DECEMBER 2012: The start of crawling and the end of maternity leave

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I'd ask Maryland my DM and MiL have now offered to have him if I want to shop etc but never liked asking before they did.

Ha I'd comment but we'll see how mental I am when my precious little cherub DS is all grown up!

Didn't make myself clear -mil and fil came swimming with me! I invited mil a while back as she won't do stuff by herself and I know sometimes feels a bit depressed about not having enough of a life away from fil. So then she decides to invite him (he and I are ok together but find each other a bit weird!) too! It's the only time I get to come and go as and when it suits me so was a bit miffed at having to arrange a time (fil gets all in a stew if you don't do things on his timetable) but have decided I was being a cow bag as they really enjoyed themselves!

Was FiL in teeny trunks though WL? That will greatly impact on whether or not YWBU not to want them to go

Have just managed to change Ts pooey nappy without waking her! Put her down after her dream feed and got a waft and sure enough - no idea when that occurred - maybe straight after df as she was a bit fidgety and I didn't notice the smell before. Anyway, I'm impressed with my skill but wonder why she can sleep through that but not through the night!

He wasn't I'm glad to say but he did once walk out in just his pants (tightey greeneys!) when we were staying at theirs, and he def new I was there - I was traumatised for years (still am a bit, esp as he made some questionable bfing comments before T was born).

WL . I have no FiL (well he's not on the scene) so that's one saving grace.

First feed done, back to bed. Night all

H has learnt to take her nappy off the last hour has been spent trying to get her to keep it on. Shes really upset tonight and won't settle. I'm again thinking this is my fault for being so upset this weekend

Grrrrr every time I try and transfer he wakes up! It's 30 degrees in his room

Still not asleep. He's never been awake like this in the night. We've got storms approaching and I wonder if its to do with the pressure. He'll be basically asleep on the boob then suddenly start climbing up me and over my shoulder god knows. I have up and took him to our room for a bit where he practised clapping and cruising aka ranty perfectly normal activities for 2am!

Another here disturbed by the pressure/ storm. Had the best night so far last night but not happy now..

What do I do about night waking and dh? He is great with ds in the evenings and weekends but gets really snappy at night, no doubt due tosleep disruption. Totally see why it could be, but means if he's settling ds on his own he loses patience and calls me and I don't think ithelps ds' reliance on me for settling. (I don't mind the sleep disruption myself as I'm used to it, but don't want ds too dependent on me..)

Isthat H was really hard to settle last night it took till 2ish to settle her amd get her in the cot. I think it's the weather i wish this storm would arrive.

Utopian, have you sat down with DH and discussed your concerns? Me and DP now have an agreement in place where he does one night doing all the wake ups and one night where he does one i do the other. We had to arrange it this way after he was no help after his last set of holidays.

Mama it sounds like you had a lovely day yesterday. I bet you can't wait for your DH to quit.

WL i'm glad you enjoyed swimming with your inlaws and weren't traumatised by FiL wearing speedo's haha. Could you ask DH if you could go another night by yourself?

Willyou i hope you enjoy the time alone you get today and that MiL is ok with J.

Glad you ended up having an ok time WL.

Sorry to hear of bad sleepers.

Our room was 39 degrees last night too made me worry about ds as he will only sleep with his sleeping bag on. It's still really hot we've had no rain or storm

Hales i should try to talk tohim, it's just as we're trying this gradual withdrawal method we already agreed to do one on, one off for settling, which is now the struggle.

Oh utopian dp is similar 'oh I will help you, I will get up to ds' but then when he did he just sighed really loudly the whole time so I always ended up just getting up!

Another crappy night here.

He was up and playing until I went to bed at 10. Woke up at 11.45, and then around 1 he was crying and screaming and wouldn't feed back to sleep. I put him in his cot so he couldn't crawl out of bed, and went to the loo. I came out and found DH had come in and was holding him.

Back into bed and another 2 wake ups before I had to get up at 5.

I'm shattered! And a full 10hr day of meetings today.

Oh dear - I can hear C wailing as she tries to fall asleep. I will go in in a couple of minutes. I put her to bed slightly late and am paying for it now! But she didn't give me any tired signs, damn it.

Slightly disrupted night last night - a huge thunderclap woke me and her at about 11.30pm! She got a big fright and started really crying. I ended feeding her back to sleep - took ages. She slept until 5.30am and that's been that! No wonder she's so overtired now - been up 3 hours. Far too long!

A cooking day here today. I think I am doing very badly at weaning and need to pull up my socks.

Sounds like all the babies are having a tough time with this weather.
T did really well, slept through til after 5, had a feed then back down til after 7. Shame I was up from 3.30-4.30 with dd1 who was scared by the prospect of thunder and then by the actual thunder, then up at 5 to dd2 who had been woken by some particular noisy birds mounting some sort of attack - cat maybe? One day I'll get some sleep!

I'm leaving T and dd2 with my mum today while I get a haircut - woo-hoo!

Hope you survive the day beasty

utopian afraid I've always found it easier to just do it myself!

The Little mister was wide awake until about 10pm last night. I am assuming it is the weather.

39 Spotty? can that be right?

Sugar and caffeine are your friends Barbeasty.

Sorry to hear about all the terrible nights. Must been the weather, I slept through it! We had our terrible sleep the night before and as I did several classes with him yesterday he I was exhausted. He went to sleep at 7:30, up at 11 for a bottle and them slept through until 8! Wahoo.

Just cooked up a storm for DS hope he likes vegetable mush with pasta I have just given him the weirdest dinner ever! It was a boiled egg, 3 stalks of broccoli, half a hot cross bun and a strip of red pepper. Can anyone beat that?

Hell week last week has completely paid off. We have a second tooth. 3 & 4 are seriously not far behind.

Oops fat fingers should have said 30 degrees

Ds is still toothless!

hales I meant to say that I'm sure it's not because you were upset that H was unsettled but even if it was, don't beat yourself up - you a human mama bit a robot mama and you have emotions and good and bad days. H will get exposed to other people's emotions as well as her own and that just life. I also think its helpful when they get older to see others deal with unhappiness or frustration so they understand its normal and (hopefully) short lived.

spotty we're the same high temp, low teeth! T won't eat today though (except paper) so maybe they're sore.

Love it willyou - v impressed with some of mega munching that's going on. We're still on purée which is quite hit and miss. She ate a dried up leaf in a friends garden yesterday which she seemed to enjoy but when I gave her a piece of lettuce instead she promptly choked and puked. Luckily I caught it in my hand as the friends are staying at his parents impossibly clean and perfect mega house! mama they emigrated to oz last year but came back 6 weeks ago as it wasn't working out.

Hello ladies,

WL I think your ILs sound on a par with mine. They are awkward and entirely selfish (I think their ideal would be grandchildren without the inconvenience of DP & I)

Sorry to hear other babies are having bad nights.

DS's nights are ok (11pm wake up is generally followed by two more wake ups on a good night ) and he is usually managing 3x 30 minute naps. Although his naps have improved from a few weeks back they are still only 30 mins & only commence with him feeding to sleep.
Thus I get 15-20 mins free time from when I put him down in his cot.
Does anyone else have a power napping baby? How have you stayed sane? DS moans if I go for a wee I'm sooo tired, I need a baby break!!

WL, did you friends last for just a year? That's tricky - it took a good 2-2.5 years for me to feel 'at home' in the UK. It would be different if I'd had trouble finding work or something.

Whirlwind of cooking today. Made courgette polpette and broccoli cheddar sticks, plus renewed the stock of apple/pear puree. Perfect day to have the oven going, of course! I have no confidence she'll eat either of the veg ones - today she has refused everything except fruit and yoghurt. Again. She's barely eaten anything savoury in weeks.

So stick hot in here! Horrible! C has been a bit grumpy too, I think she's bored. She has started flinging herself forward from a seated position so now I have to keep a much closer eye on her. Is this her attempt to start the process of starting crawling? She needs to work out that she has knees, first!

i have a power napper nutella but it's rare for him to last 10mins once he's down in the cot. the sleep pattern sounds very similar.
i've found myself actually wishing MIL lived nearby; i've always been delighted that she lives in NZ until now! my own DM is pretty disinterested, enjoys a cuddle from time to time. don't really have anyone else i would feel happy asking the favour of taking DS for a while.

Ds is going crazy. Proper screaming fit everytime I tried to put him down so I just had to leave him to try and do dinner. Dp came in and he wouldn't even stop for him. My carbonara has taken me half an hour to make poor dd is starving and everyone else is grumpy.