November 2012 - Crawling? Already? Uh-oh!

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1779903-November-2012-The-weaning-adventure-continues

Arse at more illness, although I did have a chuckle at the mental image of the squirts.

Evil hope you enjoyed your wine.

Det how's the sofa this morning. When I logged on and saw 3 pages had been written overnight, I suspected there would have been some form of mischief Nice to start the day with a smile, it's taken my mind off wanting to get a horn and toot it in a slumbering dhs ear.

Not such a good night last night. Combination of restless baby and boob-splosion. Up for the day at 6.

Bit pissed off at dh tbh. I'm fed up at coming down in the morning to find the kitchen a total shit pit. I asked him to do the dishes and clean up after tea, and once again, he hasn't even touched it. So there is food lying around, dirty water in the sink, dirty dishes pile high. The room smells, and I can't get breakfast for me and F without cleaning the lot first. I don't ask him to do much at all, and he conveniently "forgets" what little I do ask.

Rant over for now

pig I lost count of the number of times DH would send me off to bed saying don't worry, I'll do everything. And nothing would be done. So now he always goes to bed before me (as one of us has to deal with dd1) and I make my kitchen sparkle before going myself. Getting up to a messy kitchen puts me in a bad mood for the day.

Thanks big I really enjoyed the wine and cheese but didn't finish the very small bottle.:(
Evil

So no advice pig just sympathy

I'm clear it's bullying. She wants me out. I'm just unsure as to how I should react. I'll copy the mails so far onto fb.

Bp - I would take that horn and do worse with it than toot it in his slumbering ear...

Arse - you are still our wonderful and wise vq. I am just so sorry you are broken at the moment. You have had rotten luck.

Pr - I really feel for you too. I was bullied at work about 15 years ago and still feel anxious and angry when I think about it. Am really pleased you have followed up with hr. Hope it works out for you.

Luis - glad j is recovering his form - and still so delighted his wiring has been sorted. I'd love to know more -- will pm you

Lily - hope you are mostly happy and good busy. It is full on as they get bigger and what with settling to a new home and country you sure have your hands full.

Lots of people having hard times at the moment. Am exhausted here too. Long term sleep depravation, plus everyone has colds, and I'm really struggling diet wise for me and g - I am finding it so hard to know what is ok as he seems to have slight reactions left right and centre and his sleep is shot. Roll on allergy testing and some proper advice. Doesn't help that dh is coeliac and can't have oats - so I can't even use one sort of milk in mash etc. Am really hating cooking and mealtimes at the moment - along with all the cleaning up after it is relentless. I'm also really struggling to fit in all R's physio and speech workl. Which is the most important thing I need to do. I would just love the world to stop for a day so I can recharge.

Thank you Bry x

Welcome stacks

Sounds like you had a nice day chasing Good luck with ....... Everything!

Glad J is better Luis It sounds like he's doing brilliantly.

bry sorry if I've missed it but do you know when the allergy testing is happening? Fingers crossed you get some answers xx

lily I know what you mean about finding it hard to keep up - it was definitely easier when they were tiny. I just read daily and post when I can. I do feel a bit on the outside but I like to keep up with what everyone is doing even if I don't contribute much.

Nice sunny day here - N is asleep and DP has taken DD1 to a boot fair so I am going to do some much needed wildly exciting cleaning.

Just to clarify - DP has taken DD1 to wander round the boot fair. Not to sell her. She can be a challenge but we love her dearly :)

I feel strangely gleeful. DH was mid-nappy change when F decided to ease her constipation. Oh how I laughed I have never heard dhs voice go so high before - "oh my god, help me, help, it's everywhere, oh no there's mooooore"

Now that post needs a 'like' BP! Wonderful

Well that was an enjoyable read catching up. I initially assumed arse was PR at first with her love of bunging medication up there, but of course who else but VQ?

Welcome Stacks, as others have said you are definitely in the right place for allergies and intolerance, surprising that the Dec lot have escaped. They must be a tolerant bunch. My DS L has CMPI but I'm reasonably sure it's intolerance not allergy and we are currently challenging it in a completely unscientific way as our paed was not very helpful in that respect! But just giving dairy in cooked form eg as an ingredient in bread etc.

Have any other allergy people been offered a blood test? L had one straight off to test for anaphylactic response to milk, egg etc which came back negative so it has been less of a worry to offer him allergens, it doesn't rule out a mild reaction but at least he is unlikely to have a severe reaction.

I find the trouble is that there are a thousand reasons why a baby might be sleepless, grumpy, have tummyache or even come out in a rash - well there is with this baby - so it's hard to pinpoint if he's reacting to anything. He has occasional little patches of spots on his head or near his mouth but I can't SPOT (geddit?) a pattern.

Ha Ha sorry I thought it was PR too at first! VQ You are funny and kind and for me have been the very ...how can I put this?....Like youve always been sat at the head of the table all this time..in your rightful place...I dunno... but dont ever change!

I haven't caught up yet.
But had to share my first wtf comment /conversation- if you know when he is doing a poo why dont you sit him on a potty? have you bought a potty yet?Buy one as you might not like what I buy and I'll get him used to it while I'm back.

Wtf comment number two - you still hold the bottle for him? He should hold it himself ! Don't hold it for him for a few days. He will quickly learn.

She has been back less then 24hours. I have 6weeks till she is gone.

GT I can't decide if that's better than your DH falling down pissed all the time? . I don't give a shit how early my DS does things as a baby as long as makes the most of his talents as an adult. Holding his own bottle will not make H a genius, but m'eh try telling Grandma that. I've been gritting my teeth against my PIL this week the classic being that whenever he cries, they somehow see it as him being naughty. Errrr actually he has no concept of being 'well behaved' or being 'naughty' - crying usually means he's in pain, hungry, thirsty or sat in his own excrement. How naughty of him to try to communicate this.

BPLP hahaha instant karma for DH - I luff it .

Poor PR everyone thinks you're anally obsessed. I didn't think it was you! .

I too think of VQ holding us all to a gentle order, holding the conch, sorting out squabbles and being generally gently magnanimous with a naughty sense of humour. Valium King is a very lucky man .

Well no sleep training (am too much of a wuss), just a combination of solids, him plain old getting older and my avoiding foods which piss him off seems to have given us a week of either sleeping through or one feed at 6am and back down for another couple of hours. Why the hell did I go to bed late every night and not make the most of it????

In other news the PIL have gone home. I imagine they are at the nearest service station slathering butter all over themselves and rolling in cheese.

While we are all mummies here (and a daddy too) I think of VQ as the quiche mummy. I feel like I am fumbling around 'pretending' to be an adult, but VQ is an actual adult, gently guiding us all to the right place.

You are very kind

I have today completed the PND assessment tool off my own back. Thought I would take it in to discuss with the Doctor on Tuesday. When scoring if in any doubt I chose the less worrying of the options as I do not want to be dramatic. I scored 26/30. Over 10 is cause for concern. Oops. Best get some medication down me then. I scored pretty badly at 6 weeks, but nothing compared to now. The GP asked me nothing so I said nothing. Nurses really do make the worst patients.

A lot of it is tiredness, but the end result is the same. And it cannot all be tiredness.

GT FFS what a bloody knob. Just laugh and treat her like she is joking. My mum is a bit obsessive about toilet training . I wondered why. She hates changing nappies. Poo ones anyway. DS1 was 2 yrs 5 months when he toilet trained. She expects O to be under 2. I just laughed.

Arse/VQ! Yes, HCP are just terrible patients. I agree. Where did you find the tool? Online? Sometimes I think I should do it, but for me it is just all circumstance, and I see things improving. I think. You've had a hell of a time both in pregnancy, and after. I wish wish wish it would all fuck the fuck off. It is unfair. Grossly unfair. Fuck you ^^ up there somewhere dealing all the shit out.

PR It was the up the arse thing for me too... sorry .

BP The sofa?! I must go back and re-read!! And FUCK YES! Karma is a bitch. Serves him damn well right. Hope you just laughed and walked away from his shit covered form hah!

O had another rubbishy night for him. He woke before I was asleep again. Settled him, 2 further wake ups before 3. DP then fed him at 3.30, and did 2 further wake ups. He was awake in his cot playing then shouting from 6, but neither me or DP had the energy to do anything. He was just annoyed at being on his own in the end. DP gave up first and got up. I sat there like a zombie for a while!

Everyone here is tired. Except O.

He's currently dancing to kerrang TV?!

Damn. Forgot my news. This morning I am at my lightest weight in a few years. :)

Feels good!

Celebrated with 4 pieces of toast and 4 fried eggs . But all SW style so it's fine! And I cut the crusts off all the bread so I could have 60g of actual bread rather than stupid crusts!!

Just google PND assessment tool. It is the Edinburgh Post-natal depression scale (EPND). I think all new mums are meant to complete it prior to 6 week check. HVs are meant to do it I think.

My mum has been suggesting I put J on his potty since 6 weeks. She is horrified that DD2 still wears nappies at night and when out. She wears pants at nursery and uses the potty at home usually. If I did not have J to look after then I would be able to take her when she wants the loo, but I got fed up of clearing up pee and poo. DD1 was in night nappies until she was nearly 6.

And well done on the weight loss Detective x

VQ - I've never heard of PND assesment. There is no way my HV used it, but I got asked of I'm depressed but that's it.

Evil

I did it, and scored 0 . But for me, it didn't ask the right questions. It asked about sleep - but asked if you have trouble sleeping due to being unhappy. I don't know why I can't sleep, but I think it is because there is so much running through my mind. Plus the thought that someone could wake at any given moment.

I don't know.

But I wouldn't have said I would score 0. Very odd. I think it is missing some vital questions.

Well according to the questions I have depression. The thing is I don't, as my family is going through a very tough time and I'm worried about them all.

Evil