November 2012 - The thread where it all starts to get easier. Pretty please?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1703340-November-2012-Four-months-Oh-no-the-dreaded-sleep-regression

BEST AUTOCORRECT EVER!!!

Rofl!

Bimbo - F loves hers!

chasing obviously you need to do what you need to do re: living arrangements, but is it a sensible idea letting him move back in, even if he is sleeping on the sofa? Tell me to take a running jump if you like! I hope you can enjoy/make good use of those few hours this afternoon without worrying too much.

Am cross at MIL today again. My SIL found out late last night that her dd2, who has always been a bit chubby, has been self-harming as she's been bullied about her weight. When SIL found out, her dd2 asked her not to tell anyone. Now, if it was me and especially if I had her bloody useless dh I would tell my mum, in confidence, for my emotional support. SIL told MIL, so far, not too bad. At the christening today, MIL told my dh, all her brothers and sisters (6 in total) who told their children...so poor dn was the topic of conversation. I feel so upset on behalf of dn, if she knew that the entire extended family knew what she was going through, she would be so embarrassed and hurt. Dh is determined to go round tonight to see them, I've said he should give them time and space but he's determined not to listen

PMSL!!!

Muslins are for eating here too!

My baby has gone It's only three hours but still.

pig I know what you mean but I think I need to find out my rights etc. I have a week breathing space.

I've posted a pic on fb and I can't see it but have had notifications saying people have commented on it! So weird. Don't think it is you Daisy as it is all posts. VQ may find that when it all works again I have told her her son is gorgeous about 5 times. But he deserves it.

L chews the muslin. It is meant to be a good way to clean early teeth apparently so I am not discouraging him. His bottom gums are more bumpy than before so I think we have a slow emergence occurring. Sure it will take months though.

Daisy I wanted to say on fb (but can't) that I know it's very early days but I have the best brother and sister in the world, who have a different dad to me but are very definitely my brother and sister. So there is no reason why O might not have siblings in the future. Also, your ExP's DSIS will have to sit slightly on the fence as he will always be her bro so don't worry about whether they are offering support, you will have plenty of that elsewhere and I bet they will be giving him all sorts of shit.

Chasing I too feel like BP in that it is not a good idea for him to stay with you. I made the same mistake. You really need a clean break. My ex stayed on my sofa for 6 weeks after we split. It was horrendous, and culminated in him attacking me and threatening to kill himself. And I would never have said he would have behaved that way. If I had just made him move out as soon as we agreed it was over, then that might never have happened.

I can't tell you what to do, of course. I can only offer advice from someone who has been there, done that.

I would like to say though that with regards to contact with O. PLEASE get advice on it. He can not insist on separating O from you. He does not have rights to do this, as it would not be in O's best interest to be away from his primary carer at such a young age. An hour or two at his mums is more than enough say 3 times a week to begin with. But it should be on your terms. But definitely get advice.

As they say on the relationships board (!) he has responsibilities not rights!

Thanks det with regards contact, its all on my terms at the moment. He isn't going to be seeing him until next weekend now so I was happy for him to have him for a few hours. That is my maximum though.

That is good! While O is so little that is the best thing to do. :)

Big hugs to you chasing, maybe use the time to research your options. As I think stunt said, the relationships board is amazing for advice and support.

Thanks for your advice stunt, we've had a breakthrough. She fed from Evil boob (left boob) at the last feed, she had been refusing it. I've stuck to single side feeding and she has produced a mustard coloured poo! It's got a slight green tinge, but it's definitely mustard coloured without mucus.

Fucking hell. I am so glad I have this group. Joined a facebook reflux group for tips mostly, and its awful. Moderated to hell. I've left. I refuse to be moderated! Fucking freedom of speech anyone?!

Daisy if you'd like to take me up on my offer then just PM me when you're ready! It's always good to make new mummy friends and babylaughalot likes meeting new babies too

I'm free all this week apart from tomorrow morning, and all next week...

ROFL! Just had my posts deleted for disagreeing with admin, and saying infant gaviscon can be bought over the counter. Nitwits.

Detective, fuck that

I left M with DP for an hour while I went to work this afternoon. An hour. Just one. She had a massive feed before I left. He phoned FIVE times. FFS . I left 10 mins early and lo and behold, she wasn't hungry.

Shelly I think they might have imploded clutching their pearls if I posted a sweary word . I was so tempted though!

MM did he try anything to get her to settle?!

I just got out DS1's baby book. Turns out he slept through the night at 8 weeks. That will have been 8pm-8am. Fuck. Oscar you are double that age you little sod!!! Sleep through already! Mind you, he was on his way to that til the reflux. So I guess I will have to forgive him. For now. He has 2 weeks. Before battle sleep through commences!

DS1 also discovered his feet at 4 months. O has just found his, at 3 months 3 weeks. DS1 rolled at 4 months. I suspect O will be the same, he is nearly there!

DS1's first holiday was to Switzerland. That will be O's first holiday too! Not intentional! The last time we went to Switzerland was the first time DS1 went . Mind you DS1 was 18 months when we went.

I really need to do O's book. There is a lot to fill in in his! I can't remember the date of his first movement, or the date of his first laugh. I may have to make these up and never admit to it!.

Hallo.

Have the least sleepingest baby ever here. Well, not really but she has now been awake over 3 hours - that NEVER happens. She seems ok - plenty rested given the amount of time she has spent in the basket chillaxing!

What a non jockey mm.

Fuck moderation det. You cannot be silenced!

Nob jockey. He is a nob jockey. Not a non jockey. He is probably also not a jockey

det I haven't noted anything for P. I will reinvent her babyhood with gay abandon. This will include telling her that she walked at 3 months old, slept through at 2 days old and was writing poetry at 5 months.

LMFAO!!! Oh pass that made me giggle lots!!!!! I think all mothers must have to reinvent their childrens babyhood, because if we didn't, we wouldn't have any more of the buggers!!

From what I can see she was rotated between playmats, swing and jumper. His efforts to entertain her were quite good actually. If only he had thought to check whether or not she needed changed...

Yes. That may have helped MM!

Productive two hours.

Bed sheets changed. Whole flat hoovered. Boxes of nappies sorted. Bottles washed. Night feeds made. Ironing done. Dinner cooking. Now an hour to myself to relax.

Have been sent pics of O. He looks happy so I'm happy.

Daisy. Go have a long hot shower. Take the hour to recharge and be relaxed on Os return.

Detective it is so nice to have you back.

Have a sleeping baby on me crying at extreme makeover home edition. I am aware this makes me a loser.

chasing I 3rd the concerns about letting him back to sleep on the sofa - once there he could start manipulating you and start with the put downs again, which could undo all the bravery you've shown these past few days - phone woman's aid, landlord, citizens advice and find out what options you have -take up misslaughalots offer of support, it's scary meeting new people in RL but once you've met you then have RL support who is nearby!!!

wellie how're you feeling today??

detective is it the lactose free milk that's made the huge difference in O? Long may it continue!!!!!

I've got lots done today, housework wise, only went away for a week but Dottie seems so much more grown up,she'll sit in her bouncer/lie on playmat for 30 minutes now instead of 5 and last night she noticed the dog more and was stroking her - the dog returned the gesture by licking Dottie's feet was soo cute lol!!!

Been a bit emotional today as tomorrow is the start of something huge - Dottie is such a smiley, gorgeous baby who sleeps well and rarely grizzles and its kind of hitting me how much I'm gonna miss her whilst at uni - I couldn't attempt my degree if she wasn't such a little star - don't know what the fuck I've done to deserve 3 fantastic, healthy, well behaved kids but I am v v v grateful for them!!!!

I've bought the entire range of tuppaware for everyone to make own salads/packed lunches , have made a chores chart, meal planner and pocket money system in the hope that this house doesn't fall into ruin, we don't un out of clean clothes and we manage to eat 3 ties a day!!!

Dots was asleep for 2.5 hours yesterday from 7 so gonna do bath, bottle, story & boob and try to get her to go down at 9pm - means me & dh ill have to watch tv downstairs on the v uncomfortable sofa, instead of snuggling up in bed from 8pm watching films/tv

Oh watched 1st episode of the wire while away and thought it was pants??? Does it get better?