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November 2012 - When are they going to sleep through again?

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StuntNun · 15/05/2013 14:40

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1751304-November-2012-Babies-first-holidays-India-Australia-the-world-is-their-oyster

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Dixiebell · 19/05/2013 21:04

Mine's awake already too. Halfway through dinner (Skimming Wirkd chicken Kiev & syn free chips, yum!). His blood curdling scream. DH dispatched for shushing duty but he blatantly wasn't going to settle quickly so caved and am feeding. Maybe do this instead of DF?

Toddler Splash was great, ds1 loved chucking himself down the slides. We also met friends at the pub this afternoon and kids went crazy in the play area (although will be great when they're old enough to be left in there on own without close supervision to stop 2.5 yr old attempting the fireman's pole or off a sheer drop..). So tired ds1 out nicely, but day of catching naps in car or while feeding in pubs/cafes doesn't seem to have helped Ted's sleeping. Sad

Evilwater · 19/05/2013 21:08

det - he is a strong willed person. He sounds quite a bit like O, I'm sorry for whinging here when you, and so many of you here, are having a much more terrible time.
All I can add is your a much stronger person that me det, to cope with this, I just hope your GP will listen.

lilly and chasing Thanks

yellow -not sure what that is, a trip to the dr?

luis hope you have a better night too.
Evil

BigPigLittlePig · 19/05/2013 21:59

She's FINALLY nodding off.

Evil th thread is here no matter how easy or hard a time you are having - so please don't feel you should apologise. I'm glad you had an enjoyable day out.

ValiumQueen · 19/05/2013 21:59

yw seems a bit high for kidneys I agree. Could it be the start of flu?

J has kept very little down today but seems better in himself. Have stopped Gaviscon too as it does fuck all. He is on nothing for reflux and there is no change. He is happiest lying down which seems odd with his cough too. I think we are seeing the full effect of the milk, and without solids aggravating things for 4 days now. I will get him seen tomorrow. I think his ears hurt, and he has a wheeze. It seems to be positional, but I am concerned. Not enough to drag him to out of hours though. I am praying for a good night as I am fucked.

Hugs to all in need x

Passmethecrisps · 19/05/2013 22:06

Hmm kyz no idea? Separation issues maybe? P cries like a wee lost thing - proper sobbing - as soon as I put her in the cot. She needs picked up again and big cuddles then she calms down. Very weird.

Doctor for you mrs yellowwummin .

evil could you bear it? I hope you get some peace though. 4x4 day sounds awful.

LuisGarcia · 19/05/2013 22:09

Thanks, Evil. Same to you. Good luck

Passmethecrisps · 19/05/2013 22:09

Oh and evil as BP said don't apologise for needing to let off steam. No judgement here just Brew and Flowers

kirrinIsland · 19/05/2013 22:16

I have the whole day to catch up on so apologies if I'm commenting on things that happened hours ago.

detective and VQ hugs to you both. I hope it isn't bronchulitis VQ and I wish I could offer a suggestion det but I think GP /A&E is the best idea Thanks

Nice to hear from you izzy but sorry things are no better sleep-wise :( How are you coping?

lily thinking of you Flowers I can't imagine what you are going through. The balloon is a lovely idea.

Sounds grim YW Visit to the docs might be in order.

I have been running round trying to get myself organised, making bottles, writing lists etc. I cannot believe I'm starting work tomorrow. Very nervous.

BigPigLittlePig · 19/05/2013 22:19

Oh goodness fuck a duck kirrin - good luck!

Izzybuzzybuzzybees · 19/05/2013 22:19

J was in bed. He had self settled but has just woken screaming after a whole....thirty fucking minutes!!!!!!!

I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO DO OR HIW TO HELP HIM :-(

Bryzoan · 19/05/2013 22:27

Poor izzy. That has been happening here (without the self settling) the last few nights too. I've just been cuddling and feeding but if it continues will be off to the Gp with a perfectly well looking baby again. Hope the night improves for you.

Kirrin - massive huge dungspreaders of good luck. We'll be thinking of you.

Bryzoan · 19/05/2013 22:28

Am sure you will be awesome, by the way.

ChasingDaisy · 19/05/2013 22:31

O awake already. Won't go back to sleep.

If you told your partner you were deeply unhappy you would expect them to give a shit, yes? This is a reasonable expectation?

I need to get out of this life but I'm trapped.

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StuntNun · 19/05/2013 22:40

You're not trapped Chasing, you're preparing yourself psychologically for the day when you will be free of him. He doesn't give a shit because it's not about him. There's no one else there to observe what a wonderful caring DP he is so he doesn't need to bother to keep up the facade. To him your unhappiness is an inconvenience. But it is him that has the problem. To us in the quiche you are a good friend with a sincere heart. We want the best for you and O. We love to see your photos and share your delight in your son. We are with you on this incredible journey that we are taking together, some for the first time, some for the fifth or sixth time. Depression is a hard thing to battle. You seemed to be doing really well, maybe this is a temporary setback. Anything you want to talk about this is a safe place. And if you don't want to talk about it we're still here backing you up. (((Hugs))) Chasing.

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ChasingDaisy · 19/05/2013 22:49

I feel do scared when I feel this dark. I have nobody in RL. Nobody. I don't know what I'd do without you all.

Passmethecrisps · 19/05/2013 22:56

I can't put his eloquently chasing. stunt did eloquent beautifully. The man is a selfish fuckwit who is draining you of your self-worth on a minute by minute basis. You need time to gather your strength. You won't feel like this forever.

You are everything O needs.

Passmethecrisps · 19/05/2013 22:58

Good luck kirrin!

Sad izzy. I have nothing to suggest. Fuck me, you must me done in. Did the doc have anything useful to suggest?

Elizadoesdolittle · 19/05/2013 23:09

kirrin Good luck for tomorrow. Hope you get lots of sleep tonight.

Lily Love the ballon idea. Will be thinking of you on Saturday. Massive hugs coming your way.

chasing I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. You don't need me to tell you that the way your "D"P treats you is not normal. As the mother of his son your happiness and well being should be paramount and he should do all he can to ensure that you are looked after. Please don't continue to settle for being treated like this. Sad

Detective & izzy and anyone else who I have missed that are having sleep issues. Massive amounts of sympathy and Brew

DH has gone on a golf jolly to spain for 3 nights so we took him to the airport this afternoon. I thought of the quiche as we sat in a coffee bar. Was gatwick airport though so not as easy to do plane spotting but DD1 enjoyed herself none the less. Looking forward to our holiday next month now.

Well E has been sleeping from 7pm-8am for the past couple of nights now, (sorry sleep dodging quiche). It's not all a bed of roses though as DD1 has now started waking in the night. She has become afraid of the dark so have just bought some fancy nightlight ladybird thing from Amazon. Just bloody typical that as soon as I get one kid sorted the other one decides to not play ball. It's like they are in cahoots.

LuisGarcia · 19/05/2013 23:28

"If you told your partner you were deeply unhappy you would expect them to give a shit, yes? This is a reasonable expectation?"

Nope. It's a rock bottom bare minimum. Fire rightmove back up.

ValiumQueen · 20/05/2013 01:06

Chasing (((((hugs))))) wot the others said. With bells on. You are not trapped. Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life. We all have choices each day but some are harder to make than others. Women's Aid for you tomorrow to get practical advice on how to end this safely. You are not alone in RL as you have little O who is your number one fan. We are also all real, and some have made themselves real to you with offers of genuine friendship with pink breathing people. You are not trapped, but it suits him for you to think that way. I remember my ex saying I was lucky to have him as nobody else could or would ever love me what do you want? Love? Respect? Peace? Freedom? Happiness? Go and get it - it is out there waiting for you x

ValiumQueen · 20/05/2013 01:13

All the best for tomorrow Kirrin x look forward to hearing all about it.

Izzy, I have just been kneeling next to a cot holding a babies hand and thinking of you. I actually felt fucking wonderful that I could soothe him to sleep by doing just that. I guess the novelty has worn off for you by now. I frequently think of you and worry about the toll on your MH, but you are a sensible lass and have loving folk around you. I am glad of this buddy x

J is a poor little scrap. Got another 4oz in him so hopefully he will sleep a bit.

DD2 is almost better, and has a new trick - hide the bottle. Baby bottle, that is. Looked everywhere for one of the little fuckers this afternoon, and she found it in my wellie boot. She wanted a prize. I said the prize was not getting a smack for taking it Grin

Kids eh?

LuisGarcia · 20/05/2013 02:45

I'm so over this relentless up all night thing.

LuisGarcia · 20/05/2013 03:20

Just me then.

PurplePidjin · 20/05/2013 03:51
Brew
LuisGarcia · 20/05/2013 03:59

how're you?