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November 2012 - Poor sleep-deprived mummies (and daddy)

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StuntNun · 06/04/2013 22:25

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1721864-November-2012-GTbaby-is-back-Hooray-hooray

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FatimaLovesBread · 08/04/2013 22:37

First waking of the night already and she's feeding as if she hasn't been fed for days! If only she'd take more during the day then she wouldn't need so much at night. One night waking is now turning in to three, or last night four (one settled without boob).
I moved in to Ms room with her so I could catch up on sleep away from DHs snoring but she's waking me more AngrySmile
Last night was the first time for a while that I've struggled to stay awake while feeding her and MNing

Thanks for the CV BPLP love all the pig details Grin

Just thought of a positive if DH not having a job, Ms last set of jabs are due on Friday, he can go with her and be the bad guy for a change

MissMummy1 · 08/04/2013 22:43

Re weaning; I bought a machine off eBay that steams, blends and then defrosts frozen cubes to the right temp. There are various settings for thickness etc. I intend to do a mix of purees and BLW. M is 4 months now. I would say totally ready as she is practically sitting up and everything goes in her mouth including the dog. She is facinated by what we eat and is already reaching out for our food. I wanted to wait for 6 months but may cave in a couple of weeks time. We will start with purees and then mix with solids.

Having suffered with eating disorders and been the pickiest eater as a child ever not that you would know now it is really important to me that M has a great relationship with food.

Tomorrow I will mostly be sporting the 'haven't slept in years' look. The little bugger will only sleep on me....

PetiteRaleuse · 08/04/2013 22:48

I so want a column

DD1 ate everything put in front of her, though atm is obsesses with peas. LO is proving to be fussier, but once this cold is out of the way we'll be right. Psitive thinking.. Rahhhhh.

Izzybuzzybuzzybees · 08/04/2013 22:50

vq you better be there tomorrow!!

So looking forward to the meet. I need reassuring that J isn't the only one not sleeping at night ignores the fact he won't sleep in the day either

Feeding just now. Hoping for only one night feed but know I have no chance!

MissMummy1 · 08/04/2013 22:51

Izzy Matilda seems to survive on zero sleep. I do not. She has officially broken us.

daisychain76 · 08/04/2013 22:55

Evening, big day for H today. Not only is he 29 weeks today he had his teeth brushed for the first time (all 2 of them!) and tried hoummus (sucking it off pitta bread). He seemed to enjoy both experiences!

Hope your hospital stay isn?t too bad tits. Sorry you are having rough times luis and lily.

Question for sling users. How do you carry your LO? H refuses to face me now (had 6 weeks break from baby wearing as it was hurting my c section scar). I don?t feel comfy with the idea of him on my back yet (only around 14 1/2 pounds) but l have heard stuff about front outwards not being a good position??

Elizadoesdolittle · 08/04/2013 23:04

Well this morning started off with another trip to the hospital as E pulled her tube out again. She's done it 3 times in the last 7 days, tinker.

I then collected the high chair I won off eBay and went to a weaning talk at my local clinic. It was all about BLW. No advice whatsoever about puree. When I weaned DD1 there wasn't that much info about BLW from HV's so was refreshing to hear. Didn't help me however although I only really went to see if there were any freebies....there weren't! E seems to be doing well on what little puree she is taking but as soon as she's 6 months I'll do finger foods too so I am also taking the whatever approach to weaning. E actually drank 60ml of thickened milk from a doidy cup today which was really encouraging. Saw the dietician today who is really pleased with her progress. Still no idea as to when the tube can come out though. Probably not for at least another couple of months.

To those going to the meet... Enjoy Grin

Elizadoesdolittle · 08/04/2013 23:11

kyz I know how you feel and completely sympathise but please believe me when I say you are not a failure. It took me a long time to come round to the idea that I wasn't to blame for E's feeding issues. I have the occasional wobble still, but I am not to blame. It is unfortunately just one of those things. You are doing a great job and don't be anxious of weaning. There is really no right or wrong way of doing it, only the way that suits you best. Experiment and have fun with it and please give yourself a virtual slap from me every time you feel like a failure. You are anything but.

And the same goes to all those worried about feeding issues. Just look at how many of us there are!

PetiteRaleuse · 08/04/2013 23:20

eliza it's great to hear she's doing well :)

StuntNun · 08/04/2013 23:29

I had a great birthday, got the Kindle Fire changed for a Kindle Paperwhite, books to read, music to listen to (Crash Test Dummies, Rammstein and Average White Band which seems somewhat eclectic now I come to think of it) and lots of good food - smoked salmon and cream cheese bagels, out to a restaurant for lunch, cake at the (babysitting) IL's house and an Indian takeaway after the kids were in bed. Being 37 ain't all bad!

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daisychain76 · 08/04/2013 23:36

Happy birthday stunt. I feel hungry now!

TheDetective · 09/04/2013 00:13

I've had to scroll back up to post - sorry - epic post rant. Here, have a Biscuit. Sorry. Blush

Stunt Crash Test Dummies?

Oh my, I had one (their only?!) of their albums. Ace. Must have another listen. Happy birthday!

A film JJ?! I don't think I look good on camera ever.

I'm another for whatever weaning! I'm doing mushed up breakfast, blw snacks, blw lunch, and then either mush or blw for dinner.

I was waiting for 6 months, and still am. O is just starting to show interest in grabbing things on plates, but I get it before he shoves it in his mouth. We are trying to include him in meal times, so he starts understanding about eating.

I'm guessing he just isn't a milk fan. He isn't taking much at the moment, today he had 4oz, 3oz, 6oz, 3oz, 6oz. I think I could wean sooner than 6 months, but I'm not sure he will gain anything much, so I will hold off unless real clear signs are evident.

Re: sleep regression, well if we are through the worst of it fucking pleeeeeeeeeeeeeease then it did last 3-4 weeks here.

He did a 7.30 feed (bed 8.30) til 4am last night, and then a fully settled sleep in the basket til my alarm woke him at 7.30. Which was fabulous especially as DP did the feed!. I liked that. That was a nice compromise. 2 decent chunks of sleep really.

Took them to the waterpark this afternoon. O cried at the coldness at first, but soon seemed to enjoy it. He lacks confidence at first, but soon gains it when he stops being a wuss cold. I took him round the lazy river about 6 times, in the wave pool, and in the kids pool, and down a little kids slide thank fuck fat ass did not get stuck. Then we took him in a bubble pool, and had some lovely pictures of him and DS1. Then while I was dunking him, the camera man got some sneaky shots that I didn't realise. I'm gutted though as they told us it was 19 francs (around £15) for 3 printed pics, and a disc. Was paying for them when I realised the card machine fuck you dad said 90 francs which was £64!!! The guy realised he had got his nineteen and ninety mixed up. So I was gutted at not getting the pictures. Not paying £64 fucking quid though!!

He even had a good 90 minute nap while there, and I ended up waking him! The noise lulled him to sleep easily! He was a little star really!

My dad is still controlling the money. Angry I got really cross this morning. We were going to the shop, I explained I needed extra swim nappies for O, as we only brought 1 with us, and would need extra for the waterpark. I also wanted to get something for a friend who is dog sitting. So I said to my dad can you please change this money. So he says something along the lines of you don't need to change it. I said, no I wanted to change it. He did not change it. Angry

So once again, we were at the shops and I could not buy things as and when I wanted. I got really quite mad. So I decided fuck it, and started putting what I wanted in the trolley, and just casually said, oh I've got my card, I'll just pay with that and ignore the hefty charge. So he conceded by paying, and I gave him the sterling. So, still no money in my pocket.

While we were at the waterpark my dad loaded his wristband with money for drinks etc. Nothing on ours, and we could not put any on. I was sat with him, while O was sleeping, and he went to the bar and came back with a beer. No drink for me. No offer of would you like a drink I was gasping. If I had known he was going to the bar I could of asked, but he said nothing.

Eventually he got us ice creams which I didn't want, I have sensitive teeth. Then one drink, and one portion of chips to share between 4 of us. Hmm.

I just don't fucking get it. I can not go anywhere, he lives out the way, no shops near by that I have noticed, no car I can drive. I can't go anywhere to exchange money. I feel totally restricted and restrained and it is making me so cross. My poor mum poor fred too will be listening to my bitching as soon as I get home.

Yes, he has form for this btw. But not in this way. But yes, controlling of money is a habit he has.

Still, one more full day. I have the worlds supply of Raclette cheese in my case, and a shed load of swiss chocolate, so that will be great to get home too!

And my bed. Oh. How I have missed you bed!

G'night, and good fucking luck one and all!

TheDetective · 09/04/2013 00:23

PR Dads wife noticed me making up his formula with SMA this evening. She informed me they are owned by Nestle.

She works in Nestle, the internal marketing communications manager. Yes, I googled her name to get this - all I knew was she was a manager, and it was something to do with marketing.

My dad worked for Nestle before he retired. I googled him, but could only find something to do with SAP. I know he works with systems and networks. That is all.

I am a midwife, and my family work for Nestle.

LuisGarcia · 09/04/2013 00:29

Happy birthday, stunt

Had a very childish 5 minutes today with MrsG. We found a newspaper article about some "new postergirl for sahm's".

Who has a millionaire husband, millionaire parents, nanny, gardener and cleaner and who "is the artistic director of her own photo shoots and is launching a new fashion line".

Who had her baby last May and by September had to start her life again, because she'd "been a mummy all summer".

And who regarded being a mum as "time for me".

A single biro can add bags under the eyes, random stains to the soft furnishings, wrinkles, toys everywhere, hair all over the place, a laptop with mumsnet on, raisins in odd places and an "I feel so guilty" thoughtbubble to the "new postergirl for sahm's" surprisingly quickly.

TheDetective · 09/04/2013 00:34

Did you add the hairy legs and pits in? And the jagged fanjo?

And the sick down her back?

Please tell me you did? Grin

LuisGarcia · 09/04/2013 00:36

Her fanjo was not on display, but otherwise yes.

PurplePidjin · 09/04/2013 00:46

Happy birthday Stunt Thanks

Det that sounds horrendous Sad

ChasingDaisy · 09/04/2013 01:01

Babies are weird. I had been making 6oz bottles but as O had been drinking so little I have reduced them back down to 5oz. Since then he has drained almost every bottle, having been only taking 3oz for the past little while Hmm

First night feed. Over 5 hours.

LuisGarcia · 09/04/2013 01:06

Babies are weird.

LuisGarcia · 09/04/2013 01:50

quiche aibu q.

aibu to answer this p scathingly.

I am fiercely defensive of MrsG's sleep, and she is fiercely defensive of mine. That's p basic teamwork, right? AIBU to want to get snippy when people ask how to get their menfolk to "help"? Am I allowed to go in guns blazing on threads like that or are they more for comforting the OP?

LuisGarcia · 09/04/2013 02:39

I love that you're all asleep. Keeps posting just in case that's the secret

kirrinIsland · 09/04/2013 02:57

Happy birthday stunt

4 hours for her first sleep - pretty good really.

detective your Dad sounds pretty stressful :( Hope you are enjoying yourself as best you can.

Luis you obviously have a great relationship with MrsG but some are not so lucky and that OP would seem to be one of them. Some of the DPs/DHs you read about on MN beggar believe - they literally do nothing. I don't think the OP needs comforting as such, she needs some genuine advice. The scathing words might be appropriate for her DH who appears to think that his sleep is more important than hers.

Lily311 · 09/04/2013 03:17

I amhere. 4th wakings of the night. I slept an hour?

Haapybirthday Stunt.

LuisGarcia · 09/04/2013 03:18

I know I'm lucky. I get that. But the concept of having to convince a dp to "help" is so flawed in itself, that's what I want to scathe.

PurplePidjin · 09/04/2013 03:28

Luis it frequently amazes what section of the gene pool otherwise-intelligent women choose to replicate Sad It also frequently surprises me how utterly twattish some men become after implantation Sad

Anything in the cause of a leg over, eh? Hmm

R has decided he's had enough milk. He's wide awake. I've dumped him in the crib with Ewan and dummy and he's making his tired noise. Mean mummy?