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November 2012 - The new quiche sleepy dust crop-sprayer plane seems to be working

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StuntNun · 12/04/2013 15:10

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1725957-November-2012-Poor-sleep-deprived-mummies-and-daddy

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

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ChasingDaisy · 14/04/2013 18:46

Gah rubbish day.

O has been upset all day. Think a combo of no poo for two days and teething. Brave little thing still manages smiles and giggles though. Another day of not eating much.

I broke down in tears earlier. Had been feeling strong but apparently I am not. Feel like a shit mother. Feel weak. Feel isolated. Feel guilty. Feel like I am not capable of being in a healthy relationship. Feel like there is no way out. Feel scared.
Feel sorry for myself basically and will fuck off now.

Passmethecrisps · 14/04/2013 18:53

Don't you dare fuck off daisy. We all have days like that at the best of times so you can be forgiven emotional wobbles. You are not a shit mother. I am not surprised you feel isolated and you have been conditioned to believe that you cannot do better than the relationship you had. This is not true. Take each day as it comes. Minute by minute if you need to.

Lily311 · 14/04/2013 18:54

Don't fuck off chasing. You are not a rubbish mother and you are strong. We are here, keep talking.

We have had a really good day, went to central London and took some cute pictures of O with all the sightings. My brother came with us too, i even managed to get some shopping done. Though I was mortified of what I saw in the mirror. Diet starts tomorrow. Popped into apple shop to ask to fix my ipad, the home button doesn't always respond. Apparently they will give me a brand new ipad when i take this in. One happy lady here.

Passmethecrisps · 14/04/2013 18:57

clarella why would you do it any other way? I plan to go back for the new term in August which is called my 'back to school' day. I go back on payroll in June. This is the norm where the timings work - HR suggest it if you don't. Every job has its pros and cons - this is a pro. Take it!

Passmethecrisps · 14/04/2013 18:59

That's great about the iPad lilly. Although these things are expensive and should work so I suppose a replacement is only fair. I hate those caught by surprise in the mirror moments as well. In my head I am still 27 and a lot slimmer. I get quite a surprise when I see someone almost 8 years older, grey hair and a stone and a half more flab. The baby in a pushchair is always quite a surprise as well!

PurplePidjin · 14/04/2013 20:04

I'll try and catch up later. Had an amazing weekend at Santa Pod. Dp got back on the mic (he commentates on the racing) and is bouncing with restored confidence. R spent the whole time either sleeping in the sling or charming all our friends with smiles. Very proud Pidjy :o

Clarella · 14/04/2013 20:31

oo thanks pass! I feel bad as I - erm - basically was off 'sick' from 9 weeks due to slapped cheek (I worked from home for a bit) but then later had thyroid stuff going on and got AND. I've actually been of nearly a year now !

so glad you had fun and dp too pidj ! sounds like you needed that!

fucking buggery thrush!!!!!! teething distractible biting doesn't help!!!! then twanging my bra top right on the nipple!!!! on the phone for the hard stuff tomorrow am

Passmethecrisps · 14/04/2013 20:39

Lovely pidj. You guys deserve a lovely day out.

clarella thems the breaks! Don't feel bad for stuff which was out of your control.

And it sounds like you are having a totally pishy time with BF

Clarella · 14/04/2013 20:39

no don't go daisy. you're fab. we all have shit moments but yours are really rather hard and you're allowed to feel rubbish but you are really incredibly strong. tears can be good as you let out stress hormones and can help you rebuild. my tears were over fungus and formula today - not much in reality. you are an amazing mother to a brand new little person who will learn how to be amazing and strong too from you and will become an amazing and strong grown up. all because of you. keep posting hun.

Clarella · 14/04/2013 20:43

eeek detective - not sure. gps are v good (in my experience - see below!) at cutting mum's some slack re sick and I think it's treated as sick pay after your return date. do you have a union to speak to? might be good to get advice?

Clarella · 14/04/2013 20:45

oh I see detective - you can self certify for first 5 days ....

BigPigLittlePig · 14/04/2013 20:48

clarella daktarin oral gel worked a treat for me - and no need to wash it off before feeding. You can buy it from a chemist too if you can't get through to the dr tomorrow x

Clarella · 14/04/2013 20:50

pr little one hasn't thrush in mouth/throat? I only ask as I'm battling it but a friends lo stopped feeding with it as it can make mouth sore. but I think it would be pretty noticeable. amoxycillin made George very thirsty indeed which eased a bit when he stopped. sorry she's off food again.

Clarella · 14/04/2013 20:53

bplp have that already. think tablets are going to have to be taken and another course of nystatin for him. buggery arseing antibiotics. (sorry Sunday) but I don't think I kept it all up for long enough this last week.

off to sleep now - wonder if we'll get sleepy dust up here tonight?!

Izzybuzzybuzzybees · 14/04/2013 20:54

detective I think if you know your going to be off already then is forewarn them if it was me. I know you have problems with your fanjo, is it just episiotomy that's the problem? I'm just wondering what the GP will certify it as, it seems a tricky one!!

chasing don't dare leave. We are here for you.

J wasn't great last night, woke twice to feed and twice for a hand hold. Not sure how to stop that or how to get bedtime earlier! My new monitor is due for delivery tomorrow so hoping we can try putting him upstairs earlier but I can't see it happening!

Donnadoon · 14/04/2013 20:59

Thanks Detective And I have no experience and advise for your line of work but life has taught me that honesty is the best policy and if there is any way of just 'telling them straight' that you ain't coming back until you and your baby are up to it and if they don't like it that's tough shit ... but obviously you have to cover yourself and go through the proper channels but I would ring them tomorrow and get it over and done with because then it's done and you can relax rather than tying yourself up in knots about it for the next couple of weeks.

ValiumQueen · 14/04/2013 21:00

pass I will text you when I have access to the car to see if I can pop to get it. I think it is time young J had a bit of time on his feet. The girls had walkers, door bouncers, jumperoos etc, and poor old J has a circuit of bumbo, bouncer chair, and floor. He hates the bumbo though. I have not told DH. He will not approve.

Been out this afternoon - into Stirling, just browsing really. Both girls bathed tonight with hair wash.

When put and about bottle users, how do you warm a bottle? I have a good system in place for carrying it chilled and keeping it chilled, but today we were in M&S and they had a Tommee Tippee bottle flask warmer thing which was shite. Ikea is fab for facilities. I know how to keep a feed hot, but that will require money spent on a fancy little coat for the bottle. Any thoughts?

ValiumQueen · 14/04/2013 21:02

detective I think you should tell them ASAP and speak to HR or Occ Health. It is not a new problem so best say ASAP.

Pikz · 14/04/2013 21:06

VQ I ask for a cup of boiling water and sit bottle in it.

Chasing don't go anywhere I am having a crap mother, crap partner day it happens but we would rather support you.

Lily and pjpj sounds like lovely days.

Weirdly Clarella after 3 lots of nystatin, daktarin was only thing that worked.

DP is cross as I'm too tired for some hanky panky. Now feel like absolute shite for turning him down but I'm just whacked

BigPigLittlePig · 14/04/2013 21:06

VQ I shall await hot bottle solutions with interest - F will only take a bottle if really very hot like her mum with hot drinks then which is one good reason for me to continue to bf - lukewarm is not an option for this fussy feeder.

Passmethecrisps · 14/04/2013 21:07

Awesome VQ.

Re bottles I have a wee jacket for the bottles so not much use to you.

Pikz · 14/04/2013 21:07

Im with the others Detective, honesty the best policy. Big hug.

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ValiumQueen · 14/04/2013 21:22

pass I have been looking for the wee jacket and cannot find it. Does it have a name?

Elizadoesdolittle · 14/04/2013 21:27

Yup detective I'm another vote for being upfront and honest.

vq I put the water in a little stainlees steel flask so no good for you. Sorry. I bought it ages a go and it was just sitting in the cupboard gathering dust but it's come into it's own the last couple of weeks. It keeps it at the exact temprature that I put the water in. I take it upstairs at night too to save me having to come downstairs to warm water.

Am loving this beautiful weather. DD1 been a bit of a handful today but I can take it much better when the sun is shining. We spent the morning at a park and in the garden for the afternoon. Went to my sisters for dinner which was lovely. She's a great cook. I've eaten far too much. I need to start cutting down on all the crap I eat and start excerising. This warm weather has made me realise I have very little to wear in the way of summer stuff. I have 2 hen do's and 2 weddings to go to this year and I don't want to look like a frump for them.

Preschool starts again tomorrow, thank god. Think DD1 needs a routine back and it will help me get E into one too.

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