May 2006 Babies

[AbiGilby]

I thought I’d start the ‘May Babies’ post natal thread. Hope that’s OK with everyone.

I’ve put together a list of who’s who using Hockeymum’s update on the ‘May Babies’ ante natal thread. I hope I’ve got it right! Feel free to correct me!

Babies that have arrived:
AbiGilby 20 April DS Isaac
Hockeymum 21 April DS Theo
Enid 26 April DD Beatrice
Tortoiseshell 01 May DS2
Seashells 02 May DD Tabitha
Helsi 03 May DD Charlotte
Mandymoo 05 May DS Tom
Louismummy 07 May DS Oliver

Still awaiting their arrival:
Bouj Due 29 April
Squidgeymiller Due 29 April
Snaggletooth Due 01 May
Monkeychambers Due 02 May
Cori Due 04 May
Evilstepmom Due 04 May
Xena Due 04 May
Grygielmm Due 05 May
Lovecloud Due 06 May
Crumpet Due 07 May
Asur Due 08 May
Faeriemum Due 08 May
Kittenpaws Due 08 May
Supersonic Due 08 May
Alicats Due 09 May
Mumsy32 Due 10 May
Imafairy Due 13 May
Fenny1 Due 15 May
Preggiemum Due 16 May
Mummyjojo Due 17 May
Nez Due 17 May
Inkyminky Due 18 May
Spoo Due 19 May
Cmac Due 20 May
Plama Due 20 May
Winkygirl Due 20 May
Bubbles28 Due 22 May
Momamia Due 23 May
Littlemisspiggy Due 24 May
Potpourri Due 24 May
Runtus Due 24 May
Zzoey Due 24 May
Jjules Due 25 May
Ladyoracle Due 25 May
Handbagaddiction Due 28 May
Sniff Due 28 May
Theincubator Due 28 May
Mula Due 30 May
Thebecster Due 30 May

Grace is sicky too but beautiful and she loves baths!! the boys used to scream the house down !!!
But she is so clingy I never realised they could be to one person I can never put her down tried a sling and everything !!!

I am still bf so I am quite pleased there is no sign of teeth yet but I dont think I will be waiting till six months to wean her as feeds all the time !!

I think Theo sounds quick! and you can brag as much as you like we all do it they are the cleverest babies after all and the most beautiful ! or thats what I tell Gracie all the time !!

My 2 boys screamed the house down when they were bathed too - whereas Rosie loves it. Must be a boy/girl thing!

not a boy girl thing because Theo loves his bath. Wonder whether it might be a season thing. DD was an autumn baby and hated the bath as she always got cold. It's been pretty hot since our lo's were born so they might like it more - maybe?!

I thought it was that hockeymum!
DD1 hated baths (december baby) because it was always cold and she grew to love them later on.

DD2 has always loved the bath right from the start.
Having 2 DD's I wouldn't think it was boy/girl thing either!

Not sure if i am aloud to do this.

But would just like to say Faye was born on the 31st of May at 14.41 by C-section!

She is a beautiful little girl, but as i am her mom i probably would think that heh :-)

Wow... I haven't been on for a week and there was LOADS to read... Nice to catch up with all the teeth and rolling over and standing and weaning etc

DS has had a cold (which he kindly passed to me!) and he managed to sneeze a lot of milk out his nose! That's as advanced as he is this week! Seriously though - he's totally not into the rolling over, he lies on his side to nosey about and he does the same as squidgey's DD - he just wants to stand all the time... He's been doing it since he was born practically and it can get a bit annoying, just want him to sit occassionally - he even tries to stand in his bumbo.

It's all fun though.

So, just to be nosey, how many of you are planning on going back to work? When are you due to return/how old will LO be? What childcare are you using? I hadn't planned to go back but things have changed and it looks like I'm going back in 6weeks... don't really want to..

welcome Haily111 and Faye

Hello all, as everyone seems to be giving an update on their Littlens i thought i might.

Faye is now 4.8 kilo's (not sure what that is in pounds) she hasn't rolled yet, and i can't see any teeth, but like some others have said she is dribbling like mad!!!
I give her her last feed between 9 and 10.30 and she sleeps til 7, so i am starting to catch up with my sleep! She still only seems to be taking 22-25 ounces a day which worries me a bit. But i am trying to go along with what she wants! She isn't a chubby baby but very long (59cm - she's 12 weeks old)

Recently she seems to be doing push ups, which looks quite funny. She is nowhere near wanting to stand, but she likes sitting up now, and as she knows she can do that (with mommy's help) she hates lying down!

She is such a happy soul, not sure why i was blessed with such a lovely girl, she wakes up in the morning smiling and that tends to last all day. She is also coming out with the funniest noises at the moment, i think she is desperately trying to giggle (but it sounds VERY out of tune!!)

And last but not least she adores her bath in the evenings, it relaxes her a great deal!

Anyways hope i haven't bored you all :-)

I'd never thought of it as a season thing. DS1 and 2 were winter babies; although it was DS1 who was really bad (Feb birth) DS2 was a December baby.He disliked baths at first but the midwife told me to make the water a lot hotter and that seemed to work. Good thought!
Lillli

Hi Haily, Faye sounds lovely.

I know what you mean about trying to stand in the Bumbo - Niamh is doing that too. She's also started completely tensing up her body and legs when I try to put her in her car seat and she doesn't want to go in. Makes for fun!!

re going back to work, as far as my employer's aware I'm going back 30/10/06 full time, however, the plan so far is to get a minimum wage+ 15hr per week job in a call centre nearby or in the local 24hr ASDA. The cost of childcare round here means that if I went back to work full time I would end up with approx £350pm after tax and childcare, whereas if I work 15hrs per week in the evenings, I don't have to pay childcare or tax and will earn approx the same cash. Also there's the added benefit of being able to spend all day with dd (which is the best incentive ever!) . For the time being I'm going to use the extra 6mnths unpaid mat leave option so I can still go back to my old job if required (i can work elsewhere and not tell them as long as it's less than 16hrs contracted per week).

Things may change nearer the time, but that's definintely the plan for now.

Squidgymiller - thats the reason I left my job too. I used to be a legal exec for a criminal law firm before dd. When she was 1 I went to work in Morrisons in the evenings! It was great as it meant I got to spend all day with dd. I've got to go back in 2 weeks but with 2 children I'm cutting down to 2 evenings a week. It used to be crazy because every weekday evening dh would pass the car keys to me on the drive when he came in from work and be asleep when I got home so we never saw each other. I think 2 evenings is all I can manage now, with dd having ballet lessons one evening and ds carrying on with his swimming, I'd rather enjoy time with them in the evening too.

Other people who worked in the shop used to think I was really odd for working there when I could earn more if I stayed in my old job, but it was low-stress easy work that I could fit around my family. Plus, the other people there were such a laugh and it was great to get my social life back after 18 months sick and maternity leave with dd. This time I've stayed in touch with them the whole time and been to a couple of weddings of theirs etc so when I go back it will be quite nice to be sociable again.

I would love to be able to leave my job or go back only a couple of days but have got to pay all the bills of my house and as i am on my own i only have one wage coming in. Have to say it sucks being on your own sometimes, but i still think it is for the best!

Hello everybody. Ihave been visiting relatives for the lasy 10 days or so and haven't posted for a while. Good to catch up with you all. DD2 is doing well and like most of the others on the thread trying to roll over. She gets stuck on her side then falls back again. I met up with a friend and her 10 day old baby girl who was 9lbs when she was born and she seemed sooo tiny. DD2 was only 7lb 6 and it is hard to believe she was ever that size just a few short weeks ago. Doesn't time fly? I'm still struggling with sad feeling that she will be my last baby. Anybody else feel the same? ( I had horrific hyperemesis with both pregnancies and am getting too old ). In my head I know it is the right decision but my heart feels sad.

Gracie will be my last baby to I was so sick last time and ended up in hospital with an unstable lie I look at her and feel a bit sad she will be the last but then complete as well its an odd feeling

-Hi Squidgeymiller...
Re going back to work, is the working for less than 16 hrs a week and not telling them a standard thing or just for the company you work for? I have just been refused flexible working hours by my work which has upset me a bit, would like to make life as difficult as poss for them (have no intention of going back)
I've just applied for a job at my local Co-Op, hoping easy hours which fit in with my husbands working hours he's a HGV driver, so nights out are a regular thing - he's out tonight actually, so no snoring !

plama - I know exactly how you feel. I know ds will be my last and it makes me so sad. I just cant risk another pregnancy and caesarian. Dh had his snip last month and I did get really upset by it, but we know it is for the best. I am just determined to treasure every bit of ds's tinyness (until he can answer back and annoy me like dd is at the moment). It helps that ds is so easygoing (compared to dd) and is a joy to be around. When he wakes up in the morning I just cuddle him and treasure him whispering to him that he's not allowed to grow up - sadly he is not listening, he had his last lot of injections today and he is over 14lbs now!

How does your dh feel about it plama? Is he understanding that you are sad about it?

Thanks hockeymum and sniff for your understanding. I found what sniff said about being "complete" quite a useful concept and am trying to think of that. Hockeymum, my husband does understand why I'm sad but I really don't think it is the same for a man. He is happy with just 2 children (we always said after DD1 was born that we would not seek help if a second baby was difficult to conceive, and be happy with just one). However in different circumstances we would have considered three. I would be happy to give birth, feed, do the sleepless nights things again but just not the pregnancy bit!! I also don't think it is fair on our 2 DDs to have an ill mummy again for so many months.
Anyway, enough of the "poor me" mentality.
DD2 has second lot of jabs this afternoon - I feel so sorry for her as she cried so much last time

Hi Gypsykream, I'm not 100% sure if it's the same for all companies, but I think the general rule is that if you work less than 16 hours you don't have to declare it, I would maybe check it with the CAB though.

I feel very naughty at the mo coz we've arranged for Niamh to stay with my b and sil on Saturday as we were supposed to be going out with friends. It will be the 1st time we've been apart from her all night (we've been out 2ce but have had my Mum/Dad looking after her and stayed with them so have come home to her the same night). Anyway, The dinner we were supposed to be going to has been moved to next week, which we can't make, but instead of cancelling my b and sil, DH and I have decided to be naughty and have an evening........ alone!!! We might go to the Cinema and have a meal, but mainly it will be nice to spend time together not worrying about every little noise, not having to get up in the middle of the night, and most importantly, not sharing our bedroom !

Anyway, really looking forward to it

Good for you Squidgey - enjoy your evening out. DS2 doing well - still no interest in rolling, although he does move backwards and to the side. And he LOVES being naked - is that just a boy thing? He can be screaming his head off and all I have to do is dis-robe him and he calms down.....and even better if I take his nappy off (so he can try and wee in the one spot where I haven't placed a towel!!!)
He likes yelling still, which I sometimes find hard, but I think that might be down to the fact that DS1 was the ultimate (am I allowed say contented? ) little baby and I've been lulled into a false sense of security. But then I feel guilty cos DS2 is a lot better than some of my friends' babies.
Had a lovely comment from an oldie at the supermarket the other day. DS2 was yellin (tired) and DS1 wanted to help me unload the trolley, so I was stroking DS2's head (and ignoring the noise) and getting DS1 to tell me the colours of things we got out of the trolley, and all the time this woman was staring at me (actually, I thought she was GLARING TBH!!). DS2 fell asleep, and DS1 and I packed the bags and paid up, and as we left the woman stopped me and said "you know, you really are a super-mum. I was watching you to see if there was anything I could do to help, but you had it all under control." (and I'm not bragging - well maybe I am a little - but sometimes I think I'm a crap mum who can't cope with two, and it's nice to hear something positive, and I'm way to modest to share that comment with my RL friends!)
Only 9 days till we go on hols to Portugal - yippee!!!!

Lovely story Imafairy. Nice to here of your positive experience, we all need a bit of a boost sometimes.
I've been invited out to a Body shop party tonight. I'm really pleased as it's the first girly invitation I've had since I moved to this area a year ago and I now feel I'm finally making some new friends.

have a good night plama, it always takes a while to get to know new people.

I'mafairy, so pleased that at last someone saw fit to comment on good parenting, sounds like you did really well. Wear a magic star of wonderful mummyness today!

Wow Imafairy, what a lovely story. You have every right to be VERY proud of yourself!!

Have fun on your girly night Plama, bet you can't wait!

oooh girls - am siitng here in a lovely glow reading this (note: glow is POSSIBLY helped by the fact DH and I went out to one of 'our' restaurants this evening to celebrate DS1's 3rd birhtday and vast quantities of Malbec and Cointreau were consumed (by me ).
You'll be pleased to know that was at same supermarket today and although noone commented on my parentling skills, I DID have a go at a man who was doing some work at the supermarket who was parked in a parent and toddler space. I very nicely and calmly approached him and informed him it was a parent and baby spot (in my head thinking: just in case you are blind and can't see that big sign in front of you) and he was a bit rude in return, so I again calmly pointed out that there would be parents like me who had young babies who had to park miles away because he was so lazy and selfish. Naturally he walked away. So I reported him to the management! I'm sure it made NO difference but at least I felt as though I did something. Next time, I have decided if someone without a carseat or a disabled badge is parked in a parent/toddler space I am going to block them in and them can bloody well wait till I'm readt (oooooops - lovely rosey mist turning a bit red......sorry!)
Have a lovely weekend all you lovely ladies, and extra special hugs to your little (and big) ones....

I totally agree with your annoyance about the parent and child parking... I always make very loud comments when going past people who obviously do not have children but feel the need to park there. Before I had DS, I didn't really see the need for parent and child spaces but now, I obviously know how useful they are.
Another thing that really irritates me is the lift at my local shopping centre. There is only 1 lift and is only big enough for 2 buggys (small buggys at that!) It takes ages to use it as there are so many people using it who could easily use the escalators (which are right next to the lift) and while they're waiting for the lift, they stand right outside the doors so you can't get out! ARGH!!

Sorry, rant over...

Oh, the no nappy thing - my DS loves this too and he has learnt to wriggle about on the floor so he's no longer on the sheet and that's where he decides to pee - must be a boy thing!

forgot to say, hope you enjoyed your evening last night, Plama. And enjoy your night of freedom tonight, Squidgeymiller.

i'mafairy - glad you enjoyed your night, please post again next time you have a rosy glow, oh and get drunk more often, you made me chuckle!

I too am on a parent and child space mission. Am thinking of getting some very difficult to remove stickers made up and putting them on cars with no children (or children over the age of 6ish only) I usually talk to the people parking there and say "oh what a beautiful baby, how old is she?" and they get a bit flustered then as they clearly dont have any, or they have one teenager with them so think they can park in the parent and child space, teenager gets even more embarassed when I say they are a beautiful baby, esp. the boys. Maybe they'll beg their parents not to park in there next time!

OMG am turning into evil bitter victor meldrew type person.