Dec 08 - three is the new two.

[Vagolajahooli]

Well it seems appropriate you cheeky breeders.

Ooh! How lovely. My friend is setting up her own photography business and wants pregnant women to photograph and is using me. Has also said she wants to photograph DDs as a bonus. Yay! Freebies!

SL - £650. Ouch!!!

Arti that's fab!

Beans if your friend wants another fat sweaty prego to photograph let me know.

Love all the holiday chat think we are ? off to Florida again. The lure of cheaper baby stuff and empty beaches oh and that I am desperate for a California Pizza Kitchen buffalo pizza might sway it for us.

I don't know how much longer I can cope with the hell of bedtime with DD1. She's lying weeping in her bed and I'm crying in my room. I had to stop myself from lashing out at her. She doesn't do this for anyone else. Why just me?

Sorry. Ignore me. Am having an unable to cope moment and I can't get hold of DH to find out when he's going to get home. DD1 desperate for me not to go outside. She's so clingy and I don't know how to cope. Was shouting at her and I'm sure the neighbours could hear. Not that that really matters, but think I'm hormonal and over reacting. Bugger bugger.

You can cope. Bedtimes are hideous. Go and have a sneaky glass of wine. All will be forgotten in the morning.

Beans, I've just yelled at the boys. They just won't stay in bed, constantly up and down the stairs.

Thanks for that link earlier. I think I might speak to them. DD is now sat playing instead of looking tired.

DH was at a work drinks thing. Spur of moment. Jealous.

Large glass of Viognier coming my way. Not too large, of course!!

Thanks Jam, I know I can cope, I just sometimes don't think I want to!!

Kayz, hang in There x

I hear ya on the not wanting to. I would love to throw a massive hissy fit and just walk out.

My 2 are also not asleep yet either. grr.

Mine are totally sparko, both knackered, hence the screaminess. DD1 NEVER does this with DH or anyone else. And it's not like it makes me kind to her, I end up screaming at her. If she was nice, I'd be nice too. Why does she seem to want me to be horrid? I just don't understand!

Anyhow, I'm sure it's a phase!!!

Mine are asleep now. DD on me, in her typical place, I tried the cot last week and had 3 hours of screaming with me sat with her.

The boys are great sleepers with everyone else. When they are at their Dads or stay at my Mums. Tend to go to bed with no fuss and sleep past 6am. I keep thinking about turning my alarm off as there is no point having it. But knowing my luck they'll sleep until 8 and we'll be late for school. I can not wait for DH to get back so I can have some lie ins.

Beans, have you considered a reward system? Maybe a sticker chart or promise of a treat if she does not cry at bedtime. DD2 was playing up at bedtime after DS was born so we said if she was good at bedtime Mon-Fri (and in our case if she also stayed in bed until her alarm) then we would take her to the ice cream parlour each Saturday. She needed a bit of reminding and a few threats that her sister would be going for ice cream alone but it worked a treat. The added bonus was I got ice cream every Saturday.

Just popping on quickly but beans bedtimes are my most hideous time of the day! And my two are pretty good. But with the heat, tired girls & a hormonal mummy it's no wonder you snapped. I hope you had a restful night and feel better today

I agree with Arti & some sort of reward system, let her pick the treat maybe or the stickers for the chart and really get her involved? Big hugs x

Beans bedtime is fine in the Vag house its the mornings that are evil. Ds2 almost always wakes up in a foul mood. 3 days of the week he has a long day at school and on those days he just wails about not wanting to go to school. If it's a short day he is fine about going to school but finds something else to get dramatic about. This morning he was just so horrid I didn't even give him hug goodbye. DH took him to school and I just turned and ignored him. Grrrr. Now I've picked him he is fine like nothing happened.

We are also having a bathroom done but we won't get to enjoy it as it is in the London house. Im a bit cheesed off, we payed for all these works in the middle of May and they still aren't finished. I went made at the real estate lady yesterday as they seem to have no idea when it will be finished. She is meeting with the contractors today and hopefully we will have some answers.

I'm shattered today I need a little kip, but it's swimming & bball afternoon today.

Thanks for tips. Have also spoke to DD1's teacher, who is going to chat to her about it. And I've spoken to DD1 myself and reassured her.

I'm just waiting for DH to get home, then am heading into fetal assessment unit as have some pinky colouring on the loo roll when I wipe after a pee and quite a sore back. Think it's probably a UTI, but best to get it checked and they've tole me to come in ASAP. Unfortunately, the quickest childcare I could get was DH coming home from work, so will be over an hour from when I called them and they said to come in straight away. But no one else able to help out!! Ho hum. Think feet up for a bit is called for!

Oh dear beans, have you made it to the hospital yet? Hope you are ok.

Oh beans lovely I hope your okay x

Beans do let us know how you are lovey. I am free tom arvo if you need help with the girls.

Oh you lovely girls. Sorry, am absolutely fine. Baby, pee, blood pressure all fine, was just told off for being too busy!! Must resolve to take things a bit more gently. Easy to say with two smallies, eh??

Right, asleep for me.

Night all and thanks again, lovely people, and sorry to be a worry.

Phew, that's a relief beans. Now take it easy! Try for activities at home where the girls are outside, keeps the clearing up to a minimum. Bubbles, tea parties with water, chalking on the patio, digging! I added bubbles to our paddling pool on Monday and sponged them down instead of a bath. That saved lots of faffing, they loved it, although I'm not sure how clean they got.

That's good then Beans but you must slow down!! More feet up and less running about.

Take it easy Beans, feet up. Cbeebies day for the girls.

I have always loved Dustin Hoffman and particularly his role in Tootsie. This just confirmswhat an awesome man he is. I wish all men could feel like this and some women. We are all so bad at judging on aesthetics.

Good news Beans. Are you managing to rest today? Could your DH take a few days h

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...holiday to give you a real break?

Bloody builders have just told me that one of the walls I wanted to demolish is a supporting wall. They have discovered this after totally stripping the room and knocking down other walls so there is no going back yet I see little point in persuing my plan as I can't open the room up. We are now spending £11k for little gain. How cross can I be that they didn't realise this problem before they said my plans were fine? I guess this is why people pay architects. I'm so gutted and don't know what to do, I'm to sleep deprived to think how to rescue the situation and yet cannot afford not to rescue it.

Bloody hell Arti that's a bit crap. This is probably a stupid question but could they put supporting columns in so as to open it up a little more?

Beans glad you're ok, but def sort out the relaxing a bit please. Could you get that babysitter in the afternoon/evenings a bit sooner?

We are all tired here, it is nearly the end of school and everyone seems to want a piece of poor ds1, he has an extra gymnastics session on Saturday plus a little comp on sunday. He has violin group lesson tomorrow plus his teacher has a special guest violin person coming from Canada who she wants him to come along to a class with. Plus he has two friends coming to play after school tomorrow as they both want to play with him before he goes and he has a birthday party invite between violin & gymnastics on Saturday! Poor little bugger. I have vetoed all activities for the three days that we are still here next week (apart from the beach) as I don't want him tired. Im so glad I booked that lounge at Heathrow airport. think we just sit & chill out there when we get to terminal 3.

Arti, surely your architect or the actual builders should have found this out before any work was started or agreed to, therefore they are to blame. Double check your contract with them, this should not have happened.

Vag everyone is knackered here too apart from DS2 who is back to waking at 5am. DS1 however I am having to haul out of bed at 7.45 every morning.