DECEMBER 2012: The start of crawling and the end of maternity leave

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My HV told us 6 months for sleep training too, I've also read that elsewhere.

I totally understand people sleep training. I've considered it many times for T, and I still do consider it when I'm exhausted after another awful night. I'm just not ready to do it, and I think you have to be committed before you start. I'm happy with where we are just now, though I still ardently wish he'd sleep through, or just a little more.

Each person has to decide what's right for them. No finger pointing or the like here.

Agreed Stacks - it's right for you only if it's right for you. It isn't the way for everyone. And it would be awful to do it if you, or you and your partner, weren't committed to it.

Bloody husband's work - his boss has let all these people go on leave without finishing their own work, so it gets lumped on him. No idea what time he'll be home and tomorrow's likely the same. Thank god he has only a month left there.

Oh, nearly forgot - hales, yay for your job!

Congratulations hales it's great to get a job that fits in with the dcs well.

Well it took 1 1/2 hrs to get DS down to sleep. He's so uncomfy. Thankfully I've found a pair of pjs in 6-9 months with scratch mits attached (Unfortunately I only have the one pair) so he can't scratch himself to bits overnight. If he's still bad tomo I'll get a doc appointment for Friday and see what other options we have.

We have anti pruritic (anti itch) bath oil. you cam emollients with this in too but they made her worse. I give her piriton for the itching too but the box says suitable for one year upwards - check options with the dr.

Just had a major laughing fit after DH tried to sing the bionic man theme tune then realised half way through he was in fact singing the emmerdale theme time!

Fantastic news about the job Hales. Must be such a relief to know you don't need to worry about childcare.

Stacks - sounds like you are making great progress.

Pidg - glad your friend is ok. Must have been terrifying for you all.

Spotty - agree with everyone else, just do whatever works for you both. Absolutely no reason to feel bad. You've got a happy, well fed baby who's benefiting from both bm and the bottle.

Following on from the discussion a bit back about babies who just want to feed from one side, N has now developed a clear preference for the right boob. Unfortunately, this is the side that DS1 ended up feeding from almost exclusively so I do fear for my future appearance. It must just be more easier to feed from for some reason or maybe it tastes better from that side .

WL. I sing allsorts of random things to N, and keep forgetting that the windows are open and the neighbours are often in the garden. Oh well .

willyou does it make you better (in a more normal rather than schadenfreude way) that I accidentally whacked dd2 (3) in the face with the wheels end of a hobby horse today? She's gone to bed with a plaster on her forehead

Aw poor DD WL, hope she's ok. See, the thing is I read that and think straight away that there's no reason for you to feel bad, it was clearly just an accident and these things are bound to happen, but when it's me I instantly beat myself up about it. Why are we so good at making ourselves feel guilty?

Ispy that's what my mother said when O was born - motherhood will give you something to feel guilty about for the rest of your life, real or not! (Long standing joke in my friends and family that I can find something to apologise for in almost any given situation..)

Thanks for the advice pidj - dh agrees with you vis a vis HV; he happily falls asleep with cuddles more and more these days but neither of us are prepared to force the issue. Also not pointing fingers at anyone else's parenting, just not for us. Scary about your friend but thank goodness you were there and knew what to do; hope she gets better quickly and her dc are okay.

Sorry about your husband's job mama - good thing he's almost done!

WL we went through a stage of singing eye of the tiger to ds during nappy changes as he'd wave his arms about and forget to wriggle while I got the nappy on. Must look utterly silly!

Why wide awake at 4.30am why? Husband got home from work at 1.30.

Ds woke up at 4:50! Proper wake up for the day anyway I ignored his chatting and dosed then dd came in at 5:30 but dp has taken her downstairs so I dosed some more (I think ds did too) until just now so not a bad night.

Mama your poor dh!

WL poor dd2 I'm always accidentally hurting dd it makes me feel awful!

Ds completely refuses to sit up. He can do it with one hand for balance but whenever I try and sit him up he just pushes back to lie down and roll over. I keep thinking he's never going to be able to sit if he doesn't try!

It's just another milestone, Spotty, one day he'll find a reason to sit and just do it. Just like one day R will decide he'd rather sleep longer than wake up for food and it'll be breakfast time :)

Getting him down earlier definitely works. He did 7-12:30, 12:45-3:45 and 4-6:30. Woke up happy :o

Spotty A can happily sit for ages, but I often have to trick him into it. He'll refuse to bend in the middle, so I end up lying him down instead.

Excellent news Hales. And well done on staying calm Pidj.

I'm not sleep training A, not for a good while yet. DD managed it for herself at 25 months so I'm sure he will at some point. Although, DD had slept through once by now, and he hasn't.

Last day at work for this week. Roll on my long weekend.

Great news Hales.

Hope your friend feels better today Pidj how frightening.

He's now had so many accidents that in getting a bit blasé WL. Plus the pram in the face was DH's fault!

I've got a poorly boy today. He has the same as me so I know his throat is sore, ears are itchy, and feeling snuffly and a bit rubbish. He also has a slight temperature at 37.6 (aural), normal aural temp for him is 35.6-36.2. He is okay in himself as long as I dose him with calpol. When do I take him to the doctors? I presume I'm okay to just monitor and give him painkillers for now?

Take him to the doctor if temp goes over 38 and doesn't come down after calpol/Neurofen. Hope he feels better soon!

Bit of a tangent but not sure where else to post and you lot are my mentors! Trying to sort O's naming ceremony- what do we need to think about, bar booking the celebrant? Not got the foggiest!

'Guide parents' or whatever you want to call them
Food
Drink
Cake
Poems to be read by grandparents or guide parents
Gifts from guide parents to baby (something instead of a bible)
Ummm that's all I've got!

A room for everyone to go to after unless they're going to yours. Balloons?

I hate snooty recruitment agencies. That's all.

They're hopefully coming to my parents as they have more space.. hadn't thought about cake. I love cake!

Don't forget the cake!

Hope you both feel better willyou.

I have a cray baby today - slept 7pm-4.30am, I fed her and she dozed until 5.20am when I topped her up. She then slept until 7.30!! This is unheard of. She then wouldn't nap, even if I shifted her morning nap later, and didn't en up asleep until 1.30pm, a very long wake time.

Any ideas what to do when baby wakes at a weirdly different time? Keep same nap time, or same awake time before naps?

Sitting in the park after lovely picnic with friends. Sadly they both had to head off - I'd have happily lazed with them all day.

Mama I do same awake time between naps

J's now quite lethargic and We've hit 38.3, calpol administered. How long do I give it to come down before calling OOH?