December 2012 - the fourth trimester is nearly over

[MaMaPo]

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I've got a cranky baby today too. No idea why. Luckily big 2 are happily playing with their happy meal toys (went for a walk and end of half term treat earlier) so I'm just camped on sofa with t attached to a boob. I feel a bit ropey myself today so maybe she does too.

Oh and we have rats in our garden -grrr. DH has put poison under the shed but saw 2 this morning. Yuk!

Eugh I hate rats WL!! Worse than mice for you. M

Ds is being a grump too he's just laying on my chest sucking my finger. He's been asleep all morning though but really unsettled now he's awake. I think he might fall asleep again

Rats are far worse, and these were big fellas too. We live right near the railway track so we do get from time to time but in the summer we over hauled the garden to get rid of any rat friendly elements so disappointed to see Roland again.

Dd is asleep on my chest having been asleep in the car to the walk, in the sling on the walk and again in the car. Only really woken up for feeds but cried like never before earlier during a nappy change which she normally enjoys.

Ds isn't asleep he's just staring into space as I bounce him in his bouncer. I'm thinking if keeping him in the sling when I have to go this 'afternoon tea' later so no one can touch him it has a bar for goodness sake it's no place for a toddler and baby even as early as five on a Saturday night

I don't know why today is so hard. It's relentless, C won't sleep and is therefore miserable and awful. Wouldn't sleep in sling, in pram, on me or on my husband. If she drifts off while feeding she's awake again promptly. I keep feeding her to have something to do. We're down to less than 2 hours between feeds. I just feel miserable - suspect its hormonal - lonely, a long way from home, sick of bloody winter, bored. The whole kit and kaboodle really. Am supposed to be off out with a friend for dinner but can't see myself enjoying it.

Bah. I am just over everything today. Just had a bath but unfortunately could hear C crying so don't feel much relaxed.

Mama tomorrow is another day and will hopefully be a lot brighter. If you're not up for going out stay in and have a take away. If you do go out make the most of it and have a large

I'm not going. Dp isn't even home get and it's twenty minutes away. Ds needs changing, I need to change and dd needs her hair doing and her socks putting on. He can take dd on her own and deal with her being tired and hungry, he'll have to buy her something.

Sorry for being ranty

Poor mama. It will pass but I know now it's shit.

Don't apologise spotty it's what we're here for.

Well having escaped the bug when dd2 had it, I seem to have it now. Feel dreadful and apprehensive about bfing and having to run to the loo :-(

mama, write a line under today and start a fresh tomorrow. Things always seem much worse with an incessant baby cry in the background. Perhaps your dd is having a growth spurt or is a little under the weather? Hopefully tomorrow will be easier.

We've just been bowling as a family, I was proper crap dd was a little superstar and looked on in amazement at all the laser beams and flashing lights and didn't whinge once.

Am seriously knackered now, last night is def catching up. Dh and I haven't discussed anything yet as ds been in earshot all day. We are both getting on well though so I guess now would be a good time to discuss when neither of us is tetchy.

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Chloe could you leave your LO with your DP for a few hours during the week, leave when shes asleep then he'll have to deal with her crying. He might see how hard work it is then. Then the next day broach the subject of you going out for the hen do. Maybe he 'sleeps' so soundly while your there is because he knows you'll get up. I put the 'sleeps' like that because my DP pretends to be asleep when our DD wakes up. I'm sure if your not there he won't sleep so soundly.

Mama, hope your ok, have a load of comfort food and a duvet day if you can.

Spotty hope everything turned out ok before.

Cross post Chloe, glad you had a nice night

hales I have to leave him every Saturday for about 4-5hrs as I'm in a band and we have some weddings coming up so need to regularly practice. He copes very well (in fact manages to have both kids, tidy and walk the dog! Which is more than me ) it's the drunken sleep that bothers me-he wakes up if he's sober. I so hope after our chat he agrees to stay sober that night and not have anyone over. If he can't make that promise I won't go. He wouldn't lie, if he says he won't invite people he won't but he might not agree to that purely to prove a point, we will see. It was his suggestion for me to go away so it's not like he's making obstacles he just doesn't see the importance clearly, he won't ever think he's as drunk as he is iykwim?

Ds keeps waking up everytime I try to transfer him to his cot

Sorry to here all the shit days, hope you all wake up tomo feeling refreshed and relaxed again.

We've had a surprisingly good day considering the terrible sleep last night. Had visits from some old friends and DH's cousin, f has spent several hours playing on his play gym and bouncy chair and iv done lots if house work and a little unplanned plumbing (kitchen sink leaking again!)

Sadly had some worrying news, another of DHs cousins has been missing since 3pm yesterday. She has learning disabilities, 19yrs oldand there are very few clues of where she has gone. She very vulnerable and impressionable, just hoping she will be found fast.

That sounds really worrying Eggs. Thinking of you and hoping she is found safe and sound very soon.

Spotty - I've not left N yet either. Not too worried though - meeting up with friends lots in the day/places he can come to with me and I know the time will come when I finally get round to introducing a bottle I do leave him and all will be fine.

WL - hope you're feeling better soon.

Mama - sorry you've had a tough day. Fx for a better one tomorrow.

Thanks for all the messages. Feeling better today so looks like ABs are doing the trick. Had a lovely day out with DH amd the boys. Went to the science museum which DS1 loved. N was also really happy in the sling just looking around and grinning at everyone. So nice to have some proper family time - I'm another one whose DH works ridiculous hours, though not as bad as your DH Honey. It sounds like his employer is seriously taking the piss and I hope it gets better for you both soon.

eggs. Fx

ispy interesting that n is happy awake in the sling - t moans and fights unless she's asleep. What kind of sling and tie? We're still using the new born hug hold in the moby.

Fx eggs must be very worrying. H

Damn fat thumbs...

Hope there is news soon.

DH went in at 6 this morning but when he told his colleague what had happened she went completely ballistic and called a couple of other managers in the area who reassured DH he was not the one in the wrong (he has just started management training) area manager was called and idiot boy has apparently been known to do things like this before and is being demoted this week. Area managers told DH to leave at 5 so he did and was here for bath and bedtime tentatively hoping things may now get better

To clarify, DH has no problem working long hours but when management screw ups mean he doesn't get home till after 9 and leaves again at 6 the next morning for over a week it's starting to get ridiculous

That's brilliant Honey, about time the little arse hole is being dealt with, clearly let power go to his head!

The frustrating thing is there is lots of family bickering with different family members not talking to each other from one week to the next (DH and I are relieved we live far enough away to not get dragged in) and this hasn't stopped that horrible finger pointing/ bitching behaviour!

Fx for good news eggs and good to hear your dh is getting a bit of respite from his twattish boss honey. Also Fx for discussion with your dp chloe..

Came back from baby shower to dh on sofa watching football with ds curled up asleep on his chest and 3oz of milk drunk! Hurrah!

Hope the discussion goes well Chloe.

FX Eggs. Hope they find her soon.

We're using a moby sling too WL. Not sure what the proper name of the hold I do is, think it's the hug but he has his legs out at the bottom now which he seems much happier with.

Great news Honey.

Hope everything goes well Chloe.

Also, WLmum, we're moving down to woking/st Johns (near enough,) over Easter now dh's job is confirmed. Think you said you were local to there? Am wondering about classes/groups to join as we do swimming, massage and pramactive up here that I'd like to continue...any tips?

Hoping for safe return home eggs

Alright day today. Left DS with DP while I went shopping for breastmilk storage bags and 3-6mth clothes. Also bought some fenugreek capsules which is apparently good for increasing milk supply, we'll see if it works as DS just seems to be hungry all the time and I can barely keep up!

Both DP and DS are sleeping now so was able to chill, clean up and then will be heading to bed myself.

Sending good sleep vibes to all...