November 2012 - The new quiche sleepy dust crop-sprayer plane seems to be working

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1725957-November-2012-Poor-sleep-deprived-mummies-and-daddy

[Passmethecrisps]

Well. The sun shines on a dog's ass some days PR. She is obviously a fucking bint who had a moment.

[MissMummy1]

I wish this house could be our forever home. Fortunately/unforunately our landlord never wants to sell. And we could never afford it. As a trained architect DP wants to build our forever home.

I need a quiche slap. DP gave M her first taste of formula tonight. She has been feeding solidly all afternoon and I am knackered. I felt like such a failure, I cried YW the offer of borrowing my manchild and the estate car tomorrow still stands

We did have a lovely morning with a stroll through the woods then out along a causeway to one of the islands. The total muppets that we are though (one professional sailor and one ex-racing helm/RNLI volunteer...) didnt read the tide table properly and nearly got stranded.

Chasing I have been there. Dreams eventually become reality if you wait long enough xx

Sleepdust to all. Can I stay on the flight route please?

[BigPigLittlePig]

Pass

I forget who it was who said about SIDS, but I've been getting more and more panicked about that lately too. Completely irrational I know, but every night when I put her down in her crib I have this awful fleeting thought, of "is this the last time I'll cuddle her". Thinking about it now is making me panic. And much as I love her long morning naps, anything beyond about 90 minutes and I'm up there checking she's still breathing. Am I being normal or weird? Tell me this gets easier?!

[MissMummy1]

Dont know why my wee message to yw slotted in mid post?!

[PetiteRaleuse]

[PetiteRaleuse]

:o

[ValiumQueen]

pass

bp perfectly normal my dear ((hug)) I would like to say it gets easier, but I do not like to tell untruths. Talking to friends with teenagers, that is waaay worse! At least we know where they are at this age! The reason we feel like this is we have never felt a love like this before, and the little one we love is utterly dependent on us. And very small. And we live in a horrible world. And we are tired. And we are in a baby bubble. And we are not getting enough sex. Or alcohol. And we are tired. Perfectly normal.

mm you are not a failure. You have done amazingly and will probably continue to feed her for a year or so. One bottle of formula is not going to do any harm at all. I am hoping it was your decision to give it?

[PetiteRaleuse]

pig I think the problem with you medical folk is how much you know can go wrong. It's normal to worry though but SIDS is rarer and rarer now.

[kirrinIsland]

mm - we've done formula for the first time today too. I feel guilty - although the fact that she has been asleep in her cot since 21.45 is helping me feel better.

bplp I can identify with that - and it's not just SIDS either. I imagine all sorts of awful things happening to them, it's horrible. There was a thread about it a little while ago and it seems it pretty common.

[kirrinIsland]

The worrying is common, not the SIDS.

[Passmethecrisps]

Well! Went up to get P for meds and noms to find her lying curled up on her side propped up with good arm. Arm freed not a minute too soon it would appear.

All propping up of mattress gone and both arms out.

Wish me luck quiche!

[Dixiebell]

bplp, everyone thinks it, that's ok, but then dismiss it from your mind, and think lovely happy thoughts instead.

I ummed and ahhed over getting a buggy board but it is one of my best kiddie purchases. Ds1 is 2.5, and I can't imagine him sitting in a buggy at all now. He's 50/50 with wanting to walk or stand on the board. When I'm in a hurry I bribe him with snacks placed on the pram cover so he'll stand there eating them.

Tots' disco was fun. Actually DH usually takes ds1 while I head off for a wander round shops with Ted. So satisfaction all round. Glad there are so many fans of disco party classics out there!

[MissMummy1]

Yes VQ I told him to do it.

Kirrin amazingly she has been asleep in her cot since 9.45 too

[Elizadoesdolittle]

Ah some lovely happy posts.

yw congratulations and I'm glad the move went well.

I'm waiting to exchange contracts on what should be our forever home. Unless we win the euro millions and it could be our 2nd home for when we visit relatives! I'm addicted to rightmove too. Love looking at houses. I'm a nosey bint.

bplp oh that's so sad. I don't really know what to say but just wanted to acknowledge what you said. It's hard being a mummy, such a mixture of emotions,

pass I love that comment about the sun shining on a dogs arse, really made me giggle.

vq so glad things are going well for you and j. Long may it continue.

pr sounds like a lovely day. Enjoy the wine.

Gosh there were so many people I wanted to reply too but can't remember what I wanted to say.

Had a fairly good day today. Went on a nature trail with my girls and the in laws. E pulled her tube out just before dinner so had to go to hospital yet again. She's doing it twice a week pretty much. But I did have a chance to give her a lovely bath before I took her to get it re passed. She loves baths but I'm so paranoid about the plaster getting wet that she doesn't have them very often. I've said the next time she pulls it out during the day I will drop everything and take her swimming. She'd love it but I can't take her whilst she has the tube. Makes me sad.

Good night all, hope the sleep dust reaches those in desperate need, particularly luis I think you're long overdue a good night.

[TheDetective]

Are you tired perchance VQ?

I'm pissed off about my pram. Found loads of scratches on it. Why do I have to be so damn fussy? This is why I went through 11 of the fuckers with DS1. Can't stand muck and damage on them.

Is there anywhere that can repair prams? I suppose getting scratches out of metal and plastic is, um, impossible. .

If O thinks he is getting up for 2 feeds again tonight, he's got another thing coming. I wish, if he doesn't get fed he just won't sleep, so what's the frickin' point!.

My arse hurts. More than usual. Had a look. It is red raw. Why? Dp forgot toilet roll. Had to use babywipes.

Fucking hell, if they did that to mine.....?! How the fuck does a baby not have a raw arse all the time?!

[TheDetective]

I had a nap this afternoon. A 2 hour nap. I could get used to naps.



I've been trying to get information about weaning with reflux/intolerance. Not a lot of fact out there, is there?! I wanted to get prepared, as we are 6 weeks away, and that will go quickly. I was planning on starting preparations in 2 weeks for freezing etc.

VQ Thanks for the idea for putting in the water. What is it?!

[TheDetective]

I have to leave O next saturday - from 7.45 - 5.45.

Dreading it. He will be with MIL. So he is fairly used to her. And I know he will be looked after. But he has only been without me or DP once before, and that was for 2 hours when we went to the cinema.

10 hours is a fucking long time for a tiny baby!

I need to do 35 hours of study by the end of may, for my registration. Well, I'm short on hours thanks to my SOM saying some of my study doesn't count. Even though the NMC says it does. Long story.

Anyway, the study day is in my town, and only cost £20, so would be stupid not to go. But I have the wobblies!! Any reassurance?!

[Clarella]

(wrote this post this morning - oops!) oh bplp fabulous news on the sleep!!!!

I just want to say how much I admire you parents who are battling with plus one child. plus problems such as reflux etc and crap nhs and can write such wonderful supportive posts here. vq, Luis and so many more of you.

have a fab weekend pidj!

yes to ncss - thing is suddenly I can't stop him nodding off! I do try plus he's rarely feeding to sleep at bed time now. also, I recently read research that says the fluttering sleepy sucks trigger a hormone to help them sleep...

after my melt down last wkend (actually in part triggered by books on such things) I've resolved to approach it all in the way I would at work - and a lot of stunts stuff is what I feel. personally I see stress free bedtime for him as better in the long run than a battle. and our 'plan' of settling him with a hand hold has worked a lot this week. it's the bastard. antibiotics giving him tummy pains (as listed as a side effect) and I now have found out he'll be on them for around 3 months

dh quotes today: formula is the natural follow on. me:
ok formula is the normal follow on.
(Later) dh: 'do you think he has elements of ginger?'

[Clarella]

I'm so glad many of you had good days. sun really does help pr!

glad move went well yw! dh also an architect wants to one day build his dream house though the reality is forever living on a building site

chasing I remember feeling like that only too well. very soon I'm sure you will feel the same in life as you do in dreams with your lovely little baby. huge hugs.

small rant:
I'm getting a bit about dhs attitude towards our only 4 month old baby. he's been 'on watch' since 9 while I kipped in spare room and I was woken by inconsolable yells. unfortunately the thrush is flaring again so I had to wash the cream off which took longer. dh was trying unsuccessfully to calm G - basically he was hungry and even I was surprised by the level of screaming - but dh handed him to me with an attitude of disdain 'this is just temper' etc as if our baby shouldn't be doing it.

I know it's basically that he's cross he couldn't help but also I feel he's interpreting baby behaviour as if G is so much older. he's constantly saying things like 'man up g', which I know he wouldn't say if G were s girl. but then bangs on about the importance of making g feel secure. not sure how to get him to be more compassionate or have more patience. cos he's bloody going to need it.

[Clarella]

bplp I too have felt like that about sids and I think it's a very common feeling. we're given so many warnings about it constantly it feels paralysing sometimes.

yes detective - they just say it can make reflux worse but no advice otherwise - generally anything to do with reflux seems to be pretty shit huh?!

hoping you're all asleep. feeling despondent our little one will ever sleep well. it feels like a horrid weight on our heads when we talk to people. there's so many cio people out there.

[Clarella]

on the other hand lo had a great time testing jumperoos in mother care (not getting one but might pop there for a treat from time ti time!)

did get a high chair and he was so obviously delighted to be sitting up! he hates the bumbo as its too upright so it's meaning lots of mum and dad propping. the quicker he's actively moving etc the better.

do they sleep better when they start travelling?

hoping the tummy has settled on these antibiotics - much thicker poo midday today! (he slept his best when poos were midday!)

fuck I forgot the meds. who the hell makes medicine for a baby aniseed flavour?

[itsnotyouitsMeals]

Struggling to keep up but just wanted to send sleep to those who need it, comfort to those who seek it and love to all the beautiful LOs. I would love to post more but can't seem to manage at the moment

A few mentions I can remember.... yw happy new home, clarella we never did CIO with DD1 and she slept eventually , donna bplp I have come to think fear is part of parenthood. You love them so much it tears you up thinking anything might happen. But it's rare and we must try to enjoy them.

It would have been my SIL's 48 birthday today. She died 6 years ago. I have been thinking of my PILs and her four girls and of course DH today.

In other news, we are living in the 1940s house. No heat, hot water, car or Hoover (run out of bags). Fun!

Sleep well all. Fingers crossed for mm luis kirrin clarella bplp and all others with sleep dodgers.

Oh and det could someone bring O to you at lunchtime for an hour? Or would that be worse?

pr I love our buggy board.

[Clarella]

2 hourly - like clockwork! still a cuddle not bood did it

oh that's so sad istnot. hugs to you and your family.

1940s house?! is that like the one on the tv?

[kirrinIsland]

:( meals Thats very sad.

Thank you for the sleep dust and sleepy wishes She slept from 21.45 - 02.15

[Lily311]

I am pretty sure that the sleepy dust plane is faulty. It steals from adults to give them to kids therefore neither get enough sleep.

O did 6.45-12.20-4.00-6.30. I did 10-12.20 than pretty much up all night. Yawn.