December 2012: Sunshine, saliva & sleeping more...we hope!

[WeeJo08]

New thread ladies

Dp is going to be late home again. That's every night this week

He's home and stroppy tired. I need a break, it's harder work having him back atm because the kids are excited to see him but he's just knackered and expects them to behave perfectly which obviously isn't going to happen. Also I kinda expected him to want to interact with DS2 but he leaves him to moan longer than I'm comfortable with so I pick him up then get told 'I was going to do that' :( I missed him so much and I wanted his homecoming to be better than this.

No poo since yest morning not normally a good sigh with my son.

isthat that all sounds familiar! It's so hard isn't it.

spotty DH is a serial late home from worker - 1.5 hours last night and almost 3 hours tonight. So having fed and bedded all 3 dcs I was just starting to make dinner when T woke up. Just feeding her back to sleep then I'll pick up where I left off with dinner. I bloody deserve those flowers.

It's always hard as he wants sympathy for having to work late but I wanted his help here so he doesn't get any!! It's funny how on the nights he's planned to go out he always manages to make it home on time.

Can you eat with the girls WL? Dh can reheat his and then do all the washing up when he's home. Why isn't he taking over dinner whilst you settle T? The flowers are lovely, I'm sure, but his apologies are worthless if he's not going to do anything to make things easier for you.

Yes WL, and football nights are surprisingly early finishes here! Today he was 3:45 mins late home from work. The record was one Christmas when I'd been working in New Orleans for 8days and DP finished at midnight instead of 5:30pm. I'd been comatose for 4 hours by then!

I have come up to bed and left him with all the clearing up. I do eat with the girls if I can but for various reasons I couldn't today. He can't take over making dinner because he's a rubbish cook and I'd be cross with him for ruining it! He's off for a couple of days now then on lates so says I can have lots of lay ins. You betcha!

Oh for fucks sake. Trying to get Edward up to bed without waking him up too much and my bloody MIL has week and truly woken him up. I can hear her fucking talking to and giggling with him and it is really fucking annoying me.

Sorry for all the bad language but we have been on holiday with them for a week and I have just about lost the will to live,

Well I knew it wouldn't last. Second wake up here.

Well he's only just woken up so did over five hours but dd woke at 4 because she'd had an accident and I couldn't get back to sleep for ages

Mumsnet kept braking last night, so here is my post from then:

Oh spotty, sorry your DH is going to be home late. Can he get any time off next week to make up for it? Even if its just leaving an hour early one night.

WL the last flowers I got from DH were very late Mother's Day ones. He bought me flowers and chocolates ... and broccoli. He didn't want the lady at the checkout to think he was apologising for something so added broccoli to his basket :)

Ddas cry away if you need to, I hope it's just a nursing strike though and she starts feeding again. Your plan seems very sensible.

Hope you got your DH home IsThat.

I'm just feeding T to sleep, then we're going to try the cot. I've been stressed about feeding and sleeping. I would waffle and rant, but can't be arsed to do it one handed on my phone. Basically I'm sick and tired of feeling pressured into stuff. He's my pfb and I'll decide how I want to handle his sleep. Thank you very much.

Good for you stacks best way to be. No dp can't leave early they've got a house they need to finish the digger broke last night and he's the only one who can drive it so had to wait for it to be repaired so he could put it away. He will get paid, eventually, his bids owes him lots already though.

Wedding today hope the dc sit nicely I can envisage ds blowing raspberries throughout

IsThat it's so hard, I hope your DH is less tired tomorrow. I get annoyed at my DH every evening after work for similar reasons - It must be so much harder after he's been away and you've been looking forward to seeing him.

WL you deserve more than flowers. Have you talked to him about his late nights and ability to get home on time for his own fun? Maybe you could set a date type night where he promises to be home early for you (you should have at least the same importance as football or a night out!). You too Spotty and WillYou. Doesn't have to be every week if they really do need to be in work late, but the occasional commitment would be good for you both.

Spotty 5 hours is a good stint, but shame you had a disturbed night over all.

Fod DH does bedtime here, and it always includes tickling and silliness. It's one of the only jobs DH has with him though, and part of the very short time DH gets to spend with T each day, so I let it slide. We will need to get sleepy time more sleepy, it's not caused a problem yet with us as I feed DS to sleep and he goes down quite quickly. Hmm, thats made me wonder could it be causing the continued wake ups in the early evening?

So sorry for those of you with late/tired dhs (and dps), it's always hard when they come home wanting to relax and our days carry on regardless..

2blessed your sil sounds like a piece of work if you ask me, anyone who tells me what to I 'had better do' normally gets me gleefully doing the opposite.

Have fun at the wedding spotty, and tell us how it goes. We have the first of three weddings this summer coming up, and I still have no idea what to wear to look decent but still be able to bf without locking myself in a room and taking my top off

I got a dress from Dorothy Perkins which crossed over and has easy access. Someone on another thread said it was really short

I HATE dressing up I never ever wear dresses

Quite right stacks you must always do what feels right for you even if others tell you different. It may well be that you end up doing what they suggest but when you are ready, or you may find that something else works better for you. It is hard with so many opinions and so much advice but nothing will work for you if you're not comfortable it.

We had 3 wakes last night instead of 2 and I have woken up (had a lie in!) with a sore throat. Big 2 have had sore throats and colds so I just hope T hadn't got a sore throat. She was quite snotty in the night but she does seem to be quite often.

spotty hope the wedding goes well, I love a wedding and the dressing up as normally I'm very much a jeans person.

Have just been

Oops! Been playing around with the ring sling I had for dd2 and didn't get on with, but now I think it might be a goer! Not sure it will be quite as comfy as the moby but much better for putting on and off when out and about and easy to move her from hip to front carry while in it and bfing on the move looks like it could work. Dd1&2 wanted in on the act and I managed to carry them both! Wouldn't like to do it on a regular basis though! Although could work on occaisions with dd2.

I bought a lovely dress from joules for a wedding. Heavy jersey, blue and white spots and easy nork access for bf.

Argh running late ds wanted feeding. Dp and ds not dressed only half my make up done! Hmm ds appears to be falling asleep.... Have to leave in twenty minutes!

Hope the wedding goes well Spotty - have a lovely time.

Get well soon WL - fx T does manage to avoid it.

I have a DH who is habitually late in getting home from work. It seems that every time he sets a new personal best for lateness, that then becomes the acceptable time to get in until he's even later and so on. Suffice to say I long ago gave up on a family meal time that would be suitable for DS1 during the week, so I eat with him (and N now joins us by having a bash at a few veggies) and DH eats warmed up left-overs. It's not brilliant, but think it's the way it'll have to be until either DH's workload eases off (when hell freezes over) or the boys are older and can eat later. To be fair, he did make it back before bedtime yesterday and they were both so excited to have a play with him - lovely seeing the three of them together.

N seems to have mastered sitting. He can correct himself if he wobbles now, rather than falling but still seems to want to be on the move rather than staying still. Although he more often than not still ends up going backwards, he's managing to move forwards a bit too - not exactly crawling but pushing himself up and sort of leaping and hoping for the best . He gets so frustrated though if it doesn't work out and he ends up lying face down.

Hope you're having fun at the wedding Spotty!

Sat DS up on the bed yesterday and he was correcting his wobbles for a while before toppling over. The toppling over seemed to be the fun part though... Still not confident enough to leave him on the ground but maybe it would be easier for him to balance on a hard surface.

I'm lucky at the moment in that it's the quiet season so DH is usually finished work by 3 or 4 but come July he'll be working longer hours again but hopefully not as bad as the winter.

at the broccoli stacks! Maybe she thought he was apologising for forgetting to buy broccoli.

Back from wedding, would have like to have stated longer but both dc needed to go to bed. Ds was really good smiling at everyone. Fed him twice bit awkward as just pulled dress front right down so had to cover boob with a muslin

Had a pimms though

Also my hair is up all nice in a sixties style type do and I don't want to take it out because I never get to have nice hair

Sleep with your neck on a wooden block geisha-style spotty! Then you can keep it for a week!