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November 2012 - Don't forget the tummy time

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StuntNun · 25/01/2013 09:47

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1664696-November-2012-By-eck-we-can-talk

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ValiumQueen · 28/01/2013 19:46

Nothing nicer than sleeping next to your little baby, but if you are not getting the rest you need... Maybe things will improve and you can continue to co-sleep?

KatieLily12 · 28/01/2013 19:55

She sleeps fine at night once she's down. Wakes once for a snoozy feed then cuddles back up. It's just the lack of anytime apart like settling by self in evenings and napping during day. She just kinda looks at me like 'come in then, let's go to snoozies mum'. DP has withdrawn as I take on more and more

Autocorrect just turned more to Korea. That would have been an interesting sentence...

BigPigLittlePig · 28/01/2013 20:05

Katie I too have a velcro baby. I can go days where I haven't been apart from her for more than 5 minutes. Luckily in the past week things have improved, for no real reason, but they have. It will get better. My dh felt the same as your dp, and I'm lucky he's been very good about it. Sometimes he takes LO and just accepts she'll cry for the duration, so I can have a bath/wee etc! I chose to ride it out and like I said things are improving. Good job, because I'm developing a pressure sore with all this time on the sofa Hmm

PetiteRaleuse · 28/01/2013 20:06

Horsey they make them smile before jabs to release oxytocin , happiness hormone. Relaxes them and when you're relaxed you feel less pain. Hth.

Passmethecrisps · 28/01/2013 20:09

Is it possible that some babies are just touchy-feely while others are not? When p gets very upset she can calm very quickly when put down.

That's interesting Yw. We keep being asked I we will be considering early weening then being asked if we have seen the dietician and then get surprised looks when we say we haven't. Did I already write that? Hmm.

Right! I am going to a baby group if it damn well kills me! I am going to one tomorrow which is run by the psychology department at uni. Basically, you sit and chat while they observe your baby and note anything interesting!

I need to get out and do things. P is lovely but she's not much of a conversationalist.

Biscuit we just had Waitrose lasagne for tea. New shop opened in town so thought we would see how the other half lived. Simple things!

StuntNun · 28/01/2013 20:13

Katie I think you have done everything just right by your LO. She has spent her first 12 weeks in an extension of her first 9 months, all wrapped up with her mummy 24/7. How could any baby wish for a gentler start than that. Obviously you can't continue like this forever but you have done everything right so far. Babies change so much over the first year, when she is six months old all will be completely different and she will be ready to be much more independent from you.

There are two things to know about changing her behaviour. First babies adapt very quickly. So if you decide to put her in her cot and she cries after five minutes, the next night she may settle for longer until she is used to going in her cot without you at night (as described by VQ on the last thread). The other thing is to make changes gradually. So if baby is falling asleep naturally at 11 and you want her in bed earlier then put her down ten minutes earlier every day until you achieve your goal.

This works right through childhood. For example if your child is misbehaving in the supermarket then you improve their behaviour in small steps, e.g. if they stay in sight they get a reward, then if they stay by the trolley they get a reward, then if they don't complain they get a reward. So they make gradual improvements rather than having to get it all right at once.

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kirrinIsland · 28/01/2013 20:18

Katie I have the same issues. I can go a whole day holding her, with maybe 5 or 10 minutes to myself. I am getting stressed about it, not least because I have a toddler who, while better than she was, is still very jealous and attention seeking constantly - and not in a good way! I am hoping that the next couple of weeks will see things start to fall into place a bit more. I am lucky that DP isn't too bad really!

In other news, I have just 'won' a spectre 3 pump on eBay for £20 - hopefully I can get a bit more out with it. If not, I'll stick it back on eBay.

MissMummy1 · 28/01/2013 20:20

Stunt we moved out of our penthouse because the landlord was a psychotic dickhead when we got preggers for similar reasons. Without M I would jump at the chance. Now we have her though I've become a bit of a home bird and love living so close to my family in a proper family home with a garden. Wouldn't mind the pool though!!! Haha, one can dream and all... Grin

ValiumQueen · 28/01/2013 20:24

What a lovely post stunt

PetiteRaleuse · 28/01/2013 20:30

I have never wanted to win the lottery more than
i do tonight.

My DH has been promoted. No payrise. :( works 12 hours a day as it is :(

Sophiathesnowfairy · 28/01/2013 20:35

That's rubbish stunt, where are you looking a moving too?

TheDetective · 28/01/2013 20:36

Eeeek, I'm not deleted! But my post is... :(

Okay, I'm off to catch up yeah, like that's gonna happen chatty buggers! but first, I would just like to declare, I am upstairs, in bed, on the laptop. (Notso)DP is downstairs with his friend. Apparently muggins here was meant to sit with the baby while they played on the xbox. I thought the guy was coming for tea and a catch up with DP etc. No. It looks like they planned to play on the xbox since he bought his fucking controller and games Hmm. I was sat there chatting when the xbox was suddenly turned on, and COD produced. Fuckers. I'm really pissed off! At the assumption that I'd just look after Oscar! (Which of course, I would.... but don't bloody assume, it's rude!!)

So, I've left Oscar downstairs, and told him he can play as much xbox as he likes, but he's got the baby, so good fucking luck on that one!

Grin.

Ooooh, I just heard a cry.

Good.

TheDetective · 28/01/2013 20:39

Oooh, before I forget to share also - I got home this evening, opened the front door, then went back to the car for the baby. While I was stood undoing the seatbelt, the dog came outside. She never does this. She came up to the car, and I told her to go inside and pointed to the house. She bloody jumped in the car, on top of the baby!!!! In to the drivers seat!

What the...........?!!!!

Oscar didn't move a muscle. To be fair, he was very well padded, but still, the dog bloody stood on him!!!!

Dog in dog house now.

I can't believe she did that! I don't know what possessed her! Maybe she thinks she can drive... Hmm.

Sophiathesnowfairy · 28/01/2013 20:46

Oh sorry stunt I have just caught up with the thread. You are staying local. Agree with everyone else, you shouldn't feel bad about it and you will reep the benefits further down the line when you are buying. Xx

Can I join the green poo club? I knew O was a bit snotty and had a runny eye this afternoon, but this evening a massive green poo, cue everyone holding noises etc etc. Who said toilet humour was dead, it is still alive and kicking in our house.

PurplePidjin · 28/01/2013 20:46

Whoop, we made it into Most Active!!!

ValiumQueen · 28/01/2013 20:47

DH has gone to bed as he doesn't feel well. DS will be feeding on and off until 10 and I am left on my own.

PR maybe it will lead to better things in the future?

If I won the lottery I would not go back to work. I would do something but not what I do at the moment. My children would all be dressed in this seasons Next, and have more than one pair of shoes at any one time. I would buy a nursing bra that fits (nearly spent gift vouchers on one -would that count?) and let DH be a full time writer in a huge man cave down the end of a long garden. I would let him in for meals. And sex. Maybe.

ValiumQueen · 28/01/2013 20:47

PP just a matter of time Grin

fruitpastilles · 28/01/2013 20:55

S seems to be going backwards, normally put her in her cot at 8 and it takes her around 10 mins to get herself off to sleep, the past few nights its taken her nearly an hour Hmm
On a lighter note, new baby monitor was delivered today and I can't believe how much of a difference it makes to have a decent one, rather than a crackly horrible one Grin

PurplePidjin · 28/01/2013 20:56

VQ I pondered using ours for nursing tops at one point, then people asked what I wanted for Christmas! I prefer button fronts anyway, with a vest under for when I forget to do the buttons. Decent access to boobs definitely counts, particularly as a badly fitting bra causes mastitis :)

ValiumQueen · 28/01/2013 21:27

What monitor did you get fruit ?

Pikz · 28/01/2013 21:30

Kt I have a Velcro baby who is slowly improving but would love to be cuddled all day with a blanket whilst you walk up and down if he had his way. He is learning gently to nap in his cot and spend time in his swing etc

Stunt what a lovely post.

VQ I would build DP a man cave too and I would also have my LO in head to toe GAP kids and do all my food shopping at m and s and let my mum retire.

TheDetective · 28/01/2013 21:31

Epic post disclaimer!! Biscuit

For those who wanted to know the fucking off was on the thread about AIBU to spend my DD's Argos Vouchers, or something along those lines. Some people live in cloud cuckoo land. It gets right on my nerves when people look down their nose at others! And the way one particular poster went on and on and on and on. I wanted to tell that person directly to fuck off, so... Grin. Maybe I should have done?! They were like a dog with a bone...a dinosaur bone.

VQ On two threads?! Did I! Oooops Blush. I didn't notice! I must have become used to telling people to fuck off. I luvs you too though, so that's okay! Grin

Glenda Painfree did not happen sadly, but I didn't need to take painkillers, just went a little slowly. I'm better if I'm up and down, not constantly sitting, or constantly walking. So apart from the walk around Ikea, it was okay!! I did however Hmm and putting your bits on eBay. Yours may sell okay but my bits are broken, and I'd have to pay someone to service then first Grin.

I put them on the local selling page which is full of errrrm chavs but we'll just ignore that.

Sleep - well, til the school run, yes! Thanks for asking Wink.

Sophia I need to do the same - I was going to do it on Saturday, but due to bloody snow, I decided I wasn't digging the car out! I'm going to go to Aldi, then Home & Bargains, and the greengrocer. All are with in spitting distance of each other. Then I'll go to Morrisons with DP's discount. I'm hoping to do a weekly shop for £70, instead of £100-110. I think I will do it tomorrow, as it is just me and Oscar til the afternoon!

Horsey Too many people born with silver spoons I fear. Either that or they married rich men!

garden you mentioned star drops. I've been searching for it for ages as heard people rave about it. Finally got some last week, and used it to clean the fabric on the pram. Bugger me, its fantastic stuff! I got it for 1.99 in Home & Bargains of all places! So if you want some Sophia try there!

GT Sunday tea time auctions end, or Sunday evening. I believe this is the best time! I don't think listing on a free weekend helped though as there were lots of baby clothes listed I guess.

Thanks Daisy, he is lovely, most of the time. When not lazy! He is caring and generous though, so that makes up for it sometimes.

BPLP I too have had flu once, thank goodness it was just the once, it was awful! So when DP had it a couple of weeks ago, I diagnosed it. He couldn't use his computer. That's how I knew it was flu Grin. He did laugh at himself though and say he had man flu! He definitely had proper flu though! Bleurgghhhhh!

Re: House prices, I bought in 2008, even though I knew full well it was the top of the housing market. I didn't buy to make money, but for the security of not having to move areas all the time. However it paid off for me initially - despite the negative equity at the moment. I paid a mortgage £92 a month for almost 3 years because I took a tracker which was 0.34 above base rate Grin.
My first house was a council house. When DS1 was 3.5 we moved in to private rented. I was doing my training and working part time on top of it, just to afford a nicer surrounding for DS1 (the estate I lived on was not a nice place). I found renting crap for us, because we had to change childcare/schools. I suppose if my ex had been driving at that time, it might have made a difference as we could have lived anywhere and traveled. But he didn't. The whole thing was just stressful, the upheaval and the costs of moving potentially every 6 months, and the cost and time of making the house in to a home was not worth it any more. I wanted security. Hence why I bought. It hasn't been easier, but I have found it far more comforting knowing I can't be given 2 months notice to move out.

I wouldn't encourage anyone to buy unless they felt they absolutely had to though. For me, I felt I had to.

I'm now going to go back and add a epic post disclaimer, and a Biscuit. Grin

TheDetective · 28/01/2013 21:33

DP just came to apologise for selfishness. Wonders never cease....!

GTbaby · 28/01/2013 21:41

ohhh VQ lets start that discussion, we have covered everything else. [please lets skip politics]

if i won the lottery... i would stay at work, but drop my head of department role and go to part time. i cant think of what i would buy... what do i really want atm, i would get diamond stud earrings meant to be my push present but H still hasn't actually taken me to buy them
i would just travel i think, and lo would be a hippy child who doesn't go to school, but learns from seeing the word :) ... oh, contradiction, that involves quitting work.

DH would quit work in a heart beat and be a bum... hmmm not as an attractive idea as i first thought.

Pikz · 28/01/2013 21:44

Detective do you write notes to remember what to write. I can't remember one post once I've read the next! Am impressed

I've eaten too much garlic bread. I stink.

Should go to bed really but I too tired to move. Need to find a way to stop L becoming so stupidly over tired.

I to bought to stop having to move anywhere. I wanted security and to decorate and do work without having felt like I'd wasted money.