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November 2012 - Vent, chat or brag

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StuntNun · 29/01/2013 12:21

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Catbag · 01/02/2013 09:05

I luffs ice hockey. Doesn't get a lot of coverage over here though :(

PetiteRaleuse · 01/02/2013 09:16

Me too. I fell in love with it on holiday in Canada. I wanted to join a club in Paris but my twunt of an ex stopped me. The isn't a club whe I am now, so have never played it. In fact I can't even skate. But one day I will learn and thén I will play ice hockey.

I can't imagine getting this worked up over grass hockey though. I have some very sorry for myself memories of playing hockey at school. It was hell. Though some people loved it of course.

Which is why I'm asking if it is ice hockey.

horseylady · 01/02/2013 09:19

I have friends who play grass hockey. They get this worked up lol!! And train hard!! As hard as my family who play ice hockey.

ChunkyChicken · 01/02/2013 09:23

No its field hockey PR. V different to the stuff played at school though. Played on astro turf or rather all-weather surface now. Our club has got fab facilities - the same type of pitch they had at Melbourne commonwealth games & v similar to the Olympic pitch, just green, not blue/pink. It is a really fast-paced game & great fun, but I'm just fed.up with it taking over our lives.

MadamGazelleIsMyMum · 01/02/2013 09:24

I am talking about roller hockey, ice hockey on roller blades. DH has played ice hockey too. He used to be exceptional. Now he's too old, unfit and fat. But he loves it. Since we have been together, I have got into ice hockey too. Used to play grass hockey. Was fun, but not as exciting as ice.

Catbag · 01/02/2013 09:24

chunky I can sympathise. At the moment, just having the ability to make my self some food/ go for a wee/ have a shower seems so far away as to be a pipe dream. Going to uni for the first time since the babies were born should have been fun, but i could only stay for one hour and then run back to the car and drive 40 odd miles back home. Very fast. It farks me off that I have had to put my career plans back for five years when I have only just got my act together and got to uni. Also that he can go to all the lectures and seminars that he wants, without stress. Go to the shop. Go out in the car without it becoming a frikkin military operation. Sit on his computer and work without interruption because he has important stuff to do. I do my uni work with two babies on my lap, feeding, and my books strewn around me on the sofa. And three other kids wandering in and out, wittering. I could go on and on. If I do, though, I will become rageful so should prob stop here. Anyway, here Biscuit and Brew It sounds like you've got plenty of RL support and that should make a massive difference. I can't do anything about my situation, and it isn't like my DH is being an arse. It is just the unfortunate crumbling of my life cookie, ha ha. This too shall pass

ChunkyChicken · 01/02/2013 09:29

Think I'm going to have to set some ground rules about continuing hockey though. And try to impress upon him its not about hating the sport, its about feeling 2nd best to it & that needs to change. I would love to play again & I think when I'm not bfing & the kids are older, it'd be easier, but v few parents both play every wk w/out fail if I think about it.

PetiteRaleuse · 01/02/2013 09:36

so more like the olympic hockey then. That was fun to watch.

Thing is we all have interests which we had a lot more time for before having children. Whether it be hockey or riding or reading or stamp collecting. And all parents have to accept that there will be times, especially when the children are babies, that our own interests have to take second place. It's not forever though. But at the beginning children are bloody hard work and have to take priority. And parents have to share the prioritising and giving things up.

I'm not sure why some men just don't get that.

ChunkyChicken · 01/02/2013 09:39

I sympathise catbag must be trickier with twins!! I can accept the sacrifices I've made too, like you say, that's kind of the nature of the beast in heterosexual relationships - man carries on as 'normal', woman changes immensely. And I like to think possibly slightly delusionally that we benefit by having a closer bond with our kids & being the one they want to hug or get kissed better by. But sometimes, the more feminist and slightly more selfish part of me wants to rail against the unfairness of it all.

Thank you for the Biscuit & Brew.:)

YellowWellies · 01/02/2013 09:42

Chunky YANBU can he not see that he is putting a game ahead of his family? On his deathbed what will he regret more - missing chasing a ball around a field or missing watching his baby grow?

ChunkyChicken · 01/02/2013 10:00

Indeed YW but no argument from me, my DM & DMIL makes him see that POV. He genuinely has a counterargument for every attempt.

Give up this season. Can't, I'll be dropped teams, I'm too old to work up from the bottom, we'll lose all our friends, I need to keep fit, they haven't got enough GKs, I will be miserable. Ad infinitum.

So stalemate. When he did say he'd quit, it was with such petulant anger that it was pointless. I don't want it on those terms. I want him to want to be with me & the DC enough.

Anyway, we'll give the compressed hours/extra day & go & maybe we'll both be happy although I can't see why he'd be unhappy at all the selfish twunt

ChunkyChicken · 01/02/2013 10:06

And yes, PR much more like the Olympic stuff. We went to see it in London twice. A would jump around when everyone cheered :) I just think DH thinks I hate hockey at times... :( & Angry

Anyway, going to impose a MN ban on self so I actually achieve something, like getting showered, today. Have a good one all!!

BigPigLittlePig · 01/02/2013 10:44

chunky sorry to hear about your situation. My dh couldn't understand why I got upset one day when he came home from work and announced he was going to a mates to play on the ps3 that evening. I think until you've stayed at home with only a baby for company you don't appreciate how important adult contact actually is. I hope you can manage to work things out. Enjoy your shower!

So I gave LO gaviscon before bed, which she took like a dream from the bottle, despite my fears a few days ago that she'd forgotten how to. She has forgotten how easy it is from a bottle though, so was trying desperately to latch on to it bless her. Feeds at 1, 4.30 and 7 so can't grumble Smile

Glad to hear you're recovering vq - sending good behaviour vibes to your little monkeys!

YellowWellies · 01/02/2013 10:52

Waaaah was planning a duvet day - think the tablet is broken! Might have to go out and engage with real life like a sleep deprived zombie....

fruitpastilles · 01/02/2013 11:06

Hugs chunky hope the situation improves and not so 'd'p realises what a twunt he is being!

We are on size 3 teats here, sinead is 11 weeks and has been on size 3 for a week, she was falling asleep on size 2 and just giving up and not finishing her feeds, size 3 make for a much happier baby here Grin

Bryzoan · 01/02/2013 11:21

Can anyone beat this poonami score? He got his vest and babygrow, my t shirt and trousers (soaking through to my tummy and legs) the feeding cushion, the sofa and dd's hand. I have never seern so much yellow. Positively drowning in glamour here.

BigPigLittlePig · 01/02/2013 11:30

Bryzoan you have my sympathies. We had vest, babygro, sleeping bag, our bed sheets, mattress the other day. Disgusting doesn't even come close

YellowWellies · 01/02/2013 11:33

In hospital when wee Jonas did a poo that ricocheted out of the cot and across the floor onto the hearing test trolley about 5 feet away - I was so glad I wasn't in the line of fire! One of the nurses had to clean and sterilise the trolley contents - the shame Blush

KatieLily12 · 01/02/2013 11:36

Oh that beats mine in the moby. Untying it was fun......

Catbag · 01/02/2013 11:38

Is anyone else getting spammed out by the Flylady? I signed up for the digest last week (so I could fix my shiny sink envy) and now she has decided to do away with the digest Angry I wouldn't mind so much, but the general tone of the emails is sooo schmaltzy

GTbaby · 01/02/2013 11:39

BryShock how?

Teat debate. LO is still on size one... Whenever I try him on a size two he seems to drool alot more then with size one. So I change bk. shall I just switch to size two and he will get used to it?

gardenpixie32 · 01/02/2013 11:50

We're on size 3, changed when they girls were 3 months exactly. Feeds are much easier now. DT2 does dribble a lot but I can feed both of them & wind in under 20 minutes now!

gardenpixie32 · 01/02/2013 11:55

My cousins triplets are due soon! Section planned for 4 weeks time, if she makes it that far. She has spent a fortune of 3 of most things. She is having 2 boys and a girl. I would be shitting myself.

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StuntNun · 01/02/2013 11:57

Catbag there is now a Flylady Lite subscription where you only get selected emails. I used to delete most of the emails without reading them but maybe if I receive fewer I will read more IYSWIM.

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PetiteRaleuse · 01/02/2013 12:06

I dumped Flylady. I go on the site most days and do something n the list. I hate being spammed. I stopped them last week, then they started again yesterday with some crap about reusable shopping bags. We don't have plastic disposable shopping bags over here anymore and I don't understand why they still exist in the uk and usa. It makes me Angry so re-un-subscribed.