December 2012: Sunshine, saliva & sleeping more...we hope!

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New thread ladies

Ready brek a hit

Anyone BLW or ready for finger food look up porridge fingers always a big hit and something different

Sorry to hear about dd2 WL

Hope you're feeling better hales

Canvassing opinions here aibu too ferocious for me. Dp's dsis asked me last night when she can have ds for the weekend. I said not for a while yet. She said it better be before I go away (she's going away for most of the summer. I said well thats not going to happen but you can have him for a few hours. She said it will have to be more than a few hours. Now aibu to not want my 20 week old bf ds to spend a weekend without me?

spotty love the raspberries, ds has just started doing them in last 2 weeks. He's like a human beat box!

Of course YANBU. Dd didn't spend the night away from us until she was over two and she wasn't even bf! I don't see the point unless I have somewhere special to be (ie in hospital having ds)

The bf thing is a bit of an excuse, when I reminded her that he is bf she said "well you better express for 2 days and won't he be eating food soon?" Now I don't know how it works for others but I'm able to express approx 4oz each day which dp gives to ds after his bath. Some days I'm able to express more.
Just feels like another issue after the whole 'don't wake my sleeping baby' issue we had when he was born.

2blessed YADNBU who does she think she us with the "it had better be... Etc"? If she wants a baby to play with tell her to buy a bloody dolly! DP us trying to get me to leave DS with MiL so they can "bond".

Hope poor DD2 is okay WL and that you get some sleep soon. Is your dh away? I've lost track if all these jet setting partners!

We were up at 8, 9, 11, 2 and up for the day at 3:45 He fell into an uneasy noisy sleep at around 6:30. I'm not going to function well today.

That's all I can express 2blessed, plus if you managed to stockpile enough for two days you would have to exclusively pump for those two days to keep your supply up and you pain free. He is YOUR baby to play with and cuddle no one else's, well maybe your dh I'm really possessive over dd and ds I feel guilty if dd goes to my mum's for the day!

2blessed YADNBU! I'm umming and ahhing about asking mil to babysit for a couple of hours next weekend so me and DH can go out for dinner, he's been away so long I feel we need some alone time, but what if DS needs me?! Lol I would definitely not be handing my baby over to anyone that demands it. the big dcs however are welcome to go with the dustmen if it gives me some peace

2blessed that's outrageous, no way UABU. Her attitude is appalling. He is your baby and it is not her right to have him. He is a baby bit a toy. Like spotty I'm quite possessive about my babies and would definitely not leave T overnight yet - I have a hard time leaving her for an hour! Wait until you are comfortable or it will be a horrible corrientes and put you off for next time. It's a very personal thing, some people are ready right away, others not for years. Tbh her attitude would make me feel like saying never!

We're having poo changes due to weaning too. N usually has 3+ dirty nappies a day, but yesterday there was just the one quite late on. This morning however there was a poosplosion of epic proportions - shoulder height and soaked right through his sleep suit. Would much prefer to go back to comparatively little and often, though somehow I don't think I get a say .

Barbeasty - sounds like A is going to be the centre of attention and will have a wonderful time at nursery. Know it will still be tough for you though.

Stacks - glad it seems you have made some progress. I really hope the new meds work for him.

2blessed - YANB at all U. I don't understand why some people think they have to look after a baby overnight to be involved. On a purely practical level, I struggle to express enough to keep N going during DS1's swimming lesson so overnight stays will be out of the question for quite a while yet. In any event, it's simply not on to make demands like that - it's for you and DP to decide if and when she can look after him.

Fucking heathrow is screwed! :( I want my DH back!

Oh no IsThat when are they going to reopen the runways?

No idea. Although NBC reckon the south one has reopened but they also say that BA flights are being diverted to Cardiff stan stead and manston (in Kent). So no idea.

The flight info is saying its arriving at 12.03 (was scheduled for 12.35) but no idea if it would tell me if they were diverted?!

Hmm it should be correct....surely it would be easier to divert to Gatwick?! I heard there's only one closed now too...

Both open now, it's still saying he's landing in a few minutes so hopefully it's right. Looking at the arrivals loads of shorthaul have been cancelled. It's prob good he was on a plane this morning before it all went tits up!

FX your DH lands soon isthat

Thanks ladies, its just really really annoying. I was laughind during the conversation because I found it kind of ludicrous. Hope she knows I was serious though...

We've had a busy morning. Just checked out another baby/toddler group, everyone seems really friendly and they're planning a seaside trip soon. Then we went to the breastfeeding cafe at the doctor's surgery which was lovely. Knackered now so think we'll be chilling slobbing out on the sofa this afternoon.

2blessed def think she's completely mad to seriously be even asking the question much less demanding! Ds is nearly 2 & not even bf anymore but we've only left him overnight with my mil once recently & only because it was the moving day and would have been impossible to do it with him there. Apart from that one night he's only been with us both or dh when I've been on night shifts. As your ds is ebf i'd also be worried about my supply being affected. Could she not come visit & stay with you to get to spend more time with him?

wlmum hope your dd is better & less wheezy. The salbutamol def has that jittery effect on some children!

Thanks all for the lovely comments re bf- I'm so emotional at the moment about it that they made me a bit weepy (yes I am also a bit of a softy!)
I def won't be following the hv advice as just plain dangerous- what's scary is that some people may have followed it and she didn't even give any red flags like fewer wet nappies etc and didn't confirm I actually had some supply left. But it's like all professions you get the good, the bad and ugly!
pdjin a day skin to skin would be lovely but not much chance with ds as well.
Think going to just carry on with the formula I'm giving but also put her to the breast as frequently as I can before the bottle and if she continues to refuse take that as a sign that time to give up & try & make peace with it.

Bless DH - he had flowers delivered to me at dd2s gym class today saying thanks for all I do for them and sorry its been a bit tough lately. Makes up a little bit for 3 hours sleep!

Have set up a reward jar system to try to get dd1 past the homework issues - explained it this morning and she was very positive so fx.

What's up with heathrow? isthat hope you've got DH back now. Enjoy a cuddle tonight.

ddas weep away, it's good for you. Are you a medical bod?

ddas that sounds like a very sensible plan. Some hvs should come with a health warning.

Oh WL how lovely dp has never sent me flowers in over six years

It's so cold today. Ds isn't sleeping longer than twenty minutes at naps again which is annoying....

Got a wedding to go to tomorrow and stupidly got ds a short sleeved shirt....so he will be wearing a hoody too!

Spotty do you have a long sleeved vest you could put underneath the shirt instead? Fingers crossed the weather improves quickly and significantly!

MIL is having both DC tomorrow for about 7 hrs! It's DH's birthday so hopefully we're off for lunch and the new star trek.

Just had a "fun" time with an incredibly stroppy DD getting presents wrapped and cards written.

Unfortunately not! All of his long sleeved ones were 0-3 and I didn't bother replacing the only one I have is a pale blue one which will look rubbish! Only one long sleeved t-shirt too and that's stripey as he still wears baby grows mostly... It's going to be dry just chilly.

Dd has also been a pain today she is banned from the sofa for the rest of the day! Playing nicely now after a sleep though.

That's lovely WL, it's so nice to feel appreciated!

Of course YANBU 2blessed! It makes me think she doesn't understand babies or bf at all. (Also makes me chuckle to think how she would cope with a baby for the whole weekend anyways!) I would say that it is lovely that she wants to help and spend time with him so she is welcome to visit whenever she likes or even stay over night. Maybe you can turn it to your advantage and sleep in while she does night feeds!

Ddas, of course you are going to be emotional about it but it sounds like you are looking at it practically too which is important. I think you're hormones go a bit crazy when stopping bf as well so that's an extra excuse to do some weeping.

Have fun at the wedding spotty! I'm sure DS will look adorable all dressed up.

R is asleep in the sling on my back i keep slumping when i should be sitting with ramrod posture! At least it make me look thinner

ddas my door is always open for visitors, especially family. She lives about 30 mins drive away.

WL lovely gesture from your dh,good to be appreciated.