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November 2012 - Poor sleep-deprived mummies (and daddy)

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StuntNun · 06/04/2013 22:25

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horseylady · 11/04/2013 20:30

pass not about labour but I've had flashbacks to another traumatic event and was diagnosed with PTSD.

evil could there be more to the story? I'd suggest her or you posting though. There are some very knowledgeable people on here (and some nasty ones!!)

Passmethecrisps · 11/04/2013 20:31

PR we have a blood donor bus comes to my school every year. It is great seeing the assembly hall all filled with beds and teachers seniors lying alongside each other blethering as they donate. It's a fab example to set to the younger students. Enjoy your 'the night I died but now I am alive' champers. As good a reason I have ever heard!

evil that sounds like a very tough situation. It is so hard to know the intricacies of such situations as they are usually very complex. I would suggest that being there for you friend in a practical way will be a massive help for her. SS will look favourably on the situation if she has a strong friendship group who provide practical help.

Passmethecrisps · 11/04/2013 20:33

I did wonder if you had mentioned that before horsey. I have no experience of such things so I can only imagine how scary it must be. Treat this as a one off if you can but any further worries I might be inclined to pop and see a GP.

Pikz · 11/04/2013 20:34

Horsey I am petrified that when/if I get pregnant again they won't notice this child is too upside down and it will actually break my pelvis this time. I don't think I could have another unless I had an elcs as I will never believe its the right way up when i go into labour.

I don't know how to stop the thought going round my head either, I just assumed birth stories fade with time.

As for the breastfeeding like you I was devastated about it all. I can only hope I can make amends with the next one.. And maybe i will find out it isn't the romantic ideal I still have in my head despite everything everyone on here has said.

Big love xxx

ValiumQueen · 11/04/2013 20:35

I am amazed. The dietician has just been on the phone to me. Very reassuring, and sending me carobel in the post. She even offered to drop in some special formula tomorrow, but I explained it was on order for tomorrow. She said to start it. She will call me Monday, see me if necessary. Amazing. I felt cared for. Like someone gives a shit.

bp I am in awe of doctors. It must be such a hard job, and they are expected to know everything about everything. I am sure the lady today was trying her best to help me.

ChasingDaisy · 11/04/2013 20:35

Lily get rid! You don't want to be lugging those with you when you move. O won't miss them.

Right, did we find a pilot for that plane? Chunky I think you are best qualified. A liberal dusting over the east midlands would be muchos appreciated.

Had a chat with my Tesco delivery driver about the formula rationing today. He said that last week he took a delivery to a house where they had ordered 18 tubs Shock. He said they had a Chinese name so thought they must be dodgy Hmm . I didn't tell him about my half Chinese son and the stash of 4 tubs I now have in the cupboard

PurplePidjin · 11/04/2013 20:36

Madam, recurring flashbacks can be a sign of PTSD - i got it from a violent break in at 3am (front and bedroom doors kicked in) so a difficult labour could certainly trigger it. GP for a perinatal psych referral just in case. Equally, no more children is a valid choice to make.

PR, i have a month to go. Dp is now on too many drugs for bp. We were both regular donors, on bone marrow and organ lists etc. I was very put out to find i couldn't donate cord blood, but my placenta went to research which is the next best thing.

Evil Shock i can only suggest you stay strong and advocate for your friend if you can. Listen without judging, which i guess is what you're already doing.

Bastard teeth here. Much calgel and dummy chomping. Please sleep soon, little dude!

Pikz · 11/04/2013 20:36

PR sounds like a good reason for champagne Wine

Evilwater · 11/04/2013 20:37

I've texted her to come on here. I just hope she does it.
Evil.

ValiumQueen · 11/04/2013 20:38

pr I am very glad you did not die.

horsey I was convinced I would never have another after my first birth experience. With DD2 I had a wonderful ELCS which was amazingly healing on so many levels.

Passmethecrisps · 11/04/2013 20:40

Making babies certainly is an emotional business.

I still have dreams about breastfeeding. I was telling VQ the other day that I dreamt that I just decided to relactate. The milk was glugging out of me all thick and yellow like birds custard. And I sometimes find, usually when tired and p is upset, the urge to put her on the breast almost overwhelming.

I think that sometimes you just need to give these emotions their place and let it happen. I do understand that this is not the same as panic attacks and PTSD

PurplePidjin · 11/04/2013 20:41

Wrt to softies, dp's cunts work sent flowers and an insipid blue thing. R loves the rattle, but the bear shed fluff. So dp had great fun with my sewing scissors, very therapeutic Blush

Refuges often appreciate toys for children fleeing dv, often lots gets left behind. Is that an ootion?

Evilwater · 11/04/2013 20:51

Madam no worries!
Horsey thanks for the info. The Bridle way was at the bottom of the hill and were on the byway. She yelled in her toff voice "what the hell are you doing" seeing as we made loads of room for her horse and made sure the engine was turned off too. If I had been driving, then I would have given her a sharp fuckery answer.
pass I do wonder what it would be like to BF again. But I would rather have a happy baby than a hungry one.
big waves!!!
PR apart from me, my whole family have needed blood products. With out them, I would be the only person alive. Can we give blood after having our little ones?
Luis hope things are better.
GT why didn't bring the nice warm weather of India back?
Detective I bet your glad to be back.

I'm sorry if I missed anyone.
Evil

ChunkyChicken · 11/04/2013 21:01

Agree with others horsey that it may be a 1 off, but if not, seek prof advice.

I think the memory does fade with time though. I didn't have a particularly traumatic first birth but at the time, rushing to the hospital with my waters gone, a tremendous urge to push & major contractions was a bit of a Shock. I honestly thought that I would have the "usual" longish delivery as a first time mum. So much so, I was kind of shellshocked. When I admitted that to other mums I'd just met (when they asked about the birth), they made slightly spiteful comments and suggested I was 'lucky', regaling me with their horror stories. Now, I'm not saying they didn't have a bad time of it, I'm just trying to say, having a baby, in & of itself, can be shocking, & somewhat traumatic, even if nothing really goes 'wrong'. It's a huge life adjustment, but it does fade and many, many people go on to have another 1 2, 3, 4...

No need to decide now about possible offspring, just make sure the feelings about the birth aren't having a detrimental effect on your life.

Oh and, having DS has helped me lay some ghosts to rest, even with the much quicker birth & tongue tie. I do still doubt myself about things, but less often, & different things to with DD, & ultimately, I think that's a mother's lot in life!!

Right, well I'm off up to the local airfield to see if I can procure nick a plane for a joy ride mercy mission with the sleepy dust. My flight plan is to do concentric circles covering most of the British Isles Wink

Night all.

Oh and Wtf are "jelly kittens"?? I'd get rid. DD's double wardrobe is being taken over with soft toys I won't mention that some are mine though

ValiumQueen · 11/04/2013 21:01

Trust me, breast feeding has been far from magical in this house this time. It was pretty awesome last time though. Just goes to show that it can be so different with another baby. Just check for lip and tongue ties the second they pop out!

horseylady · 11/04/2013 21:02

evil I don't think motorised vehicles are allowed.

I was in the shower and it just hit me. Like a panic attack. Horrid, horrid, horrid.

Well see what happens.

Sophiathesnowfairy · 11/04/2013 21:03

horsey was going to say what pr said. I know someone who ad ELCS after a traumatic birth and I nearly asked for one this time after my 3rd birth, extended recovery and damaged sacrum. I am glad I didn't because it was a perfect birth and mentally has closed the door on the third one. I can not stress enough that every birth can be so different all four of mine have. Anyway cross that bridge when you come to it. Pop it away in your little bag of worries for now and enjoy E. xx

evil that's sad. I have no practical advice, but keep checking on her, be an ear, maybe cook her a good meal. Care for her. Xx

ValiumQueen · 11/04/2013 21:03
Sophiathesnowfairy · 11/04/2013 21:05

DS1 has a jellycat Ducky. His life depends on it. Went and bought two as replacements just incase at the weekend and hid them in the cupboard!

Pikz · 11/04/2013 21:06

VQ... Was that you? LO reported a fairy sighting whilst in the bath Wink

ValiumQueen · 11/04/2013 21:06

You can drive a car down a byway, but not a restricted byway. The car does not have priority though, like on a road.

Evilwater · 11/04/2013 21:08

Well I was in a 4x4. Grin poor horse!
Evil

ValiumQueen · 11/04/2013 21:08

That was me pikz in your lovely cape. Thank you Smile

I also like jellycat and jellykitten. Life would be really dull if we were all the same.

Pikz · 11/04/2013 21:10

I am currently in live with jelly kitten books. LO lives them and he has two stories every night!

Soft toys am not such s big fan, but the bashful bunny he has is beautiful

Pikz · 11/04/2013 21:11

Fucking autocorrect loves! Not likes