November 2012 - More group hugs and moral support please

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1676013-November-2012-We-want-rattles-and-we-want-them-now

You're welcome. It was just a cheap bunch from the garage :o am too poor for the proper florist atm

dicks Many happy returns! Hope that you can escape CBBC for a least a bit today and do something grown up :)

PR

dicks happy birthday. Hope DD is soon mended.

Thank you for all the weaning advice. I did think that YW nobody seems to think it is reflux, but I still think it is mild or intermittent. Anyhoo, he woke at 9.30 so another 4 hour stint.

I feel almost human today.

Pancakes for lunch. Starting by cutting out cheese first

Happy birthday Toomany! sorry to hear about the chocs

DD1 didn't go to Playgroup this morning, she said she doesn't feel well but I suspect she's telling porky pies - do they really start skiving at 3 yr old?!

Not sure about weaning early, I think I'll wait til 6 months. Can't remember all the recommendations so off to read the mumsnet article, thanks for linking stunt

Happy birthday toomany hope you get some nice choc later.

It's funny what little things can do to your mood.

I'd been feeling far more positive about things lately. Ignoring the housework, trying to spend time enjoying the kids, trying to appreciate the things DH does to & ignore the things he doesn't. Then all at once - BOOM! I start feeling low again & why? 2 smallish things really.

Firstly, DH didn't give me a kiss when he got in from work on Thursday. We were at my parents & my DM noticed. She said something at the time & asked whether he was better since yesterday.
Secondly, DH is away. He didn't txt to say he got there ok. He didn't make much effort to phone me in the evening. And when I had to call him this morning about the neighbours/our gate key (long story), he seemed eager to get off the phone to get his breakfast.

The stupid thing is, he's always been like that when he's away & speaking on the phone. Like everything else is more important than me iykwim. It's bothered me but not as much. I guess because he always seemed so loving at home.

I feel so unimportant to him atm. I'm fed up of feeling that way. :(

Aw, chunky. Little things can mean a lot when you are tired and worn down. Sounds like a bit of typical male thoughtlessness.

Happy birthday dicks.

On weaning, l always did root veg first on the grounds if they had sweet first they might be harder to get onto savoury. Also cos pear tends to go straight through LOs!

H slept 5 hours last night for first time ever!! This was after dh gave him hungry baby formula which he bought by accident and ran out of the other stuff. He is bf with one bottle a day. Does make me think about weaning. He is 20 weeks, but 13 corrected. l know you wean to their actual age, but it still feels too early.

Happy birthday TooMany!!

You couldn't make this shit up. DPs car won't start again.

I'm sat here crying in to my beans with no effing toast.

Shitter of a night for our usual ones. Shitter of a morning. And Oscar keeps thinking he can go 5 hours or longer IN THE MORNING when he gets up without a feed. Grrr. No. You can do that AT NIGHT!

Happy birthday Toomany.

Daisy I am waiting until 26 weeks with mine. They just don't seem ready, they will be 20 weeks on Saturday.

Oh no detective but, in the nicest possible way, glad I'm not the only one :( this morning...

And thanks daisy you're probably right, but it feels like there's lots of thoughtlessness and little things gong astray at the mo. I am tired but not terribly so. I just want the man I married back - the one that couldn't stop kissing me on our wedding day, so much so that the photographer commented on it. The one that used to make a beeline for me when he walked in the door to say hello, and kiss & hug me. Feel a bit sorry for myself ATM. I bet its just he's preoccupied with shit at work at just doesn't realise how important that stuff is!!!

Birthday for dicks
Pity for det, pr and anyone else who's had a shit night

LO fed at 9.30, 2.30 and 6.30 again, she seems to have got the hang of feeding at night, but after then 2.30 feed (which I could set the clock by) she's awake for a while, and won't settle back in her cot. Even if I put her down asleep she wakes up and cries for a cuddle. When she goes to sleep in our bed, she buries her face into the pillow - not sure how to safely recreate something similar in her cot.

Weigh in day today - suspect the magical doubling of weight will have been acheived especially if number of chins is anything to go by

Thanks everyone

I hope some luck comes your way soon detective, if you like dark chocolate I'll send you a box

((hugs chunky))

:( at us feeling :( chunky

Can't wait for sweary Wednesday!

I'll be here and ready at midnight.

Off to find battery reciept it's only 18 mths old.

Oh yes and for chunky too! Sometimes it feels like I have to drag a kiss out of dh when he gets in from work. I'm sure he would give me a kiss eventually but I think I crave some adult attention after spending the day talking gibberish.

Thanks but no thanks! Ewww @ dark chocolate! Who buys someone else dark choc! Tut!

Hope you get some better pressies!

Well done Valium Prince what a little belter! DH is now showering on an evening - hence Jonas and I slept til 8.15 - I love that man

Thanks all!! Trying to give him benefit of the doubt. And yy to being desperate for adult attention but then I kinda feel that I can't keep his attention with just kid stuff iyswim, so then want to talk about something else, but can't. Which also makes me :( because he should be interested in the kids... We need some serious talk & adult only time I think!! Thankfully my DM & DF are looking after the kids on Friday, so not long.

Happy biff day toomany!

Sorry detective I swear you have had as much bad luck as VQ and PR so you should split your lottery win 3 ways.

Good night here after yesterday's dreadful day. Detective I too have a baby who will go 6 hours between 3 and 9 without food but wakes at 7. Why he doesn't do it during night!!

First swimming lesson later... Praying he doesn't scream through it

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DICKS what a shame you cant get out - though a duvet day sounds like my idea of heaven!!!

chunky awwwwwww tell him - im sure its typical male being preoccupied, but its these little things that when they change affects us soppy women the most.

horsey its dd1 who has riding lessons - cant take them away from her, just like ice skating for her and ds - expensive hobbies i know but its my way of getting them into something other than xbox crap so that when they are teens they wont be sitting on a park bench necking thunderbirds, snogging boys/girls like i did

thank you so much for all your advice and thoughts - honsetly dont know what was wrong with me yesterday - burst into tears the minute dh walked in and he said we will sort it all out and then when dottie had a meltdown when she woke up after being a little diamond at the childminders who managed to get her to sleep in a moses basket, without swaddle for longer than 15 minutes made me burst into tears again thinking she didnt like me and preferred to be with cm pathertic huh? then for bedtime feed she would not feed from me, she dragged my nipples 6 yards, scratched me and then get pulling off and ended up refusing the boob - i warmed up 4oz i had expressed earlier and she took it eagerly - whats with the refusal???

she went to bed at 11pm but then up for a feed at 2am she was all snotty and couldnt breathe so had to put a pillow in her cot so she was elevated and on her side but then she was up again at 5am - sleep regression/growth spurt???

had a chat if you could call it that with dh and although we havent got 2k he said we can use the holiday fund which has £600 in it and if im careful with money between now and march 18th i should have a good chunk of it. just have to give up my next/ebay addiction

think im feeling better today - dont feel on the verge of tears which is good

pr had a read of your blog - the swingers phone calls had me in stitches - thank you for the laugh x

I'm saving up swearwords for tomorrow. DD still has a temp of 39.2 even with calpol and nurofen. She seems fine though, playing happioy, eating. Hoping it's just a blip.

LO just vommed all her mik up. For no apparent reason. Also seems fine. I'm the only one with no energy... Soetimes I just sit and wonder if this is my life now. The first two years are the hardest. I just don't enjoy the baby part. Even though I do love the giggles and the snuggles. Two bad nights and I'm depressed as anything. Didn't help that I spent hours making a yummy soup yesterday andit was as un yummy as vomit. Even looked like vomit. I've never messed up soup before, I don't know what went wrong.

You buggers talking about the 'brown food' if DS can tolerate soy lecithins - we can have dark chocolate. My first chocolate in 8 weeks. I'm nearly knawing my limbs off at the thought. And this from someone who hates dark chocolate previously.... meh its as close to a dairy milk or kit kat chunky I'm going to get for a while so I'm trying not to look a gift horse in the mouth. Fingers crossed on the soy.....

Lots of kicks up the arses being sent to those with DH troubles

glenda I am still getting those calls, though fewer as I am slowly working through the online directories with my number on and asking them to remove it. Last night I explained to the bloke who called the situation, andhe saud it doesn't matter about the club, was I available. I used up my quota of French swearwords for the week.

pr omd that is funny!!! though not for you - cheek of him!!!

Glenda nipple tugging, stretching and boob refusal can be due to something in your diet affecting the taste or smell of your milk - did you have anything spicy or caffeine? Other foods can trigger it too - maybe keep a note of what you ate and see if it happens again? We get it from pork and the morning after I've had alcohol - little bugger is like a diet policeman in this house...

Lots of love to PR and Det you ladies have had a rotten run of luck - hope it changes soon xx

I love my dog. He is like a free babysitter. Keeping DD1 occupied with cuddles while I look after LO or MN.

Happy birthday dicks. Hugs PR , chunky , detective and anyone else who needs them

I woke up in a shitter of a mood and it is getting progressively worse. I think I should just go back to bed.

My mum cancelled lunch because her friend (who I can't stand but that's irrelevant) is coming instead. I ALWAYS see my mum on a Tuesday. I want to stamp my feet and have a childish strop.

DP promised to make pancakes this morning but didn't. He did however take M downstairs for a couple of hours.

I got a phonecall offering me the job I applied for yesterday on the spot. Or so I thought. How does an office based adult education role suddenly become a door-to-door sales pitcher? They can fuck away off too.

Oh and M twatter me in the eye twice while we were cuddling earlier. I am not angry with her though.

Sorry, very me me me. I'll slink away until sweary Wednesday...