November 2012 - In denial about the six-month sleep regression

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1740697-November-2012-Starting-weaning-what-does-your-baby-eat

evil What a twat! Why is he saying that? If Dh said anything like that to me I'd be telling him to fuck off and don't come back

Det what a nob! Could he just not be arsed to get him changed?

After a none napping baby yesterday, she fell asleep in the car on the way home from PIL. Left her to sleep a bit then woke her to put pjs on and feed. She had a proper paddy when Dh was getting her dressed. She was roaring she was that upset and tired and angry.

Got lots of jobs to do today and packing to finish. Need to take it all out of the cases and repack. Hope she complies.

WRT weening, M is 23 weeks today so will probably start in a few weeks. I wasn't planning on same foods for three days, do I have to? I was just going to give her bits of whatever we're having if suitable. Or some purée if not.
Also, porridge. I can't be arsed with special baby porridge. Any one know what oatso simple is like for babies as DH has that a lot? Or will I have to use porridge oats and do it properly

I have the rage at dh today. He is not half as bad as some of the Ps but today I want to rip his head off.

After 30 minutes of failing to get F to go to sleep, I went and woke him up (9.15, so a nice lie in, no?). He muttered something about "fine fucking start to the day" and I told him to suck it up, he hadn't been up since 4 on the back of another shit nights sleep. He spent 5 minutes trying to get F to sleep, then declared, "she's not tired" and brought her downstairs. Where she has whinged and whined and shouted, because she's tired. All the while, he's making out like he's a saint and I'm the worst witch. He's taken her out for a drive now, told me to nap (I can't in the day, useless for it). I told him I couldn't fucking nap, and that one fucking nap would not correct 5 months of no sleep, and specifically would do the sum total of fuck all to help this past week.

Sometimes I feel like just walking out for the day. Leaving a stash of milk and saying, "if you're such a fucking genius, then you do it for 24 hours. And look after the house. Then see if you moan because I haven't put your fucking top in your wardrobe"

Feels better to write it down. Still cross though.

As you were.

Fatima oat so simple is pretty processed and sugary IIRC. I would stick with normal porridge. The 3 day rule helps identify intolerances. There is no rush and once they have had a food then it can be mixed with subsequent tastes.

I am a firm believer in puree and would be having palpitations if J was given a carrot stick or melon slice.

BP (((((hug)))))

Evil

My ex used to say those things. Pretty similar actually. I kicked him out when DD1 was 6 momths old. Its strange thinking DD2 is the same age now. Anyway, I never looked back.

He is a tool. Projecting his own insecurities onto you. He is wrong. Dont take anything he says on board.

You deserve so much better.

evil I am absolutely mortified that your "DP" could say such a thing to you. That's awful. I would seriously consider being in a relationship with my DH if he ever said anything like that to me. Do not listen to him. He is a complete twunt. End of.

And detective words fail me! What is wrong with the quiche partners today?

The house is silent as DD1 is at preschool and E is asleep. The sun shining so we are off to a country park wih friends this afternoon and then tonight I'm out for dinner with some friends. Going for a Thai, I love Thai. Today is a good day.

Gosh bigpig sorry to hear of another twunting DP. Enjoy the silence whilst he takes her for a drive. Hugs.

The problem with abusive gits, as your OH is, evil is that the longer we stay with them the more they get away with as we become conditioned to the abuse, and grateful when they are nice. This is the third or fourth serious nastiness from him that I remember you mentioning on these threads. You can do far better than that evil

Repeats the abve for chasing

Just checked and the oat so simple just has rolled oats and a stabiliser in so should be fine albeit more expensive than a bag of oats.
DH tends to have some for breakfast on a weekend so thought it would be easy if M could have a couple of spoonfuls of his

evil hugs. That is a very shitty thing to say. DH and I are capable of saying some vile things to each other in arguments, but we know if we cross the line and an apology would happen and an acknowledgement that it was said to hurt, and not meant. I know every relationship is different, but if DH said something like that I could forgive it if it was heat of the moment and a very sincere apology was made. Anything less, and there would be a problem.

pass you are very funny.

bigpig sorry for your woes, but vent more often, that was funny. Am not laughing at the rage, but just so completely empathise. DH sometimes "humorously" asks me what I have been doing all day / where something of his is that I don't care about. But he knows he will be laughing on the other side of his face when he's doing SAH duties and I come home from work. Not that I will visit some of his "humour" upon him, oh no

eliza sounds like a nice day.

fatima what about readybrek? Not a special baby one, piece of piss to make, I started using it when DD was weaning as it is what her nursery give the babies. She still likes to eat some now.

lily not sure if you are reading, but you are in my thoughts a lot. Like VQ said, my DH is not perfect but I am remembering to treasure him.

Day on my own today. Avoiding the work return prep I should be doing (checking suits fit and whether I have tights) and manically sorting and re-sorting stuff, making ebay piles, charity shop piles etc. I sort and de-clutter when stressed. Wish I could apply this discipline to weightloss attempts. Then this eve we are off to visit family for the weekend. Minus DH who is working /xboxing /sleeping. I am seriously considering handing the kids over to my mum and waltzing down to the spa hotel for a night.

S just gagged and choked a bit on some butternut squash, then looked at me as if to say "why would you do this to me?"

Not sure that she gets its food and is difderent to her teething toys/hands/feet. But we shall see.

The spoons I bought are far too long for her. Going on a search today for short spoons!

Pass that's hilarious, sounds just like the kind of conversations L has with me! Love it.

Evil that is bloody awful. Please don't stand for it. You are a fantastic mum

Yes pr I think it might be an idea to just get a couple of each fruit and veg rather than all of them, because of them going to waste. I won't introduce any new things like bread or dairy at the same time because of intolerances, just in case :).

Lol pass your description made me laugh!

horsey I've had a few slappings with the really disgustingly dead now quiche fish and I think it's your turn now! You are not shit at all! I bet ds is just going through a phase re: purée refusal

evil sorry to be blunt but your p sounds like he can be a right wanker :( he says some awful things :( I hope you and baby evil are both ok and feeling better

bplp sounds like you need a , you too izzy and tits

wanna I got some quite short ones from tesco, think they are tescos own weaning spoons

Bloody nap refuser!! I need to do jobs, it's like she knows

Apparently there's another sleep regression round about 9 months, then at a year, then at 18 months. Yay.

Thanks PR

Evil that is such a shitty way to treat you, no one deserves to be spoken to like that. He is a pathetic excuse for a man. I would be seriously considering my future with Dh is he spoke to me like that. You deserve so much better.

Detective that's disgraceful, what on earth was he thinking.

Bigpig hugs

Lily is in my thoughts right now too

Pass sorry that made me laugh. Murray managed to kick the button on his mobile at 4am this morning, the began to serenade us by singing along to the tune.

Eliza enjoy your lovely day

Looking for some advice ladies. I want to thank a friend and treat her, but unsure of the best way to do so. My options so far are bouquet of flowers ( too boring?) an afternoon tea with a glass of champagne each or her and her husband are going to a local spa tomorrow so considering paying for her to have an extra treatment.

We have a lovely weekend planned. Today we are off to meet with some if the mums and babies form my Daisy Birthing Class over massive slabs of cake coffee. Tomorrow it's our nephews birthday party and then a family tea in the evening. On Sunday we have decided to take M to Edinburgh zoo because Dh and I love the zoo to see the pandas.

cacacaz I don't think are ever boring, I absolutely love to receive them. Spa treatments difficult unless you know someone really well, perhaps? Or you can get all sorts of things delivered as a surprise, I have organised balloons, cupcakes, for friends before.

cacacaz flowers are always welcome here. Not plants though as they just die in my house. That or afternoon tea with champers sounds lovely. I live just 5 miles from a spa town and never go.

I think the afternoon tea is a good idea cacacaz. Would mean you can thank her in person and also have a wee blether at the same time :-) I also love cakes so that may be swaying me slightly!!

evil the thing that really gets me about your DH's comments is just how completely irrational they are. He's going to go to SS? Really? He should try. I can only imagine the reaction of any duty SW if he was to go in and actually 'report you'. I do get that some relationships can be quite volatile and this is how both parties work but the thing here is that there are three in this relationship now. N will soon be hearing and understanding these things. I have a friend who finally left her husband after many years of similar stuff when her daughter cried because 'daddy spoke to me like he speaks to you'. Desperately sad and completely unnecessary.

BP I don't think some chaps get it do they? 30 minutes alone does not a recovery make! I wonder if BF means that the gents know they are safe from you abandoning ship for too long so they can push their flipping luck?

Did you catch horsey, YW? Good job! horsey you have been physically hurt recently as well as emotionally. Don't be so hard on yourself.

Glad J is being a brave boy VQ. Poor wee sausage hasn't had his troubles to seek.

cacacaz my vote is for the champagne cream tea. Or a beauty treatment that you know she would like - for example I am allergic to nail varnish so a manicure might not be worth if. Oh and I am soooooooo jealous of your zoo visit. Might give p her first safari park visit soon.

I was thinking about hitting the pound shop today - do you ladies think I could get some weaning malarkey there?

Det why didn't he change O's nappy? If the answer includes the word Xbox I would go mumpy. 17 hours unchanged is my definition of neglect FFS

My DH isn't perfect but god he's coming across as man of the year. These rude, thoughtless, mean spirited fellas don't desire sex let alone devoted partners and children

Caz I'd get her a voucher for a spa treatment.

Getting the bear weighed this afternoon. Its been weeks - I wonder how fat he is? Given he's 27 weeks it'd be nice if he is 15lb+ but I'm not sure - he's so dinky compared to babies we see at baby groups. I think I might be judging a bit unfairly as I'm BF, he has CMPI and was early - he might never get the sturdy roundness of some FF babies - especially those without reflux, I need to remember I'm comparing apples with oranges.

Our dietician is popping round with calcium and vitamin D supplements for me and to see how weaning take 2 is going. How nice is that?! He had 1/2 cube papaya today and loved it. Tomorrow and Sunday he's going to have a cube and if all well two on Monday, then I'll introduce something else. Baby steps and super slow seems to be best for us

Pass I meant to say - for weaning get some silicon ice cube trays put the puree in, freeze for 24 hours and because they're silicon they're easy to pop the cubes out of - and store them in zip lock plastic freezer bags. We've got some great ones you can write the contents and dates frozen on. It means you don't need to buy expensive pots for the freezer. I've got a freezer drawer full of over 200 puree cubes now and just get them out one at a time a couple of hours before needed. I reckon between the four trays and freezer bags - I've spent £7

I was thinking the same about my Dh YW! He said to me the other day that he was amazed at what I achieve in a day because he knew he would get nothing done. I gave him an extra squeeze last night thinking of lily. Some of the quiche partners could do with bearing in mind just how lucky they are in so very many ways.

Awesome YW!
I do have one silicon tray - with cubes which are cat shaped. How could any baby refuse?