November 2012 - Adventurous eaters, food refusers and everything in between

[StuntNun]

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kyz he needs 600ml a day minimum. He will drink water. I'd focus on one feed near food. That helped me and he just seemed to associate food with filling him up? Was odd! But you do what you want to do and what works for you. But babies are clever. They know what they need. Well most seem to?! Ds is very cautious over food he's not sure of. Every time I offer something he takes a tiny bit to taste then decides whether it not go back for more!! He's getting better with new things. But is still very picky!! So now the new thing is added one ice cube to things he does like?! As such he has all sorts of weird and wonderful combinations but who cares?! He'll get better. And finger food he looks at before trying and again is super safe with it. Other kids just seem to pick up and shove in!! But it's up to him.

You are not a failure though x

Teddy loves sucking labels, BPLP. Every toy I pick up has a soggy label.

Kyz to add the 600ml includes calcium from porridge yogurt etc.

I've also started to think as his milk feeds as meals too, which helped me. I was worried about him dropping feeds but a couple if bf friends stopped feeding during the day and just gave water and food. I had a good chat with other ff mums and the way I've done it seems the most common way here.

Thanks horsey :) so if I did lunch before bottle but kept the others as food after a bottle? He is usually given finger food and puree so he has a choice and there is always water available. I guess if he is full on 8oz bottles food is harder work esp now it has lumps in. I don't like to have a schedule but he does follow routine really well and I much prefer to know where I am. I am struggling with the concept of not worrying when he doesn't want milk but then the idea is to slowlu replace milk with food isn't it. He cannot be starving and I think I need to look at the 20oz as an 'as long as he drinks that much and food is offered' not 'he's only had 4oz this feed' and I keep offering the bottle for about 30 mins. Perhaps I should let him leave it wherever he leaves it, and hope he ups food intake. He really is cautious about food and if the initial taste isn't sweet he often moans a little as if he expects me to get something else. He ate at mils last week and it was only today when he wasn't keen on the fish thing that she told me he had 3 yoghurts the week before because 'he wasnt loving his veggies'

I dont mean to be strict but he DOES eat savoury stuff, of course he prefers sweet stuff but I try not to just go for yoghurts and fruit as easy as that would be!

Thanks vq I do need a slap

you're all so luffly and helpful and put up with me so well

Horsey O does the tiny taste on the lips, licks them, looks curious, thinks for a moment, then dives at the rest of the spoon if he likes it! Makes me laugh!

Chasing Tax credits - you are entitled to by yourself. Your dads income does not matter. You are certainly entitled to CTC. I don't know enough about your employment details to know if you would be entitled to WTC. I assume you are still receiving some kind of maternity pay? TC take off £100 a week of that, so remember to take it off when you work your income out - as they will not. Did you use the checker on entitledto?

There is one on the HMRC website www.hmrc.gov.uk/taxcredits/payments-entitlement/entitlement/question-how-much.htm that is the guidance, and this is the calculator taxcredits.hmrc.gov.uk/Qualify/DIQHousehold.aspx. I would put your current income in, disregard X's income, and maintenance. Also, when it gives you a figure, it is April to April. So you would work a weekly amount out by working out how many weeks from now til next April, then divide the amount by the number of weeks left.

Hope that makes sense?

O has woke up for 2 night feeds again the past 2 nights.

Siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh!

Just when you think you are getting somewhere, no, fuck off, back where you were! Argghhhhhhh! Drives me nuts!

Also, I am tired. I went back to bed this morning when O went down at 9.30. He slept til 12.30. So did I .

I think I am going to take Nytol again tonight. I can't deal with it taking me over an hour to get to sleep. And each wake up it is the same for me to get back to sleep. Can take 2 hours. It's ridiculous. Then the next day I can't function.

We should have gone out this morning, but I just couldn't face it. :(

That's great thanks Detective, I had a look and my child tax credits would be £65 ish per week. I am unemployed so don't qualify for working tax credits. I get maternity allowance which runs out next month. Looks like I will be entitled to income support as a lone parent with a child under 5.

My dad just said that they can't fit the cot in the room I will be sleeping in and Oscar's room is the box room. So O will have to go in his own room . I'm really not ready for that. Think I will just sleep on his floor or co-sleep.

Chasing How much room is there? Kiddicare do a smaller cot? www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplayA_2471_10751_-1_45693_146474_10001_14687

H:90 x W:59.5 x L:95.5cm. Would that fit? If not, do you still have his moses basket? Believe it or not, O still fits in his. Despite his massive length. I do have one that is longer than average though at 75cm long.

Are you in a double bed? The toddle pod I have is suitable for co-sleeping. It was £29.99.

kyz yes that's exactly what I do. So I'd feed him at 11 a purée and desert and offer water. E has 4 ice cubes plus a little yeo yogurt (or a whole Ella's pouch and a yogurt if we're out). And he's dropped the 11am feed. As he has breakfast about 8.30 he gets to 11.30 now quite happily. I offer him water too and he's started drinking more of it. What I have found is his 3pm and 6.30 milks have confirm forward in time slightly, so he tends to have a bottle about 2.30 if not before now and he wants food about 6. But I have started giving him food before his 6.30 bottle in the vague hope hell eat with us about 6 and then merge the 6.30 and 10pm bottle to around 8-9ish and start sleeping a bit longer. But I'm in no rush to push that feed and we've only been on the above routine for a week!!!

detective each time he does it, it really makes me chuckle!!! It's like 'no I don't like it ill play with my bib' or 'more more more'. And it's the sane whether finger food or purée?!

Yep, same here! Although I'm not sure why, because there is really only 2 things he hasn't liked/rejected, so .

I'm the same though, because that is how I test food after the sniff test!.

Chasing I would co-sleep for a bit. It will do you good to have snuggles from the little man in the dead of night. Then perhaps you can slowly focus on getting Os room ready, as a little project over the next few weeks?

Another food dodger today. Plus she's just vommed - Nutramigen smelling vom. That bottle was 5 hours ago?!

I've got a very sleepy baby today . He slept 11 hours in total last night, with 3 wake ups (all in 1 hour, thanks O!). He's got a snotty nose, which he has had since Thursday. He woke up in a stinky old mood, and screamed hysterically for a good 90 minutes this morning because he wasn't getting 100% of everyones attention . Then he had a 3 hour nap, and he's asleep again now, and has been since 2.45, so over 2 hours. Lazy bugger.

Might check his temp when he gets up.

I bet he wakes for 2 feeds again tonight, as he was due a bottle at 4, and his dinner at 5. Fuck!

Feel a bit weird today. Traded in my Audi TT, I bought it when I couldn't get preggers and found out 2 weeks after that I was expecting. It's gone in exchange for a family car.

Sleep dodger finally asleep 2 hours before bedtime obvs

chasing it's not ideal but I left my pop up travel cot in London. It's this one: www.tesco.com/direct/koo-di-pop-up-bubble-travel-cot-blue-polka/211-4747.prd?recommendationId=3f62427f-fc7a-4007-bec5-120b21a9e3ef.0&skuId=211-4747

Check if it fits, my friend works for a courier company so can send it to you for free. I'm back on 10/10 when I will need it but it gives you a couple of months to get used to the idea of putting O in his room. Let me know pls, I would love to help, it's no trouble at all. Xxx

Oh Lily what a lovely offer. I will let you know weds/thurs if that's ok?

Ok. I had a wobble but I'm good now. Just bathed O and waiting to transfer him to cot. Packed up all his bath stuff for my dad to take tomorrow. They have got hold of a mini fridge for O's room so I don't have to be attacked by disturb the dog when I go to get the night feeds.

You guys are amazing and have said exactly what I need to hear. This is the absolute worse bit. The only way is up. I can't wait for me and O to build a home together, that will be the start of the rest of our lives

Sure but pls do let me know, it's just sitting there.

Just sent a message to a friend from back home to say that I'm coming back. She is the one with the 16month old. Oscar is her toyboy . Living with my dad will drive me crackers so I need to get out and see people asap.

Oscar is the 16month old's toyboy. Not my 28 year old friend's. Just so that's clear.

Ah. I have 3 weeks to drop 4 daytime feeds. My boobs are going to suffer, aren't they!?

Chasing glad the wobble is over, and glad you have plans to get O an older laydee! F will only be a tiny bit jealous haha.

Anyone else try to make words up on WWF? Nope. Just be then.

Me! it accepts some random words sometimes so worth a shot!

yep. half the words I play I'm like

Glad you've sorted your wobble chasing things can only get better from here :)

E ate the lovely lentils. Not all of them and not with the enthusiasm he shows a yoghurt but still. I've gone a bit lax with finger foods, he's mostly had toast and fruit of a morning finger food wise. I think I don't give finger foods as an entire meal because I don't know what he eats and the gagging still upsets me

down to 5oz 4 scoops tonight. Fc he still sleeps! Hope this feed is dropped soon and replaced with solids during the day. When I get to 4oz 3 scoops ill do that for a few days then stop altogether. Surely no point going right down to an oz or so