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Still brooking no argument for sleep, glorious sleep!

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Stacks · 18/06/2013 19:45

This will be the thread where all brooking babies learn to self settle and sleep through the night (the real version, not that 5hr at a time thing).

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Bumpiemalumpie · 12/02/2014 19:28

Hello all,

the last few days have been a triumph. I have managed a shower each day (thankfully he likes the sound of running water), apart from Monday when I didn't manage to have brekkie before the HV came I have had brekkie, even managed to cook porridge with lo in arms (in microwave!!)

Yesterday we went for a walk and today we had friends over!!

I have gone against better judgement and introduced a dummy! however, he is more settled in the evening and slept in his basket last night and not my bed!!

how is everyone?

sweetie, I have a friend whose lo won't take more than 5oz and so has started to wean at 3mths. Seems well enough. I am sure E is just going through a 'phase'!!

keepitgoing · 12/02/2014 19:53

sweetie I wouldn't give water, why would she drink that over milk. and she'll need milk. just try little and often. we had our jabs yesterday and she was v sleepy till this morning. it won't last.

you can check dehydration by the fontanelle, should not be sunken. and if you pinch their skin and they're dehydrated apparently it stays pinched iyswim. the gp told me when we went when s was sick.

weaning at 3 months wtf??

cartoontrickster · 12/02/2014 20:12

thanks olives I'm like this with everything, thinking that I can't do it , doing it wrong etc. mum and dh have both said I'm too hard on my self.
we had a bit of a bad night but I dragged myself out of bed, washed dressed put make up on. my bestie came over this morning then I went out in the afternoon to the pub with 2 of my antenatal friends. am knackered now though. N needs his bath he's sicked up and it went all in his ear and his hair!
in other news, there must be a new bfp over on conception because af seems to be here!

cartoontrickster · 12/02/2014 20:15

missed those last few posts,stupid phone!
had better get on though. try and catch up later.

Bumpiemalumpie · 12/02/2014 21:16

Ok, TMI alert but Ned some advice. I don't know whether its due to the emcs or diet but I am really windy Blush Blush and constipatedHmm Hmm does anyone have any advice? I have tried lactulose and fybrogel but I just feel like I may pop! Blush Blush

keepitgoing · 13/02/2014 09:04

AF already trix Shock Shock

bumpie I think ive heard if painful wind post cs. poor you. sorry no advice but I'd see the gp if it continues

s is a right snot bag at the mo Sad poor thing

cartoontrickster · 13/02/2014 09:42

i know! bloody witch and I thought she'd got sweetie early Sad .
bumpie are you due to see a midwife? they might have some advice.
Nathaniels just been shown his cot he happily layed in it watching his mobile. he looks teeny it though! obviously it will be a while before he moves in to it. but its nice for him to get used to his things and see his bedroom.

cartoontrickster · 13/02/2014 09:43

poor s keep is there anything you can give her? is it a full on cold?
sweetie how are E and F?

keepitgoing · 13/02/2014 10:28

she see happy enough. you can squirt saline drops up to loosen snot, and from 3m use a decongestant.

that's a good plan showing him the cot. do you call him Nate BTW? cute!!

SweetieTime · 13/02/2014 12:03

Trix I put DTs in their nursery cot for a nap yesterday. I agree that they need to get used to different places. We have the changing station in the nursery so are used to been changed in there. I put the twin waiting to be changed in the cot and they do look teeny tiny.
AF got me at 6 weeks. Are you about the same? It seemed to last ages too, well over a week.

Bumpie I didn't have wind but did have a struggle to poop. I took lactalose too and that seemed to do the job, I also tried to have All Bran for breakfast too. I also developed very painful piles too, just to add to the injustice of it all. I never had these in pregnancy only afterwards.

Keep DH is obsessed with DTs getting cold and thinks we need to get one of those sucker things. I think they seem cruel, not sure if they work. Hope S is better soon.

DTs seem back to normal this morning although E is still off her milk. She is having some but not the usual amounts. SIL is coming this afternoon to watch twins while I go back to the hospital for some talking therapy about my anxiety. I am more nervous leaving them with her than going for the appointment. I know I am being precious but it is so difficult to hand over the responsibility.

cartoontrickster · 13/02/2014 12:33

he was 5wks on tues Sad . my infection and wound aren't completely better either.
keep soooo didn't mean to use his name! ops! don't mind brookers knowing though obviously. I'm not really one for shortening names, unless its their preference, but yes I rather like nate. when choosing names I always considered what it might be shortened to and whether I hated it.
N always has boogers Grin he snorts when he crys sometimes, don't think I'd want to go at his nose with one of those extractors though.
sweetie I hope your appointment is helpful. I'm feeling so much better and get more confident all the time even though have still got some way to go, I hope your anxieties dissolve soon too. I'm sure the twins will be absolutely fine while you are gone.

keepitgoing · 13/02/2014 19:11

sweetie those things do work, though she hates it. in fact I just used it.

keepitgoing · 13/02/2014 19:13

hope e is better tomorrow and your appointment goes well. good on you leaving them with your mum. they'll be fine though I know what you mean, I can't switch off. I think the most I've left her for is an hour.

keepitgoing · 14/02/2014 14:51

sweetie how was your appointment?

SweetieTime · 14/02/2014 19:16

it was a bit full on to be honest. it was in a secure unit where mums with serious mental health issues are treated. I am nothing like that so agreed to be discharged from their care. I feel I have turned a corner over the last week or so. I think I am getting my head around the change that has taken place and have accepted that there is no going back to our old selfish lives. I had never thought past giving birth so had no idea what the next year holds. I have found it quite overwhelming especially combined with my health issues. Getting there now though.

keepitgoing · 15/02/2014 20:19

sweetie I was just saying to dh I feel like I was a bit crazy until about 9 weeks in. so glad you're feeling better.

we are having nap issues. she does them but often not longer than 30-40 mins which means by bedtime she's knackered.

we move house next week so been packing today! woo hop.

trix and bumpie how are you? enjoying the weekends with dhs?

Bumpiemalumpie · 15/02/2014 20:58

Hello, I am in a guilt phase! I managed to get Z to sleep in the basket at night. However, last night, he was so over tired and screamy I gave in and brought him into our bed, he then slept 3.5 hours at s time!!! Blush I just keep making these expectations and then feel like a failure when I go back but then feel bad for having had the expectations in the first time! Hmm

God, this parenting is hard work and guilt is so over powering!!

How is everyone?

sweetie I am pleased you are feeling like you are moving on, you have had a hard time!

I have read down but my memory is worse than the fish's!!!

musicalmrs · 15/02/2014 21:25

Sweetie, craziness is definitely part of parenting. It does calm down. Becoming a parent is such a rollercoaster, and it's hard to get your head around how much your life has changed - let alone for you with two babies!

Bumpie, I found the easiest thing was to forget about expectations! DD was the same re coming into bed - went through phases of sleeping much better when in bed with me. I got an awful lot more sleep too, so I figured it was best for the both of us. The midwives made me co-sleep with her for our night in hospital as it was the only way she'd settle, so why I had any idea it would be different at home I have no idea Grin. Either way, there's no right or wrong about lots of these things - there's just lots of choices, 'tis what parenting is about. Some people hate co-sleeping, and others love it.. personally I loved it, but without it I'd have got very little sleep.

Keep Eeek to moving house, where are you off to? Hope the packing is going well.

Bumpiemalumpie · 15/02/2014 23:16

Okay, anxiety alert, little one has had pesto like poo for a couple of days. I didn't think anything of it but I am sat here feeding so decided stupidly, why?? to Google it. I am not anxiety wracked as it suggests it is because lo is not getting enough hind milk. I think I may have got into a bad pattern of feeding, looking back as I have not been encouraging him to feed longer when he comes off or doing both breast in each feed.

has anyone got any advice or experience??

sorry for the stupidity!

keepitgoing · 16/02/2014 11:04

bumpie I don't think it's really sth to worry about but I had this and just fed in blocks is only off one side for 3 hours. that sorted it

keepitgoing · 16/02/2014 11:04

bumpie I don't think it's really sth to worry about but I had this and just fed in blocks is only off one side for 3 hours. that sorted it

keepitgoing · 16/02/2014 11:04

bumpie I don't think it's really sth to worry about but I had this and just fed in blocks is only off one side for 3 hours. that sorted it

SweetieTime · 16/02/2014 19:33

Bumpie we aren't BF but DTs poos are often different colour or consistency for no reason. Hope it clears up and gets back to normal, anything different does cause worry. If it happens again it might be worth making a note of what you have been eating & drinking.
I have always said I will do what I have to to get through. Don't feel guilty for what you have to do. Don't let anyone judge you as they are not in your shoes at the time.

Keep I was speaking to my reflexologist about feeling so unwell, both physically & mentally, for so long. She said we should give it 12 weeks post birth as that is how long it can take for hormones etc to ease but the it can actually take a full year to get back to normal. I suppose it makes sense when it has taken us 9 months to actually grow these babies we cannot expect to be back to how we were in a matter of weeks.

Trix how are things going?

Bumpiemalumpie · 16/02/2014 22:01

Thank you keep and sweetie, I feel so neurotic a lot of the time.

We have done longer feeds today and the poo colour is lightening! He appears a bit more content as well!

This parenting malarkey is very tasking sometimes!!

How old are your bubbas now?

keepitgoing · 17/02/2014 08:21

that's interesting sweetie, and I guess makes sense

bumpie she is 14 weeks!

we are going to the gp shortly about her dreadful skin. it looks so sore I'm just glad she can't scratch Sad

mapping is getting me down. she tends to do short ones and is then tired by the end of the day. the odd occasion she does 1.5-2 hours in the middle of the day she's so much happier. it seems cat napping is common at this age though. maybe just have to ride it out.