December 2012 Babies Half a year already and still kind of sane.

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Honey i liked Ddas idea of videoing it hopefully your GP will be able to reassure you tomorrow.

Isthat, i'm also jealous of your run i feel i have no energy at the minute, so it sounds like a good idea to me

Ski we did a mixture of purees and finger foods but are having much more success with actual food now. She loves eating fruit especially biting the peach and eating it and red grapes. She loves toast of a morning and again bites pieces off. But H does have teeth and also i have always just put my finger in her mouth and flipped the food out if i think its too big of a piece shes got or if she starts to cough. My nan goes sick at some of the stuff i feed her telling me shes too young but as long as H likes it i won't be stopping the way i'm doing it.

Ski we're sort of doing BLW kind of. In that I'm giving him things to play with/eat at dinner time. He's had cucumber, tomato, carrot, bread and broccoli. All as large chunks fed to himself. He manages to get small bits off to chew, but hasn't swallowed anything yet. He generally just spits things out, but occasionally will get something too far back in his mouth and gag. The gag reflux kicks in before he swallows, so there's been no choking at all. Though its worrying to have him gag I've never been concerned for his breathing etc and T stays calm throughout.

We did have an allergic reaction today though. I gave him some bread which had butter on (while out) I scraped off as much of the butter as I could before giving it to him. However he came up all red and lumpy round his mouth. Luckily it was minor and went down quick.

Stacks is he allergic to all diary food do you think?

Yeah, I do flip it out of his mouth if I think it's too big but I don't know if I should be letting him try to chew on it. He is definitely just gagging not choking and seems happy but I can't stop myself from worrying. It's probably not worth it if he picks up on me stressing.

Can i ask a personal question to those of you who have already had children? When your periods returned last time were they regular or did they take a while to settle into a routine?

Mine were pretty regular I think even when I had the coil in

Post ds they had only just come back & were all over the place when amazingly still got pregnant with dd so it can vary so much from one person to another.

I just thought i'd check i was starting to worry slightly but my monthly friend has joined me tonight after i had wrote that post.

Pretty regular I think but lighter and less painful.

I think we're going to leave the blw for a bit after a gagging and vomiting banana finger episode. She's loving the spoon food so far and has eaten far more than I was expecting.

I'm wondering if part of the nights issue is a messed up feeding body clock - she won't feed much in the mornings and so has most of her milk intake between about 2pm and 3am. Be good if I could shift this to between 7am and 8pm! Since I can't make her feed, I think I'll have to make her hungry during the night by refusing to feed for 3 hours initially and so then hopefully she'll take more at other times.

Could be feeding WL and i think that sounds like a good plan. Might be hard going for a few nights but ultimately worth it. Could you ask your mum and MiL to help with your older 2 so that you can catch up on any sleep so hopefully the next few nights will be abit easier on you.

Been really rubbish at keeping up with you all. Tricky time with DP at the moment, we're just not getting on and seem to have differing opinions on absolutely everything. Time will tell...
DS is still my absolute joy. First tooth has come through without too much pain (I think) but lots of dribble. No weighs 17lbs at 22 weeks. He also moved into his cot and bedroom this week. First night was awful but he seems to have settled now.

Loved the GMIL story!

Oh 2blessed a new baby is such a strain fx for you.

We BLW mainly now as DS won't let me spoon feed him. I'm pretty relaxed with lumps/gagging though. We've only had one gagging incident where he's. brought anything back up.

Every 2 hrs overnight he's like a little alarm clock!

2blessed i hope it works out for you, could you and DP go for a night out just you two? It might help, me and DP have had to do that a few times when the arguing has got bad it seems to help.

Isthat i hope DS starts sleeping longer for you soon.

2blessed we were the same after dd it did get better for us.

Rubbish night here I'm definitely going to have to go against guidelines and get a cot bumped as he keeps waking up headbutting the headboard even when I put him down right at the bottom

2blessed agree with the advice to take a bit of time out for just you and dp.
Typically crap night again here, I officially can't do it anymore and will be starting controlled crying (gentler with cuddles rather than hardcore left to it) tonight. Are we still on for meeting tomorrow Woking ish gang? Maybe you can guess how old I am by counting the rings under my eyes !

Right - day one of sleep training in the MaPo household! Little C went cold turkey for her nap this morning - no dummy, no swaddle, no rocking. She went down at 8am, played until 8.20, then started crying. I did a bit of pu/pd and reassurance, then got her up at 8.50 when that didn't work. 10 minutes of quiet playing, nappy change, back into sleeping bag, and back to bed. We had 15 minutes of crying off and on, with reassurance in the cot, until she fell asleep at 9.15 and is still asleep now.

Does this sound like your plan, WL? It is tough but not as bad as it could be. Horrible to see the tears though. But I know she can do this and I know she'll benefit from being about to do it. A friend of mine has a 2 and 4 year old and did this technique at 5-6 months with great success with hers, and so I take a lot of inspiration from her.

Anyway - I'll probably be on here wittering about it for ages. Please be patient while I vent!

2blessed, that does sound tough. Can you agree on big picture issues, like 'We both want the best for our son' 'We want to have a strong relationship' and take solace in that common ground? I know the devil is in the details but I can find it helpful to realise that ultimately my husband and I are on the same page - we're just having trouble getting on the same line. Good luck.

Thanks all!
You're absolutely right mama the devil is in the detail. Dp has older dcs and has always been very hands on and often believes that what he did as a parent 16 years ago is automatically how we should raise our ds. Little things like 'feet to foot' and sleeping bags - advice/products that may not have been around then he rubbishes. Its not all bad but very difficult at times. The whole issue around his dsis having ds for a wkd is in there too, as his dcs had done this by ds' age but he is not fighting me on this . My position remains that its way too early and ultimately ds has different parents to his dcs.

Good luck with the sleep training mama

spotty I've just ordered a breathable bumper from john lewis. Will put a link when I get back onto laptop.
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Yes mama that's going to be my sort of approach, only I'm only doing nights! Lets hold hands.

www.johnlewis.com/airwrap-mesh-cot-system-2-sided/p231569214

She's gone down for round 2.

The mesh one isn't padded enough also we've got a solid headboard on in so really need a padded one if the headbutting is going to stop waking him up

Baby massage was good fun anyway ds weed obviously!

Hello, I've not kept up with the thread for ages. I've found the weaning discussions very interesting; Z is on spoon food (still on his "big four" of sweet potato, butternut squash, banana and pear) and enjoying it very much but in the next few days I'll start giving him some bits to hold. We're about to go on a trip to Birmingham on the train just me and him to meet up with DH there and stay for a few days. Bit nervous. Have planned it to the nth degree and bought a new backpack that I can wear while pushing the pushchair.

He's pooing much more frequently though!! But the poos aren't as big as his milk poos so are much more manageable.

T bumps the cot sides a lot too and I wondered about putting the bumpers I had for dd1&2 on but I don't think that's really what's waking her up.

Good work mama - just keep repeating short term pain, long term gain. I have lost a few pounds in the last couple of weeks which I'm sure is down to the lack of sleep as I'm still stuffing my face
I've apologised in advance to my neighbour for tonight's crying to come!

Thanks, WL. She amazingly went to sleep within 10 minutes and just a bit of grizzling for her 2nd nap, but it lasted only 30 minutes. Now she's been alternating between grizzling and real crying for about 25 minutes. Not fun! But she's playing with and sucking on her comforter so I hope it's helping. Come on, little C, you can do it.

And we're still going. It's tough. I'm going to have to abandon it by 5 to make sure she can sleep (ha!) tonight.