November 2012 - Crawling? Already? Uh-oh!

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1779903-November-2012-The-weaning-adventure-continues

Someone has shoved a rocket up DP's arse.

Fucking hell. Almost (ALMOST!) feel redundant. And lazy .

I am expressing in a fucking storeroom. at least it has a fucking chair in it. oh and ican't use it at lunch time when I need to because that's when the cleaners use it. fuckers. so I have to wait till 2.30 pm when my breasts are good and sore. there is a meeting room I could use but no that's for proper stuff like conferences. tempted to get my tits out and express in the "breakout" area and see who dares complain. cunts. so glad its Wednesday. as you are.

The nursery he's going to is closing. Fuck.

Fog ran off and got taken to rspca.

Thank fuck it's swearing Wednesday!!!

Spent all day sorting out childcare. Or trying tooz

Brockle that sucks. If there are no "proper conferences" going on at lunchtime, why don't you suggest to them that your boobs need a conference with a pump?

Det did you get up to any mischief?!

PR looking forward to this laminated plan very much.

Night 4 of piglet being put in cot awake. Only took 16 minutes tonight. First night was closer to 30 .

The rogue cat made its way into our kitchen again tonight, and was discovered midway through nomming dhs last slice of cake . DH was not happy. The cat may have encountered some water.

It's almost at final draft stage. I have been tweaking it after observing DD1 today. It's in French. You'll have to goofle translate ;-)

S'up biatches?

Good to see the to do plans today.

Mine went pretty well. No coffee but treated myself to a m&s sushi.

P still whinging but I was much more chilled and just gave her moral support. She did actually manage 3 steps crawling today so we have progress.

Glad the CM visit went fairly well BP. I will be doing that next week and I am veeeeery anxious about it. What did you do with your time?

I had fuck loads to say.

Ah! Good on you for giving blood pp. I got a letter recently saying I couldn't for a year after giving birth. There is a bus comes to our school though so I will get soon enough.

I embraced the mess of baby nomming today. Pics on Facebook. I actually had to excavate her nostrils with a cotton bud.

Day 1 of getting M up earlier and hopefully to bed earlier had gone well. After sleeping 11:30-5am (a lot longer than normal) she then fed and went back down until we had to wake her at 7:20 so I could take DH to work.

Spent the day with my sisters as per usual on a Wednesday, she napped twice!! Took her to pick DH up at 6 and she fell asleep in the car. Got home, woke, fed, straight back to sleep so she's been in bed since 6:30!

She woke 30 mins ago for a feed so we put a night time nappy on and sleeping bag over the vest she's had on all day and she's gone straight back to bed.

So far so good.

Decided we needed to start getting up earlier than 9/10am seeing as we'll be getting up at 5:30/6 when I go back to work.

Pass I meant to say the other day that you will think back fondly to washing food off the floor when you are clearing up poo :-)

Good job fatima

Can babies get territorial over toys yet?

Today p was lying on her tummy on the floor. The pussy came over looking for some attention. In between the two of them was P's favourite toy - a Vtech soft radio "dance baby dance". P stared unflinching at pussy, reached out, grabbed the radio and pulled it away. The whole time she did this was didn't break her stare at pussy!

Thank you VQ! with an aging pussy I already have my fair share of poo cleaning!

Pass that last sentence sounds so very wrong

And on that note, am off to bed. FC a better night than last night. Can't be much more hellish, right?

Right as my brain is basically mush today from crying and stressing, pros and cons if nursery vs childminder? ATM I'm verging towards childminder as I think he'll go out more and be better in a home environment going to groups etc as I have been. I can't believe this has happened but anyway. At least he's not started yet.

Hellooo all! Writing this then an early night for me, hopefully

Hiya wellieboots good to hear from you :)

Hope you enjoy it in NI pennie :)

I love lists too pr I wrote a massive one today, it feels so good to cross things off! I tend to break my to do list down into tiny bits, so it looks huge but isn't that big and just means I get to cross things off more often and feel like I'm getting somewhere

Well done pp :)

Hope you enjoyed your day off det and hope you have a nice evening gt :)

That sounds really unfair brockle :(

pass sounds good! I often find food up e's nose . Today has been a pretty good day in weaningdom here too. Am prepared for tomorrow to be doubly rubbish to make up for it! Today he ate at all 3 meals, quite a sizeable amount at lunch even. 100g of purée, and some finger food. That's quite a bit for him. Not sure how much he 'should' be having but he seemed to even quite enjoy the purée he had, it was red pepper, tomato and carrot. Also that last sentence made me spit coffee on the iPad. Don't tell dp :p

That sucks horsey, I hope you find somewhere for him to go, I've no idea which would be better, I think personally I'd like a cm for the reasons you suggested but then I think nursery is pretty good for the social aspect.

E has been good today, bit of a whingebag toward bedtime and I'm not sure why cos he didn't wake up till 6:15 but apparently was so exhausted he had to cry in the bath and fall asleep as soon as his head hit the mattress!

R napped in the sling for dp at 6 when i left, howled in the bath (too cold, oops!) and has been down since 8:30. Clever daddy! I really should go to bed, between the no sleep last night and the lack of blood today I'm shattered. Am off to a mate tomorrow, hers are big so she like cuddles mwahahahahahaha just need to get vvvdp to running club for 9:15

Horsey was it on a hospital site? Same happened to the one at mine last year. Closed with just days notice.

It's happening more and more. :(

My personal preference is a childminder, or a mix of CM and nursery. Certainly up to 2 anyway. But that's just me. It would obviously depend on the CM too. I go on gut feeling when meeting them. I've not yet been wrong, thank goodness.

For me I like the fact that a CM has a smaller environment than a nursery. I know there are more workers in a nursery and the children have key workers, but I prefer the idea of one person continuously, getting to know them, their family etc. Or at least that is how it was for my previous experiences. I also prefer the idea that the keyworker won't change with a CM unless I chose to. Where as people come and go at nurseries, staff change etc. I want the continuity for O.

I also like the idea of a home from home, less structured environment. I don't want his naps/feeds/nappy changes etc to be done at the same time every day. I'd rather be able to say (dictate?!) that he sleeps and feeds at x time, and nappy changes are done when they need to be, not just to a timed schedule. O doesn't let you know he's got a dirty nappy, and they don't smell. So he needs regular checks rather than changing to schedule. He could of had a poo hiding in there for 3-4 hours.

I'm kinda waffling now. But given my own personal previous experiences, I found a CM worked better for us at a young age.

O will go to nursery when he is older. But I will always have a CM once we need childcare as this is what I will use when he goes to school. I want to build a good relationship with a CM as we will be living here throughout O's childhood, and he will be going to a local school, where we will need a local CM.

It has to work for you and your needs though.

The downside for me with a CM is that you can't just drop them off or pick up when you want. Although if the CM is local enough it isn't too much of an issue. And if you work very set hours it is fine. Me and DP work shifts so it could be a pain in the bum. But I've gone to where the CM is in the past and dropped off/picked up there. Eg at a toddler group, or at the school etc.

Two loads of washing washed and on the line, three loads of dishwashing, mowed the lawn and strimmed the edges, made a slow cooked lamb stew, roasted butternut squash and sweet potatoes, freshly made baby lunch and dinner, baby nails all cut, and oh planted up the entire front garden with over 70 plants - even with my sis and DMIL helping / holding the bear I. AM. FUCKING. SHAGGED. Must have on nom nom... DH and his Dad went fishing together (their father's day present) and rolled in at 7pm claiming tiredness I laughed and handed DH the hose to water the new plants in

Oh and less chance of him getting hold of other kids food and eating things he can't :(

Well fuck sticks today,
n was seemed very tired this morning,but apart from that seemed ok. I let slip what was happening with P at the end of baby group , and the lady seemed a bit concerned, and said I could talk to her any time.
Anyway, went to my mums to try and feed N some sandwiches as its on P no go list. He still seemed tired but ok, he even crawled quite a distance. I've gone and got baby gates .

So the fuck up starts when I get back. and
Long story short, N had green snot coming out of his nose and P wanted me to phone the drs about it. P has a cold at the mo, so I've not been worried. I refused, so he phoned. He got a emergency appointment, and we were up there in 15 minutes. Dr looks about and N has uslars on the back of his throat. n has antibiotics, and is much brighter.

So I'm never going to hear the end of it.
Evil

Rubbish rubbish horsey.

Personally, my feelings are that a good childminder and a good nursery will both have their advantages. I felt much more comfortable with nursery because it was like a mini-school. I recognised the posters on the walls, I got what they were trying to achieve. I found childminders much harder to get my head around. P is now signed up (as long as the lady doesn't change her mind!) with a CM because we couldn't get get the places we needed at nursery. Now we have an actual CM I feel better about the way things have gone - more flexibility, a home environment, small numbers of people and so on. It doesn't stop me blubbing whenever I think about it but hay ho.

I am sorry you had to deal with it.

brockle if you could brass neck it I would love it if you sat in the staff room expressing. Pumping passive agressively.
A store room is hardly acceptable really.

Fist bumps kyz! Weaning buds fo Eva! Tomorrow I think p will have toast with peanut butter. Lunch is likely to be an Ella's kitchen thing and maybe some finger type stuff for tea. As p is knew to spoon feeding I thought I would stick to 1 a day. She had bean casserole the other day. I think I will leave that one for a while! We all suffered. Poor p.

det I'm thinking like you now. I think till 2/3 he'd be better with a suitable cm or nanny. I'm going to look at nurseries anyway. I've put an advert on a website too so might get something back. Yeah it's running at a loss so they won't subsidise it. Why they don't just increase the fees? But anyway. As I said to a couple if folks, I was going to go back tomorrow so good job really I took9 months. And I was wobbling about nursery too.

Thank kyz! I did enjoy it, but I am worried. I think someone swapped DP.

He literally hasn't stopped til now. He's been on the go all day with O, and doing housework all evening.

In fact every time I go to do something, he's fecking well got there first. He asked me to make O's bottles (he normally does them). The kettle started spouting water from the thing you click at the side to turn it on. Literally, water pouring out from it when you tipped the kettle (we've had it 6 weeks!). So I put a pan of water on to boil. Went in to get said pan of water off boil, to find out not only was it off the boil, but the bottles had been made.

He's finished off the curtain poles, and cleaned up the mess.

He's done 3 lots of washing up.

He went back out to the shop for detergent for the washing machine when we found we had ran out. Then he put O's washing on without me asking again.

And he took the dog for a walk, and picked up DS1 from scouts.

He's hung up wet washing.

He even hoovered the living/dining room at 8.20 this morning.

Oh, and when I came down to iron DS's uniform at 8.20, DS1 was already dressed in the uniform that DP had gone and ironed. That's despite him getting up at 6am, feeding O, then getting back up at 7 when he realised O was just not going to stay in his cot playing any longer.

O was changed, breakfasted, and medicated before 8. And as I say, DP was hoovering when I came downstairs.

Can we have a WTF for DP please?! And he can have a vvvDP today!!!

Oh fucksake evil I so feel for you. Honestly i don't know where to start. Right. Poor n is unwell. That is the be all and end all really, isn't it? 9 times out of 10 the green snot would have been his cold. But anyway, you need to be a team! He should be backing you up and vice versa. It's awful that it feels like point scoring.

Passes to Det! Good job!

Sorry I've not caught up,
det great news on your DP
horsey sorry to hear about the childcare troubles. n is in a nursery as I felt he would benefit more there, and he has! I've posted on Fb
big I'm glad F enjoined her time at The CM

To everyone else
Evil

Brockle Do you work for a large company? Can you speak to HR?

"The Workplace Regulations and Approved Code of Practice require employers to provide suitable facilities for pregnant and breastfeeding
mothers to rest.The Health and Safety Executive (HSE)recommends
that it is good practice for employers to provide a private, healthy and safe environment for breastfeeding mothers to express and store
milk. It is not suitable to use toilets for this purpose. You can find out more about this on the HSE website, www.hse.gov.uk/mothers,
or by phoning their helpline."