November 2012 - Vent, chat or brag

[StuntNun]

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evil no advice but completely appeciate how annoying it is not to be able to make plans. DH used to have a job like that (chef). He changed in the end.

I go back to work FT in May. Have my rerurn all sorted. DS will go to nursery - same as DD - 2 days a week, and be at home with DH for 3. It's a financial necessity but I'm completely happy with this as I love my job. Amazing though how many people assume I'll go back part time after a year (most women do in my profession) and/or give me the head tilt when I say no, FT after 6 months!

It seems as though bedtime is getting easier, and dreamfeed is working, but we're up more often as a result

My day so far:

DS slept almost 7 hours.

HOWEVER

I was awake with the most ghastly tooth ache. DD (2) woke up at midnight and just wanted to be in bed with us. Where she kicked, thrashed and kept us awake. I put her back to bed at 4 where she refused to go to sleep. I gave up and brought her back to our bed an hour later. I wasn't cross, I didn't say anything to her but she whispered "I sorry Mummy" into my neck as I carried her back.

She finally went back to sleep at 6 am when I had to get up anyway.

FFS.

Leaving the house to go to the dr for jabs - DDs and DSs - she fell head over heals down our front steps.

At the play area in the drs I had to drag her away for the appointment. She had her first ever PROPER tantrum. Awful.

DD doesn't usually blink at jabs but both she and DS howled the place down and both needed cuddles and comfort for ages after. V hard with two.

Am now comforting eating chocolate and using food to replace sleep.

VQ Sorry they're sick still. Hope you get some sleep tomorrow.

Aw, comrade.

Oh comrade poor you and DD. Very brave jabbing both on the same day. Great DS slept though. When are you getting your tooth sorted?

DS having the occasional 1.5 hours as the night goes on. Not been woken by the girls. Yet.

I went back to full time with both mine after 6 months as we did not qualify for tax credits due to DH being a student. I hope to take 9 stretched to 10 with AL this time. I would dearly love part time. I have already worked full time for 25 years! I would like to see more of my kids. During daylight hours, that is.

I'm quite glad I don't have to have the hassle of sorting childcare. We looked into me going back to work but don't get any help with childcare costs or any kind of tax credits, so all of my wages would just be to pay nursery fees, which seems a bit pointless. I think I worked out I'd have about £100 left over each month. I'd rather stay at home with S than working all month for £100!

Little tiny brag: DS went 8.25hrs for feeds last night!! Ok, I'm up before 6am but I think he may go back to sleep... Either the sleeping bag worked or he's learning he won't starve if he sleeps through!! Have had to super-quickly pump a couple of oz off so he doesn't drown/we both get completely soaked however.

Fingers crossed J is a cooperative little soul today VQ.

Bless her comrade. My DD does the whole "sorry Mummy" thing just in time usually to take the wind out of my 'anger' sails when she's been a little monkey!! She also throws herself at you for a hug saying "miss you!". This, however, is also the tactic for when she's being a pickle, you tell her off & she says "miss Daddy/Nanny/Grandad/etc"!!!

Yay I caught up!

Not doing bad here... He does 7-12 12-4 4-8. Would love him to drop a feed by heyho.

I have his bcg this week due to the fact DP is an afrikan and he will likely be going to SA this year. Anyone got any experience?

Sympathies VQ , it's been a good few days though now, so hopefully there is light at the end of the tunnel?

DH, DD1 and LO all woke up with a temperature this morning. DH coughing his guts up, though that could be more to do with the fact he's trying to stop smoking. Scary coughing though. This is going to sound really selfish but everyone getting ill again is the last thing I need. I'm not over the horror that was Xmas and new year, I'm not ready to go through this again. Does that sound selfish? I don't care. Of course I don't want them to be ill as they will feel bad etc etc etc, but I also don't want them to be ill for me. I'm still exhausted, I'm still not sleeping properly, listening to them breathing, panicking if DD1 starts breathing too fast, and I am still looking out for symptoms of concussion in LO.

No, sodding illness, just fuck off for the moment, give us a few weeks break ffs.

Rant over. Have a good day all. I'm going to bloody clean my bloody muddy floors again.

Brilliant chunky Hope you managed to sleep for most of that time too.

Poor you comrade What a day.

Hugs to poor ol' Comrade and VQ. Congrats to Chunky on some decent sleep.

I would have been much better off returning to work after maternity leave but I lose a lot of the advantages by having been made redundant. I would have been able to keep getting my childcare vouchers for nine months of maternity which would have massively reduced my childcare expenditure for the first year back until DS1 started high school and no longer needed childcare. Now I'm totally screwed and skint so I'm just trying to get in with things if only DH could cut his spending, ffs the birds don't need black sunflower seeds when we're getting into beans on toast territory by the end of the month. We need to move house asap though and it looks like an extra bedroom (and reception room) is going to cost us another £80k. So I could need to find another job fast depending in how hard it is to pay the mortgage.

My brag is that I currently have a thread in most active on TV shows

No, no selfish PR Them being ill has a huge impact on you - of course you don't want it for your sake as well as theirs.

pikz DD1 had her bcg at 9 weeks (and N will have it too but no appointment yet) It was fine. Apparently it stings a bit but I remember she stopped crying pretty quick, so no worse than any other jabs. It did take an age to heal though.

Pikz. LO had bcg at 2 days old. It's standard here as we live in a very multicultural area. Making it a high risk area. Lol. However after 14 weeks still has not fully healed. I am told this is normal though, by dr, HV and mums I've spoken to.

GT my DS2 (6) had his in June and it's healed to a red mark now that I suppose will go white in time. DS1 (10) had his in September and it's still not quite healed over but his was really scabby and nasty - it was pretty cool actually he got a lot of sympathy at school for it.

Fingers crossed for an illness no-show PR

I thought we'd managed to get sleep sorted here, but it went a bit wrong last night. I suspect, given the number of voms down my boobs, it was due to me giving the gaviscon differently. Let's hope tonight is better again.

Reasons why I have to go back full time are -
Part-time would give us £300 a month for food, fuel, bills
They couldn't guarantee me staying locally so could end up with an 80 mile commute 3 days a week...
Thereby using up the £300
And they won't let me do any overtime.

Bastards.
I'm going back to bed.

PR if that is selfish, then I am too. We are the ones who look after everyone. Hopefully you will stat well, albeit tired. I was really scared caring for mine when I had a temp of over 39. I do hope your little ones manage to stay out of hospital.

Js longest stretch was 2 hours, so do forgive me when I say I am bloody jealous of the sleeping babies. At nearly 15 weeks, I am more than fucked off with this game.

My mum has suggested I go to the doctor for a tonic. Any idea what she means? Valium?

BP bastards! I think I would be keeping an eye out for other jobs.

Hey stunt, I just went and added my tuppence worth on yo' thread

Sounds like a euphemism for some sort of hardcore narco-cocktail to me vq!

Are things that bad at the mo vq? Sorry for being nosy, just suddenly worried that things are getting on top of you a little more than your stoic posts let on...?

VQ echo what Catbag says. Plus, my DD was always a pretty good sleeper but didn't sleep through until 19wks. J will get there, its just hard to deal with at the mo because you're tired & ill. I can't think of any thing that might help other than seeing if someone who won't let DD cover herself in Vaseline can give you a break.

That's something to go with gin isn't it?

Don't worry cat I am not about to hit the hard drugs and alcohol. Things have got on top of me though. I am just so tired. I thought I was getting somewhere, and I am - he is sleeping in his cot in his room. Last week he did two 5 hour stretches I think it was, and he woke up ill. Like PR I am fearful of each cough, wondering if he is heading back to hospital, but thankfully he seems to be winning. DD1 is at school now, but still has a horrid cough. DD2 is being good, I am feeding J, and mum is coming soon, so things will be better today.

Suppose I had better think about childcare too :( Going back on 18/10 and would really rather I didn't have to pay for childcare through the school holidays, hoping my Dsis can still do it. At least DD will be in pre-school/nursery.