall asleep as he has done every time we have been out but I think with it being hot he was thirsty so lasted 10 minutes before turning into hungry horace ! although mum ordered drinks I has left her with the pram so she asked them to bring the drink over and I had drinks brought to me in costa when they saw I was on my own with him.

ella0 · 08/07/2013 13:25

Thanks curly, it's good to know that they are willing to help. I'm sure I won't worry so much once I've done it a couple of times.

pinkbear82 · 08/07/2013 13:33

Ella - not sure what your town is like but if you have a mothercare or John Lewis they have great feeding/changing rooms. I think some department stores do too. might be worth having a check and seeing what you have close by.

I'm sure in most cafes if you go in and say you need to feed if when they have a quiet 5 mins could they bring you over what ever you want you'll have the money ready for them. might not work in some of the bigger ones but more local ones I'm sure would be over the moon to help.

Steffanoid · 08/07/2013 20:39

I have spent the last 4 hours cleaning and cooking I feel very normal, dp has looked after Ethan, first meal I have made for ages, had a lovely cool shower too, made frittata from.start to finish Smile

arlandria666 · 08/07/2013 22:30

steff it feels great to do normal jobs doesn't it I strangely enjoyed cleaning the bathroom earlier :)

pinkapples · 09/07/2013 01:17

Why why why when my husband goes downstairs to make a bottle does he feel the need to do all the household jobs leaving me with a screaming baby! Angry

BumbleBee2011 · 09/07/2013 02:04

Catching up - pinkbear glad Violet is OK, hope things will settle down again for you soon.

This weather has not been timed well - after a couple of days of cluster feeding the heat has made Millie more sleepy and I've been left with a blocked duct (or 2) on one side. Have tried warm baths, massage, block feeding on that side, expressing, and even talking to the boob in question, but other than reducing the swelling a bit it's not actually going away. The first day it made me feel really ill, though I've got some energy back, so I'm trying not to worry too much about it.

BumbleBee2011 · 09/07/2013 02:12

Haha pink, they don't think do they...

MrsBri · 09/07/2013 02:50

Pink, the same reason as mine in taking FOREVER to do the same task, as well as failing to prioritise to make sure we always have at least one feed in the fridge :-/

Really need to get back to doing housework regularly as he doesn't see dirt it seems.

And does anybody know how many times I'll have to mention mowing the sodding lawn before it happens?! I'm not sure what part of me having had a c section and boy being able to do it he doesn't get :-/ The look of it is driving me mad. Sigh.

MrsBri · 09/07/2013 02:51

Not, not boy.

Mutley77 · 09/07/2013 04:27

Hi - can I rejoin? I was around for a bit during pregnancy but have had a lot on (including emigrating) so haven't been on the June threads for a while. I had a baby girl on 10 June and she is lovely and my third DC. Is really helpful to see how others at the same stage are doing. Congratulations on the births of all your babies.