November 2012 - Will the Easter Bunny visit our babies?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1707618-November-2012-The-thread-where-it-all-starts-to-get-easier-Pretty-please

[PetiteRaleuse]

Only 28 hours til sweary Wednesday.

[Evilwater]

So tired..... Yes it is, a fish smell.
Evil

[Donnadoon]

Hello everyone DD fine thanks detective she coming on a treat.. I don't post much but read every single day without fail...love it !!!
Good to hear from GT
Chasing I'm sorry to hear of your troubles and I've nothing to add that hasn't already been said except " Get yourself to the hair/beauty salon even if you think it's the last thing you want or can afford it really will make you feel better and able to face the world..your boy needs you to be strong and Kick Ass !"

[YellowWellies]

Good fish slapping there quiche. You rock. And so Daisy do you - even if you're a bit fish slapped. If O stayed with your DP guess who would become his punch bag and object of constant undermining soul-destroying criticism? O that's who. Of course with his extended family to help your ex makes it seem a breeze (he's doing this on purpose to undermine your confidence, as he's done for months) but really on a screechy weepy Velcro baby day could you trust him with your precious wee one? No. To O you are perfection - go see your doc hon. Your mental health has also been a victim of this relationship - its time to rebuild it slowly and gently xxxxx

[Catbag]

Not sure I'll last 28 hours / :(

[Catbag]

Hey donna! Nice to hear from you :)

[Donnadoon]

Yay Cat ill not leave this quiche ever !!

[Catbag]

evil Is N not sleeping well?

[Catbag]

Ha ha donna The quiche has you in its sticky grip.. you will never escape!

MUHAHAHAAHAHA!

[kissyfur]

Chasing I also second what everyone has said re: depression meds, don't be scared of taking them if your GP thinks they would help, you don't have to take them forever and if they enable you to deal with things then so be it. I've been on anti d's before and they really helped me get through a tough time in my life. CBT therapy is also worth a try. Sending hugs x

[Contradictionincarnate]

my soup is cold am in tears what a shit day feel like a shit mother text my mum for sympathy she just said dd is hungry that will be me in 30 years...
I really hope this is pmt

[Evilwater]

Yes he isn't sleeping well. I have no idea what's the matter. He wakes for a feed and a nappy change and it takes ages for him to go back to sleep.
My mum says he has a cold, but no temp or bunged up nose. The ladies at baby group said it could be his teeth, but calpol and teething gel don't seem to help.

Could he be hungry and need food?
So I'm stuck.
Any thing welcomed.
Evil

[Catbag]

Oi contra!

You are awesome.

Is LO being velcro baby with the feeding? Tell us what's going on with you.

In 30 yrs time, you will be more sympathetic than your mother. Guarantee it. If only because you will remember how crappy that kind of reaction made you feel x

[Evilwater]

Oh no contra, you are a good mum. We all have bad days, have a hot cuppa and to bed early. It should make you feel better

Evil

[Evilwater]

Contra- you are not your mum. Hugs!!

Evil

[Catbag]

Colds and teething can present in similar ways evil, without necessarily any external symptoms (like when you've got a headachd). Not very helpful, I know. I would try more milk to start with, and work from there. Could he be having a growth spurt/ developmental leap?

[itsnotyouitsmeals]

daisy it's all been said but remember YOU called the police. Many women can't find that strength. You can do it. ((Hugs))

stunt how is J now?

yw thanks for advice. Just been given ranitidine for I. Have fingers crossed it works. Can they test babies for allergies? I had loads as a kid including cmpi and my brother was lactose intolerant. As am veggie soy is a big part of my diet...

Hugs to everyone having a hard time. vq we need a new car door after someone broke the lock and punctured the door this weekend. You have my sympathies.

Sorry to those I've missed.
Mx

[Evilwater]

Cat- he could be having a growth spurt. I didn't think about that thanks cat. I'm very tired, I thought that he would stay sleeping all night.

[Contradictionincarnate]

thanks evil and catbag I wasn't fishing ... for the fish
today I can't imagine it ever getting any easier! don't know how any of you have got more than one.
today wasn't sure at all what was wrong just a morning of grumping or crying ... that's one of the reasons I think I'm crap I couldn't work it out took me about 2 hrs to get her to sleep I really thought she needed it then she was waking and crying ... fed her before dh got home at circa 5.30 and she was crying badly again about 40 mins ago then I realised how much time had passed and she must be hungry again...am really loosing sympathy with her!
don't want to be self pitying but like a few have said it helps to get it out !
I love my mum don't get me wrong and at times like this ...like when I have always been ill I need and want her sympathy ...seems like I was the perfect baby though slept though at 6 weeks may not be true but that's how she sees it so its hard for her!
boy that fist has got a work out today!
what's worse is that atleast when she was a newborn there was hope of things getting better starting not to believe that now ... hoping its the wonder weeks leap and things will change soon!!

[ValiumQueen]

chasing your MH was not great before the shit hit the fan. The meds will not solve things, but will help raise your mood to help you cope a bit better with everything. As a new mum you are one of the most precious people in society as you need to be looked after to look after your baby. There will be lots of support out there, but you need to be telling the right people in RL.

[YellowWellies]

Meals the NHS doesn't tend to test unless there is a risk of anaphylaxis. You could get a private appointment to test. To be honest just cut soy out for a week and you'll know the answer one way or another. It is hard to avoid soy I've been told to avoid too much regardless of intolerance as DS is a boy and soy has gender bending qualities at this age. Hence we use oat or coconut milk. Your wee one is a girl isn't she so from that front its less of a worry. Try the meds if no joy then look at soy.

[Pikz]

Contra...listen to the wise cat bag. She knows it.

You are doing an ace job as is evil and chasing and all of us.

I too had a day that unless asleep or eating he whinged about nothing at all except it felt like that he had to spend the day with mummy. I went to gym this evening and he is all smiles for daddy!

VQ you may start swearing now...flipping heck

Hugs to all sounds like some crappy days all round.

[Evilwater]

Pikz- thanks.

I'm off to bed, I'm shattered. Nite
Evil

[Catbag]

evil Classic sign of growth spurt that. Def try more food. Hope you get some sleep tonight!

contra This nice new fish that vq provided seems to be sliding around the quiche with a life of its own, ha ha! I know how you feel re your mother- mine was always of the 'don't be such a primadonna, you really don't have it that bad, you are making a fool of yourself' response. What she forgets is that I was aged 12 when my eldest brother was born and 15 when the younger one came along- many times I paced around in the middle of the night cuddling a brother so that she could get the sleep that she needed or took one of them off to another room so she could eat in peace. Never got a thank you for that, now I think about it Point is, if you asked her now she would prob have no recollection of that and would give the impression of having coped brilliantly. I haven't spoken to her since 2006 so I can't really test that theory, but still

We all get to the point where we feel like we are on our knees and if LO has been screaming for a while, it is very easy to forget that they are probably getting to the point where food is due again. We have all done it! Be a bit kinder to yourself! Remember the mantra...

[Catbag]

VQ I am sure that no one would object if you wanted to begin sweary wednesday early, but I get the impression that you are less sweary and more sad...? Hope you are ok. How is J today?