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May 2013 thread our new and not so new arrivals

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BeauticianNotMagician · 24/05/2013 07:47

Hi ladies

Just thought we could all really do with this. Rather selfish a its mostly for the thousand odd questions I have and things I'd like to share/ vent that no one else would understand.

We've all been together so long I even talk about you all to DP Smile

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MammaBrussels · 30/05/2013 20:21

Thanks for the advice about the olive oil Wriggler & InNeedof, I'll try that this evening.

I'm another one with a baby who'll only sleep on me. Although, she seems to sleep better in her moses basket when DH puts her down rather than when I do.

Still waiting to hear about the house. We had to up our offer today. Should find out tomorrow whether we've secured it. We're about 99% sure we've got it. Getting very excited as we've been looking for absolutely ages and I can't wait to move out of this flat.

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BeauticianNotMagician · 30/05/2013 20:53

Sorry for tmi but Teddy had an explosive poo just now. After 2 days its a relief for him and us Grin. Daddy gave him a tummy massage so I think it was that

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InNeedofSomeSleep · 30/05/2013 21:15

Hope everyone had a good day today and all these babies are behaving themselves.

Had such a bad day today, been really emotional due to lack of sleep. Kate woke me at 4 and then for a feed at 5, put her down at 6 and DD1 thinks its time to get up. Thankfully she was actually really well behaved today. Been struggling with my hormones to and taking it all out on DH. He doesnt really understand the hormones and that sometimes i just want to cry. We ended up having a massive row and I spent the whole time in the car to go shopping crying. He is back to work Monday but I'm looking forward to getting back into a normal routine with DD1, I struggle when everything is all over the place. I have been bleeding alot today which doesnt seem right so need ti keep an eye on it, kate has been crying and uncomfortable this evening which isnt like her either. To top it off we keep having power cuts in our village this evening so I have been trying to sterilise bottles and get them ready for tonight. I have sent DH to the pub for a few hours so I can have some peace.

Sorry about the long boring message I don't really have many people to speak to these things about in RL don't like to burden them with my problems and my family worry to much about me as it is so to hear I'm struggling they would worry more.
Feel a bit better already :-)

In the day when I settle Kate she normally settles herself, at night tho I normally change her near the end of her feed and swaddle her and she normally falls asleep from the milk or I rock her to sleep and then put her straight in the basket. I can't feed her in bed tho coz I always fall asleep while I'm feeding her DH keeps waking me up when I do it coz I still have the bottle in my hand and me and Kate have dropped off.

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NeedSomeSun142 · 31/05/2013 08:01

teeny bit jealous reading about all your babies, mine was due 22nd May, so looks like ill be in the June thread now lol congratulations everyone Grin

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BeauticianNotMagician · 31/05/2013 08:20

Arti sorry to hear about your mastitis. Really hope it clears soon. Teddy goes to sleep after a feed as well. He even sleeps through his nappy change after his feed.

I keep getting bad headaches anyone else? I've had one now for two weeks. Midwives say its dehydration. I'm guzzling water so not convinced. I know it could be tiredness or maybe the strong double dose of antibiotics I'm on.

We had Teddys photos done yesterday. I can't wait to see them. I will add some to the fb page when they are ready.

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BeauticianNotMagician · 31/05/2013 08:25

Inneed Sorry you had a rubbish day. If Kate isn't sleeping at night have you tried keeping her awake in the day. We don't let Teddy sleep so much in day and its worked well got us. He is content I'm day with eyes open just kicking around. If he's really sleepy but we feel he's had to much sleep and won't sleep at night we let him have a kick about nappy free.

We have a baby with a cold here he has caught it from ds2. Any tips on what I can buy/ do. He has a runny nose and cough

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InNeedofSomeSleep · 31/05/2013 08:26

10 hope you got some sleep last night to. Hormones and no sleep is not good. I have a full day planned and a long walk this morning should help. That's if it doesn't rain.

Anyone whose little one has reflux problems how did you know it was that?? Kate is really sick with her bottles not all of them tho. I have to change her clothes 4/5 times a day coz she keeps being sick. Out HV round here isn't the best and they are so busy so don't get time to see everyone.

Boodstress · 31/05/2013 09:06

inneedofsleep I am waiting for official diagnosis but my DD spits up significantly after most feeds, sometimes up to an hour after. Be ones very upset 15 mins after a feed & squeals in pain, she has hiccups throughout the day and wet burps (brings up cheesy milk with burps) she is not sleeping properly and mostly is in obvious discomfort... She was a c-section and very mucousy to begin with. All those things point towards reflux.

Boodstress · 31/05/2013 09:09

beaut we had a cold here from the full on face snogs the boys were giving the baby.. Whilst they had sniffles!! Saline drops, raised mattress, plug ins. If there is a lot of congestion you can use those plunger/ extractor things. I also sit in the shower room with shower on hot to create lots of steam, before bed to decongest.

Boodstress · 31/05/2013 09:11

Oh and she is very hard to burp inneedof

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BeauticianNotMagician · 31/05/2013 10:22

Bood thank you ill try all of that. Ds2 had reflux just as you describe and with him it turned out to be a milk allergy. We were prescribed Soya milk for him the SMA one.He outgrew it and was on cows milk at the age of one. Like you I had problems breastfeeeding him and I put it all down to his sensitive tummy. What are your dds stools like just asking as ds weren't runny they were quite hard always stuck to his bottom and a khaki colour rather than the usual canary yellow/ green you get with a ff baby.

Not sure if that helps you any.

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BeauticianNotMagician · 31/05/2013 10:32

Another question. Is anyone using the Tommee Tippee perfect prep? I'm not sure whether to treat myself.

Not sure how others are making up ff. I have ignored midwifes advice and make them up how I was told to for the boys 7 and 8 years ago. Which is make 6 up let them cool and then refrigerate.

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rachywhite83 · 31/05/2013 11:39

beautician - I make up the bottles with the boiling water. I leave the bottles on the side and put the formula in little pots for adding later on. Seems to work for us x

InNeedofSomeSleep · 31/05/2013 12:32

Bood that sounds like us, hard to burp, will bring up alot of the milk even a while after feeding. Thank you for that means I can look at tips to help with it.

Beaut I put the water in the bottles and leave on the side and just add formula when using them before heating up.

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wrigglerchick · 31/05/2013 13:29

beaut this may be a silly question, but what do you do to keep teddy awake in the day? James is sleeping a lot and things like tickling his feet don't seem to do much. I'm just wondering what your tricks are?!

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BeauticianNotMagician · 31/05/2013 13:52

Mostly not letting him be too hot. We bath him in the morning about 10 after his feed. Then we leave him to kick about for a while naked but with the room warmed up. Also when I feed him in the day I take his feet and legs out of the babygro and at night keep him covered up

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Boodstress · 31/05/2013 13:55

I couldn't keep Alice awake if she wanted to sleep - she just roars crying. Beaut stools normal now on the constipation FF. as you describe before. Re feed I am so pleased others are preparing the bottles like that. The MW put the fear of god into me about it 'oh it's all changed, you must make them up individually) it is so much more straightforward to prepare in Advance. I also never heated a bottle for any baby so they only ever knew room temp - worth it when you're out and about.

TerracottaPie · 31/05/2013 17:16

So far with the odd exception we've been really lucky at nights. DD3 will have a feed and go straight back to sleep in the basket. Daytimes she tends to be awake a lot more. Doesn't always sleep well in the basket but will still go in it at times. 10 my wrap is ace too!

DS didn't like his basket much though I remember.

I'm a panic in the night, where is the baby type thing so I've never been able to co sleep with any of mine. I can't even feed lying down right now as I'm falling asleep so heavily after feeds that I think I would during as well. And then I'd wake up in a panic again!

I'm having a feel like shite day today. Half term is killing me. There's too much going on to try and nap well. On top of that I've got a blocked duct. Gutted about it. Been in the shower trying to clear it but then felt dizzy and had to get out. I'm hoping it's a positional thing and caused by DD3's hand on the nights when I've been so tired I've not moved it out the way enough. Hoping against hope that this doesn't become a recurrent thing like with DS.

On the positive we had the HV come yesterday and DD3 has regained her birth weight. Back up to 10lb 2oz :D Had her length measured too and that's on the 98th centile too. She still doesn't seem that big to me though! Think it's just comparing her to toddler DS who suddenly seems so big and not quite my baby anymore (I'm a little bit sad about that).

Re changes to bottles making up. From what I can work out the changes say you can make some up in advance (but ideally one at a time) but as long as they have been made up with slightly-cooled-from-boiling-but-still-hot water (to kill off any harmful bugs) then chilled quickly and put in the fridge. That's a lot different from how I did it when I'd stopped bfeeding after going back to work with my elder two 9 and 7 years ago.

NoForkNKnife · 31/05/2013 19:20

Yeah, I think I've read the same as Terra. The water has to be above 70 when adding the powder as its not sterile. this wasn't advice 4 years ago with DD1 and she's fine

It say on the carton of the prescribed preemie formula to leave the water to cool for half an hour in kettle before adding the powder. But there is no way that'd be above 70! Plus it is hard enough to get it to dissolve in just boiled water let alone cooled.
10 have I asked alread. What formula is Seb on? Nutriprem 2 is really giving A wind and very stinky at that. Apparently there is an alternative (I feel like I've had this conversation with you already. Sorry I I have!)

Sorry to all that have had a bad couple of days. Half term I nearly over and the sun is shining. I'm having Wine tonight. Who will join me Grin. the positives of expressing instead of bf

InNeedofSomeSleep · 31/05/2013 19:45

NoFork I was looking forward to wine tonight but I have had migraine all afternoon so once DD1 is in bed I'll be following. Just hope the sun is out tomorrow so I can do it then.

After being puked on far to many times today (considering wearing a rain coat for feeds I'm having to change 3 times a day, the washing mountain is massive) I'm gonna try a different formula. DH has got SMA and cow and gate so hoping that one of these will stop the sick.

2 more days and the kids are all back to school hang on in there everyone. We are back to parent and toddler groups for a week until DD turns 2 on the 10th and it's of to nursery for her. 2 whole afternoons to myself I can't wait.

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SevenReasonsToSmile · 31/05/2013 20:40

Water must be above 70 when the powder is added, there's no bacteria in the bottle to worry about if its been sterilised, its bacteria in the powder you're killing. If you want to make individual bottles you can use half hot water, then add powder then top up with cool boiled water, but making in advance is just so much easier.

beaut I swore I only wanted 3 but we're not ruling out number 4 just yet.

I had Beatrice weighed yesterday, she's put on 14.5oz in a week!!! Not getting anything done though as she's wanted to feed pretty much constantly the last couple of days.

MissLurkalot · 01/06/2013 10:27

Inneedofsomesleep... Amen to that! Kids back to school on Monday, husband back to work (he's amazingly kept the kids entertained all week!) I think he's going to have a huge skip in his step on Monday! Lol!
It'll just be me, baby Jacob and his two year old brother.. Toddler groups Monday and Wednesday... Looking forward to seeing everyone there. But the chance to sleep when both the boys sleep in the afternoon with nobody else in the house to wake me.. Yay!