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StuntNun · 18/03/2013 08:40

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1707618-November-2012-The-thread-where-it-all-starts-to-get-easier-Pretty-please

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ChunkyEasterChick · 20/03/2013 19:35

horsey I bet there isn't a single person on here who would say they would do it all exactly the same again, or they haven't got wiser since having LO. And you know what, next time, it might be better, but if it doesn't work out, its not the end of the world right?

horseylady · 20/03/2013 19:35

Teach not reach. I suppose both words fitting!

horseylady · 20/03/2013 19:36

cc no ill not go through the guilt. I know ds is fine. But is still love to have bf. but it's not the be all and end all!!

StuntNun · 20/03/2013 19:44

I have breastfed all three of my boys; for eight months, nine months and (so far) four months respectively and not one has been easy to feed. Even now when I know how a baby is supposed to latch on and what it should feel like, I'm still having trouble getting J to latch correctly and I'm concerned about him. Both my mum and MIL breastfed their children and I was determined to bf and that support and stubbornness determination got me through but it certainly isn't the natural experience the HCPs' propaganda led me to expect. It's a real shame that so many of us on here wanted to breastfeed our babies but didn't have the support to do so. It does seem that the promotion of breastfeeding stops as soon as you actually have your baby and formula is pushed as the answer to all feeding problems.

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MadamGazelleIsMyMum · 20/03/2013 19:47

Howdy all. Sorry to read of potential TT woes. Agree re breastfeeding support. When bf'ing DD, when I was struggling with the latch and constant feeding and sore nipples, the HV told me to top up, and the local BF support group wasnt on that week due to it being half term. Felt like that was the only choice at the time. Now I know a lot more, as horsey says. I ended up mix feeding and was lucky it worked out for us, so much so that I chose to do the same with DS. Fortunately, the bf'ing element of that went so much better than last time, but had absolutely zero support this time, just an assumption that I knew what to do because he was my second baby.

DS was 8lbs7oz born. Now 15lbs10oz at 19 weeks. Following the 50th centile. He's quite long, in 3-6 clothes but toes pushing the ends of the babygros. He is a very, very hungry baby. Drinks up to 48oz of hungry formula per 24 hour period. Still following the 50th, despite drinking much more formula than 'recommended'.

DH is in my bad books. No matter how many times I ask him not to download stuff illegally on our t'interweb, he always fucking does. And then either lies about it, or makes some pathetic excuse about why it was necessary - i.e. he really needed some shite album. Even though the account is in MY name. And I would lose my job which pays more than 4 times what he brings home if we got into trouble about this. He has yet again promised not to do it, but I know he will, the fucktard. How the fuck can I make him see sense over this? I'd cancel the bloody internet if I could live without it, but I can't, because I have to be able to log on for mumsnetting work. Grrrr.

BigPigLittlePig · 20/03/2013 19:51

madam set him up a kids account with parental controls!?

YellowWellies · 20/03/2013 20:04

Jonas was 6lb3 at birth and is now neck and neck with Tilly at 13lb5 - though he is 21 weeks. That puts him at between 2-9th centiles. The HV told us that increasingly they are worrying less about the wee babies (we always get comments, I just tell folks he was early and meh we're getting lots of wear out of his clothes) and more about the big ones as your fat cells are laid down in babyhood so being a chubby baby isn't the sign of health we are always being told it is. The more laid down now the greater the issues with weight in the future.

I had to say that when I heard that I thought Ha SIL and your bitchy 'I don't know why Mums with small babies don't just stick them on a bottle to fatten them up' comments.....

MM I honestly don't think you need to worry about Tilly's weight. She is perfect, cutely chubby without having rolls and rolls. She's so active and you and T are slim so she was perhaps always likely to move down a few centiles. She's clearly thriving Smile

Good luck tomo VQ I would be so cross and thanks Horsey and the former Blonder for posting those articles. Sadly VQ you're proof of how few HCP know their stuff when it comes to feeding.

I think I was lucky having the boy on the island as it has v high BF rates and all of the ladies who cared for me had nursed their babies - I've also had so much support from my twin. You really need support to get established - also its so rare to see BF on the telly (all babies on soaps are FF) that its still seen by many as odd. I too blame 'the appliance of science' in the 50s for robbing us of our cultural knowledge about how to feed our babies. Fecking men Sad (not you Luis).

DH announced yesterday that work wanted him to go to Houston for a week and wanted to check I was OK with this. I said I'd rather not (in less polite terms) so he's said no. Love him Smile

Passmethecrisps · 20/03/2013 20:05

I made pizza. I think I've missed something from the top. It looks all red.

MadamGazelleIsMyMum · 20/03/2013 20:15

BPLP you legend! Cracking idea. Will threaten DH with having to ask permission to use the internet so I can supervise his use. Genius. Grin Thanks

Evilwater · 20/03/2013 20:23

Hello fuckers,
I havnt read the previous posts, hopefully ill catch up. Tongue tie, well only the ladies here surgested to me when I was breast feeding. The health professionals, just told me N needed more practice, or it's fine. Looking back I should have pushed more. N is doing brilliant on FF.

DP has surgested that we go on a hoilday. Off roading. Yep, and I have never off roaded before, he said its like normal driving. He did think it was ok to bring N at one point, but I said no.

So yes I do want do this type of hoilday, but not now. I have no experiance, and I hate camping.

Evil

PennieLane · 20/03/2013 20:30

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YellowWellies · 20/03/2013 20:40

pass are you making pizza for me? Sounds like you're sans from age Smile

YellowWellies · 20/03/2013 20:40

Fecking autocorrect - sans fromage!!!!

Pikz · 20/03/2013 20:42

So tired... LO worked himself into a state as attempted a back onto his front roll in the bath... Oops!

Horsey and chunky I couldn't agree more. I remember sitting sobbing with LO sobbing at 24 hours old and no one realising he was so tongue tied he couldn't feed. I can't go over it again I have a million time but I still to this day I wish we could have bf. I cried about it again last week when he got broncholitis.

Hugs to all. I'm feeling a bit worn down by being a mum today. Tired and shabby.

ChasingDaisy · 20/03/2013 20:47

The support I got in hospital when trying to establish bf was awful. I was just told to buzz if I had problems - someone would come along, latch him on for me and then leave. No advice about how to do it myself. I was very obviously in shock from the birth and highly emotional and I struggled greatly with feeding. I gave formula because I felt terrible that my tiny little, brand new baby was getting no sustenance from me.

Evilwater · 20/03/2013 20:52

By the general experiance, we all get told to breastfeed. As it is the best thing ever!!! However after the birth, the support goes and the pressure is still there.

I don't feel guilty about FF, as my son is not hungry.
Evil

BigPigLittlePig · 20/03/2013 20:52

pikz shabby about sums things up. I've had many shabby days. Usually they're the days when I have various combinations of wee, sick, food on me. And my roots are more noticeable. And a giant mountain of a zit rocks up. And usually a mouth ulcer to boot. So yes, shabby. Sucks doesn't it.

madam you're welcome Grin haven't had to do this myself, ohhhh no

YellowWellies · 20/03/2013 20:54

Today was more than shabby here... put it this way Jonas required an entirely new outfit when we went to visit my sis. Poo everywhere - even in his sleeves!

ChasingDaisy · 20/03/2013 20:55

In his sleeves?!

katkit1 · 20/03/2013 20:57

Horsey - just popped in to say that I bf for 3.5 months and I so wished I'd ff from the beginning. I now ff fully and it's the best thing I've ever done. 3 bouts of thrush was really becoming a bore. I regret the lost time I had feeling upset at every feeding time instead of enjoying it. I love feeding time now.

BigPigLittlePig · 20/03/2013 20:58

Hahahahahaha that wins the poonami award yw

Sophiathesnowfairy · 20/03/2013 21:05

will this ever end

I have started to take the tablets that are meant to stop me bleeding. Norethisterone. I don't know if it is coincidence or a direct result of it but since yesterday, when I look the first one lam bleeding really heavily.

I am really deflated and feeling quite depressed.

ValiumQueen · 20/03/2013 21:08

pikz my boy had bronchiolitis and was EBF at that point.

Poo in sleeves! Impressive!

DS is getting used to formula poo. As am I, as he just pissed all over me while I changed his nappy. He never does that! Little sod!

ValiumQueen · 20/03/2013 21:10

Sorry to hear that sophia have you checked the side effects to make sure bleeding is not a potential reaction? Big hugs xxxxxxxxx

horseylady · 20/03/2013 21:10

kat I could well hate bf. I would just like to have tried it. It doesn't matter anyway. I love how were doing things now. Just at the time it was horrendous and something which took over my initial parenting experience.

pass CHEESE